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Guy is in his 30's, moved into his parents home (normal blue collar income home, no big luxuries I can see but very nice furniture) after leaving his wife and her kids (what happened here I do not ask. none of my business). This guy's life seems to sum up like this

- has great physique for his age
- seems to have zero stress (prob because of lack of relationships)
- he pulls pussy cuz he has a slew of fwb girls. tells each one its just about sex and that's all. if they aren't cool with that he cuts them loose
- keeps all his money to himself besides paying bills for his parents and helping them with their house/cleaning/cooking. he's not leeching off them it doesn't look like
- has a full time career (accountant)
- his hobbies appear to be lifting, playing sports games on xbox, reading books and putting in more hours with side businesses (he bought a hot dog cart this summer and has 2 people running it for him)
- recently bought (he tells me he could only now afford it because he left his wife) a Camaro SS

Seems to have the life. No stress, only deals with women on his own terms, lives comfortably.

His other friends (behind his back) seem to suffer from the need to say that he will die alone. And he will regret his decisions. I'm on the fence with this because for 1, I don't care what he does, I chill with him about once every 2 months and he's a blast to party with. Do you feel the single life in your 30's and not wanting to settle down again will in the long run cause heartache? I envy his stress free life in the fact that he doesn't have to wake up to screaming kids or have any responsibilities. He just works, hordes his money, and takes what he enjoys in life and leaves the rest.

What do you guys think of this "forever alone" (I see this term online all the time) single lifestyle approach?

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #1 on: May 23, 2015, 11:47:00 AM »
unabomber was happy being alone too so this aint nothing new.

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #2 on: May 23, 2015, 11:49:08 AM »
It's his life and I applaud him for doing what makes him happy. Screw the conventional "family life" that seems to be expected. There might come a time where he feels lonely, or regret, however he always has the opportunity to settle down and meet someone to spend the rest of his life with. Smart man

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #3 on: May 23, 2015, 11:49:38 AM »
Guy is in his 30's, moved into his parents home (normal blue collar income home, no big luxuries I can see but very nice furniture) after leaving his wife and her kids (what happened here I do not ask. none of my business). This guy's life seems to sum up like this

- has great physique for his age
- seems to have zero stress (prob because of lack of relationships)
- he pulls pussy cuz he has a slew of fwb girls. tells each one its just about sex and that's all. if they aren't cool with that he cuts them loose
- keeps all his money to himself besides paying bills for his parents and helping them with their house/cleaning/cooking. he's not leeching off them it doesn't look like
- has a full time career (accountant)
- his hobbies appear to be lifting, playing sports games on xbox, reading books and putting in more hours with side businesses (he bought a hot dog cart this summer and has 2 people running it for him)
- recently bought (he tells me he could only now afford it because he left his wife) a Camaro SS

Seems to have the life. No stress, only deals with women on his own terms, lives comfortably.

His other friends (behind his back) seem to suffer from the need to say that he will die alone. And he will regret his decisions. I'm on the fence with this because for 1, I don't care what he does, I chill with him about once every 2 months and he's a blast to party with. Do you feel the single life in your 30's and not wanting to settle down again will in the long run cause heartache? I envy his stress free life in the fact that he doesn't have to wake up to screaming kids or have any responsibilities. He just works, hordes his money, and takes what he enjoys in life and leaves the rest.

What do you guys think of this "forever alone" (I see this term online all the time) single lifestyle approach?

I never understood that argument.

Your friend seems like a responsible dude who takes care of himself and has his shit together.

There is nothing suggesting that he would not be able to find a great wife/steady girlfriend in his 60's or 70's if he decided to go that route.

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #4 on: May 23, 2015, 11:50:45 AM »
I see the media really pushes the  "you have nothing nothing if you don't have love" kind of shit. This just screams to me consumerism. Pro-create, thus needing to spend more money, thus holding you back from things you actually want to do for yourself. His friends strike me as sheep to the "Live, Laugh, Love" variety. They are also all in relationships or married/kids, so I guess they can just be jealous of him.

At times life is lonely, but then you just meet someone new. People are everywhere. Expand your friend zone and you don't need to keep relying on the same people to try and make happiness.

