l rejected her because two black kids

[Raymondo]

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1i56udh/aitah_for_breaking_things_off_with_a_single_mom/

 AITAH for breaking things off with a single mom after seeing a picture and learning about her kids?

So I 24M met Jasmine 25F through a coworker of mine at the hospital I work at. The coworker tried to set us up after learning we were both single. We kinda hit it off and we went on a couple of dates and I started to like her. She was pretty, chill and funny and while I knew she was a single mom to two boys, it wasn't necessarily a deal breaker for me.

Around a month into casually dating she showed me a picture of herself and her kids at Christmas. They were cute kids, but they were obviously mixed race. We're both white and the kids were a dark complexion. I asked more about the kids' dad, but she said they weren't really involved and she has to fight to get them involved and to get support from them. That's how I learned that she had two baby daddies.

We continued our date at the brewery downtown, and I paid for our meals and drove her home. She asked when we would meet up again and I gave a kinda non-committal answer about being busy this week and letting her know. After being at home and stewing for a little while, I came to the decision that I don't want to be involved with her even as cool as she is. I'd very obviously not be the kids' father, I'd worry about future baby daddy issues, and I just felt uneasy as I got more invested about actually potentially becoming a stepdad. Maybe it's my own insecurities, but I just couldn't.

I called Jasmine the next day and let her know that I'm no longer interested in dating and we could be friends if she wanted that, but she asked why and I said that I'm just not feeling the chemistry. We spoke for a little while after, but she just gave me a curt goodbye at the end.

Later at work, my coworker came up to me and asked what happened. She heard from Jasmine that I was treating her so gentlemanly and kind and things were going so well until I abrubtly ended it and Jasmine was a little torn up about it. I once again just said I was treating her nice but I just wasn't feeling the chemistry which was a fib since I was feeling the chemistry, I just had apprehensions about becoming closer to her.

So am I the asshole? Should have I been honest and said why I didn't want to continue things or vocalized my insecurities before breaking things off? I hate that I might've hurt Jasmine's feelings, she really was a sweet girl.

EDIT: Seems like the consensus is I'm the AH and I have stuff to work on, but not to tell her the real reason. Seems fair. Thanks everyone.

[IroNat]

Not only two black kids but two different fathers?

Run, Forest, run!

Was the woman's last name Kardashian?

[AbrahamG]

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1i56udh/aitah_for_breaking_things_off_with_a_single_mom/

 AITAH for breaking things off with a single mom after seeing a picture and learning about her kids?

So I 24M met Jasmine 25F through a coworker of mine at the hospital I work at. The coworker tried to set us up after learning we were both single. We kinda hit it off and we went on a couple of dates and I started to like her. She was pretty, chill and funny and while I knew she was a single mom to two boys, it wasn't necessarily a deal breaker for me.

Around a month into casually dating she showed me a picture of herself and her kids at Christmas. They were cute kids, but they were obviously mixed race. We're both white and the kids were a dark complexion. I asked more about the kids' dad, but she said they weren't really involved and she has to fight to get them involved and to get support from them. That's how I learned that she had two baby daddies.

We continued our date at the brewery downtown, and I paid for our meals and drove her home. She asked when we would meet up again and I gave a kinda non-committal answer about being busy this week and letting her know. After being at home and stewing for a little while, I came to the decision that I don't want to be involved with her even as cool as she is. I'd very obviously not be the kids' father, I'd worry about future baby daddy issues, and I just felt uneasy as I got more invested about actually potentially becoming a stepdad. Maybe it's my own insecurities, but I just couldn't.

I called Jasmine the next day and let her know that I'm no longer interested in dating and we could be friends if she wanted that, but she asked why and I said that I'm just not feeling the chemistry. We spoke for a little while after, but she just gave me a curt goodbye at the end.

Later at work, my coworker came up to me and asked what happened. She heard from Jasmine that I was treating her so gentlemanly and kind and things were going so well until I abrubtly ended it and Jasmine was a little torn up about it. I once again just said I was treating her nice but I just wasn't feeling the chemistry which was a fib since I was feeling the chemistry, I just had apprehensions about becoming closer to her.

So am I the asshole? Should have I been honest and said why I didn't want to continue things or vocalized my insecurities before breaking things off? I hate that I might've hurt Jasmine's feelings, she really was a sweet girl.

EDIT: Seems like the consensus is I'm the AH and I have stuff to work on, but not to tell her the real reason. Seems fair. Thanks everyone.

Please tell me you didn't eat it.

[Grape Ape]

Please tell me you didn't eat it.

Iran has Rambone out of sorts these days, so it may have happened.

[obsidian]

So many acronyms to keep up with.

AITAH = AM I THE ASSHOLE?
AIO = AM I OVERREACTING?

[robcguns]

You were not in the wrong. I would have ran as soon as I saw the pic, legit ran out the door.

[Lartinos]

Give her white child like she wants and then move on.

[Dave D]

LOL at people who think he’s in the wrong. A 24 year old dude doesn’t want to date a chick that has 2 kids with different dads? It’s the right choice.

