Cheri your problem here is that your expecting 240 to act like a man. He doesn't know how nor have the capability to do so.
"Acting like a man" would involve being around to provide for your woman. A "real man" will punch out some smartmouth drunk, and end up facing court & jail time, and suddenly be unable to vote, work at a good job, provide for the kids, etc.
Of course I'd want to kick his ass, and I'd likely attempt to provoke the asshole to swing first so I was justified in hurting him. But to punch another person for words- that puts you in the lower class- the poorer class- the ignorant class. The smart people will find a way to get the idiot to initiate contact.