i'll break out all the Dr. Phil books
Don't forget the mars/venus book, LOL!!!
These chicks are too cruel, Migs. They're never gonna divulge any information that gets you some, or even a girlfriend. Guys follow the bro code and girls probably follow some hoe code. You repeatedly asking "why can't I find a nice girl or get laid?" here would be like Estella posting "How can I make my husband break down and cry?" on the Y board.
Guys here have already told you everything necessary.