this old ass guy isnt a part of society, not unless you count the nursing home early bird socials.
The only people are asking you to do, is call them what they want to be called, just like you would if it was their name. If people can call cassius clay muhammad ali or marvin lee ady meatloaf without issue, they can call becky from accounting bob, doesn't hurt anyone anything.
As the old barber said in "Coming To America",
"His mama named him 'Clay'; Im'a call him 'Clay'!" 
again you can't do it without mentioning other people, you're angry on behalf of other people. How i this different than virtue signaling? like the insane libs do?
It's simple. If you see other people getting robbed around you, do you wait until YOU actually get robbed to secure your home and family? Of course not!
So by your logic, I should wait until some male perv in a dress goes into the same girls' bathroom as my daughter, before I stand up against this foolishness.
Or, I should wait until some crackpot teacher tries to convince MY son that he's a girl (or can be a girl, if he wishes).
With libs, it's not enough that "Becky" wants to be called "Bob". It's that "Becky" wants someone fined, suspended, or FIRED, if that someone doesn't call her "Bob".