This is an honest question and a serious one when it comes to women….

[Krankenstein]

I do it’s called getbig cumstain

Listen up Danimal....you've been warned

[Krankenstein]

It depends on the person. My wife and I have arguments, but if she’s stressed and taking it out on me, I just walk away. She usually comes back later and apologizes. Arguing back only escalates petty stuff. Often, giving space lets her realize she was wrong and apologize.

I will say...nothing leaves them guessing more than CALMLY saying "Nope, not engaging like this" then grabbing your keys and leaving/ hanging up the phone / etc

[Pet shop boys]

Don't leave the house, be neutral 24/7 and treat her like a roommate from now
until something better for you becomes available




WoooooSSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH   Oh Tany

[tacobender]

Don't leave the house, be neutral 24/7 and treat her like a roommate from now
until something better for you becomes available




WoooooSSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH   Oh Tany

that my friend is textbook narcissism lol and that’s what my old ex lady was

[obsidian]

Everyone should get married with a prenup. Let the women make their own money; don't let them hold that financial hammer over your head that they get 50% in a divorce.

I work with someone who's wife divorced him. She got the main house and he had to pay $8,000 per month alimony. But he kept his business and all his other homes. Her alimony payments will be drying up in a few years.

[obsidian]

I will say...nothing leaves them guessing more than CALMLY saying "Nope, not engaging like this" then grabbing your keys and leaving/ hanging up the phone / etc

Exactly. That’s how you deal with drama — shut it down and get on with your life. She didn’t marry a girlfriend to bicker with; she wants a man who leads. Arguing over petty crap is beneath a man.

[beakdoctor]

Why is it when there’s trouble in paradise? They feel entitled to the home that you share together and forced you to leave when in fact  they don’t like the situation or aren’t happy they themselves get out why do men get fucked? I guess we should ask Bhanky  this question. Lol I guess the real question is why do they feel they have superiority?

Because they are totally helpless and can't do for themselves at all without the support of a man, without a man providing the basics of shelter and money, and they're so hysterical and emmotional yet weak and stupid that they certainly wouldn't be able to achieve any kind of financial security on their own, and the courts have recognized this, which is why the law is biased.... when it suits them.

All other times women are fed a steady diet of empowerment bullshit that they eat up. A woman wears a new dress and takes a selfie and she "slays" lol or she thinks she's a "boss bitch" , another adjective they love to use to describe themselves and each other is "fierce" , yes when the chips are in their favor they get to thinking they are super heros, there's nothing they can't do, they don't need men, they are not just equal to men, they are superior.  Men become more toxic the more manly they become. This thought process is used also when it suits them.. when it doesn't suit them, the first paragraph starts all over again. Its a cycle of utterly helpless and dangerously arrogant. That just repeats depending on whether its to their benefit.

[joswift]

All other times women are fed a steady diet of empowerment bullshit that they eat up. A woman wears a new dress and takes a selfie and she "slays" lol or she thinks she's a "boss bitch" , another adjective they love to use to describe themselves and each other is "fierce" , yes when the chips are in their favor they get to thinking they are super heros, there's nothing they can't do, they don't need men, they are not just equal to men, they are superior.  Men become more toxic the more manly they become. This thought process is used also when it suits them.. when it doesn't suit them, the first paragraph starts all over again. Its a cycle of utterly helpless and dangerously arrogant. That just repeats depending on whether its to their benefit.

Average girls these days get DMs with hundreds of guys wanting to fuck them, this makes them think they are 10s.

Young women in modernity never get to hear "No" and when they eventually do their world implodes.

[obsidian]

Average girls these days get DMs with hundreds of guys wanting to fuck them, this makes them think they are 10s.

Young women in modernity never get to hear "No" and when they eventually do their world implodes.

This will change with AI and robotics improvements. You'll have sexbots that don't take a shit or have periods, and look like a 10 or even 12. And they will never say no or argue.

[tacobender]

This will change with AI and robotics improvements. You'll have sexbots that don't take a shit or have periods, and look like a 10 or even 12. And they will never say no or argue.

who the fuck wants sex bot to look 10 or 12 years old. That’s just weird. Having a sex button in general is weird.

