Did I said 'holier'? It has been shown that the brain structure & functioning of gay men/women are & function differently. Over and over again, you feel the need to translate male behavior as homoerotic gestures. As an hetero guy I can guarantee you that you're wrong, but you seem too stubborn or proud to understand. Fact of the matter is that you can't dive into a brain of a heterosexual man.
When discussing this topic any mention of homoeroticism is especially monitored by some users in forums like this. Whether or not a bodybuilder says or does something that can be read as homoerotic there's the need to silence the comment. Comments like this are always singled out hence for some they look like "always seeing homoeroticism everywhere". If we browse through the threads that discuss female beauty no one singles out any mention of sexiness or what a user may perceive as suggestive even if others don't see it, right?
When I mentioned the suggestiveness of Ben's performance it is very clear the way he is pleasing the audience which is mostly male. With this I'm not saying he's gay or attracted to men in any degree. I'm just pointing out he was not afraid to be flirty or playful for an audience that doesn't meet his criteria of attraction. Here is where you made mistake in intepreting a mention of homoeroticism as an act of me wanting him to be gay. I was not implying he was gay or attracted to men in any degree; I was talking about the act on stage.
A gay bodybuilder can perfectly be flirty or playful or enjoy female attention, it doesn't mean anything else other than him just being flirty/playful when he is enjoying his moment on stage.
I was also going to cite studies regarding the slight difference between the brains although the difference is not in the way you thought.