So Lee Thompson, let me understand things correctly.
Your "PERSONAL" relationship with Valerie should not have any impact on either of you as a judge or her as a competitor? Your "Personal" life is private and should be respected and kept that way? What you do in your "Personal" life should not reflect on your position in the industry? Hmmm - I think we have heard this before havent we?
So what is your official position then. Everyone will be treated fairly and only be judged upon what they bring to the stage, or are you going to continue to say one thing and do another?