Tips to stop masturbating?

[andreisdaman]

I have posted about this before, but many years ago I was reading about Taoism and it's practice of withholding ejaculation.  I also researched the kundalini awakening that supposedly could be achieved by abstaining from ejaculation.  So I gave abstinence a go, but I wasn't only abstaining, I was fucking my girlfriend on a daily basis and stopping before I would ejaculate.  My girlfriend at the time got really frustrated, it wasn't that I couldn't make her orgasm, which I always made sure I did orally or with my fingers but I realized she needed a sense of completion to the act, perhaps to make her feel good that she had pleased me.  Anyway, I digress, I did this for more than a month, I became increasingly irritable and started to experience intrusive thoughts about sex (like when I was needing to concentrate at work), sometimes this put me in danger as at times I operated dangerous machinery.  

After about a month I began to develop physical pain in the Perineum, and one time after a particularly intense fucking session, I left my girlfriends house for the 45 minute drive home and I experienced the most excruciating pain (some might call it a severe case of blue balls) and I had trouble driving home safely.  I realized then that my little experiment had gone too far and what was needed was a more balanced approach.  When I got home I knocked out a couple of wanks in quick succession and the relief was immediate.  I then resumed masturbating whenever I felt the need.  I see it a little like starving yourself, eventually all you do is think about food, there is no clarity of thought, a constant empty feeling and a deep yearning that causes insufferable pain.  So not only did I not experience any extra mental clarity, spiritual wisdom or strength it was the opposite, It took away my usual focus and clarity.  

Good post.....as you say...everything in modration...thats why I advocate that you should wank off once every two weeks..I too used to withhold ejaculation but not to the extent you did....I would have sex for parts of teh night, sleep some, then resume in the morning and THEN EJACULATE.....but that became somewhat frustrationg as well because I never felt satiated...and then I would have to masturbate...LOLOLOLOLOL OLOL

[ritch]

Good post.....as you say...everything in modration...thats why I advocate that you should wank off once every two weeks..I too used to withhold ejaculation but not to the extent you did....I would have sex for parts of teh night, sleep some, then resume in the morning and THEN EJACULATE.....but that became somewhat frustrationg as well because I never felt satiated...and then I would have to masturbate...LOLOLOLOLOL OLOL

I absoluetly refuse to believe you can stick your cock in a nice wet luscious pussy and not come. You must be a total master of your mind/body to pull that off, no way could I even think of doing that...

[El Diablo Blanco]

I absoluetly refuse to believe you can stick your cock in a nice wet luscious pussy and not come. You must be a total master of your mind/body to pull that off, no way could I even think of doing that...

Try running 200mg of tren A daily.  I end up getting tired of humping and not busting

[andreisdaman]

I absoluetly refuse to believe you can stick your cock in a nice wet luscious pussy and not come. You must be a total master of your mind/body to pull that off, no way could I even think of doing that...

I'm a Buddhist so maybe its easier for me

[andreisdaman]

Try running 200mg of tren A daily.  I end up getting tired of humping and not busting

man, you must get really sore after a while..I know I do sometimes

[BigRo]

I have posted about this before, but many years ago I was reading about Taoism and it's practice of withholding ejaculation.  I also researched the kundalini awakening that supposedly could be achieved by abstaining from ejaculation.  So I gave abstinence a go, but I wasn't only abstaining, I was fucking my girlfriend on a daily basis and stopping before I would ejaculate.  My girlfriend at the time got really frustrated, it wasn't that I couldn't make her orgasm, which I always made sure I did orally or with my fingers but I realized she needed a sense of completion to the act, perhaps to make her feel good that she had pleased me.  Anyway, I digress, I did this for more than a month, I became increasingly irritable and started to experience intrusive thoughts about sex (like when I was needing to concentrate at work), sometimes this put me in danger as at times I operated dangerous machinery.  

