How did you manage to overcome your nervous breakdown?

[JK]

Dear brothers in iron! For the first time in my life, I'm going through such a difficult time that I don't even feel like training, even though it's been my favorite activity for over 10 years. However, I force myself and train because I know that if I stopped training, it would be the end.
Has any of you ever experienced a similar situation, and what helped you? How did you manage to rekindle your motivation?

[IroNat]

What is the cause of your mental situation?

Something beyond the gym?

[chaos]

Dear brothers in iron! For the first time in my life, I'm going through such a difficult time that I don't even feel like training, even though it's been my favorite activity for over 10 years. However, I force myself and train because I know that if I stopped training, it would be the end.
Has any of you ever experienced a similar situation, and what helped you? How did you manage to rekindle your motivation?

Have you tried picking up and putting down heavy stuff?

[wes]

I actually had a nervous breakdown in Florida...........I chased myself down US 1 and when I caught myself I screamed like a bitch........then chased myself some more.......wash,rinse,repeat........true story.

I still had the presence of mind to seek help and look how sane I am today!   

In your case JK,you could just be overtrained......take exactly one week off and the flame more than likely will rekindle.......good luck brother. 

[Van_Bilderass]

Keep lifting no matter what!

Motivation is an interesting concept. Where does it originate?

I've felt like it's the end many times and I'm in it right now and I'm having problems getting to the gym myself.

[IroNat]

I actually had a nervous breakdown in Florida...........I chased myself down US 1 and when I caught myself I screamed like a bitch........then chased myself some more.......wash,rinse,repeat........true story.

I still had the presence of mind to seek help and look how sane I am today!   

In your case JK,you could just be overtrained......take exactly one week off and the flame more than likely will rekindle.......good luck brother. 

Did you chase yourself in a circle?

[wes]

Did you chase yourself in a circle?

Hey,who do I look like Curly Howard    

[JK]

I actually had a nervous breakdown in Florida...........I chased myself down US 1 and when I caught myself I screamed like a bitch........then chased myself some more.......wash,rinse,repeat........true story.

I still had the presence of mind to seek help and look how sane I am today!   

In your case JK,you could just be overtrained......take exactly one week off and the flame more than likely will rekindle.......good luck brother. 

What is the cause of your mental situation?

Something beyond the gym?

Thank you, Wes. The cause of my nervous breakdown is a woman with whom our continued relationship is questionable. I've always laughed at such situations whenever someone tells me about them. I don't know what happened to me; it's so unlike me; I've never felt anything like this before, and I'm ashamed that I fell so deeply in love with her that I can't imagine life without her

[IroNat]

Thank you, Wes. The cause of my nervous breakdown is a woman with whom our continued relationship is questionable. I've always laughed at such situations whenever someone tells me about them. I don't know what happened to me; it's so unlike me; I've never felt anything like this before, and I'm ashamed that I fell so deeply in love with her that I can't imagine life without her

That's a tough one and likely most of us have gone through it.  I have.

My advices to this is the following:

1) Don't do anything stupid like make a fool of yourself, get drunk, do drugs or such things.

2) Play it cool with her and don't stalk her or act needy to her.  Ignoring her is the best thing.  Don't text her or call her. 
It's hard but you can do it.  Let things play out as they will. 
Soemtimes, oftentimes, things between people stop working and that is the just the way of man and woman.  Nobody's fault.
Take the high road.

3) Keep busy, keep training, etc.  Train more in fact.  If you train 3 days a week, step it up to 6 days a week.  Train twice a day if you have to.
An intelligent split routine that allows recovery.
This will keep you busy, keep the endorphins high, and help your mood. 
Set some written goals like increasing your strength.  Something tangible.
Take walks or long bike rides which will help you mentally.

[NaturalWonder83]

Determine the cause of your breakdown and analyze all that has happened to you. Was this all your fault? Or was it something you ultimately were not able to be in control of? Did you try your best 100%? Do you find yourself repeating your mistakes and being drawn to the same type of people /situations over and over? It helps some people to learn if they caused their stress and troubles. And by accepting responsibility that can help them get control over their lives and understand why their life is the way it turned out to be.