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #5 on: May 23, 2015, 11:51:34 AM »
no need to die alone, when youre ready just hit the gym at peak hour, load up the bar benching and let it go

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« Reply #6 on: May 23, 2015, 11:52:57 AM »
I'm accepting more and more it's how I am and will probably remain. EVERYONE I talk to in relationships are not happy.

Just comes down to men wanting sex and women seeking to get as much as they can for the sex they give out.
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« Reply #7 on: May 23, 2015, 11:53:35 AM »
Hilarious enough I was just this second watching Game of Thrones and one of those army soldiers with no dick went to a whore house and all he does is pay to have her lay with him and rub his back. HAHA that's like the prime reason you have a steady girlfriend. For when you are down in the dumps to "mother you up" in a way and tell you things will be alright. LOL it's just a whore away for that haha

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« Reply #8 on: May 23, 2015, 11:55:34 AM »
I'm accepting more and more it's how I am and will probably remain. EVERYONE I talk to in relationships are not happy.

Just comes down to men wanting sex and women seeking to get as much as they can for the sex they give out.

x2.

In my experience women when they get deep in relationships think that just because they give you some ass they can then boss you around and let themselves go. They stop being sexy, they stop being nice because they feel they put enough time in to not have to impress you.

Imagine a life of "honeymoon" periods.  ;D

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #9 on: May 23, 2015, 11:59:35 AM »
It's his life and I applaud him for doing what makes him happy. Screw the conventional "family life" that seems to be expected. There might come a time where he feels lonely, or regret, however he always has the opportunity to settle down and meet someone to spend the rest of his life with. Smart man

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« Reply #10 on: May 23, 2015, 12:02:46 PM »
Girls and sons who have not been loved by their fathers seek attention once teens and adults to compensate for what they didnt have originally. Fathers either left them alone, or were distant most of the time and not encouraging them. Some even despised them which would shape their personality and the way they'd interact with others for the rest of their life. They are extremistic in everything they do, always looking exageratly for attention, and have troubles adapting to society's rules, because they also have troubles defining their own identity and respecting authority and hierarchy.

Also boys who got picked on by others during childhood and adolescence -often sons without a father figure- try to compensate by lifting weights, to develop muscles and survive in ther male world. They're insecure because they're girly, childish, feminine having been raised by a single mom. They lift obsessively hoping it will transform them into men, to compensate for their lack of influence from a father figure that was not there. Unfortunaltey they can get as big as they can it doesn't cure their insecurity and who they truly are, how they grew up being raised by a single mom. They're not as manly as other men whatever they do, and they often have a big lack of masculine presence they don't know how to balance, hence often being borderline homosexuals while trying to get their manhood back thru various manly activities (mma, cars, weight lifting etc). They are often the ones that, in order to get respect from other males will go the steroids route to get even "bigger" attempting to cure their insecurity, but being natural not being "enough", they still feel "too small", insecure, amongst other males. The lack of a father figure also often means they didnt have guidance to continue studies and are often working shitty manual jobs.

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #11 on: May 23, 2015, 12:05:13 PM »
Guy is a loser , 30+ years old living with his parents, his wife left him , his kid hates him , I bet he's really happy  ::)

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« Reply #12 on: May 23, 2015, 12:17:26 PM »
x2.

In my experience women when they get deep in relationships think that just because they give you some ass they can then boss you around and let themselves go. They stop being sexy, they stop being nice because they feel they put enough time in to not have to impress you.

Imagine a life of "honeymoon" periods.  ;D

Times a fuckiN' million on the "letting themselves go" Hell, I was on a date with a girl (first date) we go back to her place, she takes out contact right away to put on horrid lookin' glasses, changes clothes. Yeah... Took her a few hours to begin the whole downgrade. That was all for that.

All girls wanna do is go out and "be everywhere and do everything". Fuck that shit, after training and stuff, just wanna rest, smoke weed an have sex. Does not take much to keep me happy. Very little, needing people less and less.

