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Title: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 17, 2006, 10:11:42 AM
I am sure many dudes have had something similar happen with their parents. I have just come home for the first time in over a year. The last time I was here, I was 210 pounds, and my parents thought I was too big. This time around, I weigh 240 and they are going ballistic.

Nonstop questions about whether I am using steroids, endless lectures telling me to slim down and lose the muscle, my arms chest legs and shoulders are too big, how bbing is ruining my physique, how i look disproportionate etc etc...

Now I am carrying around about 14% bodyfat, and I plan on going down to 8-10 in the new year, and I agree with them when they say I oughtta bring that down. It's their anti-bbing stance that annoys me. My mom thinks brad pitt is very muscular, and that all guys should aspire to have that kind of physique. She can't seem to understand that I love lifting heavy weights, and love bodybuilding, and want to compete in the sport when the time is right...

So this thread is where you guys can give me advice on how to deal with the folks and support if you wish, or share similar experiences you may have had...
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Necrosis on December 17, 2006, 10:22:09 AM
sneak into her bedroom at night and cut her neck, and cover her face with a pillow. seriously, its not as bad as it sounds.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Debussey on December 17, 2006, 10:23:15 AM
I am sure many dudes have had something similar happen with their parents. I have just come home for the first time in over a year. The last time I was here, I was 210 pounds, and my parents thought I was too big. This time around, I weigh 240 and they are going ballistic.

Nonstop questions about whether I am using steroids, endless lectures telling me to slim down and lose the muscle, my arms chest legs and shoulders are too big, how bbing is ruining my physique, how i look disproportionate etc etc...

Now I am carrying around about 14% bodyfat, and I plan on going down to 8-10 in the new year, and I agree with them when they say I oughtta bring that down. It's their anti-bbing stance that annoys me. My mom thinks brad pitt is very muscular, and that all guys should aspire to have that kind of physique. She can't seem to understand that I love lifting heavy weights, and love bodybuilding, and want to compete in the sport when the time is right...

So this thread is where you guys can give me advice on how to deal with the folks and support if you wish, or share similar experiences you may have had...


Tell them that you are creating a walking demonstration against male models.  ;D

Just tell them to shut the fuck up, they have no right to tell you what to do..
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Figo on December 17, 2006, 10:26:23 AM
Mine also had a prob.

Their voices wouldn't stop. The voices...

After I killed them, the voices stopped, it felt good, but I missed them.

And the voices are back...
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Karl Kox on December 17, 2006, 10:26:52 AM
My parents totally incurage the way I look and if I juice they seem to be okay with that too.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Eat2Grow on December 17, 2006, 10:32:58 AM
My parents did the same. Questioned me on roids.  I just told them to pay for a test and I will take it.  That shut them up.

My girl/now Ex as of 2 days ago, said I had a peahead one day after we went to the gym.  Said when I am pumped up my head looks small so I should slow down the lifting.  Now she's my Ex.  Can't give me support, can't be with me.
Miss the cooking though, she was Itilian.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: doison on December 17, 2006, 10:33:56 AM
My parents totally incurage the way I look and if I juice they seem to be okay with that too.

Just imagine where you'd be if your parents "incuraged" you to use your brain!
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 17, 2006, 10:37:06 AM

Tell them that you are creating a walking demonstration against male models.  ;D

I guess you are referring to what i said on the other thread about frank sepe... I have nothing against male models, and many of em have good physiques, I just wish Frank had stuck to bbing bcs he had the potential...

But thanks for the advice you guys...
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Karl Kox on December 17, 2006, 10:39:21 AM
Just imagine where you'd be if your parents "incuraged" you to use your brain!



 I was being sarcastic
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: G o a t b o y on December 17, 2006, 10:41:20 AM
I think you should immediately quit bodybuilding, start smoking and eating mcdonalds 24/7, get drunk every night, sit on your ass and get no exercise, and see if they're happier with you that way.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Stark on December 17, 2006, 10:41:54 AM
Just imagine where you'd be if your parents "incuraged" you to use your brain!


that was actually funny ;D
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Disgusted on December 17, 2006, 11:11:34 AM
Tell them you're gay. I'll bet they will somehow forget the size issue.  ;D
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 17, 2006, 11:15:40 AM
HAHAHA I said I want to get them off my back, not give them heart attacks!

They also keep asking if I go to church every sunday. I lie and say yes so I don't have to fight another war on a different front.

Besides, they would never believe that i am gay. Growing up, we had countless arguments bcs of my fascination with titty porn: mags, dvds, vhs tapes, internet downloads....
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: G o a t b o y on December 17, 2006, 11:19:47 AM
Tell them you're gay. I'll bet they will somehow forget the size issue.  ;D




Did that work for Kamali?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Debussey on December 17, 2006, 11:19:57 AM
HAHAHA I said I want to get them off my back, not give them heart attacks!