Take the race out of it, she said the kids fathers aren’t really involved and she has to fight them to be a part of their life…. This shows she makes horrible life alter choices. Again he made the right decision.

Also if he was only turned off by the fact that they were mixed race and he didn’t want to deal with that, again that’s his decision.

It’s funny that you can ask women what they look for in a significant other and it specific from height, hair style, race, eye color, etc… but no one criticizes those preferences. But this dude doesn’t want to deal with baggage and he has issues.

Lol this society is lost.

[AbrahamG]

Iran has Rambone out of sorts these days, so it may have happened.

You meant Raymondo, no?

[joswift]

LOL at people who think he’s in the wrong. A 24 year old dude doesn’t want to date a chick that has 2 kids with different dads? It’s the right choice.

Take the race out of it, she said the kids fathers aren’t really involved and she has to fight them to be a part of their life…. This shows she makes horrible life alter choices. Again he made the right decision.

Also if he was only turned off by the fact that they were mixed race and he didn’t want to deal with that, again that’s his decision.

It’s funny that you can ask women what they look for in a significant other and it specific from height, hair style, race, eye color, etc… but no one criticizes those preferences. But this dude doesn’t want to deal with baggage and he has issues.

Lol this society is lost.

she picked him so maybe hes a fucking loser as well

[Donny]

These type of women are just dirt & will fuck another guy behind your back, probably why she´s got 2 kids with different fathers
I´m willing to bet she´s been Gang Banged by these Blacks in some dirty bar toilet, no doubt if you look there will be a video of it online...a cheap Whore with a fanny like a bucket

[Irongrip400]

Give her white child like she wants and then move on.

Lmao. Yes, he the third father she has to force to be with their kid.

[Grape Ape]

You meant Raymondo, no?

Totally fucked that one up. 

[Humble Narcissist]

These type of women are just dirt & will fuck another guy behind your back, probably why she´s got 2 kids with different fathers
I´m willing to bet she´s been Gang Banged by these Blacks in some dirty bar toilet, no doubt if you look there will be a video of it online...a cheap Whore with a fanny like a bucket

[robcguns]

I’m so crazy any woman I have been with I went to the town she’s from and asked many people if she has even been with a black man and if so, see you the fuck later.

[Kwon]

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1i56udh/aitah_for_breaking_things_off_with_a_single_mom/

 AITAH for breaking things off with a single mom after seeing a picture and learning about her kids?

So I 24M met Jasmine 25F through a coworker of mine at the hospital I work at. The coworker tried to set us up after learning we were both single. We kinda hit it off and we went on a couple of dates and I started to like her. She was pretty, chill and funny and while I knew she was a single mom to two boys, it wasn't necessarily a deal breaker for me.

Around a month into casually dating she showed me a picture of herself and her kids at Christmas. They were cute kids, but they were obviously mixed race. We're both white and the kids were a dark complexion. I asked more about the kids' dad, but she said they weren't really involved and she has to fight to get them involved and to get support from them. That's how I learned that she had two baby daddies.

We continued our date at the brewery downtown, and I paid for our meals and drove her home. She asked when we would meet up again and I gave a kinda non-committal answer about being busy this week and letting her know. After being at home and stewing for a little while, I came to the decision that I don't want to be involved with her even as cool as she is. I'd very obviously not be the kids' father, I'd worry about future baby daddy issues, and I just felt uneasy as I got more invested about actually potentially becoming a stepdad. Maybe it's my own insecurities, but I just couldn't.

I called Jasmine the next day and let her know that I'm no longer interested in dating and we could be friends if she wanted that, but she asked why and I said that I'm just not feeling the chemistry. We spoke for a little while after, but she just gave me a curt goodbye at the end.

Later at work, my coworker came up to me and asked what happened. She heard from Jasmine that I was treating her so gentlemanly and kind and things were going so well until I abrubtly ended it and Jasmine was a little torn up about it. I once again just said I was treating her nice but I just wasn't feeling the chemistry which was a fib since I was feeling the chemistry, I just had apprehensions about becoming closer to her.

So am I the asshole? Should have I been honest and said why I didn't want to continue things or vocalized my insecurities before breaking things off? I hate that I might've hurt Jasmine's feelings, she really was a sweet girl.

EDIT: Seems like the consensus is I'm the AH and I have stuff to work on, but not to tell her the real reason. Seems fair. Thanks everyone.

You did the right thing Raymondo! It would NOT have ended well for you.

[Raymondo]

It is just a reddit post I found, not my actual experience.

I wouldnt date a single mum, nevermind one with two kids.

The reddit wokerati shamed this dude because he didnt like the fact the kids were black. I wonder if it occurred to them it had more to do with their fathers and little with the kids

[GymnJuice]

It is just a reddit post I found, not my actual experience.

I wouldnt date a single mum, nevermind one with two kids.

The reddit wokerati shamed this dude because he didnt like the fact the kids were black. I wonder if it occurred to them it had more to do with their fathers and little with the kids

Anyone shaming him deserves to end up with a woman like that.

[AbrahamG]

"I don't want to wind up kissing Nat King Cole"

[deadz]

deadz denounces race mixing. No need for hybrid humans.