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Everyone I see married seems miserable, all the guys longing to fuck something else and most of the wives too.Id say its around 15% , if that :-X
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ZERO % !
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what percentage of people would you say are happy ones?
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The 1 %
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0%
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The above posters left me no choice.
-1%
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Genuinely happy? 18.9%. The king just marries for looks and alliances anyway.
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I'm happy 50% of the time, unhappy 50% and 50% of the time neither.
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What people are happy, even those who are single? :/
Single or married, seems like no one is happy these days.
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Most people stay married simply because of finances.
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Yaaaawn...another loser circle jerk begins....
FYI you're not married because no one wants you....keep telling yourselves its a "choice" ROTF
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Yaaaawn...another loser circle jerk begins....
FYI you're not married because no one wants you....keep telling yourselves its a "choice" ROTF
I usually find that when one person in the relationship is not mature, that's when shit goes down hill. Sometimes it's two immature retards playing a big elaborate pretend game and eventually realize what a mess they've made.
I think marriage is a lifestyle choice one chooses that has its pro's and cons, but overall, the person chooses said lifestyle since it brings them happiness at times via whatever they want out of a marriage.
Marriage is not the problem here, it's people's lack of personal and emotional development that causes conflict.
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I usually find that when one person in the relationship is not mature, that's when shit goes down hill. Sometimes it's two immature retards playing a big elaborate pretend game and eventually realize what a mess they've made.
I think marriage is a lifestyle choice one chooses that has its pro's and cons, but overall, the person chooses said lifestyle since it brings them happiness at times via whatever they want out of a marriage.
Marriage is not the problem here, it's people's lack of personal and emotional development that causes conflict.
Please refrain from positioning lucid and coherent posts on childish retard laden threads....
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I usually find that when one person in the relationship is not mature, that's when shit goes down hill. Sometimes it's two immature retards playing a big elaborate pretend game and eventually realize what a mess they've made.
I think marriage is a lifestyle choice one chooses that has its pro's and cons, but overall, the person chooses said lifestyle since it brings them happiness at times via whatever they want out of a marriage.
Marriage is not the problem here, it's people's lack of personal and emotional development that causes conflict.
Surprisingly astute answer for this place. The norm around here regarding women and relationships hovers at the 16 year old wisdom level.
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Please refrain from positioning lucid and coherent posts on childish retard laden threads....
The king approves this message.
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:-X
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Goodrum and Queen Vissy are happily together.
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Goodrum and Queen Vissy are happily together.
Did someone say queen? Not my queen. :D
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what percentage of people would you say are happy ones?
thanks.
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Most people stay married simply because of finances.
most people dont want to marry nowadays because they want to keep their money.
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Did someone say queen? Not my queen. :D
Not Queen Vissy?
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Yaaaawn...another loser circle jerk begins....
FYI you're not married because no one wants you....keep telling yourselves its a "choice" ROTF
people marry to survive. To play the game, because they ve been conditionned to do so. All behaviors are animal behaviors. Some survive better alone. Fact is, there is no point , purpose, to all of this. All life forms only follow blind predeterminated paths, bheaviors, they dont choose and simply reproduce subconsciously. All life forms have for only point in life to survive until they can reproduce, and every single human behavior just like any animal or vegetal behavior is a strategy of survival. There s no good or evil, there s what survives, and what doesnt. Nobody cares about what doesnt survives. Life is a free for all and you only feel good when you win. Most people goal in life is to win as much as possible instead of losing, because losing makes you feel bad. Most people lose, fail, constantly as there are more and more people on earth, and only 1% of them are winners. It means 99.9% of mankind is made of losers who hope to become winners. Their only goal in life is to win. At all cost. Some people havent been conditionned to marry in order to survive, some people have been conditionned to survive alone. Some people hate mankind, life, but stay alive just to destroy it and to benefit from all the good feelings it can provide them. Their motto is i didnt choose to be here so at least let's enjoy it at all costs. None of this, makes sense; sense is just something we create but ultimately everything in life is all about killing or getting killed.
BTW the point of marrying someone and making alliance with others, families etc is to dominate in society. We re always dominating, or being dominated by someone else; most people when they leave an influence, are only doing it to submit themselves to another influence.
The more people there are on earth, the less people can stand each others. It s easier to appreciate others when they are few, when you need them because they are rare. When you live in cities full of people, you know you can replace anyone with anyone else, basically you realize nobody is unique, important, as you slowly realize we re just all copies, clones, of each others, all trying to make up bullshit unique personalities, characters, all influenced by the very same models, books, movies, characters. The more people there are, the more people start to hate on each others, it is probably a subconscious , purely animalistic process which randomly leads the human race to purify itself from within with wars. In these wars it's not the good guys who win, it's the biggest assholes, the strongest ones, the smartest, fastest ones. Then they write history and make themselves the good guys. The more people you see everyday, the less you care about them this is the irony of living in cities, everyone wants its share of happiness , domination, all pretending to enjoy being with each others, when in fact deep inside themselves they want to jump at each others throats and are just calculating their next plays to fuck each others.
Life is a struggle, life is about survival, and everything that exists is strategy of survival. Hapiness only and solely happen when you re winning. But even if you win, in the end, you lose. Your only solace is either to think at least my kids, grandkids, will dominate more than i did, or, for a growing number of people, especially nihilistic atheists, they think ; they , we, life, this ironical, cruel joke, will end one day anyway, so lets abuse evrything as conseqences dont matter anyways.
All lifeforms, animal, vegetal, species, die, disapear, are unable to adapt anymore at some point. Between the birth of life and its doom, it's all about constant war, constant struggle, constant pain for 99% of lifeforms, especially humans who are conscious while vegetal and other animal species arent. They re born, they die, they simply dont care. Again, humans are animals who are conscious of being animals. That makes them somewhat different from all other life forms on earth. Still their lives, existences, purposes, are conditionned by mostly all the same principles, rules than other lifeforms. Our only difference is our ability to give a meaning, sense, to what we see, understand, but this ability is still in intrinsically in itself, just another strategy of survival among countless others.
