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Title: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: Soul Crusher on July 07, 2013, 11:11:55 AM
FYI - I asked my GF's father for permission first to keep it old school.  They approved. 



Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: Soul Crusher on July 07, 2013, 11:23:08 AM
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Post by: Man of Steel on July 07, 2013, 11:25:14 AM
My wife's father is an old school bad guy.  He was abusive to my wife's mother, abusive to his daughters, abusive to his other wives.  So at the time I proposed to my wife he wasn't around to ask for permission.  Regardless, had he been around at that time in the role of "bad guy" that he perfected then I doubt I would've asked.  A true father or mother deserves to be asked, but a man like that.....no, they don't.   Today, he's older and regretful and he's workin slowly to build the relationships he destroyed.
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Post by: jwb on July 07, 2013, 11:26:30 AM
Both my father in laws have been assholes so no way I was asking.
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Post by: tu_holmes on July 07, 2013, 11:26:59 AM
I did the same thing. Totally asked both the parents.

They truly appreciated it.

Nothing wrong with being respectful.
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Post by: Soul Crusher on July 07, 2013, 11:27:33 AM


This is my to the tee.   Art imitates life - literally.  

Yes guys - I have to break the glass
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Post by: Irongrip400 on July 07, 2013, 11:28:54 AM
Yes, I asked. It was more of a formality, because the ring was already bought, but he gave his blessing. That's what a man does.
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Post by: bigmc on July 07, 2013, 11:29:13 AM
its good that you invented a fake dad for your fake gf
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Post by: Soul Crusher on July 07, 2013, 11:30:59 AM
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Post by: Soul Crusher on July 07, 2013, 11:31:59 AM
Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: Soul Crusher on July 07, 2013, 11:34:32 AM
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Post by: Soul Crusher on July 07, 2013, 11:39:26 AM
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Post by: The True Adonis on July 07, 2013, 11:41:59 AM
I don`t ask anyone for anything.  I take what is rightfully mine.
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Post by: Soul Crusher on July 07, 2013, 11:52:42 AM
paid dowry fair and square

no need for permission, a deal is a deal

I got to keep it old school
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Post by: Schmoff on July 07, 2013, 11:54:31 AM
I don`t ask anyone for anything.  I take what is rightfully mine.

me too
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Post by: BIG ACH on July 07, 2013, 12:12:37 PM

I didn't ask for permission per se.... but I did speak to her father beforehand man to man, making my intentions clear, they had known me for a long time, and we had a great relationship so nothing was really a surprise!
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Post by: Disgusted on July 07, 2013, 12:18:53 PM
Sure did.
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Post by: galain on July 07, 2013, 12:20:48 PM
I couldn't speak German at the time but he was the first person we told.

He sat there and stared at the table without looking at us or talking to us for 15 minutes straight.
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Post by: arce1988 on July 07, 2013, 12:24:21 PM
  congrats
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Post by: _aj_ on July 07, 2013, 12:35:21 PM
Yes, I asked. It was more of a formality, because the ring was already bought, but he gave his blessing. That's what a man does.

+1 on the whole statement.
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Post by: uk-lion on July 07, 2013, 12:37:51 PM
my wife was raised by her mother, dad not been about since she was a little girl but when we decided to get engaged but i asked her mothers permission. i was 40yrs old at the time so i have old school values, thankfully. my wife is 13yrs younger than me  ;D
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Post by: King Shizzo on July 07, 2013, 12:57:55 PM
I don`t ask anyone for anything.  I take what is rightfully mine.
Good man!!! Spoken like true royalty.
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Post by: cswol on July 07, 2013, 01:06:27 PM
some advice.................. dont get married, if you do get married you will kick the hell out of yourself in about 6 months, remembering this post!
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Post by: Mr Nobody on July 07, 2013, 01:25:48 PM
some advice.................. dont get married, if you do get married you will kick the hell out of yourself in about 6 months, remembering this post!
X2. I already got raked once of of money on the split, never again.
Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: Soul Crusher on July 07, 2013, 02:50:25 PM
some advice.................. dont get married, if you do get married you will kick the hell out of yourself in about 6 months, remembering this post!


Maybe e you can Shut Down my wedding and save me? 
Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: tu_holmes on July 07, 2013, 02:50:49 PM

Maybe e you can Shut Down my wedding and save me?  

