Author Topic: How do you know when a man REALLY loves you? (Read 6326 times)

Hustle Man · « **on:** August 09, 2007, 06:54:18 PM »

Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?

FYI!

My daughter knows I love her very much because the other night (for our monthly date night) I took her to see "Tokyo Police Club & Ra Ra Riot" at the Sonar Club in Baltimore! I had such a great time seeing my daughter have fun (this was her first night out like this)!

The EX said I was corrupting her! BTW The Sonar was cool, I was out of place but it was cool!

24KT · « **Reply #1 on:** August 09, 2007, 10:31:26 PM »

He lets you work the remote control.

Butterbean · « **Reply #2 on:** August 10, 2007, 05:39:35 AM »

Quote from: Hustle Man on August 09, 2007, 06:54:18 PM

Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?

Does

Original Sin · « **Reply #3 on:** August 10, 2007, 08:00:43 AM »

Quote from: Hustle Man on August 09, 2007, 06:54:18 PM

Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?

How much he spends!!

Actions speak louder then words, but we like to hear the words also.

Kudos on Daddy/Daughter night!!

Hustle Man · « **Reply #4 on:** August 10, 2007, 08:20:00 AM »

Quote from: Original Sin on August 10, 2007, 08:00:43 AM

How much he spends!!

Actions speak louder then words, but we like to hear the words also.

Kudos on Daddy/Daughter night!!

I kinda agree with you; the more I spend on my daughters the more hugs I get lol! Woe unto the men that get my daughters lol they better have deep pockets!

Hustle Man · « **Reply #5 on:** August 10, 2007, 08:40:26 AM »

Quote from: The Squadfather on August 10, 2007, 08:34:28 AM

I knew someone would say that lol
I think all women have some level of gold digger in them lol its a survival technique!

ripitupbaby · « **Reply #6 on:** August 10, 2007, 08:44:56 AM »

NOOOOOOOO, it's not about the money!!! It's about the ACTIONS.

A man can do many things to express his love for a woman without spending a DIME, and those are the things that the woman will appreciate most and remember forever.

With the daughters, it's a bit different because they are not old enough to appreciate the value of non-material goods.

SamoanIrishman · « **Reply #7 on:** August 10, 2007, 08:46:40 AM »

Quote from: Hustle Man on August 10, 2007, 08:40:26 AM

I knew someone would say that lol
I wouldn't say whores but I think all women have some level of gold digger in them lol its a survival technique!

Not cool with the "daughters a whore" comment...not cool.

We all know that dudes are the whores...women instictually look for "the provider / protector". Infact most species have that instinct.

ass.

Hustle Man · « **Reply #8 on:** August 10, 2007, 08:52:37 AM »

Quote from: ripitupbaby on August 10, 2007, 08:44:56 AM

NOOOOOOOO, it's not about the money!!! It's about the ACTIONS.

A man can do many things to express his love for a woman without spending a DIME, and those are the things that the woman will appreciate most and remember forever.

With the daughters, it's a bit different because they are not old enough to appreciate the value of non-material goods.

I knew you would bring out the truth Rip TYVM!

Hustle Man · « **Reply #9 on:** August 10, 2007, 10:21:16 AM »

Quote from: ripitupbaby on August 10, 2007, 08:44:56 AM

NOOOOOOOO, it's not about the money!!! It's about the ACTIONS. Well, my Ex was so insecure and could not handle "ACTIONS" or the truth/honesty! Example; Bills come in the mail the ex would open the bills and put them away and forget them. I would assume bills were getting paid, NOT! Long story short; I told her "Leave the mail in the box, let me get the mail so I can pay the bills on time! She thought I was trying to control her and accusing her of being irresponsible. I thought I was being honest and taking care of business!

A man can do many things to express his love for a woman without spending a DIME, and those are the things that the woman will appreciate most and remember forever. I need more info here, can you give some examples?

ripitupbaby · « **Reply #10 on:** August 10, 2007, 11:28:43 AM »

Quote from: Hustle Man on August 10, 2007, 10:21:16 AM

Gosh, it's hard to think of specific examples.
It's the little things, ya know...it can be something that he says, or something that he does, or even just a look that says what he is thinking...Like if he does the dishes and cleans the house when you are really tired and on your way home, and you are dreading the housework. And then you get home and it's already done. That's the BEST!!

I personally like for my man to make me feel safe and protected by him...that doesn't cost anything either. I know, it all sounds very romantic...

...but it is!

mahg · « **Reply #11 on:** August 12, 2007, 12:33:48 AM »

Quote from: Hustle Man on August 09, 2007, 06:54:18 PM

Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?

If I REALLY loved a woman I would put her above myself and do anything for her. My whole life would revolve around her. I guess that's how you know: if a man's life revolves around a woman and her happiness, he really loves her.