After about a month I began to develop physical pain in the Perineum, and one time after a particularly intense fucking session, I left my girlfriends house for the 45 minute drive home and I experienced the most excruciating pain (some might call it a severe case of blue balls) and I had trouble driving home safely.  I realized then that my little experiment had gone too far and what was needed was a more balanced approach.  When I got home I knocked out a couple of wanks in quick succession and the relief was immediate.  I then resumed masturbating whenever I felt the need.  I see it a little like starving yourself, eventually all you do is think about food, there is no clarity of thought, a constant empty feeling and a deep yearning that causes insufferable pain.  So not only did I not experience any extra mental clarity, spiritual wisdom or strength it was the opposite, It took away my usual focus and clarity.  

You were fucking intensely without releasing on a regular basis for a month and without meditating deeply, no wonder it did not work for you.

[ritch]

I'm a Buddhist so maybe its easier for me

The only guy I ever knew who actually pulled this off was a master at yoga/martial arts and in total control of himself. He told me he would bang his girl but actually not bust a nut. I questioned him over and over on this one as to how the hell he did it.

It's possible, but no way I could last, lol...

[andreisdaman]

You were fucking intensely without releasing on a regular basis for a month and without meditating deeply, no wonder it did not work for you.

Actually interms of ejaculation, notice that when you have REAL sex with a woman you don't have the lethargy and laziness that you get with Masturbation.....after I have real sex, I feel more energized and mentally/physically alert/aware and energized......when I masturbate I just want to lay down, watch TV, and eat..

[Howard]

What kills my desire to masturbate is getting a nut via any means, 3-4 x in a day.
After that , I don't want to jerk off for awhile. Try it.

[andreisdaman]

The only guy I ever knew who actually pulled this off was a master at yoga/martial arts and in total control of himself. He told me he would bang his girl but actually not bust a nut. I questioned him over and over on this one as to how the hell he did it.

It's possible, but no way I could last, lol...

I agree with you...its difficult..I do it because I like to impress a woman with how long I can last...by the time I am done they are totally worn out...but so am I.....LOL.....I don't want to bust and the then go to sleep...which is what could happen...since she's right there in the bed with me all night I like to take advantage of that....what I've found is that women like it and are fascinated by it because its not what they are used to...they are used to 20 minutes to a half hour...they admire that you can control yourself....so long as there is the pay-off at some point when you finally do bust in them

[andreisdaman]

What kills my desire to masturbate is getting a nut via any means, 3-4 x in a day.
After that , I don't want to jerk off for awhile. Try it.

does this include through homosexualism???

[BigRo]

Actually interms of ejaculation, notice that when you have REAL sex with a woman you don't have the lethargy and laziness that you get with Masturbation.....after I have real sex, I feel more energized and mentally/physically alert/aware and energized......when I masturbate I just want to lay down, watch TV, and eat..

yes though what he was experiencing was not a lack of energy but a very stirred up libido and an irritated prostate. Such prolonged withholding should be combined with regular meditation and only gentle lovemaking not banging.

[andreisdaman]

yes though what he was experiencing was not a lack of energy but a very stirred up libido and an irritated prostate. Such prolonged withholding should be combined with regular meditation and only gentle lovemaking not banging.

good point...sounds reasonable...good job!

[jr]

The problem is masturbating WHILE LOOKING AT PORN.

Porn's the problem.

The human brain was never designed to be exposed to hundreds of different images of pussies and tits, and scenes depicting sex over  a short period of time.

This overstimulates the sexual and reward centres of the brain in an unnatural way.

Also, all the nasty shit you see in porn ends up in your subconscious and affects they way you interact with other people.

I find that after a period of total abstinence from porn it is a lot easier to look people in the eye, and feel much more comfortable in social situations. Also, people gravitate more towards me as no doubt my body language and posture is much improved due to a clearer conscious.

Back before the internet and mass media, the average beta male would have been lucky to experience a few different pussies per year, porn totally short circuits this and overwhelms the brain in an unnatural way.

It's like in modern times junk food creates obese people, and drugs of addiction creates junkies.

