Does your wife wear a strap-on when you have sex?
If she does you might be beta.
You are setting the beta bar way too high, probably to cope with your own predicament. You are immediately proven beta by any of the below criteria:
-woman older than you
-woman previously married
-woman with children
-woman was not a virgin when you met her
-woman is fat
-woman is ugly
-woman has a large or battered looking flappy pussy
-woman has no big full fresh unsagged natural boobs with pristine nipples
-woman has no round well shaped glutes and hams
-woman does not submit to your will in
all matters of life (including political, fashion, lifestyle, sexual, religion, ...)