I agree with everything you said...especially about Dr. Phil.
My relationship with her is I believe very strong, we wouldn't be still working through things if it wasn't IMO. As far as honesty, I have never once lied to her about anything. Even when some would say I might should have lied, I have always been honest. It's kind of one of my pet peeves...I have never allowed myself to be dishonest about anything with anyone. I don't say that to sound self righteous, it's simply the way it is.
...and I know what you mean about most BB not being able to have solid relationships...I have been guilty of this myself on more then one occasion. However I do feel I've grown a lot in recent years. Yes, for a long time I was "that guy" the one so obsessed with BB that I couldn't see anything else.
BB is hardly my main focus anymore, not even remotely. I realize I wasted a lot of time in my 20's on BB; yes, I learned a lot and no I don't have regrets about what I've done when it comes to that, it's because of BB that I enjoy my line of work now. But I made BB my primary focus for a long time, and because of that other aspects of my life suffered. I realize that now. No one can tell someone this, it's something everyone has to come to on their own.
So what is my main focus now? I still train, but I don't' let it rule my life. My focus is about building a solid and quality life for myself and those around me who I love. That's enough to keep my plate full
I don't see it as "
losing" time, because I spent most of my twenties lifting and I learned alot along the way.
I know my body better than most people know theirs and that's why I'm a decent trainer with a fairly deep knowledge of AAS to boot.
I wasn't ready for a longterm relationship in my twenties, wasn't developed enough for it then.
I am now, but I'm also alot more picky in terms of the type of women I'd want for a relationship so in that sense it really is good to be single.
Honesty is the most important thing, with yourself and with others.
Unfortunately, when you are honest with women they often don't know how to take it because they are used to men who lie and play games.
I may remain single because I am too honest......but I'm always going to be one of those guys who expresses expectations at the beginning of a relationship and my deal-breakers aren't negotiable.
Many women want to try and change a man, and those women never get to step 1 with me.
I make the rules.........that's the first rule.
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