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how long does romantic love last?
i was taught in my psych classes at university that it's 18 months tops
so you fellas that have had or have long term relationships, how long did the romantic spark last?
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Not an expert but firmly believe there is no such thing
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How long it lasts is irrelevant. The main point is that 95% of all romantic love is fleeting. You are fooling yourself if you believe otherwise.
Only real love is the love you have for a relative or parent.
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How long it lasts is irrelevant. The main point is that 95% of all romantic love is fleeting. You are fooling yourself if you believe otherwise.
Only real love is the love you have for a relative or parent.
I think love for a parent or child is the only legit answer.Even sibling love fades imho once they get their own families.
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I think love for a parent or child is the only legit answer.Even sibling love fades imho once they get their own families.
This is the only love that truly exists, paticularly for your kids
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how long does romantic love last?
i was taught in my psych classes at university that it's 18 months tops
so you fellas that have had or have long term relationships, how long did the romantic spark last?
18 months seems like it's more of an infatuation than romantic love.
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the only lasting love is between a man and the weights at the gym.
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If the relationship is solid it doesn't end.....it matures and deepens....it's no longer about teddy bears and chocolate hearts.
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I can speak about one piece of research:
The research shows that after a baby is born, certain hormones are secreted in both men and women that increases the chances that they stay together, i.e., the hormone attempts to ensure romantic love. Evolution did this on purpose, to ensure that both parents are around for the first 3 years of life (I believe the hormone is secreted for roughly 3 years), in order to give the baby the best chance of survival and success (obviously, two parents are better than one parent). Once the hormone is not secreted or rapidly diminished, well, good luck. :) :) :)
Obviously, it doesn't mean the relationship will end, since many couples are together much longer than 3 years. However, having a brain flooded with specific hormones sure does help.
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i still love baby mama like the day i met her which was 10 years ago now
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i still love baby mama like the day i met her which was 10 years ago now
Get over it. Its over brah.
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Get over it. Its over brah.
it's not over
in 5-10 years maybe she'll break up
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This is the only love that truly exists, paticularly for your kids
Yes but what about a spouse? Couples beening together for 60+ years?
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it's not over
in 5-10 years maybe she'll break up
Oke but what will you do in the meantime? Waiting?
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A few months at most.
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Depends on who you are, shy beta virgin men who dont get laid will wife up any half decent slut who looks at them, they will put up with a lot of bullshit from women because they know if she leaves it will be a long time before they get laid again, alpha males who pulls nice piece of ass on a regular basis will not put up with bullshit because they have options so once they get tired of the pussy and the girl gets annoying they will move on to the next piece of ass.
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It's all chemistry unfortunately.
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Yes but what about a spouse? Couples beening together for 60+ years?
I'm not sure I can only speak from personal experience perhaps those rare few have that something 'special' or they just accept they are good together despite the lack of 'love' and stop looking for something that isn't there and stick together?
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how long does romantic love last?
i was taught in my psych classes at university that it's 18 months tops
so you fellas that have had or have long term relationships, how long did the romantic spark last?
untill you ejaculate
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I'm not sure I can only speak from personal experience perhaps those rare few have that something 'special' or they just accept they are good together despite the lack of 'love' and stop looking for something that isn't there and stick together?
Love can be defined and expressed in many different ways.
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thanks for the answers fellas
but when i'm talking about romantic love i mean the kind of love where you write her poetry and gaze softly into her eyes
and that's a very interesting study sf, thanks for sharing bro
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dj is like a child
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Buncha` virgins giving opinions on love!! LOL :D
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thanks for the answers fellas
but when i'm talking about romantic love i mean the kind of love where you write her poetry and gaze softly into her eyes
and that's a very interesting study sf, thanks for sharing bro
Keep in mind not everyone writes poetry or gazes softly into their partner's eyes. These things are very nice though. Women love it when men are willing to show their more sensitive side.
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Keep in mind not everyone writes poetry or gazes softly into their partner's eyes. These things are very nice though. Women love it when men are willing to show their more sensitive side.
dj181 getting owned by PM
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I'm not sure I can only speak from personal experience perhaps those rare few have that something 'special' or they just accept they are good together despite the lack of 'love' and stop looking for something that isn't there and stick together?
I also dont know to be honest.
Been together 14 years now.