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Not Queen Vissy?
I had to divorce Queen Vissy. His eyes wandered too much.
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Yaaaawn...another loser circle jerk begins....
FYI you're not married because no one wants you....keep telling yourselves its a "choice" ROTF
Haha spot on. Although I know there are a few guys out there that like to stay single, most of these threads are just looking for approval, yeah because staying single will make you automatically happy while getting married will turn your life into hell and you will ended up divorcing after 1 year. ::)
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Everyone I see married seems miserable, all the guys longing to fuck something else and most of the wives too.Id say its around 15% , if that :-X
When you say fuck something else, what do you mean? Do you mean dogs, sheep and donkeys. Or did you mean to say someone else?
Incidentally, I know several people who are happily married, including my wife and I.
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Haha spot on. Although I know there are a few guys out there that like to stay single, most of these threads are just looking for approval, yeah because staying single will make you automatically happy while getting married will turn your life into hell and you will ended up divorcing after 1 year. ::)
Well, the divorce rate is pretty high.
Either way, it really depends on the person, as I am sure you know.
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I would venture to guess "25%" ???
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in california divorce rate is 80% or something, and what is horrible is when your on a big run, and the wife doesnt want to have sex, fucking horrible
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Well, the divorce rate is pretty high.
Either way, it really depends on the person, as I am sure you know.
Is it possible people have been sold a bill of goods when it comes to marriage? Marriage is for better or worse, in sickness and in health and till death do us part, etc. It seems as if those are just empty words for a lot of people. As soon as they hit a rough patch they split. Since most marriages have these low points, people who are not committed leave to look for something better only there often isn't anything better, just more of the same.
My sister has been married 5 times. She is 55 years old and alone now. Some of her husbands seemed like pretty good guys too.
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Mine is.....don't give a fuck what the other guy does.
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most people dont want to marry nowadays because they want to keep their money.
what's your take on this concept of karma?
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'bout three fiddy%
For realz: depends on the length of the marriage. Overall maybe 30%. Married for 10 or more years then odds may rise to 50%.
FYI: happily married for 7.5 years.
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in california divorce rate is 80% or something, and what is horrible is when your on a big run, and the wife doesnt want to have sex, fucking horrible
Can't imagine you having sex while running. ;D
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I'm very happily married.
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people marry to survive. To play the game, because they ve been conditionned to do so. All behaviors are animal behaviors. Some survive better alone. Fact is, there is no point , purpose, to all of this. All life forms only follow blind predeterminated paths, bheaviors, they dont choose and simply reproduce subconsciously. All life forms have for only point in life to survive until they can reproduce, and every single human behavior just like any animal or vegetal behavior is a strategy of survival. There s no good or evil, there s what survives, and what doesnt. Nobody cares about what doesnt survives. Life is a free for all and you only feel good when you win. Most people goal in life is to win as much as possible instead of losing, because losing makes you feel bad. Most people lose, fail, constantly as there are more and more people on earth, and only 1% of them are winners. It means 99.9% of mankind is made of losers who hope to become winners. Their only goal in life is to win. At all cost. Some people havent been conditionned to marry in order to survive, some people have been conditionned to survive alone. Some people hate mankind, life, but stay alive just to destroy it and to benefit from all the good feelings it can provide them. Their motto is i didnt choose to be here so at least let's enjoy it at all costs. None of this, makes sense; sense is just something we create but ultimately everything in life is all about killing or getting killed.
BTW the point of marrying someone and making alliance with others, families etc is to dominate in society. We re always dominating, or being dominated by someone else; most people when they leave an influence, are only doing it to submit themselves to another influence.
The more people there are on earth, the less people can stand each others. It s easier to appreciate others when they are few, when you need them because they are rare. When you live in cities full of people, you know you can replace anyone with anyone else, basically you realize nobody is unique, important, as you slowly realize we re just all copies, clones, of each others, all trying to make up bullshit unique personalities, characters, all influenced by the very same models, books, movies, characters. The more people there are, the more people start to hate on each others, it is probably a subconscious , purely animalistic process which randomly leads the human race to purify itself from within with wars. In these wars it's not the good guys who win, it's the biggest assholes, the strongest ones, the smartest, fastest ones. Then they write history and make themselves the good guys. The more people you see everyday, the less you care about them this is the irony of living in cities, everyone wants its share of happiness , domination, all pretending to enjoy being with each others, when in fact deep inside themselves they want to jump at each others throats and are just calculating their next plays to fuck each others.
Life is a struggle, life is about survival, and everything that exists is strategy of survival. Hapiness only and solely happen when you re winning. But even if you win, in the end, you lose. Your only solace is either to think at least my kids, grandkids, will dominate more than i did, or, for a growing number of people, especially nihilistic atheists, they think ; they , we, life, this ironical, cruel joke, will end one day anyway, so lets abuse evrything as conseqences dont matter anyways.
All lifeforms, animal, vegetal, species, die, disapear, are unable to adapt anymore at some point. Between the birth of life and its doom, it's all about constant war, constant struggle, constant pain for 99% of lifeforms, especially humans who are conscious while vegetal and other animal species arent. They re born, they die, they simply dont care. Again, humans are animals who are conscious of being animals. That makes them somewhat different from all other life forms on earth. Still their lives, existences, purposes, are conditionned by mostly all the same principles, rules than other lifeforms. Our only difference is our ability to give a meaning, sense, to what we see, understand, but this ability is still in intrinsically in itself, just another strategy of survival among countless others.
great post
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people marry to survive. To play the game, because they ve been conditionned to do so. All behaviors are animal behaviors.
Completely wrong.