[BigRo]

Because they are totally helpless and can't do for themselves at all without the support of a man, without a man providing the basics of shelter and money, and they're so hysterical and emmotional yet weak and stupid that they certainly wouldn't be able to achieve any kind of financial security on their own, and the courts have recognized this, which is why the law is biased.... when it suits them.

All other times women are fed a steady diet of empowerment bullshit that they eat up. A woman wears a new dress and takes a selfie and she "slays" lol or she thinks she's a "boss bitch" , another adjective they love to use to describe themselves and each other is "fierce" , yes when the chips are in their favor they get to thinking they are super heros, there's nothing they can't do, they don't need men, they are not just equal to men, they are superior.  Men become more toxic the more manly they become. This thought process is used also when it suits them.. when it doesn't suit them, the first paragraph starts all over again. Its a cycle of utterly helpless and dangerously arrogant. That just repeats depending on whether its to their benefit.

Men don't become more toxic the more manly they become unless the ideal of "manly" becomes out of balance or the woman just frames them that way. It is not feminine for a woman to cheat and vice versa for example.

[tacobender]

Men do don't become more toxic the more manly they become unless the ideal of "manly" becomes out of balance or the woman just frames them that way. It is not feminine for a woman to cheat and vice versa for example.

exactly

[obsidian]

who the fuck wants sex bot to look 10 or 12 years old. That’s just weird. Having a sex button in general is weird.

I was talking about a 10/10 on the hotness scale — and then jokingly cranked it up to an “off-the-charts” 12/10. LMAO!

[ThisisOverload]

Lots of proper responses in here. Bottom line, lower your expectations and do not engage in their trivial emotional nonsense. After a few years they figure out they are in the wrong for acting this way.

Women should not be placed on a pedestal, treat them like your best friend and avoid this whole treating them like a queen nonsense. Never walk on eggshells around them and let them know when they are out of line. You just need to deliver it calmly and without be an asshole, women are very good listeners and hang on to those words.

Very few women can elevate to a man's level in an emotional situation. They just aren't built the same way. Many men are like this too, like our resident retard hanky. Having a calm and cool head takes a lot of mental toughness and maturity. I've learned to let shit go and focus on logic over emotion.

My wife is a very independent and strong Mexican woman. And I can ruin her entire day by doing a handful of things. I obviously avoid doing these things, but this just reminds me of how fragile she is. She sees things that I do or say in a very different way than I do.

She could go totally retard on me and I'd be frustrated for about 30 minutes and move on to something else. The best thing is to not engage and just leave the situation. And I don't mean leaving the house or whatever, just walk into your office and go about your day, etc. Arguing with them brings you down to their level and gives them a mental boost that they are right, it's just the same as arguing with people at work, etc.

Hold yourself to a higher standard and be a gentleman. Carry yourself as a proper man and don't engage in all their shit. It will only get worse if you do.

[obsidian]

Lots of proper responses in here. Bottom line, lower your expectations and do not engage in their trivial emotional nonsense. After a few years they figure out they are in the wrong for acting this way.

Women should not be placed on a pedestal, treat them like your best friend and avoid this whole treating them like a queen nonsense. Never walk on eggshells around them and let them know when they are out of line. You just need to deliver it calmly and without be an asshole, women are very good listeners and hang on to those words.

Very few women can elevate to a man's level in an emotional situation. They just aren't built the same way. Many men are like this too, like our resident retard hanky. Having a calm and cool head takes a lot of mental toughness and maturity. I've learned to let shit go and focus on logic over emotion.

My wife is a very independent and strong Mexican woman. And I can ruin her entire day by doing a handful of things. I obviously avoid doing these things, but this just reminds me of how fragile she is. She sees things that I do or say in a very different way than I do.

She could go totally retard on me and I'd be frustrated for about 30 minutes and move on to something else. The best thing is to not engage and just leave the situation. And I don't mean leaving the house or whatever, just walk into your office and go about your day, etc. Arguing with them brings you down to their level and gives them a mental boost that they are right, it's just the same as arguing with people at work, etc.

Hold yourself to a higher standard and be a gentleman. Carry yourself as a proper man and don't engage in all their shit. It will only get worse if you do.

