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Getbig Female Info Boards => Open Talk for Girl Discussion => Topic started by: Hustle Man on August 09, 2007, 06:54:18 PM
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Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?
FYI!
My daughter knows I love her very much because the other night (for our monthly date night) I took her to see "Tokyo Police Club & Ra Ra Riot" at the Sonar Club in Baltimore! I had such a great time seeing my daughter have fun (this was her first night out like this)!
The EX said I was corrupting her! BTW The Sonar was cool, I was out of place but it was cool!
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He lets you work the remote control. ;)
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Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?
Does
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Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?
How much he spends!! ;D
Actions speak louder then words, but we like to hear the words also.
Kudos on Daddy/Daughter night!! :-*
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How much he spends!! ;D
Actions speak louder then words, but we like to hear the words also.
Kudos on Daddy/Daughter night!! :-*
I kinda agree with you; the more I spend on my daughters the more hugs I get lol! Woe unto the men that get my daughters lol they better have deep pockets!
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I knew someone would say that lol
I think all women have some level of gold digger in them lol its a survival technique!
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NOOOOOOOO, it's not about the money!!! It's about the ACTIONS. :P
A man can do many things to express his love for a woman without spending a DIME, and those are the things that the woman will appreciate most and remember forever.
With the daughters, it's a bit different because they are not old enough to appreciate the value of non-material goods.
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I knew someone would say that lol
I wouldn't say whores but I think all women have some level of gold digger in them lol its a survival technique!
Not cool with the "daughters a whore" comment...not cool.
We all know that dudes are the whores...women instictually look for "the provider / protector". Infact most species have that instinct.
ass.
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NOOOOOOOO, it's not about the money!!! It's about the ACTIONS. :P
A man can do many things to express his love for a woman without spending a DIME, and those are the things that the woman will appreciate most and remember forever.
With the daughters, it's a bit different because they are not old enough to appreciate the value of non-material goods.
I knew you would bring out the truth Rip TYVM!
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NOOOOOOOO, it's not about the money!!! It's about the ACTIONS. :P Well, my Ex was so insecure and could not handle "ACTIONS" or the truth/honesty! Example; Bills come in the mail the ex would open the bills and put them away and forget them. I would assume bills were getting paid, NOT! Long story short; I told her "Leave the mail in the box, let me get the mail so I can pay the bills on time! She thought I was trying to control her and accusing her of being irresponsible. I thought I was being honest and taking care of business!
A man can do many things to express his love for a woman without spending a DIME, and those are the things that the woman will appreciate most and remember forever. I need more info here, can you give some examples?
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Gosh, it's hard to think of specific examples.
It's the little things, ya know...it can be something that he says, or something that he does, or even just a look that says what he is thinking...Like if he does the dishes and cleans the house when you are really tired and on your way home, and you are dreading the housework. And then you get home and it's already done. That's the BEST!!
I personally like for my man to make me feel safe and protected by him...that doesn't cost anything either. I know, it all sounds very romantic... ::)...but it is!
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Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?
If I REALLY loved a woman I would put her above myself and do anything for her. My whole life would revolve around her. I guess that's how you know: if a man's life revolves around a woman and her happiness, he really loves her.
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Well, my Ex was so insecure and could not handle "ACTIONS" or the truth/honesty! Example; Bills come in the mail the ex would open the bills and put them away and forget them. I would assume bills were getting paid, NOT! Long story short; I told her "Leave the mail in the box, let me get the mail so I can pay the bills on time! She thought I was trying to control her and accusing her of being irresponsible. I thought I was being honest and taking care of business!
I need more info here, can you give some examples?
A friend of mine who is notorious for procrastinating and letting things lapse when they need to be taken care of, sent me this cartoon in the mail. We had the biggest laugh over it. It might give you a bit of insight.
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Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?
it's what he does mostly
he can say anything he wants
and only materialistic minds need to know what he has
if he makes the woman feel like she matters
he's got the stuff
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it's what he does mostly
he can say anything he wants
and only materialistic minds need to know what he has
if he makes the woman feel like she matters
he's got the stuff
I'm guessing this song basically states what your saying, and answers the subject of the thread
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v+i0fAEJQtqnU (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v+i0fAEJQtqnU)
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I'm guessing this song basically states what your saying, and answers the subject of the thread
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v+i0fAEJQtqnU (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v+i0fAEJQtqnU)
My bad the link is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0fAEJQtqnU (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0fAEJQtqnU)
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If I REALLY loved a woman I would put her above myself and do anything for her. My whole life would revolve around her. I guess that's how you know: if a man's life revolves around a woman and her happiness, he really loves her.
That's really sweet... :)
but I am not sure it's realistic.