They also keep asking if I go to church every sunday. I lie and say yes so I don't have to fight another war on a different front.

Besides, they would never believe that i am gay. Growing up, we had countless arguments bcs of my fascination with titty porn: mags, dvds, vhs tapes, internet downloads....

You parents = christian lunatics?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Luke on December 17, 2006, 11:20:16 AM
Tell them you're lifting for Jesus...



The Luke
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Karl Kox on December 17, 2006, 11:22:24 AM
Tell them you're lifting for Jesus...



The Luke

Thats a good idea
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 17, 2006, 11:24:29 AM
You parents = christian lunatics?

more like Hardcore Catholics...
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Debussey on December 17, 2006, 11:28:40 AM
more like Hardcore Catholics...

Why do you let their opinion about you bother you?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 17, 2006, 11:40:49 AM
It's not the opinion in and of itself. It's the constant lectures and questions about steroids, and the criticism (too big, too thick, legs too muscular, shoulders too broad, etc) day in and day out...

I mean you come home on break to see your family whom you haven't seen in over a year, and this is what you get...
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Debussey on December 17, 2006, 11:41:31 AM
It's not the opinion in and of itself. It's the constant lectures and questions about steroids, and the criticism (too big, too thick, legs too muscular, shoulders too broad, etc) day in and day out...

I mean you come home on break to see your family whom you haven't seen in over a year, and this is what you get...

Tell them that if they do not respect your choices, you will not come back next year.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: tommywishbone on December 17, 2006, 12:00:58 PM
Join a cult and change your name to a color.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Earl1972 on December 17, 2006, 12:02:49 PM
here's the real deal

if you are natural and your parents think you are too big, that means you are fat

E
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Debussey on December 17, 2006, 12:03:50 PM
here's the real deal

if you are natural and your parents think you are too big, that means you are fat

E

 :o

Girl Hurl 1972 = correct.

Ps: You are still gay. :)
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 17, 2006, 12:09:57 PM
here's the real deal

if you are natural and your parents think you are too big, that means you are fat

E

I admitted to carrying 13-14% bodyfat. That not their main issue. It's the muscles: arms, shoulders, etc... those aint fat! They want me to stop lifting and lose the muscle... got it?

If I had 4% bodyfat, they would still be complaining...
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Earl1972 on December 17, 2006, 12:14:20 PM
I admitted to carrying 13-14% bodyfat. That not their main issue. It's the muscles: arms, shoulders, etc... those aint fat! They want me to stop lifting and lose the muscle... got it?

If I had 4% bodyfat, they would still be complaining...

that's the thing with every guy that claims to be 14% bodyfat

the truth is your body fat is probably well into the 20's

everybody seems to underestimate bodyfat

at 14% bodyfat you should still have a slim midsection, vascularity, slim face etc

do you have those qualitites?

are you a beginner trainer?  every beginner mistakes his large weight gain for muscle when in fact it is mostly fat and water weight

E
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Stark on December 17, 2006, 12:15:31 PM
I admitted to carrying 13-14% bodyfat. That not their main issue. It's the muscles: arms, shoulders, etc... those aint fat! They want me to stop lifting and lose the muscle... got it?

If I had 4% bodyfat, they would still be complaining...

Seriously... what can anybody here tell you that you don't know already.

Leads me to the conclusion that you are a showoff.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 17, 2006, 12:26:56 PM
that's the thing with every guy that claims to be 14% bodyfat

the truth is your body fat is probably well into the 20's

everybody seems to underestimate bodyfat

at 14% bodyfat you should still have a slim midsection, vascularity, slim face etc

do you have those qualitites?

are you a beginner trainer?  every beginner mistakes his large weight gain for muscle when in fact it is mostly fat and water weight

E
Nope, had it measured, it's 13.something%, been training for bbing purposes for about two years, been lifting weights for over 6 years...
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 17, 2006, 12:30:07 PM
Seriously... what can anybody here tell you that you don't know already.

Leads me to the conclusion that you are a showoff.

