the wife is with child...should i be happy about this..very unplanned---we're both F**king shocked as hell--and i'm already sweating how i'm going to do this...
The question is if you and your wife are ready for fatherhood. It is a big responsibility. We have two kids, age 3 and 9 months, and it is a complete change in life. You need to make sure you and your wife are for this, because once the baby comes, it is a constant responsibility - feeding, changing diapers, contant monitoring. Much harder to go out - can't just decide to hang with the buds, etc.
But it is wonderful. Really is. Yes, it is hard work sometimes, but still wonderful. But you need to be committed and have a strong relationship because it gets tough sometimes.
I can't tell you how many people really want to have kids but cannot. 30% of the people end up in miscarriage, 20% have a hard time conceiving. My friend, after 6 years of trying, are going to adopt. My other friend just had a baby after 5 years of trying. Others have tried, and given up, will try later. Not many people talk about it, but sometimes it is very hard, so I consider you lucky.
But, again - it is a strong commitment. I had no idea what to do when my first child was born. Hell - I never changed a daiper in my life (still don't like to now). But it is great. Any questions, don't hesitate to ask.