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That's really sweet... :)
but I am not sure it's realistic.
I don't know RIP, if her happiness is happiness for him I think its very realistic! I love to please my woman in various ways and I love to see her happy! I truly love her and she comes first as I am first with her! I never knew love this existed I thought it was what fairytales were made of but I waited years for love like this and its very real!
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Exactly, that's why some guys say "if she's happy I'm happy".
Back in high school I felt this way about a girl, if she smiled or was happy I was happy. But of course my love was unrequited. :'(
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Exactly, that's why some guys say "if she's happy I'm happy".
Back in high school I felt this way about a girl, if she smiled or was happy I was happy. But of course my love was unrequited. :'(
Then again there's another saying that goes:
"If she's not happy.... NO ONE is happy" ;D
I have a tendency to think there's more truth in that one.
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"If she's not happy.... NO ONE is happy" ;D
^Matriarchal point of view.
I don't know any Latinos who would subscribe to that theory.
Black culture does, though.
DIV
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^Matriarchal point of view.
I don't know any Latinos who would subscribe to that theory.
Black culture does, though.
DIV
There's nothing matriarchal or patriarchal about it. That's reality!
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^Matriarchal point of view.
I don't know any Latinos who would subscribe to that theory.
Black culture does, though.
DIV
Yep, for the most part you're right, that's one of the reason why there are problems when a dude asserts himself. But, then that is one of the reason why a lot of Latino and Caribbean women roll out on their men as well, too controlling...
BUt as Jag, siad, if the women ain't happy AND she has mind of her own, she's gonna let you know that she is unhappy!!!
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Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?
It's in his eyes, the way he looks at you when he speaks to you, the way he listens to you when you speak to him. It's something you can feel from him.
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It is in his eyes. :)
Also, when you know from his actions and your gut instinct that you can trust him implicitly with your life.
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I don't know RIP, if her happiness is happiness for him I think its very realistic! I love to please my woman in various ways and I love to see her happy! I truly love her and she comes first as I am first with her! I never knew love this existed I thought it was what fairytales were made of but I waited years for love like this and its very real!
Well, that's very sweet too!! I guess what I'm saying is that in a long-term relationship, I don't think it's fair for the woman to expect this kind of mindset from a guy forever, or to think that this is necessary for a man to prove he really loves her.
Sometimes, what makes each person happy is not the same thing. Successful long-term relationships are ones where both people can recognize this and meet in the middle on some things. The man can really show his love by meeting in the middle on the things that matter most to the woman.
:)
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Well, that's very sweet too!! I guess what I'm saying is that in a long-term relationship, I don't think it's fair for the woman to expect this kind of mindset from a guy forever, or to think that this is necessary for a man to prove he really loves her.
Sometimes, what makes each person happy is not the same thing. Successful long-term relationships are ones where both people can recognize this and meet in the middle on some things. The man can really show his love by meeting in the middle on the things that matter most to the woman.
:)
No Lori I am not helping with the housework. >:(
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No Lori I am not helping with the housework. >:(
NO?!?! But what if that were the ONE thing that would make me happy? ;)
It's not btw, it was just an easy example of the little things that don't cost alot of money but mean alot.
I agree with the other girls, you can see it in his eyes.
:)
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Here's how you know Hustle...
When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothin' else
He'd trade the world
For a good thing he's found
If she is bad, he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend If he puts her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comforts
And sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way
It ought to be
When a man loves a woman
I give you everything I've got (yeah)
Trying to hold on
To your precious love
Baby please don't treat me bad
When a man loves a woman
Deep down in his soul
She can bring him such misery
If she is playing him for a fool
He's the last one to know
Loving eyes can never see
Yes when a man loves a woman
I know exactly how he feels
'Cause baby, baby, baby
I am a man
When a man loves a woman
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Yep, for the most part you're right, that's one of the reason why there are problems when a dude asserts himself. But, then that is one of the reason why a lot of Latino and Caribbean women roll out on their men as well, too controlling...
BUt as Jag, siad, if the women ain't happy AND she has mind of her own, she's gonna let you know that she is unhappy!!!
Most traditional Latinas don't roll out because they were raised in the culture, and dating outside the culture is looked down upon.
In fact, most traditional Hispanic women defer to the man as a rule.
It's only the Americanized latinas that go outside the norm......they aren't any different than any other woman at that point.
What I see with black culture is the female controlling things and manipulating the men to do their bidding.......
In many ways black women have all the say in that culture.
That just doesn't go in Latino cultures............it never will.
It's a patriarchal society.......and always has been.
Most Hispanic women who approach me are looking to me for answers, not trying to control or manipulate me.
Why?
Because it doesn't work.