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I marvel at celebrity men who get married 3x or more. How brainwashed are these fools? Be like Clooney. I'm famous, worth 100 million, you blow me and be glad you are. Sign a document entitling you to some of my cash...sorry, there's the door. Be a man. ;)
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people marry to survive. To play the game, because they ve been conditionned to do so. All behaviors are animal behaviors. Some survive better alone. Fact is, there is no point , purpose, to all of this. All life forms only follow blind predeterminated paths, bheaviors, they dont choose and simply reproduce subconsciously. All life forms have for only point in life to survive until they can reproduce, and every single human behavior just like any animal or vegetal behavior is a strategy of survival. There s no good or evil, there s what survives, and what doesnt. Nobody cares about what doesnt survives. Life is a free for all and you only feel good when you win. Most people goal in life is to win as much as possible instead of losing, because losing makes you feel bad. Most people lose, fail, constantly as there are more and more people on earth, and only 1% of them are winners. It means 99.9% of mankind is made of losers who hope to become winners. Their only goal in life is to win. At all cost. Some people havent been conditionned to marry in order to survive, some people have been conditionned to survive alone. Some people hate mankind, life, but stay alive just to destroy it and to benefit from all the good feelings it can provide them. Their motto is i didnt choose to be here so at least let's enjoy it at all costs. None of this, makes sense; sense is just something we create but ultimately everything in life is all about killing or getting killed.
BTW the point of marrying someone and making alliance with others, families etc is to dominate in society. We re always dominating, or being dominated by someone else; most people when they leave an influence, are only doing it to submit themselves to another influence.
The more people there are on earth, the less people can stand each others. It s easier to appreciate others when they are few, when you need them because they are rare. When you live in cities full of people, you know you can replace anyone with anyone else, basically you realize nobody is unique, important, as you slowly realize we re just all copies, clones, of each others, all trying to make up bullshit unique personalities, characters, all influenced by the very same models, books, movies, characters. The more people there are, the more people start to hate on each others, it is probably a subconscious , purely animalistic process which randomly leads the human race to purify itself from within with wars. In these wars it's not the good guys who win, it's the biggest assholes, the strongest ones, the smartest, fastest ones. Then they write history and make themselves the good guys. The more people you see everyday, the less you care about them this is the irony of living in cities, everyone wants its share of happiness , domination, all pretending to enjoy being with each others, when in fact deep inside themselves they want to jump at each others throats and are just calculating their next plays to fuck each others.
Life is a struggle, life is about survival, and everything that exists is strategy of survival. Hapiness only and solely happen when you re winning. But even if you win, in the end, you lose. Your only solace is either to think at least my kids, grandkids, will dominate more than i did, or, for a growing number of people, especially nihilistic atheists, they think ; they , we, life, this ironical, cruel joke, will end one day anyway, so lets abuse evrything as conseqences dont matter anyways.
All lifeforms, animal, vegetal, species, die, disapear, are unable to adapt anymore at some point. Between the birth of life and its doom, it's all about constant war, constant struggle, constant pain for 99% of lifeforms, especially humans who are conscious while vegetal and other animal species arent. They re born, they die, they simply dont care. Again, humans are animals who are conscious of being animals. That makes them somewhat different from all other life forms on earth. Still their lives, existences, purposes, are conditionned by mostly all the same principles, rules than other lifeforms. Our only difference is our ability to give a meaning, sense, to what we see, understand, but this ability is still in intrinsically in itself, just another strategy of survival among countless others.
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people marry to survive. To play the game, because they ve been conditionned to do so. All behaviors are animal behaviors. Some survive better alone. Fact is, there is no point , purpose, to all of this. All life forms only follow blind predeterminated paths, bheaviors, they dont choose and simply reproduce subconsciously. All life forms have for only point in life to survive until they can reproduce, and every single human behavior just like any animal or vegetal behavior is a strategy of survival. There s no good or evil, there s what survives, and what doesnt. Nobody cares about what doesnt survives. Life is a free for all and you only feel good when you win. Most people goal in life is to win as much as possible instead of losing, because losing makes you feel bad. Most people lose, fail, constantly as there are more and more people on earth, and only 1% of them are winners. It means 99.9% of mankind is made of losers who hope to become winners. Their only goal in life is to win. At all cost. Some people havent been conditionned to marry in order to survive, some people have been conditionned to survive alone. Some people hate mankind, life, but stay alive just to destroy it and to benefit from all the good feelings it can provide them. Their motto is i didnt choose to be here so at least let's enjoy it at all costs. None of this, makes sense; sense is just something we create but ultimately everything in life is all about killing or getting killed.
BTW the point of marrying someone and making alliance with others, families etc is to dominate in society. We re always dominating, or being dominated by someone else; most people when they leave an influence, are only doing it to submit themselves to another influence.
The more people there are on earth, the less people can stand each others. It s easier to appreciate others when they are few, when you need them because they are rare. When you live in cities full of people, you know you can replace anyone with anyone else, basically you realize nobody is unique, important, as you slowly realize we re just all copies, clones, of each others, all trying to make up bullshit unique personalities, characters, all influenced by the very same models, books, movies, characters. The more people there are, the more people start to hate on each others, it is probably a subconscious , purely animalistic process which randomly leads the human race to purify itself from within with wars. In these wars it's not the good guys who win, it's the biggest assholes, the strongest ones, the smartest, fastest ones. Then they write history and make themselves the good guys. The more people you see everyday, the less you care about them this is the irony of living in cities, everyone wants its share of happiness , domination, all pretending to enjoy being with each others, when in fact deep inside themselves they want to jump at each others throats and are just calculating their next plays to fuck each others.
Life is a struggle, life is about survival, and everything that exists is strategy of survival. Hapiness only and solely happen when you re winning. But even if you win, in the end, you lose. Your only solace is either to think at least my kids, grandkids, will dominate more than i did, or, for a growing number of people, especially nihilistic atheists, they think ; they , we, life, this ironical, cruel joke, will end one day anyway, so lets abuse evrything as conseqences dont matter anyways.