I hope to report back to you in 48 years on this issue. ;D
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a bit depressing replies but honesst so kudos for that
dj is like a child
yeah, i guess that i kinda am
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a bit depressing replies but honesst so kudos for that
yeah, i guess that i kinda am
try being confident
and never asking anyone else what they think about you
its very liberrating
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try being confident
and never asking anyone else what they think about you
its very liberrating
Domt believe I've ever asked what anybody thought of me.
Tell'em what. You think and don't wait for a reply
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try being confident
and never asking anyone else what they think about you
its very liberrating
thanks for the advice
one of my lady friends told me that i'm too moody and she never knows what to expect from me, i guess that i am a bit unstable
and 2 of my other lady friends cut contact with me... BRUTAL!!!!
i guess that i can be charming and get women to like me, but i can't keep them involved with me, as within a month or two they tell me to get lost.... fuck!!!
maybe i should just focus on very short intense relationships with women and not expect them to ever go very far :-\
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thanks for the advice
one of my lady friends told me that i'm too moody and she never knows what to expect from me, i guess that i am a bit unstable
and 2 of my other lady friends cut contact with me... BRUTAL!!!!
i guess that i can be charming and get women to like me, but i can't keep them involved with me, as within a month or two they tell me to get lost.... fuck!!!
maybe i should just focus on very short intense relationships with women and not expect them to ever go very far :-\
By too moody, does she mean depressing or changeable? I believe you should focus on being more positive (confident in) about yourself. People not knowing what to expect from you makes you interesting and perhaps a bit of a challenge. With respect to women, many like guys who they cannot figure out completely.
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By too moody, does she mean depressing or changeable? I believe you should focus on being more positive (confident in) about yourself. People not knowing what to expect from you makes you interesting and perhaps a bit of a challenge. With respect to women, many like guys who they cannot figure out completely.
i mean like i'll switch rather quickly from being in a good mood to getting depressed or pissed off within minutes
i guess i have some symptoms of borderline personality disorder which is characterized by these symptoms:
Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
A pattern of intense and unstable relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often swinging from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)
Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self
Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating
Recurring suicidal behaviors or threats or self-harming behavior, such as cutting
Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
Chronic feelings of emptiness
Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger
Having stress-related paranoid thoughts
Having severe dissociative symptoms, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside the body, or losing touch with reality
i always thought that narcissism was my major fault/problem but it seems that this is... FUCK!!!!
this song sorta describes me with regards to females
and yep, some females are attracted to moody unpredictable fellas like me, but it doesn't last so long as they just can't handle it, and frankly i don't blame them
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i mean like i'll switch rather quickly from being in a good mood to getting depressed or pissed off within minutes
i guess i have some symptoms of borderline personality disorder which is characterized by these symptoms:
Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
A pattern of intense and unstable relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often swinging from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)
Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self
Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating
Recurring suicidal behaviors or threats or self-harming behavior, such as cutting
Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
Chronic feelings of emptiness
Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger
Having stress-related paranoid thoughts
Having severe dissociative symptoms, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside the body, or losing touch with reality
i always thought that narcissism was my major fault/problem but it seems that this is... FUCK!!!!
this song sorta describes me with regards to females
and yep, some females are attracted to moody unpredictable fellas like me, but it doesn't last so long as they just can't handle it, and frankly i don't blame them
With the level of self awareness going on today, many people imagine they relate to that list of symptoms and to some degree they do because we all do. However, most aren't victims of borderline personality disorder. You likely aren't either.
When I was much younger, I too often changed moods instantaneously from seemingly happy to extremely angry. I got over this in time because it was ruining my life in everyway.
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dj is anything but a strong silent type ;D ;D ;D
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2 to 3 years max
after that it's just learning to tolerate the other no matter how beautiful or awesome he/she is
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2 to 3 years max
after that it's just learning to tolerate the other no matter how beautiful or awesome he/she is
that's exactly what I thought
thanks for the straight and honest answer
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Depressing as hell to discover, but as has been stated, "romantic love" is lust/"push to procreate", and nothing more. It's biology and chemistry. Couples who stay together for any length of time do so for reasons that have zero to do with romance. Sure, they engage in sex here and there, but that's because the outlet is available. Love might exist, but it's no different than the love one has for a friend, sister or father.
Like I say, when the mature and intelligent person discovers these truths, it's a bitter pill to swallow. As is most of life's realities.
Most liberal-minded people never come to any such revelations. They choose to exist in a delusional world where every culture is compatible and Islam is a "religion of peace".