Good post.

Unrelated to your post, but here’s a truth: young men can get easily flustered around women and become weak and meek. High testosterone makes them horny, and when they see someone they like, they often act awkward — stumbling over words, nervous, incoherent.

The trick is to do the opposite: stay composed, confident, and in control. Women want to feel comfortable around someone, not unsafe or uncertain. Give off a creepy or weak vibe, and she’ll naturally pull away; show calm confidence, and interactions become much easier.

[Phantom Spunker]

Lots of proper responses in here. Bottom line, lower your expectations and do not engage in their trivial emotional nonsense. After a few years they figure out they are in the wrong for acting this way.

Women should not be placed on a pedestal, treat them like your best friend and avoid this whole treating them like a queen nonsense. Never walk on eggshells around them and let them know when they are out of line. You just need to deliver it calmly and without be an asshole, women are very good listeners and hang on to those words.

Very few women can elevate to a man's level in an emotional situation. They just aren't built the same way. Many men are like this too, like our resident retard hanky. Having a calm and cool head takes a lot of mental toughness and maturity. I've learned to let shit go and focus on logic over emotion.

My wife is a very independent and strong Mexican woman. And I can ruin her entire day by doing a handful of things. I obviously avoid doing these things, but this just reminds me of how fragile she is. She sees things that I do or say in a very different way than I do.

She could go totally retard on me and I'd be frustrated for about 30 minutes and move on to something else. The best thing is to not engage and just leave the situation. And I don't mean leaving the house or whatever, just walk into your office and go about your day, etc. Arguing with them brings you down to their level and gives them a mental boost that they are right, it's just the same as arguing with people at work, etc.

Hold yourself to a higher standard and be a gentleman. Carry yourself as a proper man and don't engage in all their shit. It will only get worse if you do.

Woah, when did this happen? Congrats, man. I remember you were always very similar to me with regards to relationships and travelling. I'm tying the knot soon, too.

[Royalty]

Lots of proper responses in here. Bottom line, lower your expectations and do not engage in their trivial emotional nonsense. After a few years they figure out they are in the wrong for acting this way.

Women should not be placed on a pedestal, treat them like your best friend and avoid this whole treating them like a queen nonsense. Never walk on eggshells around them and let them know when they are out of line. You just need to deliver it calmly and without be an asshole, women are very good listeners and hang on to those words.

Very few women can elevate to a man's level in an emotional situation. They just aren't built the same way. Many men are like this too, like our resident retard hanky. Having a calm and cool head takes a lot of mental toughness and maturity. I've learned to let shit go and focus on logic over emotion.

My wife is a very independent and strong Mexican woman. And I can ruin her entire day by doing a handful of things. I obviously avoid doing these things, but this just reminds me of how fragile she is. She sees things that I do or say in a very different way than I do.

She could go totally retard on me and I'd be frustrated for about 30 minutes and move on to something else. The best thing is to not engage and just leave the situation. And I don't mean leaving the house or whatever, just walk into your office and go about your day, etc. Arguing with them brings you down to their level and gives them a mental boost that they are right, it's just the same as arguing with people at work, etc.

Hold yourself to a higher standard and be a gentleman. Carry yourself as a proper man and don't engage in all their shit. It will only get worse if you do.

“Dear Diary: it’s fantasy time again. This time I will offer unwanted advice to anonymous men who just want this thread to go away.”

[Rambone]

If you marry a woman with a decent paying career who saves and invests, you won’t lose your ass as long as you don’t commingle your pre-marital assets. The problem is that’s pretty rare nowadays. If you make all of the money, then you’re fucked without a prenup.

[BigRo]

Women are not great listeners at all, that is why they walk away or the man feels like doing so, they love chaos and drama and can even become evil to get revenge against problems they created, short sighted impulsive and selfish creatures they can be.

[tacobender]

Women are not great listeners at all, that is why they walk away or the man feels like doing so, they love chaos and drama and can even become evil to get revenge against problems they created, short sighted impulsive and selfish creatures they can be.

bigtime

[Donny]

No she has not. She brought that up after a big argument. If we do argue she'll bring up shit from many years ago. Women are emotional and if you engage in an argument it can escalate. The King on the Hill does not get involved in petty arguments. It's for women and children. I should have followed my own advice years ago and would have avoided a lot of BS drama. I’m not saying it’s easy — she’s tested me a few times, and I still slip occasionally — but I’m just not interested in conflict. Why bother?

