heres a story about my life:
My sister and I havent talked in years, shes all marriage, mortgage, 2 kids and normal life whereas Im unhinged at times and not super stable (although quite stable for a while now knock on wood). So anyways, she didnt want me around her family cause I didnt live the "normal" life. She has 2 kids, a boy and a girl who are now grown up.
HOWEVER, at no time, ever, when my niece was 12 did I come around competely wacked on drugs (probably cause Ive never done drugs), take my shirt off and start flexing while making highly inappropriate comments that no young children should hear.
But hey, thats just me, other people are different I guess