24KT · « **Reply #12 on:** August 12, 2007, 08:11:04 AM »

Quote from: Hustle Man on August 10, 2007, 10:21:16 AM

Well, my Ex was so insecure and could not handle "ACTIONS" or the truth/honesty! Example; Bills come in the mail the ex would open the bills and put them away and forget them. I would assume bills were getting paid, NOT! Long story short; I told her "Leave the mail in the box, let me get the mail so I can pay the bills on time! She thought I was trying to control her and accusing her of being irresponsible. I thought I was being honest and taking care of business!

I need more info here, can you give some examples?

A friend of mine who is notorious for procrastinating and letting things lapse when they need to be taken care of, sent me this cartoon in the mail. We had the biggest laugh over it. It might give you a bit of insight.

w8m8 · « **Reply #13 on:** August 12, 2007, 08:20:48 AM »

Quote from: Hustle Man on August 09, 2007, 06:54:18 PM

Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?

it's what he does mostly

he can say anything he wants

and only materialistic minds need to know what he has

if he makes the woman feel like she matters

he's got the stuff

Parker · « **Reply #14 on:** August 12, 2007, 02:49:11 PM »

Quote from: w8m8 on August 12, 2007, 08:20:48 AM

it's what he does mostly

he can say anything he wants

and only materialistic minds need to know what he has

if he makes the woman feel like she matters

he's got the stuff

I'm guessing this song basically states what your saying, and answers the subject of the thread

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v+i0fAEJQtqnU

Parker · « **Reply #15 on:** August 12, 2007, 02:52:20 PM »

Quote from: Parker on August 12, 2007, 02:49:11 PM

I'm guessing this song basically states what your saying, and answers the subject of the thread

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v+i0fAEJQtqnU

My bad the link is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0fAEJQtqnU

ripitupbaby · « **Reply #16 on:** August 12, 2007, 04:36:43 PM »

Quote from: mahg on August 12, 2007, 12:33:48 AM

If I REALLY loved a woman I would put her above myself and do anything for her. My whole life would revolve around her. I guess that's how you know: if a man's life revolves around a woman and her happiness, he really loves her.

That's really sweet...

but I am not sure it's realistic.

Hustle Man · « **Reply #17 on:** August 12, 2007, 05:12:57 PM »

Quote from: ripitupbaby on August 12, 2007, 04:36:43 PM

That's really sweet...
but I am not sure it's realistic.

I don't know RIP, if her happiness is happiness for him I think its very realistic! I love to please my woman in various ways and I love to see her happy! I truly love her and she comes first as I am first with her! I never knew love this existed I thought it was what fairytales were made of but I waited years for love like this and its very real!

mahg · « **Reply #18 on:** August 12, 2007, 09:34:34 PM »

Exactly, that's why some guys say "if she's happy I'm happy".

Back in high school I felt this way about a girl, if she smiled or was happy I was happy. But of course my love was unrequited.

24KT · « **Reply #19 on:** August 12, 2007, 10:49:00 PM »

Quote from: mahg on August 12, 2007, 09:34:34 PM

Exactly, that's why some guys say "if she's happy I'm happy".

Back in high school I felt this way about a girl, if she smiled or was happy I was happy. But of course my love was unrequited.

Then again there's another saying that goes:

"If she's not happy.... NO ONE is happy"

I have a tendency to think there's more truth in that one.

DIVISION · « **Reply #20 on:** August 12, 2007, 10:52:28 PM »

Quote from: jaguarenterprises on August 12, 2007, 10:49:00 PM

"If she's not happy.... NO ONE is happy"

^Matriarchal point of view.

I don't know any Latinos who would subscribe to that theory.

Black culture does, though.

DIV

24KT · « **Reply #21 on:** August 12, 2007, 11:59:14 PM »

Quote from: DIVISION on August 12, 2007, 10:52:28 PM

^Matriarchal point of view.

I don't know any Latinos who would subscribe to that theory.

Black culture does, though.

DIV

There's nothing matriarchal or patriarchal about it. That's reality!

Parker · « **Reply #22 on:** August 13, 2007, 04:45:35 AM »

Quote from: DIVISION on August 12, 2007, 10:52:28 PM

^Matriarchal point of view.

I don't know any Latinos who would subscribe to that theory.

Black culture does, though.

DIV

Yep, for the most part you're right, that's one of the reason why there are problems when a dude asserts himself. But, then that is one of the reason why a lot of Latino and Caribbean women roll out on their men as well, too controlling...

BUt as Jag, siad, if the women ain't happy AND she has mind of her own, she's gonna let you know that she is unhappy!!!

Laura Lee · « **Reply #23 on:** August 13, 2007, 05:20:40 AM »

Quote from: Hustle Man on August 09, 2007, 06:54:18 PM

Is it what he says, does or has; this inquiring mind wants to know?

It's in his eyes, the way he looks at you when he speaks to you, the way he listens to you when you speak to him. It's something you can feel from him.

Deedee · « **Reply #24 on:** August 13, 2007, 06:11:48 AM »

It is in his eyes.

Also, when you know from his actions and your gut instinct that you can trust him implicitly with your life.