hankins removing his pics is him effectiely shunning the limelight which for a narcissist means...
Narcissists generally crave the limelight, as they require constant external validation and attention to fuel their fragile egos. However, they may shun the limelight in specific situations where they perceive a threat to their self-image or control:
When facing criticism or potential scrutiny: Narcissists have an intense fear of perceived criticism and inadequacy. If being in the spotlight means their flaws might be exposed or their actions questioned, they will avoid it to protect their idealized self-image.
To avoid accountability: In conflict or when confronted with negative outcomes, a narcissist will deflect blame and avoid attention on the issue at hand. They may use tactics like gaslighting, silence, or changing the subject to shift focus away from their responsibility and avoid being held accountable.
When their "mask" is at risk of slipping: Narcissists present a charming, confident facade to the world. They shun attention when they feel this persona is unstable or when the truth about their manipulative tactics and inner emptiness might be revealed.
As a control tactic (silent treatment): They might "disappear" or use the silent treatment as a form of manipulation and punishment when they feel they are losing control over a source of "supply" (attention/emotional reactions). This creates confusion and makes the other person work to regain their approval, thus putting the narcissist back in a position of power.
If a "covert" type: There are different types of narcissism. While the "overt" narcissist seeks center stage, the "covert" narcissist may appear humble and shun attention publicly while still subtly seeking validation and using passive-aggressive means to control situations.
Essentially, a narcissist shuns the limelight when it no longer serves to boost their ego and instead poses a risk of exposing their deep-seated insecurities or an internal sense of inadequacy.
Brian, is there something you'd like to share with the group?