Try and control as much of your life as possible-Having a daily schedule can help.

Don’t force working out if for the time being if you are not into it, despite years of prior working out. You obviously are going through tough times right now. You’ll eventually want to work out again and you’ll feel inspired to do so. You’ll probably come back rested and fresh. If you are hard on yourself for not working out, then that’s one more thing to stress you out.

You may find if you’re able to set a schedule for your day and goals for your week, then you will feel good being in control of your life. Of course we feel low when we feel like we are losing control.

Good luck.

-Gene

[JK]

That's a tough one and likely most of us have gone through it.  I have.

My advices to this is the following:

1) Don't do anything stupid like make a fool of yourself, get drunk, do drugs or such things.

2) Play it cool with her and don't stalk her or act needy to her.  Ignoring her is the best thing.  Don't text her or call her. 
It's hard but you can do it.  Let things play out as they will. 
Soemtimes, oftentimes, things between people stop working and that is the just the way of man and woman.  Nobody's fault.
Take the high road.

3) Keep busy, keep training, etc.  Train more in fact.  If you train 3 days a week, step it up to 6 days a week.  Train twice a day if you have to.
An intelligent split routine that allows recovery.
This will keep you busy, keep the endorphins high, and help your mood. 
Set some written goals like increasing your strength.  Something tangible.
Take walks or long bike rides which will help you mentally.

Thank you, IronNat. This is exactly what I needed. Even though I want to call her first, I know I have to wait until she does.

As for training, I decided to do cutting during this period because I have no appetite due to stress anyway.

[JK]

Determine the cause of your breakdown and analyze all that has happened to you. Was this all your fault? Or was it something you ultimately were not able to be in control of? Did you try your best 100%? Do you find yourself repeating your mistakes and being drawn to the same type of people /situations over and over? It helps some people to learn if they caused their stress and troubles. And by accepting responsibility that can help them get control over their lives and understand why their life is the way it turned out to be.

Try and control as much of your life as possible-Having a daily schedule can help.

Don’t force working out if for the time being if you are not into it, despite years of prior working out. You obviously are going through tough times right now. You’ll eventually want to work out again and you’ll feel inspired to do so. You’ll probably come back rested and fresh. If you are hard on yourself for not working out, then that’s one more thing to stress you out.

You may find if you’re able to set a schedule for your day and goals for your week, then you will feel good being in control of your life. Of course we feel low when we feel like we are losing control.

Good luck.

-Gene

Thanks for the help, brother, but I know I can't stop training in this situation. I need to keep my head occupied so I don't do anything stupid

[JK]

Keep lifting no matter what!

Motivation is an interesting concept. Where does it originate?

I've felt like it's the end many times and I'm in it right now and I'm having problems getting to the gym myself.

That's exactly what I do. Training is the only thing that has saved me from difficult periods in the past.

[NaturalWonder83]

Thanks for the help, brother, but I know I can't stop training in this situation. I need to keep my head occupied so I don't do anything stupid

I have never stopped working out as well and I never want to. It keeps me calm and I look fwd to it each day. When I was going through some very hard times years ago, I kept working out, but just not as intense. I need to go to the gym or my mind would wander. I won’t ever stop working out, but I auto regulate in a sense my intensity and how heavy I go. I always remind myself that I have spent so many years working out and I wouldn’t want to stop and make the past years a waste. Getting control of my diet also helped tremendously with feeling better. I used to emotional eat and once I learned how to control my cravings, I felt much more in control in the other parts of my life. Make sure you’re sleeping enough as well. Sleep will ravage your mind. I only sleep 2-4 hours a night and I feel horrible.

[IroNat]

Thank you, IronNat. This is exactly what I needed. Even though I want to call her first, I know I have to wait until she does.

As for training, I decided to do cutting during this period because I have no appetite due to stress anyway.

Yes, be cool.
She may or may not call you but if she doesn't then move on. 
Don't dwell on whether or not it happens.
Consider it fate or karma.
Focus on good nutrition to help your training.