I just wanted to ask how other dudes handled their parents in similar situations. Not a showoff, just a bit bored, I didn't bring any titty porn with me:)
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Earl1972 on December 17, 2006, 12:31:13 PM
Nope, had it measured, it's 13.something%, been training for bbing purposes for about two years, been lifting weights for over 6 years...

measurements aren't accurate

i've seen people measured at 15 % bodyfat when they were actually 25%

trust me if you were actually 14% people wouldn't be telling a natural trainer he is too big

E
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 17, 2006, 12:34:05 PM
measurements aren't accurate

i've seen people measured at 15 % bodyfat when they were actually 25%

trust me if you were actually 14% people wouldn't be telling a natural trainer he is too big

E

Well, "too big" really is a relative thing. My mom, for instance, thinks Brad Pitt is "big" and anything bigger than him is "too big."
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Earl1972 on December 17, 2006, 12:38:44 PM
Well, "too big" really is a relative thing. My mom, for instance, thinks Brad Pitt is "big" and anything bigger than him is "too big."

fully clothed nobody would even think he works out

E
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Stavios on December 17, 2006, 12:39:02 PM
I am pretty sure they only freak out because of your bodyfat

my mom only find me ugly when I got really fat once, she told me I was too big

now I am bigger and leaner and she finds me sexy  :D
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: TheAnimal on December 17, 2006, 12:41:54 PM
I am pretty sure they only freak out because of your bodyfat

my mom only find me ugly when I got really fat once, she told me I was too big

now I am bigger and leaner and she finds me sexy  :D
why did you get really fat?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Stavios on December 17, 2006, 12:42:46 PM
why did you get really fat?

I tought I was going to gain more muscle that way.
stupid idea
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Debussey on December 17, 2006, 12:44:02 PM
I tought I was going to gain more muscle that way.
stupid idea

Do not worry STEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEVEN. Aluxx still wants you.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Stavios on December 17, 2006, 12:49:38 PM
Do not worry STEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEVEN. Aluxx still wants you.

Sweeeet  ;D
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Squadfather on December 17, 2006, 12:50:51 PM
I am sure many dudes have had something similar happen with their parents. I have just come home for the first time in over a year. The last time I was here, I was 210 pounds, and my parents thought I was too big. This time around, I weigh 240 and they are going ballistic.

Nonstop questions about whether I am using steroids, endless lectures telling me to slim down and lose the muscle, my arms chest legs and shoulders are too big, how bbing is ruining my physique, how i look disproportionate etc etc...

Now I am carrying around about 14% bodyfat, and I plan on going down to 8-10 in the new year, and I agree with them when they say I oughtta bring that down. It's their anti-bbing stance that annoys me. My mom thinks brad pitt is very muscular, and that all guys should aspire to have that kind of physique. She can't seem to understand that I love lifting heavy weights, and love bodybuilding, and want to compete in the sport when the time is right...

So this thread is where you guys can give me advice on how to deal with the folks and support if you wish, or share similar experiences you may have had...
i'm 232 lbs. and your mom loves me.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Stavios on December 17, 2006, 01:01:20 PM
LMAO !  ;D
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: venom gang.bronze on December 17, 2006, 01:44:39 PM
You parents = christian lunatics?
hahahaha!
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: venom gang.bronze on December 17, 2006, 01:45:26 PM
why would you give a fuck what they think- unless you're a teen ager living under their roof?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: gtbro1 on December 17, 2006, 01:50:47 PM
measurements aren't accurate

i've seen people measured at 15 % bodyfat when they were actually 25%

trust me if you were actually 14% people wouldn't be telling a natural trainer he is too big

E

  Flex Wheeler was once measured at 0.0%,the lowest ever recorded at Gold's Gym.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: tommywishbone on December 17, 2006, 01:58:25 PM
  Flex Wheeler was once measured at 0.0%,the lowest ever recorded at Gold's Gym.

What? When? How? By who? Any witnesses?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: davidpaul on December 17, 2006, 02:06:01 PM
What? When? How? By who? Any witnesses?

let me be of assistance,

he was measured at 0.0% skinfold measurement,

year - 1993,

how - clen t3 etc,

By who - billy smith,

witnesses - jim quinn (not the homosexual ponytailed "mighty" mike quinn
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Squadfather on December 17, 2006, 02:17:27 PM
I get that too. Even now. Decide it's your life and move on w/o them. They can sometimes be just as detrimental/demotivational as any hater. Love em, just don't base your life on what they want.
the difference is that your parents are criticizing your 52 inch waist and 17 inch arms.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: gtbro1 on December 17, 2006, 02:26:15 PM
i'm 232 lbs. and your mom loves me.

    She told me you were a minute man.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: realkarateblackbelt on December 17, 2006, 02:53:52 PM
This is like someone complaining that their dick is too big. Who gives a ratts ass?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: hifrommike on December 17, 2006, 02:54:22 PM
Back to the parents issue.  To me, it's a matter of bullying.  I don't let anyone do it to me anymore.  Try looking at this book: http://www.amazon.com/Bullies-Tyrants-Impossible-People-Joining/dp/1400050111
It really helped me deal with the situation, & made me realize how much of it goes on all the time.

My parents don't bug me, but if they did, the first thing I'd say is, "I would prefer not to discuss this any further."  If they kept on, I would pack my stuff, say goodbye, & drive away.  They would get the message.  
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: davidpaul on December 17, 2006, 03:03:06 PM
Dude, seriously, do you do anything other than post here? Does Ron pay you? Are you independently wealthy? On disability?