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how long does romantic love last?
i was taught in my psych classes at university that it's 18 months tops
so you fellas that have had or have long term relationships, how long did the romantic spark last?
psych class LOL
Psychology doesn't exist bro.
Its a scam.
You love someone when you think you can't get better to rationalize your laziness.
Hope this helps.
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Taught in your psych classes? Loooooool
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Marty Champ
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the only lasting love is between a man and the weights at the gym.
damn this is deep
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damn this is deep
;D
I understand this, as the weights never says no and they always do what you want
when females don't give what I want when I want I occasionally fly into a narcissistic rage lol
its why I've always focused on training and things that can be done alone, like playing golf, shooting hoops, training
relationships sucks ass coz you can't control them and you wont always get what you want >:(
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Depressing as hell to discover, but as has been stated, "romantic love" is lust/"push to procreate", and nothing more. It's biology and chemistry. Couples who stay together for any length of time do so for reasons that have zero to do with romance. Sure, they engage in sex here and there, but that's because the outlet is available. Love might exist, but it's no different than the love one has for a friend, sister or father.
Like I say, when the mature and intelligent person discovers these truths, it's a bitter pill to swallow. As is most of life's realities
True just like hendas qoute. And this not a problem. Look....most arranged marriages also work out fine and they start out without any kind of romantic love. Think about that.
P.s. Dj108 you are a bit of a whiny tosser but please carry on.
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^^^^ you're a dutchie right?
thought youd appreciate my brutal honesty and openness as I was told that you dutchies are very open minded and accepting and you aren't racist at all
thats jewsa's opinion of you ibtw
oh and you were pusseis as well as you let the nazis steamroll through your country
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^^^^ you're a dutchie right?
thought youd appreciate my brutal honesty and openness as I was told that you dutchies are very open minded and accepting and you aren't racist at all
thats jewsa's opinion of you ibtw
oh and you were pusseis as well as you let the nazis steamroll through your country
You allright? Your reply has nothing to do with whay I posted.
I quess you really are a nutter.
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Where's Howard, the relationship expert??? Kidding Howie. ;)
Wife and I have been togther for 34 years since we were 16. We lift together, go the range together, its great when you marry your best friend.
She's the same weight 34 years later and in better shape. I guess Im one of the rare ones. I have friends with the bitchiest wives, who arent even hot and I think "Why"??
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Where's Howard, the relationship expert??? Kidding Howie. ;)
Wife and I have been togther for 34 years since we were 16. We lift together, go the range together, its great when you marry your best friend.
She's the same weight 34 years later and in better shape. I guess Im one of the rare ones. I have friends with the bitchiest wives, who arent even hot and I think "Why"??
Perhaps from their POV, they are not married to "bitchy" wives.
"There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception."
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Perhaps from their POV, they are not married to "bitchy" wives.
"There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception."
I think they know, always bitching at each other... Oh well, their life, not mine.
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I think they know, always bitching at each other... Oh well, their life, not mine.
You should try to impress them with your life and tell them about your posting on getbig.
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Depressing as hell to discover, but as has been stated, "romantic love" is lust/"push to procreate", and nothing more. It's biology and chemistry. Couples who stay together for any length of time do so for reasons that have zero to do with romance. Sure, they engage in sex here and there, but that's because the outlet is available. Love might exist, but it's no different than the love one has for a friend, sister or father.
Like I say, when the mature and intelligent person discovers these truths, it's a bitter pill to swallow. As is most of life's realities.
Most liberal-minded people never come to any such revelations. They choose to exist in a delusional world where every culture is compatible and Islam is a "religion of peace".
Yeh I more or less agree with most of what's wrote... I do think without kids it would be hard to stick long term, kids and then grand kids are the glue that keeps it together
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You should try to impress them with your life and tell them about your posting on getbig.
LMAO ;D
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If the relationship is solid it doesn't end.....it matures and deepens....it's no longer about teddy bears and chocolate hearts.
Absolutely
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Where's Howard, the relationship expert??? Kidding Howie. ;)
Wife and I have been togther for 34 years since we were 16. We lift together, go the range together, its great when you marry your best friend.
She's the same weight 34 years later and in better shape. I guess Im one of the rare ones. I have friends with the bitchiest wives, who arent even hot and I think "Why"??
good stuff bro you are really lucky
God Bless
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do gimmicks have relationships?