teach them values, manners, work ethic, cosideration, how to think for themselves...support sporting, musical and educational endevours
scare tactics dosnt achieve shit and thats all your 'club' is based on
What "club" are you talking about?
Part of teaching is forcing them to do things they don't want to do, like chores.
Scare tactics achieve a whole lot. They help reinforce behavior, including behavior related to work ethic. If the kid doesn't fear consequences, they will say "screw you" when you tell them to clean their room.
Do you have kids? If so, what method do you use to teach and reinforce behavior?