I'm baffled.

garreath, do you consider yourself a bodybuilder?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Theoak* on December 17, 2006, 03:17:41 PM
Looks like we got some serious IFBB pro potentials getting critisized at home  ::)
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Squadfather on December 17, 2006, 04:30:36 PM
    She told me you were a minute man.
i can't fucck for anywhere near that long.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Croatch on December 17, 2006, 05:08:41 PM
No such thing as too big.  If you go around lying to your parents and other about your drug use, that must be odd.  It would make me feel like a douchebag.  Luckily, I don't have that problem.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: chaos on December 17, 2006, 07:15:29 PM
I am pretty sure they only freak out because of your bodyfat

my mom only find me ugly when I got really fat once, she told me I was too big

now I am bigger and leaner and she finds me sexy  :D
:-\this disturbs me a little, anyone else ???
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: realkarateblackbelt on December 17, 2006, 07:43:01 PM
It's giving me a raging semi- ;D
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: gtbro1 on December 17, 2006, 08:29:18 PM
i can't fucck for anywhere near that long.

 HAHAHA  I'm the greatest lover in the world....I cum every time. 
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: G o a t b o y on December 17, 2006, 08:42:49 PM
Dude, seriously, do you do anything other than post here? Does Ron pay you?


Ron pays me.

Each week he gives me a list of people he wants me to rip on, so he can appear to remain impartial all while people he doesn't like are getting trashed.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Debussey on December 17, 2006, 08:43:30 PM

Ron pays me.

Each week he gives me a list of people he wants me to rip on, so he can appear to remain impartial all while people he doesn't like are getting trashed.


You get the gay ones
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: dragonheart on December 17, 2006, 08:45:46 PM
I admitted to carrying 13-14% bodyfat. That not their main issue. It's the muscles: arms, shoulders, etc... those aint fat! They want me to stop lifting and lose the muscle... got it?

If I had 4% bodyfat, they would still be complaining...

14% bodyfat isnt bad at all...  I measured myself at 15.6% today after bulking for 7 months and I still got a visible 6 pack.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: chainsaw on December 17, 2006, 09:10:52 PM
Tell them that if that is all that they can complain about, that they should be incredibly thankful.

And that you are thankful that that is all they can complain about too.

Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: gtbro1 on December 18, 2006, 03:50:28 AM
14% bodyfat isnt bad at all...  I measured myself at 15.6% today after bulking for 7 months and I still got a visible 6 pack.

 If you have a visible six pack no way are you 15.6 %
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Hugo Chavez on December 18, 2006, 04:01:41 AM
I think you should immediately quit bodybuilding, start smoking and eating mcdonalds 24/7, get drunk every night, sit on your ass and get no exercise, and see if they're happier with you that way.
I nominate this as your best post ever... Now who are you and what have you done with Goatboy :D
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Stavios on December 18, 2006, 04:31:40 AM
If you have a visible six pack no way are you 15.6 %

it is possible if he has VERY thick abs
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: smaul on December 18, 2006, 04:34:41 AM
it is possible if he has VERY thick abs

Would that be a bad thing?  Can a natural get abs that are too thick?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Stavios on December 18, 2006, 04:37:53 AM
Would that be a bad thing?  Can a natural get abs that are too thick?

that's not a bad thing at all
some people have naturally thick abs, I think it looks great

a friend of mine is really fat and we can still see his abs
mine are very thin so if I add bodyfat it doesn't take long to hide them
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: rccs on December 18, 2006, 04:42:52 AM
My parents did the same. Questioned me on roids.  I just told them to pay for a test and I will take it.  That shut them up.

My girl/now Ex as of 2 days ago, said I had a peahead one day after we went to the gym.  Said when I am pumped up my head looks small so I should slow down the lifting.  Now she's my Ex.  Can't give me support, can't be with me.
Miss the cooking though, she was Itilian.
You miss her a lot huh? Well the worst problem is not the parents, are the girfriends or wifes. They can really help a man to "build" a life or thwy can help to "destroy" that life. I think that the main problem is that some women feel jelous about bbing, because they think that they are not the priority anymore. Some other women just don't like other women looking at their boyfriends physic. And finally there are women that really don't like big guys at all, and that is just a pain in the fucking ass, especially when you are no more a teenager and your life is heading to the crucial "no coming back" path... it pisses me the fuck off... >:(
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: dragonheart on December 18, 2006, 07:41:48 AM
If you have a visible six pack no way are you 15.6 %

.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: pumpster on December 18, 2006, 08:24:44 AM
Tell them not to worry, you'll stop when you get to something like this:
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: msbarbelle on December 18, 2006, 09:25:32 AM
I am sure many dudes have had something similar happen with their parents. I have just come home for the first time in over a year. The last time I was here, I was 210 pounds, and my parents thought I was too big. This time around, I weigh 240 and they are going ballistic.
...

tell them to get off your ass of they won't see you again for at least ANOTHER year.
'tis the season, enjoy it.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: buffbodz on December 18, 2006, 09:36:24 AM
I think you should immediately quit bodybuilding, start smoking and eating mcdonalds 24/7, get drunk every night, sit on your ass and get no exercise, and see if they're happier with you that way.