Porn creates...

[Teutonic Knight]

Same with me too.  I am definitely more energized if I don't wank.

Name your nursing home 

[ritch]

I agree with you...its difficult..I do it because I like to impress a woman with how long I can last...by the time I am done they are totally worn out...but so am I.....LOL.....I don't want to bust and the then go to sleep...which is what could happen...since she's right there in the bed with me all night I like to take advantage of that....what I've found is that women like it and are fascinated by it because its not what they are used to...they are used to 20 minutes to a half hour...they admire that you can control yourself....so long as there is the pay-off at some point when you finally do bust in them

Before we get to the sack, I am quick to say I bust fast, but will be eating her pussy in no time after while I get hard and ready to go again. 20 mins is a long fuck! even after I came once!

[juicemachine]

Look at pictures of will brink

[ProudVirgin69]

I have posted about this before, but many years ago I was reading about Taoism and it's practice of withholding ejaculation.  I also researched the kundalini awakening that supposedly could be achieved by abstaining from ejaculation.  So I gave abstinence a go, but I wasn't only abstaining, I was fucking my girlfriend on a daily basis and stopping before I would ejaculate.  My girlfriend at the time got really frustrated, it wasn't that I couldn't make her orgasm, which I always made sure I did orally or with my fingers but I realized she needed a sense of completion to the act, perhaps to make her feel good that she had pleased me.  Anyway, I digress, I did this for more than a month, I became increasingly irritable and started to experience intrusive thoughts about sex (like when I was needing to concentrate at work), sometimes this put me in danger as at times I operated dangerous machinery.  

After about a month I began to develop physical pain in the Perineum, and one time after a particularly intense fucking session, I left my girlfriends house for the 45 minute drive home and I experienced the most excruciating pain (some might call it a severe case of blue balls) and I had trouble driving home safely.  I realized then that my little experiment had gone too far and what was needed was a more balanced approach.  When I got home I knocked out a couple of wanks in quick succession and the relief was immediate.  I then resumed masturbating whenever I felt the need.  I see it a little like starving yourself, eventually all you do is think about food, there is no clarity of thought, a constant empty feeling and a deep yearning that causes insufferable pain.  So not only did I not experience any extra mental clarity, spiritual wisdom or strength it was the opposite, It took away my usual focus and clarity.  

Yes, this will happen to me at times...usually after 4-5 days, I'll be susceptible to blue balls.  Everything in moderation of course, no point in abstaining if it causes you physical pain.

Big Ro has an interesting point, perhaps meditation and gentle lovemaking (no homo) is the trick to avoid getting backed up

[funk51]

 

[juicemachine]

yes though what he was experiencing was not a lack of energy but a very stirred up libido and an irritated prostate. Such prolonged withholding should be combined with regular meditation and only gentle lovemaking not banging.

Women don't want to be made love to, they wanna be fucked hard and nasty. Just a fact, I learned this in Eddy Murphy standup show on youtube.

[funk51]

that and watch this movie.

[hench]

i'm 34 and never get tired of wanking, i can have sex and feel a wank coming on not long after, i need the release everyday, a couple of times. After beating off i get the urge to workout, even working out gives me the urge to wank off after. I feel better releasing than holding out.

[BigRo]

Women don't want to be made love to, they wanna be fucked hard and nasty. Just a fact, I learned this in Eddy Murphy standup show on youtube.

thats all and good but try doing that without releasing for a month!

[BigRo]

i'm 34 and never get tired of wanking, i can have sex and feel a wank coming on not long after, i need the release everyday, a couple of times. After beating off i get the urge to workout, even working out gives me the urge to wank off after. I feel better releasing than holding out.

your batches must not be very impressive

[juicemachine]

your batches must not be very impressive

When you don't use steroids you produce a lot more semen volume. Steroid loads are unimpressive. Makes you question the whole point of getting big to attract women, doesn't it? That's why I just train to stay fit and stay away from such deviant supplements.