You speak conflicting thoughts; on the one hand you say the proper "Eastern" man just stands there stoically and does not react to her bullshit and tantrums and on the other you say the proper man asserts his will which requires sharing his thoughts and feelings. You are again trying to coach me as to how a proper man behaves and you would do a better job in taming
this kind of woman, that is what you are implying and that is why I shared that your type of man was never able to make her happy in bed like I have, and I know when someone is lying and when they are not, and your type of people love to lie like it is fashionable.
Being "function over form" as you describe it does not make it right. Besides there is nothing wrong with being practical. But being overly superficial, making the outside beautiful while carrying ugly attitudes is not the best way to be beautiful and going on shopping sprees with your husbands ATM card whenever you wish is not practical. And just because something comes from another part of the world it does not mean it is immune from criticism from the outside. Any person or people who disregard spiritual development along side material goals will be an unhappy person or people and live under the bondage of this world.
Geezus, function over form means no bullshit, straight to the point/argument/goal !
You said I speak conflicting thoughts, fair enough, I guess I haven't been clear enough ; there is a huge difference between remaining stoic, in control of your emotions and not letting anything superfluous, excessive or needless coming out of your mouth versus communicating calmly, firmly setting boundaries and being nice to her at the same time. This is what I meant by showing restraint.
Stoicism is more about the way self-respecting men from this side of the world are dealing with their personal problems and challenges, which have nothing to do with her ( never complain, whine or worse, go down the "woe is me" route. Just shut up and keep those things to yourself.) Eastern women don't want to be botheeed much about those things, eventhough they are dying to make you believe they do. They will immediately interpret it as signs of weakness. In the long term, they will inebitably try to use them as pressure points.
The fact that you entirely missed those meanings in my above posts shows how clueless you are about those things ( again, I might have failed to explain it precisely and concisely enough.)
Mentioning you were the most "betterest" lover she ever had ( she said it herself ! ) was...awkward. You are not a kid anymore. And Im not even questionning the veracity of your claims ( I dont care, really, if it's truly the case, that's great), I just laugh at the urge you felt to bring this up. "Im better in bed than you" , seriously ?
If you think I tried to coach you, my bad, I wasn't. I understand what led you to believe it ( and rightfully feeling irritated as a result.) Again, it wasn't the point. Im not a life/love coach and Im certainly not trying to belittle anyone.
I am sharing the untold rules of a world that is painfully-obviously alien to you. It is not exempt from criticism, you are right, but it is what it is.
You can call me a liar, I don't care.
