When you receive the book you'll both be better able to determine what the other needs. Another great book is "His Needs, Her Needs" by ____ Harley.
I'm sending both of those other books today!
One thing I heard once was that a lady had determined that she wanted a divorce from her husband. She retained an attorney but wasn't quite ready to act immediately. She asked the attorney what she should do to ensure that her husband would suffer horribly from the divorce. The attorney told her to treat him extremely well, tell him how great he is all the time, do things for him, tell him she loved him, etc. and when she left, he would miss her and feel horribly that she was gone.
The attorney saw her at the grocery six months later and asked when she was coming in to get started on divorce. She said, "Divorce? What divorce? After I started doing those things you said things have been fantastic at my house!"
I had a friend who was having trouble in her marriage. She was coming to really dislike her husband and treating him like crap. Both were pushing each other away. She didn't want it to end but she was miserable. I told her that if he is not getting his needs met at home - which doesn't alway mean sex, but words of affirmation and appreciation, etc - there are women that may swoop in there and take him and would that be OK w/her? She said no.
I told her to start acting toward him like a woman that was trying to steal him away. To act like whatever his "mistress" would act like. They are doing great and she's quite happy herself