What would you do if your children or wife or friends were listening to Heavy Metal or Rock music?
Couple of my friends from years past are still huge metalheads. I used to go see Metallica or King Diamond with them, but today things are different.
They're grown men now so they do their own thing. They're more turned off today that I'm a family man.
My wife used to go to concerts with me and she used to love Trent Reznor and Nine Inch Nails and Tool, but she doesn't listen to it today. Today her favorite secular band is U2.
My musical tastes have been very broad. From metal, to rock, to top 40, to soft rock, bluegrass, blues, big band, straight up jazz, funk, country, classical, orchestral, CCM and gospel. Probably the only form of music that never resonated with me was reggae....don't hate it, but don't listen either.
Even during my metal years my favorite artist is still a Canadian born jazz musician (trumpet player) named Maynard Ferguson. I own about 70 of his albums, saw him many times over 20 years and met him a couple of times. Love his music from the 30s and 40s with the Stan Kenton big band up until he passed away in August 2006 with his Big Bop Noveau band.
There is no "what if" scenario for my wife....that time has come and gone.....her adult preferences are cemented. My daughter, on the other hand, is very young today and from me she gets exposure to CCM and gospel and she loves a lot of it
. From her mother she gets CCM, some top 40 and country.
She'll make her own choices as she gets older, but she'll also know exactly where Mommy and Daddy stand
.[the underlined points above will be the initial foundation for the "brainwashing" charge later on]******** Here's the shift in this topic.....this is where "the trap" is set based upon my next expected comments ******** Now there will be no occult or Satanic music in my house though
(whatever that entails)....still my house LOL. If she happens to want to indulge in that stuff she'll do it outside of the house.I'll raise her in a Christian environment
, but ultimately she'll make her own choices about everything and as she matures will work through those choices like each of us do. If she needs help she's got it.
The difference will be that when the she comes with questions about religion, the bible and God that her Daddy will be different from other parents in that he won't give her a "deer in the headlights" expression and stammer ignorantly with "uhhhhh.....uhhhhhh.....u
hhhhhh" when she asks "tough bible questions" that she learned herself or were taught by others. I'll answer questions, walk her through scripture, walk her through theology and present the other side of the coin....as best I'm able. I won't do what so many other parents do and toss out a casual "you gotta have more faith" or "ask the teacher in Sunday school".....she'll get a confident, direct response from her Dad. [the underlined points above will be the secondary foundation for the later argument about brainwashing and challenging "I thought she could make her own choices"]******** Here's the breaking point of things....the shift in topic if you will......already knew exactly where this was headed ********
Now, I know you want me to give my daughter no religious influence whatsoever and allow her to discover all things on her own. Keep her a blank slate in that regard so that her choices to be religious or not religious are completely her own and "uncorrupted" by her religious-nutter parents because "religion and theism is the most divisive, dangerous position on earth". If me and her mother go to church that's fine, but don't take her with us....find her a non-religious alternative. If she later decides on her own to go to church then fine, but only then.
That isn't going to happen LOL.
To which you'll respond, "So you're comfortable brainwashing your child with religious nonsense and aren't really giving her a choice. Some parent you are.......etc." Some version of that, but more drawn out.
Everything I said previously about letting her makes her own choices will be tossed out and the word "influence" will be translated into "brainwashing". References to bizarre, fundamentalist religious camps with children weeping aloud to God will occur. More generalizations and offtopic comments about my "religious nuttery" will be casually tossed out in red herring fashion. All manner of "what if" circumstances will potentially be laid out and referenced as the truth of the matter going forward.
I'll refer you back to my original posts, but it won't matter. This would go on back and forth for several cycles. Me saying the same thing and you telling me why I'm wrong, a bad parent, a brainwasher of children, a religious tyrant forcing my beliefs on children. At this stage the scope of my "brainwashing" will have shifted from just my daughter to a generalization of ALL
children I encounter....I'll be the "religious boogeyman" LOL.
It will literally follow something very close to this. And all this because of tastes in music.
There it's been nipped in the bud.