All lifeforms, animal, vegetal, species, die, disapear, are unable to adapt anymore at some point. Between the birth of life and its doom, it's all about constant war, constant struggle, constant pain for 99% of lifeforms, especially humans who are conscious while vegetal and other animal species arent. They re born, they die, they simply dont care. Again, humans are animals who are conscious of being animals. That makes them somewhat different from all other life forms on earth. Still their lives, existences, purposes, are conditionned by mostly all the same principles, rules than other lifeforms. Our only difference is our ability to give a meaning, sense, to what we see, understand, but this ability is still in intrinsically in itself, just another strategy of survival among countless others.
You raise some interesting points. Please expand on these.
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Marriage is bullshit! My parents were married for 45 years then separated. In that time they had 5 kids and I wouldn't describe their union as happy, convenient, YES, but not HAPPY. Ironically both of their parents separated after the same amount of time. All those claiming to be happy now, you wait till 30 years, 35 years, 40 years then come back and tell me how happy you are. I don't think in my time I have ever met a happy couple, I have met plenty who try and fake it, but I am pretty good at seeing through bullshit!
The problem with humans is, they are 'MORE' creatures, they always want more, because they think what they want is better than what it is. When they finally get what they want, they realise the reality of it, that it wasn't as good as what they thought it was, and the only way to overcome that is too start the cycle again. Chasing an illusion. I think the best one can hope for is to be content with being in a miserable relationship. The alternative is to learn to live on your own, and be content with that.
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You raise some interesting points. Please expand on these.
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lol
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Not married but have lived with wor lass for 7 years and have 2 kids.
In all honesty i feel i just do it for the kids and had we not had kids id have fucked off years ago so id say its not exactly happy.
I was very happy single
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Mine currently isn't. Mostly all my own fault though.
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great post
I'll take your word for it.
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I like being married.
She's good to me and genuinely cares about my happiness, which is rare; almost everyone on this planet couldn't care less about me, so I'm grateful for that.
She's loyal. Loyalty is a most precious commodity and cannot be over-valued. I'm not just talking about not sleeping around. I mean she's also loyal to our shared goals, and drives towards them. That's mission-critical stuff.
She's disease-free. Other women may be physically tempting, but what diseases are they harboring? I want none of that. I'm disease free, and like it that way. Her loyalty ensures she is too. Health cannot be taken for granted or over-valued.
She's a strong mother for the kids. Nothing in life is more important than my children. I would gladly die for them. And if they died, my world would end. Someone once said: "You know you truly love someone if you can't imagine being able to go on living without them". That's how I feel about my children. Therefore, the people other than me trusted with caring for them are of the utmost importance to me. My wife is the primary care-giver. She's even better than I am. I rest easy knowing that, and this benefit to me is irreplaceable. She has my loyalty for life if for no other reason than this.
She made me better. Granted, I'm a pretty amazing person without her. But she did make me even better, and I owe her for that.
I wouldn't like to go through life without her. The honeymoon was over long ago. Now it's a strong partnership based on trust and mutual respect and genuine friendship and support...something that can go the distance until we're old and dead.
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The pontificating on marriage as being a conditioned means to survival is something that I would expect from from this generation nothing. Comparing us to animals with such pessimistic negativity is really a reflection of how that person sees them self in the world. I feel sorry for anyone who goes through life with no hope.
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if I had that car my life would be so much better
If I won the lotto my life would be so much better
If I get that promotion at work my life would be so much better
If I get that bigger house my life will be so much better
If I met the perfect girl my life will be so much better
Just like everything else we are all looking for that thing to make our lives better. The moment you start to 'externalize' your life, looking outward to fill a void, you are doomed. People go out and take out huge loans on cars, then realize that wasn't the answer and have to deal with the debt. People go out and get married and realize that wasn't the answer. Then they have kids and realize that wasn't the answer.
Not saying these things are bad if you have them, but people use material objects in the search for happiness, the same way we look for a partner.
We always resist what is. Be 100% happy and content with your life before you get married, otherwise the driving force to make those decisions will result in misery.
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I like being married.
She's good to me and genuinely cares about my happiness, which is rare; almost everyone on this planet couldn't care less about me, so I'm grateful for that.
She's loyal. Loyalty is a most precious commodity and cannot be over-valued. I'm not just talking about not sleeping around. I mean she's also loyal to our shared goals, and drives towards them. That's mission-critical stuff.
She's disease-free. Other women may be physically tempting, but what diseases are they harboring? I want none of that. I'm disease free, and like it that way. Her loyalty ensures she is too. Health cannot be taken for granted or over-valued.
She's a strong mother for the kids. Nothing in life is more important than my children. I would gladly die for them. And if they died, my world would end. Someone once said: "You know you truly love someone if you can't imagine being able to go on living without them". That's how I feel about my children. Therefore, the people other than me trusted with caring for them are of the utmost importance to me. My wife is the primary care-giver. She's even better than I am. I rest easy knowing that, and this benefit to me is irreplaceable. She has my loyalty for life if for no other reason than this.
She made me better. Granted, I'm a pretty amazing person without her. But she did make me even better, and I owe her for that.
I wouldn't like to go through life without her. The honeymoon was over long ago. Now it's a strong partnership based on trust and mutual respect and genuine friendship and support...something that can go the distance until we're old and dead.
How is being married any different from just being in a relationship? Same thing, other than a legal contract that binds assets. Do you feel like a slave to your children?
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How is being married any different from just being in a relationship?
Tax benefits.
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Tax benefits.
I'm not sure if people know, but everything is geared towards "being married". Bahhaha, bhaha...sheep.
Imagine how many industries would be crippled without people getting hitched.
I also find it funny how the same service, somehow triples if it's a marriage.
My favorite thing about marriage is when a couple has to tell everyone...I'm getting divorced...guess he wasn't the one. ;D
There is no commitment in marriage. There's more obligation in signing a one year lease on an apartment.
Much like popping a cherry, I think if you get married once, then divorced...you can marry no more. Clearly you can't make it work. That's the risk you take. One chance fuckstick. >:(
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How is being married any different from just being in a relationship? Same thing, other than a legal contract that binds assets. Do you feel like a slave to your children?