That would be the extreme, but if you can explain the healthy side of bodybuilding, without drugs, things might change.  I had the same problem years ago.  My mother asked why I don't eat bread or allot of saturated fats and when I explained the healthful things that being in shape do for you like lowering blood pressure, cholesterol  and just keeping you looking younger and healthier did the trick.  The drugs, which I don't use anymore, weren't an issue.  I would make sure I would save a cheat meal for when I went to visit mom and she would see I can also eat like a "normal" person, it was OK.  That and the fact my 3 brothers are all out of shape kept the peace.  It wasn't long before she began to ask If I could help any of my brothers loose weight.  It's always about loosing weight ???
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Swedish Viking on December 18, 2006, 10:07:45 AM
My dad did that too.  He offered me money, trips, literally anything I wanted to stop lifting weights and lose muscle. I was like 255lbs at the time, probably like 18-20%.  I hate to say it, but he was exhibiting very stereo typical Swedish narrow, hate anything outside of the box, thinking.  At first I hated the harassment, but after a while I really started to love it; especially loved denying him by going and lifting again and again.  'It' created a huge rift between us, but in truth, HE created that rift and paid for it in full by f'ing up his relationship with his son for several years because of almost CONSTANT harassment and very hurtful remarks.  Stick to it.  Your parents are exhibiting, imo, some of the worst possible behavior imaginable, especially if you are clean and just doing this because you love doing it. 
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 10:10:41 AM
I am sure many dudes have had something similar happen with their parents. I have just come home for the first time in over a year. The last time I was here, I was 210 pounds, and my parents thought I was too big. This time around, I weigh 240 and they are going ballistic.

Nonstop questions about whether I am using steroids, endless lectures telling me to slim down and lose the muscle, my arms chest legs and shoulders are too big, how bbing is ruining my physique, how i look disproportionate etc etc...

Now I am carrying around about 14% bodyfat, and I plan on going down to 8-10 in the new year, and I agree with them when they say I oughtta bring that down. It's their anti-bbing stance that annoys me. My mom thinks brad pitt is very muscular, and that all guys should aspire to have that kind of physique. She can't seem to understand that I love lifting heavy weights, and love bodybuilding, and want to compete in the sport when the time is right...

So this thread is where you guys can give me advice on how to deal with the folks and support if you wish, or share similar experiences you may have had...

Punch your bitch mother in the face.


Doesn't she know you're "columbusdude82" weighing in at 240lbs soon to be 8% bf?!
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: luv2build on December 18, 2006, 10:48:30 AM
you are an adult right?  Act like one...tell them its not any of their business. 
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Luke on December 18, 2006, 10:54:46 AM
My mom started all this bullshit once I went over 160 lbs (I'm only 5'4'')...

I told her I'd just train for fitness and slim down.

Now I'm 215 lbs and she wants me to get down to 200 ish.



The Luke
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: hifrommike on December 18, 2006, 11:04:12 AM
To quote Will Smith (as the Fresh Prince), "Parents Just Don't Understand." 

http://www.afn.org/~afn30091/songs/d/dj-parents.htm
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 11:06:25 AM
My mom started all this bullshit once I went over 160 lbs (I'm only 5'4'')...

I told her I'd just train for fitness and slim down.

Now I'm 215 lbs and she wants me to get down to 200 ish.



The Luke

What does your husband think?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Luke on December 18, 2006, 11:18:30 AM
What does your husband think?

Hello Sarcasm/Squadfather/Adonis.


The Luke
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 11:22:32 AM
Hey there tomr1976/Darth Muscle/Bluto/the Punisher.


MOS
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Luke on December 18, 2006, 11:25:38 AM
I only have one account... and my pic is available too... as is my real name and (rough) address.


The Luke
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 11:27:34 AM
I only have one account... and my pic is available too... as is my real name and (rough) address.


The Luke

AHAHAAH!!!   Sure thing noob, whatever helps you sleep at night.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Heckler on December 18, 2006, 11:28:14 AM
I only have one account... and my pic is available too... as is my real name and (rough) address.