I mean of course women wanna go out and do shit all the time. They never gotta pay for shit. The second you say "yes" to even a few drinks, cost to get in, coat check, $10 (min) drinks it's already over $60. Well guess what? I can text some chick have her meet me in my car and blow me for $60, lol! Never used the service but know of it, lol...
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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #13 on: May 23, 2015, 12:26:13 PM »
its not like you got a choice, why would anyone wanna be with any of you who spend most your time jerking off to porn or worshipping men in thongs
its not like youre a good catch

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #14 on: May 23, 2015, 12:28:34 PM »
I'm not judging. Surely, married people are more jealous of him, than he is of married people. Especially if they constantly are bringing up the old "aren't you getting settled down soon?" discussion that only people in serious relationships do  ;D

The one thing he may regret, however, is leaving the kids part. But if he doesn't. it's all good.

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« Reply #15 on: May 23, 2015, 12:29:20 PM »
its not like you got a choice, why would anyone wanna be with any of you who spend most your time jerking off to porn or worshipping men in thongs
its not like youre a good catch

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nah, they just don't wanna be with me, not the porn watching, lol...
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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #16 on: May 23, 2015, 12:32:46 PM »
unabomber was happy being alone too so this aint nothing new.
true that.  he could jerk off all day and not wear pants.

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #17 on: May 23, 2015, 12:37:31 PM »
Guy is a loser , 30+ years old living with his parents, his wife left him , his kid hates him , I bet he's really happy  ::)

how do you read the OP and come away with the exact opposite of the gist? Hilarious.  ;D dyslexic?

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #18 on: May 23, 2015, 12:52:25 PM »
just to make sure i suggest getting married etc then if its not for you you can always run for the woods

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #19 on: May 23, 2015, 01:00:34 PM »
I'm not judging. Surely, married people are more jealous of him, than he is of married people. Especially if they constantly are bringing up the old "aren't you getting settled down soon?" discussion that only people in serious relationships do  ;D

The one thing he may regret, however, is leaving the kids part. But if he doesn't. it's all good.

He mentioned they were her kids from former relationships. So 2 different baby daddies. Was thinking when he told me this and didn't touch up on why he left them that there in was the problem. I've dated girls with kids and they will always be the ones to use them against you like "so and so will miss you and they are crying for you every night." You go over there cuz you feel guilty and 2 days later remember why you left in the first place. lol

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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #20 on: May 23, 2015, 01:29:10 PM »
Guy is a loser , 30+ years old living with his parents, his wife left him , his kid hates him , I bet he's really happy  ::)

It's not his kids, it's HER kids. Guy was probably a father figure of some sort to them.
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« Reply #21 on: May 23, 2015, 01:30:06 PM »
A little weird to be living with his parents but seems to have a great life. Some people are messed up, they think you can't be happy unless you have a fat wife and snot nosed little fucking bratty kids. The reality is the opposite is true.

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« Reply #22 on: May 23, 2015, 01:32:46 PM »
With the advent of social media and dating sites it's almost impossible to be alone these days. I know a guy who is 53, divorced and single. Goes on tons of dates, has sex, goes out socially with a group of guys and girls he met on a social media site. This is not the 1950s. If you can't find a gf/bf or friend or companions online, then there is something wrong with you.
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Re: My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life
« Reply #23 on: May 23, 2015, 01:35:22 PM »
With the advent of social media and dating sites it's almost impossible to be alone these days. I know a guy who is 53, divorced and single. Goes on tons of dates, has sex, goes out socially with a group of guys and girls he met on a social media site. This is not the 1950s. If you can't find a gf/bf or friend or companions online, then there is something wrong with you.

I've noticed this. Even local libraries have Books & Booze clubs where you meet up once a month to discuss the book you read over drinks. How can someone not be social in this day? This is what the internet was invented for. Easy access to pussy.

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« Reply #24 on: May 23, 2015, 01:38:50 PM »
I've noticed this. Even local libraries have Books & Booze clubs where you meet up once a month to discuss the book you read over drinks. How can someone not be social in this day? This is what the internet was invented for. Easy access to pussy.

Besides just sex, just meeting people. If you're single, in good shape, mentally and physically, you should have no problem being social with others.
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