not that im a prick, i just have come to the realization (a while ago) that when you start to change yourself for someone else, then you are losing who you are. If someone doesn't respect and care for you they way you are then F*ck them. I am done changing myslef in hopes that the other person would love me or to fulfill their expecttions. One thing is to lose weight so that you are healthier and there for your children etc, it's a totally different thing to do it for someone else beacuse it's what they want superficially.