The Luke

haha yes you owned yourself by posting your pic
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Luke on December 18, 2006, 11:33:11 AM
Starting to wish I did have other accounts... then I could post under another name and congratulate/back-up myself whenever I was exposed as a gimmick using troll...

I mean, it works so well for Tomr1976/Bast000/Squadfather/Adonis/Sarcasm/Man-of-Steel/The-Heckler... no one ever sees through that.


The Luke
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Heckler on December 18, 2006, 11:34:39 AM
I mean, it works so well for Tomr1976/Bast000/Squadfather/Adonis/Sarcasm/Man-of-Steel/The-Heckler... no one ever sees through that.

oh brother  ::)  "Teh Luke" getbig is getting sick of your sour grapes after being owned publicly by Ron.  Ron called you on your bullshit and called you a liar.  No go run back to your parents' basement you unemployed midget
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 11:47:53 AM
oh brother  ::)  "Teh Luke" getbig is getting sick of your sour grapes after being owned publicly by Ron.  Ron called you on your bullshit and called you a liar.  No go run back to your parents' basement you unemployed midget

AHAAHAHAH!!!  At least he's got his pro fluffing gig.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Luke on December 18, 2006, 11:54:35 AM
Maybe what we need is a sticky on the G&O board listing all of the gimmick accounts...

So people can see who they're talking to... or more importantly, who's talking to himself.


The Luke
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 11:58:59 AM
Maybe what we need is a sticky on the G&O board listing all of the gimmick accounts...

So people can see who they're talking to... or more importantly, who's talking to himself.


The Luke

Hey, if you'll finally STFU I'm all for it.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Heckler on December 18, 2006, 12:00:38 PM
Maybe what we need is a sticky on the G&O board listing all of the gimmick accounts...

So people can see who they're talking to... or more importantly, who's talking to himself.


The Luke

ok tiger you do that  ::)

It must suck to be homosexual (you professed to be a while back), live in your parents' basement, have no gainful employment, and the only thing you live for is hunting mythical monsters.  epic waste of a life  ::)
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: kiwiol on December 18, 2006, 12:01:15 PM
I only have one account... and my pic is available too... as is my real name and (rough) address.
The Luke

I'm sure you speak the truth here, just like you did when you made up the stuff about Sarcasm's mom sending Ron a letter, even though Ron himself had this to say about the whole thing ::) ::) ::)

He is not Mindspin, there is no letter from Sarcasm's mom (and some of us know why), and you guys all love twisting each other's minds, as long as you do it down here on the Y Board, and not in the Gossip and Opinion baords, are any of the serious boards.

You all should know that if I did get a letter like that, I would follow it up - or at least some of you know that.



Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 12:02:09 PM
ok tiger you do that  ::)

It must suck to be homosexual (you professed to be a while back), live in your parents' basement, have no gainful employment, and the only thing you live for is hunting mythical monsters.  epic waste of a life  ::)

AHAAHAH!!!  "the Luke" abandoned his Bigfoot pursuit long ago.....he's after big dick now.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Heckler on December 18, 2006, 12:03:21 PM
AHAAHAH!!!  "the Luke" abandoned his Bigfoot pursuit long ago.....he's after big dick now.

hahaha man of steel are you saying that "Teh Luke" makes his money by servicing random men at highway rest stops?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 12:07:30 PM
hahaha man of steel are you saying that "Teh Luke" makes his money by servicing random men at highway rest stops?

AHAHAHAH!!  Exactly, the grand dragon of the Confederate states has made "the Luke" the official lot lizard!! 
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Heckler on December 18, 2006, 12:09:59 PM
AHAHAHAH!!  Exactly, the grand dragon of the Confederate states has made "the Luke" the official lot lizard!! 

hahaha now "Teh Luke" will defend himself by calling you sarcasm haha  what a cumdumpster
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Luke on December 18, 2006, 12:11:30 PM
ok tiger you do that  ::)

It must suck to be homosexual (you professed to be a while back), live in your parents' basement, have no gainful employment, and the only thing you live for is hunting mythical monsters.  epic waste of a life  ::)

...I admitted to being homosexual? (Not that there's anything wrong with that kind of thing)


The Luke
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 12:12:47 PM
hahaha now "Teh Luke" will defend himself by calling you sarcasm haha  what a cumdumpster

AHAAHHAHH!!!  No doubt, "the Luke" is desperate to prove a theory mercilessly and publically squashed by both Ron and the Squad.......what else can you expect from a Bigfoot hunter?


Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 12:14:06 PM
...I admitted to being homosexual? (Not that there's anything wrong with that kind of thing)


The Luke

Gayer than Freddie Mercury and Elton John enjoying a 24-hr circle jerk at a Liberace concert.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Heckler on December 18, 2006, 12:14:55 PM
Gayer than Freddie Mercury and Elton John enjoying a 24-hr circle jerk at a Liberace concert.

haha  i bet "Teh Luke" shoots some jizz after reading that
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Luke on December 18, 2006, 12:18:36 PM
Gayer than Freddie Mercury and Elton John enjoying a 24-hr circle jerk at a Liberace concert.

