Prime I understand what you’re saying but the reality is, as others have pointed out, Janae isn’t happy and she is passing judgement on everyone who doesn’t accept reality as she does.
Her happiness has become her primary focus and in looking for it she can’t find it. She didn’t find it in service, education, competition, money or a sex change. What else can she change to find the elusive happiness?
There’s a much deeper rooted issue at play here. But she doesn’t see it. Her happiness is her only goal. What about her loved ones? Her children? Surely they are hurt by their fathers actions to become a woman, but to each their own...
That begs a bigger question, who are Janae’s “own”; are those defined by her or by society?
We have a thread about a white professor who pretended to be black and how she defrauded her school, students and peers. And she was admonished by many different groups for lying. Yet here we have a man who thinks he’s a woman and those who being are chastised are those who don’t agree with Janae. What’s they difference if each individual believes they are somehow different than how they were born physically?
You know what? You are right. Our families are affected by much of what we do and think. My grown kids and grand-kids might have preferred my being an Ozzie Nelson caricature, but I cannot be something I am not an live with myself or do that and be of value to anyone else.
My family and I are 'tight' and we look out for one another. With great difficulty I chose to be open about my sexuality with most of my friends, parents, wife and kids. Lies create chasms between people. I am also a devoted father, grandfather and most recently, a great-grandfather who absolutely doesn't want to cause any of them grief on my behalf.
I am not a transsexual person so I cannot appreciate the hell these folks go through both before and after they are out. But because this is something that is so visual and so new to most people, I believe having a family member who is transsexual and out must be incredibly difficult for everyone involved, specially the person who is transitioning.
Maybe a lot of you don't get it or you just refuse to accept the reality, but it is not as if one morning people wake up and say to themselves, I think I want to be gay or I think I am a man trapped in a woman's body or vise versa.
If it were that easy, given the living hell some of this often results in, almost no one would be gay or trans. It is simply not a choice. Nobody in their right mind wants to be treated like they have leprosy.
Go ahead and give me a ton of shit about this post if you will, but if you don't at some level get that we are all human and there is nothing wrong with trying to understand and accept that humans aren't all the same....then shame on you and God forbid you are hiding something about yourself, because that makes you someone to pity more than hate you.
