thanks alli really appreciate the help, she just wont do nit anymore, she won't even talk about it, she feels like i am looking down on her about it. (that and she has low selfesteem) she thinks that she is a slob, and no matter what i try she just gets mad, i hate to do it but she said something about a personall trainer at ballys and i think i am gonna get it for her, that way she doesn't feel like i am trying to be better than her or push her into it. and then i can work out my way, and she won't be hurt or offended, and i don't have to let her see how i truly workout, it's kinda a balls out workpout