Why on earth would anyone feel like a slave to his children ? I put my child on a plane to New York to see her cousins and stuff last week, i call her every day and text the crap out of her....can't wait for her to come home.
Here's the thing, those of us who have lived both lives...single and no children, and with children...can speak intelligently about both lives and choices....those who don't have kids quite simply don't know what the fuck they are talking about..they quite simply don't know how it feels. There is really no arguing that.
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Why on earth would anyone feel like a slave to his children ? I put my child on a plane to New York to see her cousins and stuff last week, i call her every day and text the crap out of her....can't wait for her to come home.
Here's the thing, those of us who have lived both lives...single and no children, and with children...can speak intelligently about both lives and choices....those who don't have kids quite simply don't know what the fuck they are talking about..they quite simply don't know how it feels. There is really no arguing that.
I don't know what it's like to get nailed in my ass either, but I'll assume it's not fun.
When I watch people with their kids, I think...yikes...one mistake I never made. I go home with my girl and enjoy the evening, do whatever we want. Meanwhile, some couple is going home with their whining kid. I see it all the time at stores. Not every kid is like that, but still.
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I'm not sure if people know, but everything is geared towards "being married". Bahhaha, bhaha...sheep.
Are you saying I am a sheep for using existing tax regulations?
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Are you saying I am a sheep for using existing tax regulations?
No, just because you bought into marriage.
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if I had that car my life would be so much better
If I won the lotto my life would be so much better
If I get that promotion at work my life would be so much better
If I get that bigger house my life will be so much better
If I met the perfect girl my life will be so much better
Just like everything else we are all looking for that thing to make our lives better. The moment you start to 'externalize' your life, looking outward to fill a void, you are doomed. People go out and take out huge loans on cars, then realize that wasn't the answer and have to deal with the debt. People go out and get married and realize that wasn't the answer. Then they have kids and realize that wasn't the answer.
Not saying these things are bad if you have them, but people use material objects in the search for happiness, the same way we look for a partner.
We always resist what is. Be 100% happy and content with your life before you get married, otherwise the driving force to make those decisions will result in misery.
Most can't help to think this way since we men are hunters but I find it better to embrace our dna than to fight it. If anything, marriage and being with one woman until the day you die is unnatural. Having children is what we're here for but you will have to provide for them that's the catch.
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Most can't help to think this way since we men are hunters but I find it better to embrace our dna than to fight it. If anything, marriage and being with one woman until the day you die is unnatural. Having children is what we're here for but you will have to provide for them that's the catch.
I feel no need to reproduce. Even though my genes are above average, I'm good with pulling out.
I marvel at people who confuse "being in love" with nutting in someone. ;D Smarten up.
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No, just because you bought into marriage.
So the smart thing would be for me to not get married, and purposely lose money? Come on, troll harder.
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A high percentage but you never hear about them. media likes to focus on negativity and the unique and not the mainstream. Just look at how many millions of couples there are around you and most are happy.
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So the smart thing would be for me to not get married, and purposely lose money? Come on, troll harder.
I would agree with the tax break, but don't tell me you got married because you thought it meant more than living with a woman?
Or, if your wife makes more than you, then well played.
For a guy who makes more, there is literally no benefit to getting married...other than the tax break, which doesn't seem like enough.
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You raise some interesting points. Please expand on these.
;D
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I feel no need to reproduce. Even though my genes are above average, I'm good with pulling out.
I marvel at people who confuse "being in love" with nutting in someone. ;D Smarten up.
It's not so much the reproducing as much as it is to be selfless and put someone else's well being above your own. This is what defines a man.
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It's not so much the reproducing as much as it is to be selfless and put someone else's well being above your own. This is what defines a man.
selfless=man?
uh oh, i'm in trouble then
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It's not so much the reproducing as much as it is to be selfless and put someone else's well being above your own. This is what defines a man.
Says who, you? Putting someone else above yourself makes you a man? Tell that to the leader of almost any country.
That's the funniest thing I've read in a bit.
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I would agree with the tax break, but don't tell me you got married because you thought it meant more than living with a woman?
Or, if your wife makes more than you, then well played.
For a guy who makes more, there is literally no benefit to getting married...other than the tax break, which doesn't seem like enough.
Ah, backpedaling already...
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Says who, you? Putting someone else above yourself makes you a man? Tell that to the leader of almost any country.
That's the funniest thing I've read in a bit.
I'm sure he takes care of his family very well...
It's about protecting your own.
selfless=man?
uh oh, i'm in trouble then
Time to grow up ;D
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I'm sure he takes care of his family very well...
It's about protecting your own.
Time to grow up ;D
that's true, and this shit is bringing me to tears man :'(
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I feel no need to reproduce. Even though my genes are above average, I'm good with pulling out.
I marvel at people who confuse "being in love" with nutting in someone. ;D Smarten up.
You realize the numbers aren't in your favor right ?
Pulling out ? LOL. Just a matter of time genius...until we hear Croatch gushing about being a Daddy. ;D
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that's true, and this shit is bringing me to tears man :'(
me and you brother :'(
;D
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It's not so much the reproducing as much as it is to be selfless and put someone else's well being above your own. This is what defines a man.
Their is no such things as selfless. Everything people do is for their own self interest. In the case of children, the persons interest is to continue his genetic heritage.
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I'm sure he takes care of his family very well...
It's about protecting your own.
I'm all for knocking someone out who messes with your girl, but that's about it. How often does that ever happen though?
To just be about yourself is a bit lame, I'll agree. But if I made the mistake of having a kid, he wouldn't run my life....like most parent do.
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You realize the numbers aren't in your favor right ?
Pulling out ? LOL. Just a matter of time genius...until we hear Croatch gushing about being a Daddy. ;D
Take it back...that wasn't funny.
Remember kids in elementary school who would say, "Take it back." Where are those pussies now anyway? hahah
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Their is no such things as selfless. Everything people do is for their own self interest. In the case of children, the persons interest is to continue his genetic heritage.