;D

(http://guruofsales.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/04/shutdownday-logo.png)
Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: Rudee on July 08, 2013, 03:01:14 PM
Off all my close friends who got married in their 20s, only two of them are still married today.   The rest are all divorced.  A couple on their second divorce.   Most of these guys got married in the mid to late 90s.  Every single one of them thought at the time of marriage, that they would be the ones who would be married forever.  Divorce was not a possibility, because they were somehow different.  Turns out they were not different. 
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Post by: Archer77 on July 08, 2013, 03:03:12 PM
I didn't ask my father in law.  He's a doofus unworthy of my respect.
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Post by: leadhead on July 08, 2013, 03:07:16 PM
I asked both her mother and father over dinner. It's common courtesy and expected here in southern culture.
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Post by: King Shizzo on July 08, 2013, 04:44:51 PM
I asked both her mother and father over dinner. It's common courtesy and expected here in southern culture.
Southern culture?  You on Duck Dynasty?
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Post by: kh300 on July 08, 2013, 04:48:24 PM
You're better off asking a psychologist ''WTF am I thinking?''
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Post by: NelsonMuntz on July 08, 2013, 05:35:06 PM



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Post by: Nails on July 08, 2013, 05:40:15 PM
sure, i always tell the girls father im going to fuck them before the date is over , so im sure when the time comes i will also ask for the hand in marriage
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Post by: Voice of Doom on July 08, 2013, 05:53:30 PM
who gives a shit what another man thinks of your decisions.   ::)
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Post by: dustin on July 08, 2013, 05:58:37 PM
Mine was an Asian shotgun wedding. Father-in-law already had wedding videos of his older daughters getting married and kept saying "you see, you see". My brothers and sisters in law told me "daddy" would shut me down if I didn't marry their sister. Shut me down. :o ;D

Good thing I had noble intentions and really liked her. I don't think he'd be opposed to putting a young punk 6 feet under.
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Post by: che on July 08, 2013, 06:56:02 PM
I didn't ask shit ,my father in law hated me because I was a construction worker ,he didn't even show up to the wedding  :D
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Post by: Soul Crusher on July 08, 2013, 07:20:32 PM
I didn't ask shit ,my father in law hated me because I was a construction worker ,he didn't even show up to the wedding  :D

do you get along now?
Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: che on July 08, 2013, 07:23:54 PM
do you get along now?

He's gone
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Post by: The True Adonis on July 08, 2013, 07:27:55 PM
He's gone
Where did he go?
Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: che on July 08, 2013, 07:31:06 PM
Where did he go?

Heaven
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Post by: The True Adonis on July 08, 2013, 07:35:24 PM
Heaven
Already?  He didn`t even get a chance to see you use The Adonis Principles.  Was he on a heavy cycle?
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Post by: che on July 08, 2013, 07:40:50 PM
Already?  He didn`t even get a chance to see you use The Adonis Principles.  Was he on a heavy cycle?

He was a heavy steroid user , his last words were   "  a calorie is a calorie, but a macro isn't a macro ''.  PIP
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Post by: Mick33 on July 08, 2013, 07:42:40 PM
Do it right, ask. If they say anything say thanks for your time,  and I will see you at the wedding. It is just respectful. If they don't like it,  too bad.
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Post by: The True Adonis on July 08, 2013, 07:46:36 PM
Do it right, ask. If they say anything say thanks for your time,  and I will see you at the wedding. It is just respectful. If they don't like it,  too bad.
What exactly are you asking about?  How do the parents own or have any business what their daughter does?  I am failing to see the logic here.

I don`t understand it at all actually. Please explain. 

Also, how is this in anyway respectful?  If anything its incredibly disrespectful to a grown woman. 

What if someone is 48 years old and their father is in his 90s.  Do you still ask then? What are the rules?

Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: Soul Crusher on July 08, 2013, 07:48:14 PM
What exactly are you asking about?  How do the parents own or have any business what their daughter does?  I am failing to see the logic here.

I don`t understand it at all actually. Please explain. 

Also, how is this in anyway respectful?  If anything its incredibly disrespectful to a grown woman. 

What if someone is 48 years old and their father is in his 90s.  Do you still ask then? What are the rules?



Its an old school thing.  Builds good will. 
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Post by: dustin on July 08, 2013, 07:54:55 PM
He was a heavy steroid user , his last words were   "  a calorie is a calorie, but a macro isn't a macro ''.  PIP

That's deep.
Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: Mick33 on July 08, 2013, 07:55:49 PM
What exactly are you asking about?  How do the parents own or have any business what their daughter does?  I am failing to see the logic here.

I don`t understand it at all actually. Please explain. 

Also, how is this in anyway respectful?  If anything its incredibly disrespectful to a grown woman. 

What if someone is 48 years old and their father is in his 90s.  Do you still ask then? What are the rules?