You actually sound very submissive & I think your wife wears the trousers at home.
You're trying to pass this off as being "mature" & in control of the woman in your recent posts but you're lying to yourself

[Van_Bilderass]

I've heard a number of women say they love to argue and fight with their spouse and some even say it's healthy and necessary. In very heated arguments it's easy to say things you can't take back, maybe they can be forgiven but it's not forgotten if it's hurtful enough. I haven't had many serious relationships but I seem to give off a vibe that I won't fight so they don't happen even if it's a woman who is the fighting type. This might not be all positive, if things are never aired out, I don't know... The crazy arguments and fights I've seen others have with their partners are something I would never engage in, especially repeatedly over many years like many do. Often both parties see them as normal in a way. I'm witnessing one in my family now, high chance it will end in tragedy one day with someone dead, both might kill the other. I could never live that way.

Everything ends one day

"Love is kind of like when you see a fog in the morning, when you wake up before the sun comes out. It's just a little while, and then it burns away… Love is a fog that burns with the first daylight of reality"

"Love Is a Dog from Hell"

"Human relationships were strange. I mean, you were with one person a while, eating and sleeping and living with them, loving them, talking to them, going places together, and then it stopped."

“god, love is more strange than numerals more strange than grass on fire more strange than the dead body of a child drowned in the bottom of a tub, we know so little, we know so much, we don’t know enough.”

- Bukowski

[Raymondo]

I've heard a number of women say they love to argue and fight with their spouse and some even say it's healthy and necessary. In very heated arguments it's easy to say things you can't take back, maybe they can be forgiven but it's not forgotten if it's hurtful enough. I haven't had many serious relationships but I seem to give off a vibe that I won't fight so they don't happen even if it's a woman who is the fighting type. This might not be all positive, if things are never aired out, I don't know... The crazy arguments and fights I've seen others have with their partners are something I would never engage in, especially repeatedly over many years like many do. Often both parties see them as normal in a way. I'm witnessing one in my family now, high chance it will end in tragedy one day with someone dead, both might kill the other. I could never live that way.

Everything ends one day

"Love is kind of like when you see a fog in the morning, when you wake up before the sun comes out. It's just a little while, and then it burns away… Love is a fog that burns with the first daylight of reality"

"Love Is a Dog from Hell"

"Human relationships were strange. I mean, you were with one person a while, eating and sleeping and living with them, loving them, talking to them, going places together, and then it stopped."

- Bukowski

What they really want out of the drama is the hard makeup sex and strong orgasms. They give their man an opportunity to assert himself, take charge and use them hard in bed.

Yes, these can be healthy reset points in a relationship.

I noticed you like Bukowski, I read quite a lot from him this summer. Included a biography and his autobiography. Most of his relationships were with extremely crazy women and under the fog of alcohol, I think this may have influenced his views on love somewhat.

[Van_Bilderass]

I noticed you like Bukowski, I read quite a lot from him this summer. Included a biography and his autobiography. Most of his relationships were with extremely crazy women and under the fog of alcohol, I think this may have influenced his views on love somewhat.

I've loved Bukowski throughout my life. "Van Bilderass" comes from a Bukowski story. Alcohol was a major theme in his work for sure.

"She called me "Mr. Van Bilderass" for some reason I couldn't figure. She'd get drunk and keep saying, "You think you're hot stuff, you think you're Mr. Van Bilderass!"

 

[Raymondo]

I've loved Bukowski throughout my life. "Van Bilderass" comes from a Bukowski story. Alcohol was a major theme in his work for sure.

"She called me "Mr. Van Bilderass" for some reason I couldn't figure. She'd get drunk and keep saying, "You think you're hot stuff, you think you're Mr. Van Bilderass!"

 

There is a forum full of Bukowski maniacs are you there?

A few years ago one of them went and found the unmarked grave of his great love, Jane Cooney Baker... crazy