Make sense of it in the most logical way you can in your head but until you stop fighting your natural instincts you will forever be a miserable weirdo on a bodybuilding forum.
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Make sense of it in the most logical way you can in your head but until you stop fighting your natural instincts you will forever be a miserable weirdo on a bodybuilding forum.
LOL, How easily the sanctimonious are shattered. Did what I said burst the little bubble of a world you were living in? Where you telling yourself you were performing some selfless act by having children and this act made you a man. LOL. The things people tell themselves! Having a child is probably the ultimate in selfish acts. Hardly a selfless act. Kind of comical to see how people react when someone breaks it down for them.
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Take it back...that wasn't funny.
Remember kids in elementary school who would say, "Take it back." Where are those pussies now anyway? hahah
LOL.
hey dude it is what it is, we procreate, by accident or on purpose...most of us wind up knocking one out. It kinda keeps the species going
Ask Wiggs. He's on every dating site on the planet. How many women in their mid 30s have kids. Somebody is knocking these chicks up ;D
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LOL, How easily the sanctimonious are shattered. Did what I said burst the little bubble of a world you were living in? Where you telling yourself you were performing some selfless act by having children and this act made you a man. LOL. The things people tell themselves! Kind of comical to see how they react to someone breaking it down for them.
I don't even have kids weirdo ;D
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LOL, How easily the sanctimonious are shattered. Did what I said burst the little bubble of a world you were living in? Where you telling yourself you were performing some selfless act by having children and this act made you a man. LOL. The things people tell themselves! Kind of comical to see how they react to someone breaking it down for them.
Having a child is probably the ultimate in selfish acts. Hardly a selfless act.
Again, how would you know? You dont have kids. Why don't you tell me about how it is to be a lesbian while you're at it.
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I don't even have kids weirdo ;D
Then why are you banging on about it being a manly selfless act. Are you just repeating what the growns ups around you are saying?
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LOL, How easily the sanctimonious are shattered. Did what I said burst the little bubble of a world you were living in? Where you telling yourself you were performing some selfless act by having children and this act made you a man. LOL. The things people tell themselves! Having a child is probably the ultimate in selfish acts. Hardly a selfless act. Kind of comical to see how people react when someone breaks it down for them.
I've never viewed having a child as being selfish, just not much point in it.
People will tell themselves all kinds of things to validate their beliefs. I do it all the time. :)
I just never understand, why have a kid, when you can just pull out? Are people uncomfortable nutting in a mouth these days?
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Again, how would you know? You dont have kids. Why don't you tell me about how it is to be a lesbian while you're at it.
I have kids. I don't consider it a selfless manly act. It's a selfish one, and I definitely don't think it makes someone a man.
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Again, how would you know? You dont have kids. Why don't you tell me about how it is to be a lesbian while you're at it.
You don't always have to do something to have a valid opinion on it, right? I've never butt raped anyone, but think it's a bit over the top.
Maybe if I did, I'd see the fun in it? Is this where you're coming from? :D
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Zero percentage.
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I have kids. I don't consider it a selfless manly act. It's a selfish one, and I definitely don't think it makes someone a man.
Didnt know that..they have my sympathy ;D
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Didnt know that..they have my sympathy ;D
;D
Poor kids.
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Didnt know that..they have my sympathy ;D
I never discuss my family at Getbig. But anyone my original post was about someone claiming it was a slefless act and defined a persons masculinity. I simply don't believe in selfless acts. A truly selfless act would be forgoing the option to procreate ones genes and look after a few of the many millions of unwanted poverty stricken children already on the planet. (but even then people do this type of thing in a self serving way)
Stop pretending the world should be grateful for the demon spawn you freaks damn the world with. The last thing the planet really needs is people reproducing.
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I never discuss my family at Getbig. But anyone my original post was about someone claiming it was a slefless act and defined a persons masculinity. I simply don't believe in selfless acts. A truly selfless act would be forgoing the option to procreate ones genes and look after a few of the many millions of unwanted poverty stricken children already on the planet. (but even then people do this type of thing in a self serving way)
Stop pretending the world should be grateful for the demon spawn you freaks damn the world with. The last thing the planet really needs is people reproducing.
It's not so much the reproducing as much as it is to be selfless and put someone else's well being above your own. This is what defines a man.
Sure ok adopt. There.... you happy?
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Sure ok adopt. There.... you happy?
Well, I was probably wrong to use even that as an example. I don't think selflessness really exists. It's a deep philosophical quandary!
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Sure ok adopt. There.... you happy?
Angelina Jolie approves, but only if you pick 6 different shades. She's quite normal. And with the titty chopping now, encore, encore.
Looks like Billy Bob got out, as she became older and more crazy. Well played.
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Well, I was probably wrong to use even that as an example. I don't think selflessness really exists. It's a deep philosophical quandary!
oh brother
Angelina Jolie approves, but only if you pick 6 different shades. She's quite normal. And with the titty chopping now, encore, encore.
Looks like Billy Bob got out, as she became older and more crazy. Well played.
Billy Bob must've seen something wasn't right...
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oh brother
" From his cradle to his grave a man never does a single thing which has any FIRST AND FOREMOST object but one -- to secure peace of mind, spiritual comfort, for HIMSELF. " --- Mark Twain
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Well, I was probably wrong to use even that as an example. I don't think selflessness really exists. It's a deep philosophical quandary!
It doesnt. Dont know why you are damning people with being normal. You aren't selfless, i don't know a single person who is, it's actually impossible if you think about it. No matter WHAT you choose to do...self mutilation, it's what you want, therefore making it a selfish act.
Kids are a totally selfish act...i don't want some Ethiopian fucking reject. MY blood...or who gives a fuck....it's not my kid.
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It doesnt. Dont know why you are damning people with being normal. You aren't selfless, i don't know a single person who is, it's actually impossible if you think about it. No matter WHAT you choose to do...self mutilation, it's what you want, therefore making it a selfish act.