[MajorDomo]

[The_Iron_Disciple]

Going to the gym helps. Without it ... hard to say what state of mind I'd be in.

[wes]

Thank you, Wes. The cause of my nervous breakdown is a woman with whom our continued relationship is questionable. I've always laughed at such situations whenever someone tells me about them. I don't know what happened to me; it's so unlike me; I've never felt anything like this before, and I'm ashamed that I fell so deeply in love with her that I can't imagine life without her

Mine was a woman I was gonna` marry,so like the infantile fool I was back then,I drank and drugged myself into oblivion, while she was out partying with other guys almost immediately.

Some women can be cold hearted bitches......these days I would say........ "Don`t let the screen door hit ya`,where the good Lord split ya`" !!   

Again,good luck...........PS - go get laid bro!!   

[wes]

That's a tough one and likely most of us have gone through it.  I have.

My advices to this is the following:

1) Don't do anything stupid like make a fool of yourself, get drunk, do drugs or such things.

2) Play it cool with her and don't stalk her or act needy to her.  Ignoring her is the best thing.  Don't text her or call her. 
It's hard but you can do it.  Let things play out as they will. 
Soemtimes, oftentimes, things between people stop working and that is the just the way of man and woman.  Nobody's fault.
Take the high road.

3) Keep busy, keep training, etc.  Train more in fact.  If you train 3 days a week, step it up to 6 days a week.  Train twice a day if you have to.
An intelligent split routine that allows recovery.
This will keep you busy, keep the endorphins high, and help your mood. 
Set some written goals like increasing your strength.  Something tangible.
Take walks or long bike rides which will help you mentally.

Great advice Bro Nat.....I wish I knew you years ago,you would haved saved me lots of grief...........but I have gained wisdom after being burnt so many times.......my heart has callouses on it and my wife is cool for a crazy person.

I did the exact opposite of what you recommended and it bit me in my ass.

[JK]

Thank you all brothers for your help. I really appreciate it and it means a lot to me

[joswift]

Thank you, Wes. The cause of my nervous breakdown is a woman with whom our continued relationship is questionable. I've always laughed at such situations whenever someone tells me about them. I don't know what happened to me; it's so unlike me; I've never felt anything like this before, and I'm ashamed that I fell so deeply in love with her that I can't imagine life without her

Why lose any sleep over someone who obviously doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her.


Women are strange things, they say they want out the relationship and them when you say " fine, no problem" they come back with "so you are not prepared to fight for us?"

Err. why the fuck would anybody want to fight for someone who obviously doesnt give a fuck about them?

If she got hit by a car tomorrow you would have to manage without her.

[joswift]

Lol

[JK]

Why lose any sleep over someone who obviously doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her.


Women are strange things, they say they want out the relationship and them when you say " fine, no problem" they come back with "so you are not prepared to fight for us?"

Err. why the fuck would anybody want to fight for someone who obviously doesnt give a fuck about them?

If she got hit by a car tomorrow you would have to manage without her.

The funny thing is that a few months ago I was explaining something similar to a friend whose woman had left him.

Today I know how difficult it is when you dream about her every night and everything reminds you of her

[Van_Bilderass]

The funny thing is that a few months ago I was explaining something similar to a friend whose woman had left him.

Today I know how difficult it is when you dream about her every night and everything reminds you of her

Not to be pretentiously deep but the heart is not logical. And I think on some level it seems to me to be a sign of health not to be able to discard deep emotional connections just like that. To do otherwise seems psychopathic to me. I once cut off completely 100% as if I snapped my fingers but I still suffer years later if I think about it, though it was probably the right course of action anyway

[IroNat]

Not to be pretentiously deep but the heart is not logical. And I think on some level it seems to me to be a sign of health not to be able to discard deep emotional connections just like that. To do otherwise seems psychopathic to me. I once cut off completely 100% as if I snapped my fingers but I still suffer years later if I think about it, though it was probably the right course of action anyway

Well thought, van.