...gayer than a message board filled with minutely detailed and graphic homoerotic fantasy essays written by a "Squad" of sexually confused adolescents, and listed as "ownings"?


The Luke
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 12:21:45 PM
haha  i bet "Teh Luke" shoots some jizz after reading that

AHAHAAHAH!!!   Yes, on "the Luke's" last Loch Ness expedition the ship captain informed everyone on board that the trip would have to be cut short due to harsh weather conditions.   "The Luke" replied, "well, I didn't find the mythic sea serpent, but I did manage to wrestle a 12" trouser snake outta the 1st mates' pants last night."
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Luke on December 18, 2006, 12:24:08 PM
...and this thread will be on the V board in 10... 9... 8... 7...


Monster thread hijacking.



The Luke
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 12:28:04 PM
...and this thread will be on the V board in 10... 9... 8... 7...


Monster thread hijacking.



The Luke

Epic "report to moderator" pussy tactics!!
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Man of Steel on December 18, 2006, 12:37:56 PM
"the Luke loves dick" bump
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 18, 2006, 10:59:31 PM
Ummm... back to me...

Has anyone else heard the complaint "you're too broad/thick for your height"?

I'm 5'9/5'10 in that range. Is it a legitimate concern when someone says my shoulders are too broad/arms too big so i look disproportionate?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: realkarateblackbelt on December 18, 2006, 11:00:24 PM
The Luke wants bigfoot's cock hahahahahaha.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Earl1972 on December 18, 2006, 11:02:02 PM
Ummm... back to me...

Has anyone else heard the complaint "you're too broad/thick for your height"?

I'm 5'9/5'10 in that range. Is it a legitimate concern when someone says my shoulders are too broad/arms too big so i look disproportionate?

cut bodyfat and you won't get any "you're too big" comments

E
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: ToxicAvenger on December 18, 2006, 11:13:35 PM
I am sure many dudes have had something similar happen with their parents. I have just come home for the first time in over a year. The last time I was here, I was 210 pounds, and my parents thought I was too big. This time around, I weigh 240 and they are going ballistic.

Nonstop questions about whether I am using steroids, endless lectures telling me to slim down and lose the muscle, my arms chest legs and shoulders are too big, how bbing is ruining my physique, how i look disproportionate etc etc...

Now I am carrying around about 14% bodyfat, and I plan on going down to 8-10 in the new year, and I agree with them when they say I oughtta bring that down. It's their anti-bbing stance that annoys me. My mom thinks brad pitt is very muscular, and that all guys should aspire to have that kind of physique. She can't seem to understand that I love lifting heavy weights, and love bodybuilding, and want to compete in the sport when the time is right...

So this thread is where you guys can give me advice on how to deal with the folks and support if you wish, or share similar experiences you may have had...

did u also creme yourself when the first time u couldn't fit into store bought jeans  ::)
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 18, 2006, 11:22:42 PM
did u also creme yourself when the first time u couldn't fit into store bought jeans  ::)

Nah... all the cream went down your mom's throat... Tell her I say thanks!
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: columbusdude82 on December 30, 2006, 08:39:05 AM
OK now that my trip home is over, time for the conclusion...

First off, thanks again to all you folks who gave helpful advice and insight.

Even when we were saying goodbye, my folks were still trying to make me promise to stop lifting and go back to having a soccer player build. They had gotten so annoying that any time they brought up the subject, I would just get up and walk away. I had grown tired of trying to reason with them, telling them not to run my life for me, and resisting their emotional blackmail.

Many's the time I was tempted to snap and just tell everyone to fcuk off. I resisted that temptation, though, it being christmas n all, time for family and all that...

Now I'm back to living on my own and doing what I want!
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: The Squadfather on December 30, 2006, 08:40:06 AM
OK now that my trip home is over, time for the conclusion...

First off, thanks again to all you folks who gave helpful advice and insight.

Even when we were saying goodbye, my folks were still trying to make me promise to stop lifting and go back to having a soccer player build. They had gotten so annoying that any time they brought up the subject, I would just get up and walk away. I had grown tired of trying to reason with them, telling them not to run my life for me, and resisting their emotional blackmail.

Many's the time I was tempted to snap and just tell everyone to fcuk off. I resisted that temptation, though, it being christmas n all, time for family and all that...