Kids are a totally selfish act...i don't want some Ethiopian fucking reject. MY blood...or who gives a fuck....it's not my kid.
That's my point. I'm not selfless and no-one is. Everything I do is for selfish reasons. As do you. It was Borracho claiming having kids was selfless.
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That's my point. I'm not selfless and no-one is. Everything I do is for selfish reasons. As do you. It was Borracho claiming having kids was selfless.
No idiot.
I said the act of caring and putting someone else's well being above yours is selfless. If its selfish in the fact that they are your own than so be it.
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Why the hell does this keep coming up all the time here on GETBIG?
Its simple... if you don't want to get married, then don't get married.
If you want to get married then get married!
LOL its not rocket science
Don't let another person pressure you into it, do what makes you happy.
I've been married for 7 years, before that we were dating for 10 years, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. Love the person I'm with, she has a successful career of her own, cooks me some delicious meals, puts pro-tan on me when I'm competing, makes me smile and makes me laugh, and is there for me overall whenever I need it!
Marriage is not for everybody..... but its for me!
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No idiot.
I said the act of caring and putting someone else's well being above yours is selfless. If its selfish in the fact that they are your own than so be it.
I think my philosophical observations will be lost on you somehow! That's OK philosophy isn't for everyone. Simple folk such as yourself can be quite endearing.
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I think my philosophical observations will be lost on you somehow!
Fuck you!!!
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How is being married any different from just being in a relationship? Same thing, other than a legal contract that binds assets. Do you feel like a slave to your children?
It isn't different. I never said it was. I could have easily said "committed relationship" instead of "Married". So I agree with you.
And I could never feel like a slave to my kids. I made them, after all. That was my choice. Volunteered indentured servitude is a pretty stupid proposition. I'd like to think I'm smarter than that.
Besides, I couldn't love them as much as I do if I felt like a slave. Sure, they drive me crazy. But I invited them into my life - not the other way around.
When I'm dying, I'll be thinking about them. When I'm alive every day, I think about them. They are unequivocally the most important thing in my life, without a doubt and I will always do anything and everything I can to support and love them.
The little things they share with me - the way they make me love them or drive me crazy or whatever - are the weird little things only dads and moms get to see. That little part of them that they choose to share with me. That's what makes it special...that I have this little person who thinks I'm so great, and they have this big person around them who thinks their so great. It's unconditional love.
Some guys will never know unconditional love, even if they get married, or commit to a woman, or have kids. Some guys just don't have it in them to love unconditionally. Hell, I didn't think I did either before I had kids. But I was wrong. I have that capacity (albeit for only two people), and it's quite amazing how powerful and compelling it is. It's actually quite scary what that level of commitment can make a man do. It's more powerful than any other force in this world.
When a man is motivated by unconditional love, he will do great things to keep that love alive. He will give everything he has and will die for it, to keep it alive.
There is nothing scarier, more powerful, or more forceful and productive than a man who has found a driving force and then commits with his entire being to that force. He cannot be defeated. All you can do is take away his force (i.e. his kids), and then all you've done is created a man with nothing to lose - and that's just as scary.
But giving yourself over to unconditional love has to be the scariest thing I'll ever do in my life. It's very hard to desribe.
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im happy
it comes down to working at it
people expect everything given to them on a plate nowadays including happines
that mind set wont get you shit in life
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Not married but have lived with wor lass for 7 years and have 2 kids.
In all honesty i feel i just do it for the kids and had we not had kids id have fucked off years ago so id say its not exactly happy.
I was very happy single
How unfortunate for all of you.
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How unfortunate for all of you.
how do you figure?
The kids dont know any different they still get more than enogh love and attention. I couldnt wish for a better mother for my kids.
Its not a bad situation its just we have nowt in common
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You raise some interesting points. Please expand on these.
highlight them then.
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Marriage is bullshit! My parents were married for 45 years then separated. In that time they had 5 kids and I wouldn't describe their union as happy, convenient, YES, but not HAPPY. Ironically both of their parents separated after the same amount of time. All those claiming to be happy now, you wait till 30 years, 35 years, 40 years then come back and tell me how happy you are. I don't think in my time I have ever met a happy couple, I have met plenty who try and fake it, but I am pretty good at seeing through bullshit!
The problem with humans is, they are 'MORE' creatures, they always want more, because they think what they want is better than what it is. When they finally get what they want, they realise the reality of it, that it wasn't as good as what they thought it was, and the only way to overcome that is too start the cycle again. Chasing an illusion. I think the best one can hope for is to be content with being in a miserable relationship. The alternative is to learn to live on your own, and be content with that.
dumb. Some people want more, some others are content with what they have, you cannot generalize. Some dumb ugly poor people are happier than richer people who are spoiled. The poor ones have hopes to rise in the ladder, the have "dreams" (they envision themselves or their offsprings dominating others in a distant future, they have the hunger) while rich people already have it all. Each couple is a system of strategies of survival, i didnt say "unique" because after some time in life you realize most couples are always variations of some limited templates. People just try to adapt with what they inherited, merge their strategies of survival, develop new ones etc etc. We re all drones being conditionned by our surroundings more than we actually control, shape them. Those who shape mankind are the 1% at the top of the pyramid, and they shape it so the 99% of sucker stay down below.
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I don't know what it's like to get nailed in my ass either, but I'll assume it's not fun.
When I watch people with their kids, I think...yikes...one mistake I never made. I go home with my girl and enjoy the evening, do whatever we want. Meanwhile, some couple is going home with their whining kid. I see it all the time at stores. Not every kid is like that, but still.
that s great and all, you probably think of yourself as smarter than everyone else, the irony is that everyone thinks they re smarter than everyone else, it's called human nature. Some people are unhappy, regretful people, some are happy with their kids, some are neither happy or unhappy... still those who have kids and "love" them -teach them how to dominate others in society and live thru them later- will have something you wont have once you re past your 50s.
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This thread is king approved. Will weigh in when I get home. Remember, the king is always right.
