Where did you go to law school SC? What did you finish in your class? I didn't care about grades 30 years ago when I went to college. I think I might like to do better this time. I am a prolific reader. It shouldn't be an issue.
You may be smart and able to do well financially and function in life. However, you are a member of a forum where people actively try to ruin your life and despise you. Yet, you keep posting.
This makes you a fucked up individual. I don't know how you get your kicks off being hated. If people here hated me because of my behaviour: I'd be off, mate.
I believe that you are capable of living well. Maybe this side of your life is the sick side that we all have and rather than drink or drugs; you get off on degradation. It has, however, seeped into your real life. If you love your family and children (step and son), why not just bow out?
Can't you see that some of these guys will go to extreme lengths to make your life difficult to the point of your wife saying, "it's me or that forum"
Make the choice before you're forced to. It's like you want people to phone places or send emails or cause aggro