DIV
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(http://www.jaguarenterprises.net/images/coffee-right.jpg)
Someone needs to take a deep whiff!
The only reason why the women that approach you are looking for answers, is because imo, the only type of women who could be attracted to you are those passive, submissive types looking for someone with answers.
I don't give a poop about how patriarchal a culture is. In any patriarchal culture, the man may be the head,
...but the woman is the neck, ...and the neck will always turn the head in whichever direction she wants it to go!
That is 10000% fact, whether you want to accept it or not. And the more patriarchal the culture, the more adept the necks will become at pointing the head without the head even knowing what's going on.
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Ohhhhhh, you done did it now! Judi said "poop". :-X ;D
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Here's how you know Hustle...
When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothin' else
He'd trade the world
For a good thing he's found
If she is bad, he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend If he puts her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comforts
And sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way
It ought to be
When a man loves a woman
I give you everything I've got (yeah)
Trying to hold on
To your precious love
Baby please don't treat me bad
When a man loves a woman
Deep down in his soul
She can bring him such misery
If she is playing him for a fool
He's the last one to know
Loving eyes can never see
Yes when a man loves a woman
I know exactly how he feels
'Cause baby, baby, baby
I am a man
When a man loves a woman
Love that song man and I agree!
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Ohhhhhh, you done did it now! Judi said "poop". :-X ;D
:-[
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(http://www.jaguarenterprises.net/images/coffee-right.jpg)
Someone needs to take a deep whiff!
The only reason why the women that approach you are looking for answers, is because imo, the only type of women who could be attracted to you are those passive, submissive types looking for someone with answers.
I don't give a poop about how patriarchal a culture is. In any patriarchal culture, the man may be the head,
...but the woman is the neck, ...and the neck will always turn the head in whichever direction she wants it to go!
That is 10000% fact, whether you want to accept it or not. And the more patriarchal the culture, the more adept the necks will become at pointing the head without the head even knowing what's going on.
If both dont respect each other, and ask opinion/ input on important matters, even when you KNOW what YOU want to do and think is best, It will not be a lasting relationship IMO.
Perhaps total control/ female ownership as in chattel in a couple cultures left today, but thats not a relationship IMO.
Same goes for gettin the most from employees. Treat w/ respect and ask for their input w/ what they are doing.
They will have a different angle than Boss. They may have a better idea.
Regardless, that simple respect, is paid back.
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(http://www.jaguarenterprises.net/images/coffee-right.jpg)
Someone needs to take a deep whiff!
The only reason why the women that approach you are looking for answers, is because imo, the only type of women who could be attracted to you are those passive, submissive types looking for someone with answers.
I don't give a poop about how patriarchal a culture is. In any patriarchal culture, the man may be the head,
...but the woman is the neck, ...and the neck will always turn the head in whichever direction she wants it to go!
That is 10000% fact, whether you want to accept it or not. And the more patriarchal the culture, the more adept the necks will become at pointing the head without the head even knowing what's going on.
Don't hurt'em Jaggy he is lonely and demeaning women and/or minorities (whomever they are in his eyes) makes him feel better about who he wants to be! Let's send flowers I think he will like that!
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This thread is almost even to catty for me
I'm impressed
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This thread is almost even to catty for me
I'm impressed
Impossible, you are the queen of catty! Yes I still luv ya babe!
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Impossible, you are the queen of catty! Yes I still luv ya babe!
I'm not catty. I am just slightly iltempered and always right ;D
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I'm not catty. I am just slightly iltempered and always right ;D
post any pictures yet?
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post any pictures yet?
Nope,
keep up hope though. ::)
The people I trust have seen my pictures, funny you weren't one of them. Go figure
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Nope,
keep up hope though. ::)OS my love this was "catty"
The people I trust have seen my pictures, funny you weren't one of them. Go figureAnd so was this meow rrrrrr!
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Shhh
You'll blow my innocent virgin image. ;D
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I'm not catty. I am just slightly iltempered and always right ;D
nuh-uh, ...that would be me. ;D
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(http://www.jaguarenterprises.net/images/coffee-right.jpg)
I don't give a poop about how patriarchal a culture is. In any patriarchal culture, the man may be the head,
...but the woman is the neck, ...and the neck will always turn the head in whichever direction she wants it to go!
Did that quote not come from the movie "My big fat Greek wedding" ?
Just asking ???
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Did that quote not come from the movie "My big fat Greek wedding" ?
Just asking ???
It's an old saying... been around for years... especially in patriarchal cultures. :P
I first heard it from an Italian ex-boyfriend who heard it from his father... who heard from his father... etc.
I think Nia Vardalos did write the line into "My Big Fat Greek Wedding".
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Shhh
You'll blow my innocent virgin image. ;D
Impossible!