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Uberman has very strange views on subject matters considering he's a bible thumper. Maybe it's time for you to retire Jesus, clearly you don't agree with his teachings.
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I feel no need to reproduce. Even though my genes are above average, I'm good with pulling out.
I marvel at people who confuse "being in love" with nutting in someone. ;D Smarten up.
You arent any smarter than them, you re in the same boat called life. BTW just for the laugh, who conditionned you to think that way? your own father? So much for "free thinking", you only think what other people with influence ony you convinced you to think.
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I'm sure he takes care of his family very well...
It's about protecting your own.
smart parents take care of their kids because they calculated that when they re old then their kids will take care of them in return...as simple as that. There is always an hidden agenda behind every single human behavior ; more realistic , basic, animal instincts.
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You arent any smarter than them, you re in the same boat called life. BTW just for the laugh, who conditionned you to think that way? your own father? So much for "free thinking", you only think what other people with influence ony you convinced you to think.
Says the man who bases his entire life on an ancient book of magic.
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how do you figure?
The kids dont know any different they still get more than enogh love and attention. I couldnt wish for a better mother for my kids.
Its not a bad situation its just we have nowt in common
If they are infants, your children may not be aware of any lack of love between you and your wife. It is great that the mother of your children is a excellent mother. If you and your wife don't argue and you are affectionate around your children, things should be okay for sometime, except you don't seem happy in this situation. Eventually, this will be evident and once it is, expect that it will change the dynamics of you and your wife's relationship which will also affect your children. Besides love and attention, children need security....the security that their parents will be together and the knowledge that their parents are happy.
My wife and I are very different people. Some might question what we have in common. I am into exercise, she never has been. I take care of my health, she never did and is quite ill as a result. When we were young, I liked to party and she did not. I love hanging out at the beach all day, she burns in the sun. There are a number of areas where we have little in common. There are also many things like our core beliefs were we share the same feelings. In the long run, this seems to be what counts. One thing we have always both had in common was the need to maintain our independence. We are not joined at the hip as are some couples.
One other thing we do not have in common. She would never post on Getbig and I do.
Is it possible you are focusing too much on your differences and not enough on your similarities? Surely something attracted the two of you to each other at one time?
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1. Not 1 percent... but just 1 marriage.
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Scary how devoid of honor men have become....nowadays this word is used as a punch line.
BTW I would bet that 1% of the wealthiest have on avg very successful marriages.....why?.....because they are educated people of substance who can control their base instincts, unlike the dogs and bitches in heat like the lazy stupid poor are.
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Scary how devoid of honor men have become....nowadays this word is used as a punch line.
BTW I would bet that 1% of the wealthiest have on avg very successful marriages.....why?.....because they are educated people of substance who can control their base instincts, unlike the dogs and bitches in heat like the lazy stupid poor are.
Sometimes having money helps a marriage and other times it is a detriment to happiness and marital bliss. Most people think money will solve all their problems. It does not.
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Scary how devoid of honor men have become....nowadays this word is used as a punch line.
BTW I would bet that 1% of the wealthiest have on avg very successful marriages.....why?.....because they are educated people of substance who can control their base instincts, unlike the dogs and bitches in heat like the lazy stupid poor are.
Devoid of honor? These whores are devoid of class!
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Devoid of honor? These whores are devoid of class!
Devoid of honor was a direct commentary on the men....but I agree with you on devoid of class for the usual whores lushing it up at the corner bar. Or getting her tramp stamp by Biff the same tat guy who did her clit piercing.
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Marriage has gone even farther down the gutter since the advent of social media. Maybe even coincides with the invention of the internet. You can get into alot of trouble online.
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Once married, women have all the power and backing from the courts. This has to change for divorce rates to go down. Women were not meant to be in a position of control.
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I've been married for 7 years, before that we were dating for 10 years, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. Love the person I'm with, she has a successful career of her own, cooks me some delicious meals, puts pro-tan on me when I'm competing, makes me smile and makes me laugh, and is there for me overall whenever I need it!
Uberman will be along shortly to analyse her qualities & the order you listed them in.
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If they are infants, your children may not be aware of any lack of love between you and your wife. It is great that the mother of your children is a excellent mother. If you and your wife don't argue and you are affectionate around your children, things should be okay for sometime, except you don't seem happy in this situation. Eventually, this will be evident and once it is, expect that it will change the dynamics of you and your wife's relationship which will also affect your children. Besides love and attention, children need security....the security that their parents will be together and the knowledge that their parents are happy.
My wife and I are very different people. Some might question what we have in common. I am into exercise, she never has been. I take care of my health, she never did and is quite ill as a result. When we were young, I liked to party and she did not. I love hanging out at the beach all day, she burns in the sun. There are a number of areas where we have little in common. There are also many things like our core beliefs were we share the same feelings. In the long run, this seems to be what counts. One thing we have always both had in common was the need to maintain our independence. We are not joined at the hip as are some couples.
One other thing we do not have in common. She would never post on Getbig and I do.
Is it possible you are focusing too much on your differences and not enough on your similarities? Surely something attracted the two of you to each other at one time?
thank you for your input it really has given me something to think about.
Im sure it can be worked out as the ill feeling on my behalf has only been the last year or so. I blamed our old house but since moving have realised it hasnt really solved anything.
Whatever it is will sort its self out
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Once married, women have all the power and backing from the courts. This has to change for divorce rates to go down. Women were not meant to be in a position of control.
Good point. I recommend you not marry until things change back to they way they were in the old days....days before my time.
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smart parents take care of their kids because they calculated that when they re old then their kids will take care of them in return...as simple as that. There is always an hidden agenda behind every single human behavior ; more realistic , basic, animal instincts.
This doesn't seem to be working out so well for a lot of older folks whose kids shuffle them off to a nursing home or a trashy trailer park.
I am not speaking for my wife and me, because our kids have shown themselves to be very caring children. However, they have never needed to contribute to our financial welfare yet.