Oh Puleaze!
Div, There's nothing wrong with Parker. The woman clearly has issues which those around her egged on.
Yes, I have been stalked. And it's not a comfortable feeling. Once by an ex-boyfriend who was both desperate to get me back, and wanted to know what the heck I was up to. It annoyed me more than anything, and my attitude was if he snooped enough and found out things that would only upset him, ...it was his own damn fault.
Then there was the time I was stalked by the crazy delusional mentally unstable fan of an ex-boyfriend. He had to get a restraining order against that one. Stupid me, ...I wanted to meet some of his fans so I went to a reunion of his fan-club. Big mistake. Someone found out who i was, ...some of the fans were cool, and to this day I'm still great friends with some of them, but some were flat-out whack jobs.
Another time was a little more unnerving because this guy was off mentally. He fell in love at first sight... before I'd even spoken a single word to him, and he got into a fist fight with another guy who said he was going to come over and introduce himself to me. This guy's obsession lasted years
And over the years, he developed fantasy scenarios in his head about things that flat out NEVER happened. He would insinuate himself into situations to get proximity to me. And he would keep just enough of a distance that I could never really call the cops about, but he was always there creeping me out like a bad penny turning up everywhere. Getting himself on VIP guest lists to get access, or turning up backstage at events. He was always well behaved, but I sensed his imbalance and could do nothing about it. This also was before they instituted stalking laws. He kept showing up at my workplace begging me to phone him. His obsession was bizarre. Finally, I decided better the devil you know than the devil you don't know. I decided to call him. I called him, and his sister answered the phone, and told me he was in the shower. I breathed a sigh of relief thinking I was off the hook, didn't have to talk to him, ...but I called. When she discovered who i was, she said "Oh hang on." ...and then I could hear her running through the house screaming at the top of her lungs "Judi is on the phone, Judi is on the phone". You would have thought it was a phone call from the queen of England, or Ed MacMahon was at the front door with Publisher's Clearing House and a giant cheque. The guy comes running out of the shower to take my call. These would have been the first few words spoken to him 8 yrs after the start of his obsession.
In that conversation, I discovered he worked in Mississauga at an insurance firm 9 - 5. At the time I was managing a store for a San Diego based Hallowe'en costume company, and as mgr. I made the schedules for the staff. I knew with rush hour traffic, he had to leave him home by 7:30 - 8am in order to get to work on time, and couldn't possibly get back into my vicinity until at least 6pm. Needless to say I scheduled myself to open the store at 9:30am well after he was already at work, and made sure I left by 4:30pm was in a cab and already home before he got off work. My asst mgr. Jason would close. It was only 2 more weeks until Hallowe'en, then the job would be over, and i could disappear again
After 10 yrs., when I thought I had finanlly gotten him OUT of my life, ...wouldn't ya know...his Mom runs into MY Mom at the hairdressers. They start up a friendship. As soon as his mom discovered my mom's last name... all crap hit the fan for me. As soon as his mom discovered I was this woman's daughter, she set about trying to insinuate herself into our lives. My mom had no idea who this woman was or her psychotic son. One year, they even planned for both families to have Christmas celebrations together. Needless to say I didn't go home for Christmas that year. My mom and his mom became allies in orchestrating little chance meetings. My mom thought there was nothing wrong with it, and since he was such a nice guy, that maybe I'd recognize what a nice guy he was, ...and love would blossom. Sha right! Ya, he was a nice guy, ...but he was also a mental case.
One year, my mom held a dinner party, and among the guests was my old grade 8 teacher, as well as this woman. I didn't know she was gonna be there, or I wouldn't have shown up. All throughout dinner she regaled me with stories her son had told her about our wonderful times together. I was reeling the whole time. Everyone thought I had eaten something that had disagreed with me, and was about to throw up or something, ...but it was just the shock of hearing the extent of this guys' psychosis. It was THAT night, that I was finally able to get through to my mother the importance of her keeping the heck out of my love life, because none of these scenarios this woman discussed ever happened. How do you tell a woman her sweet son is a psychotic delusional whack job, ...and the only time I ever noticed him was to run like hell in the other direction?
The guy is married now with kids, but he's still obsessed with me, ...and thankfully he keeps his distance, but only because he doesn't know where to find me.
