I don't understand your animosity, Twaddle.
What would be the reason to lie? I still don't get it.
I guess it's more your problem than mine.
Anyway, I did what my conscience told me: warn people who are not prepared.
If at least one of you understand the real situation (remember a small town not NY) I'll be glad.
I guess the thread can be closed, I don't need to be "popular " or pity, maybe I was hoping for a little more respect for those who have lost part of their family, but if life already didn't teach you this I can't hope to change things.
There's nothing more to add.