Now I'm back to living on my own and doing what I want!
my Lord you must be absolutely massive. ::)
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: gymrat3082 on December 30, 2006, 09:12:18 AM
I just wanted to ask how other dudes handled their parents in similar situations. Not a showoff, just a bit bored, I didn't bring any titty porn with me:)

Look bro, just tell them to back off, quit buggin the shit out of you, or else you won't come back to visit.  When I first started competin i was 130 pounds, that was 2 years ago, now i am up to 222 15-16% body fat, currently in off season.  My mom bitches, your to fat, you need to lose weight.  I tell her, I'm happy this way, if you don't like it, don't talk to me.   It's alittle different for me, I don't live at home, so when she starts bitchin to me about my weight or what not I just get up and leave the house.  Few days later she will call up and say she is sorry... But she doesn't stop, bitchin is a mother thing! As for the hardcore church thing... you on your own, I have no answers there, good luck, Just don't let them get to you!!!
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: hifrommike on December 30, 2006, 10:55:52 AM
A mother doesn't have the right to run your adult life. After she has made her point yet again, next time say, "I understand we don't agree on this matter.  You don't have to remind me again.  If you do, you will not see or hear from me for the foreseeable future."  If that doesn't shut her up, make good on your threat. 
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: beatmaster on December 30, 2006, 06:21:21 PM
my Lord you must be absolutely massive. ::)

i was thinking the same thing............ pic would be nice
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Army of One on December 30, 2006, 06:33:18 PM
Look bro, just tell them to back off, quit buggin the shit out of you, or else you won't come back to visit.  When I first started competin i was 130 pounds, that was 2 years ago, now i am up to 222 15-16% body fat, currently in off season.  My mom bitches, your to fat, you need to lose weight.  I tell her, I'm happy this way, if you don't like it, don't talk to me.   It's alittle different for me, I don't live at home, so when she starts bitchin to me about my weight or what not I just get up and leave the house.  Few days later she will call up and say she is sorry... But she doesn't stop, bitchin is a mother thing! As for the hardcore church thing... you on your own, I have no answers there, good luck, Just don't let them get to you!!!

You competed at 130 pounds  ??? now your 222 2 years later?  ??? hahahah Monster bullshit
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on December 30, 2006, 06:43:13 PM
You competed at 130 pounds  ??? now your 222 2 years later?  ??? hahahah Monster bullshit

Agrees... my guess is serious bodyfat. 

Pics?
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: Jr. Yates on December 30, 2006, 06:55:09 PM
Look bro, just tell them to back off, quit buggin the shit out of you, or else you won't come back to visit.  When I first started competin i was 130 pounds, that was 2 years ago, now i am up to 222 15-16% body fat, currently in off season.  My mom bitches, your to fat, you need to lose weight.  I tell her, I'm happy this way, if you don't like it, don't talk to me.   It's alittle different for me, I don't live at home, so when she starts bitchin to me about my weight or what not I just get up and leave the house.  Few days later she will call up and say she is sorry... But she doesn't stop, bitchin is a mother thing! As for the hardcore church thing... you on your own, I have no answers there, good luck, Just don't let them get to you!!!
yup.  :) they'll get used to it. the haters get mad like db4321 or whatever the fuck his name is cuz they'll never have anyone compliment or critique their doggshit body.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: younggunz on December 31, 2006, 10:13:49 AM
Tell them you're lifting for Jesus...



The Luke
     lol  good 1
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: G.STEELE on December 31, 2006, 11:09:52 AM
Back to the parents issue.  To me, it's a matter of bullying.  I don't let anyone do it to me anymore.  Try looking at this book: http://www.amazon.com/Bullies-Tyrants-Impossible-People-Joining/dp/1400050111
It really helped me deal with the situation, & made me realize how much of it goes on all the time.

My parents don't bug me, but if they did, the first thing I'd say is, "I would prefer not to discuss this any further."  If they kept on, I would pack my stuff, say goodbye, & drive away.  They would get the message. 
Running away from a problem isn't really good advice....besides you'd have to return your parent's car someday.
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: slaveboy1980 on December 31, 2006, 11:38:13 AM
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Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: gymrat3082 on December 31, 2006, 01:09:53 PM
You competed at 130 pounds  ??? now your 222 2 years later?  ??? hahahah Monster bullshit
Na bro when I started my first off season to compete i was 130, I competed at 155 my first show!!! so chill!!! I'm not saying im all that or "monster bull shit"  its been 2 years now since I competed!
Title: Re: Parents: "You're too big!!!"
Post by: gymrat3082 on December 31, 2006, 01:15:45 PM
yup.  :) they'll get used to it. the haters get mad like db4321 or whatever the f**k his name is cuz they'll never have anyone compliment or critique their doggshit body.
Thanks bro.... Its been 2 years since I competed... I been trying to improve on my muscle thickness and improving my back, I'm 24 now and I know from going to local shows where I live, The big guys over 200 inshape win 85% of the time.