Vince, you'd make a great maître d'hôtel. Have you ever thought about doing something like that? You need to play to your strengths. You'd get to wear the elegant attire that you like, you have experience dealng with all sorts of people in a calm manner; and you're fat, Black, and gay. That's basically the holy trinity needed to make a fortune in tips.
That's not me mocking you, either. I honestly think you'd enjoy it and make a lot of money. Even doing some sort of 'mixologist' course and getting a gig at the Swordfish sounds like it would be a lot of fun for you. And you'd meet loads of gay twinks without too much sugar in the tank. The Youtube route and livestreaming is just going to be a disaster.