Was going to wait but I figured you guys should know that 2 weeks ago, I was offered a job basically doing the same thing i currently do in customer relations. The pay is quite well but I would also be able to handle my other holdings such as M-Kopa. The biggest driving factor is that I can live like a king. Giant house, maids to clean my house , personal chef, driver, etc.
I haven't made the decision but I have another month to decide. I am shopping for homes in the 100 Million KES range but I've been pretty stoked lately...we will see
Good post. I would expand the last point about religion to values in general, including political/ideological ones. But the main thrust of the post is correct, which boils down to:
Evaluate the candidate for the role she’s being considered for, rather than assuming that strong feelings are paramount.
I think the people rolling their eyes and writing off the institution of marriage altogether are being a little lazy. Sure, a marriage is fraught with risk. So is starting a company, which could fail at great financial and psychological cost. Yet nobody says, “lol at entrepreneurship, I’ve never started a business and never will, it’s for suckers.”
Don’t get me wrong — I recognize that a woman can badly derail you. I am unmarried and very wary of settling down. But the people I know who are in a (relatively) solid partnership that has produced children have a dimension to their life that mine lacks.
Some day I will probably give it a shot. If it doesn’t work out, so be it. If you properly vet the woman and maintain the proper frame in the relationship, the romantic relationship can be dissolved without undue drama. And if you’ve properly managed your career/business/financial interests, it shouldn’t break you and send you to the streets to pony up for the kid.
I think the MGTOW philosophy has provided a useful counterpoint to the ridiculous Disney/RomCom worldview that led so many men to shattered expectations and misery. But it shouldn’t be accepted whole-cloth as a replacement orthodoxy. I hate to use a cringe term like “alpha”, but if you are properly alpha across all dimensions of your life, women and children can enrich that life.
If you recognize in yourself an inability to attract and manage stable, desirable women, and/or if earning enough money to do more than subsist is a struggle, then it’s probably wise to go MGTOW — at least temporarily. But I would recommend using the free time that doing so creates to correct those two underlying deficiencies, as opposed to dwelling in some MGTOW echo chamber parroting cliches about how shitty women are.