You are giving the father a chance to voice his opinion after raising the girl you are about to marry. It is respectful to involve the parent in the process. Why? Because chances are they took the time to raise them right,  and are happy to see them taking the next step in life.
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Post by: che on July 08, 2013, 07:57:35 PM
You are giving the father a chance to voice his opinion after raising the girl you are about to marry. It is respectful to involve the parent in the process. Why? Because chances are they took the time to raise them right,  and are happy to see them taking the next step in life.

what about if the father say  NO  ???
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Post by: Soul Crusher on July 08, 2013, 07:58:28 PM
You are giving the father a chance to voice his opinion after raising the girl you are about to marry. It is respectful to involve the parent in the process. Why? Because chances are they took the time to raise them right,  and are happy to see them taking the next step in life.


Agreed - and plus they open the wallet after that too.   ;D
Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: Mick33 on July 08, 2013, 07:59:09 PM
what about if the father say  NO  ???

Like I said,  just say thanks,  and I will either see you at the wedding or just see you later.
Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: The True Adonis on July 08, 2013, 08:00:35 PM
Like I said,  just say thanks,  and I will either see you at the wedding or just see you later.
So then what would have been the point of that if they refuse?  (other than to make you look like a schmuck, which admittedly would be funny and would be something I would do to someone if I had a daughter and they actually asked me)
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Post by: che on July 08, 2013, 08:01:15 PM
Like I said,  just say thanks,  and I will either see you at the wedding or just see you later.

That's  very  disrespectful .
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Post by: Soul Crusher on July 08, 2013, 08:03:16 PM
So then what would have been the point of that if they refuse?  (other than to make you look like a schmuck, which admittedly would be funny and would be something I would do to someone if I had a daughter and they actually asked me)

Its a respect thing for the long term.  Shows you care about what your in laws think, even if you really don't  
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Post by: Mick33 on July 08, 2013, 08:03:32 PM
So then what would have been the point of that if they refuse?  (other than to make you look like a schmuck, which admittedly would be funny and would be something I would do to someone if I had a daughter and they actually asked me)

The point is just to show the father,  hi guy,  here is the plan, while it seems like I am asking,  it is really just more polite than saying your daughter is mine now,  but I am passing out like a question to let toy feel like part of the plan.

That would be funny.

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Post by: Mick33 on July 08, 2013, 08:06:25 PM
That's  very  disrespectful .

At the end of the day it is just a formality. If the father said no,  I really would not entertain any sort of conversation why he thinks I cannot marry his daughter. At which point he would realize through smarts or if I had to tell him,  this was just me being polite.
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Post by: Soul Crusher on July 08, 2013, 08:10:39 PM
At the end of the day it is just a formality. If the father said no,  I really would not entertain any sort of conversation why he thinks I cannot marry his daughter. At which point he would realize through smarts or if I had to tell him,  this was just me being polite.

All I know is after I went to my soon to be in laws w my intentions and plans - they were like amazingly cool to me and opened the checkbook for all sorts of shit. 
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Post by: dustin on July 08, 2013, 09:00:11 PM
At the end of the day it is just a formality. If the father said no,  I really would not entertain any sort of conversation why he thinks I cannot marry his daughter. At which point he would realize through smarts or if I had to tell him,  this was just me being polite.

If papa-in-law said "no", I would just say thank you. Tell him I appreciate his position and that they will receive an invitation to which they can RSVP.

Can't make everyone happy. Why worry about it? If you make an honest attempt and it fails, there's no sense in worrying about it. Ain't no body got time for that.
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Post by: Big Chiro Flex on July 08, 2013, 11:53:19 PM
I did. it was a sign of respect and was appreciated very much by her father. He's a good man who I respect a lot, and the appreciation and gratitude that he had for me approaching him as a man and asking him meant a lot.

Unless the girl doesn't have a dad or he is a piece of shit, I'm thoroughly confused as to why any of you "hard asses"  do not understand why this is a decent thing to do.  :-\
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Post by: f450 on July 09, 2013, 12:01:38 AM
some advice.................. dont get married, if you do get married you will kick the hell out of yourself in about 6 months, remembering this post!

this. everybody thinks they are different. look at the divorce rates, 50%. women initiate it 70% of the time, for no reason at all. I wish you the best but its a terrible fucking idea to get married in the west. good luck. ;D
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Post by: O.Z. on July 09, 2013, 01:23:05 AM
my father in law asked me to marry his daughter
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Post by: Big Chiro Flex on July 09, 2013, 01:43:29 AM
my father in law asked me to marry his daughter

LOL. True GetBigger right here.  8)
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Post by: Henda on July 09, 2013, 01:44:29 AM
Our lasses dad is a complete prick.
If she had a decent dad and i ever desired to marry the hag then id probably ask but never that old fat bald peadophile looking c unt.
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Post by: Teutonic Knight on July 09, 2013, 02:21:14 AM
Once I was dating Australian-Italian pussy, after sometime her old Sicilian born father
start "accidentally" to clean 1 of his 5 rifles every time when I show up ........... :-\
and start asking , when will you get married  :P & offer to pay all costs  ::)
so I took off  ;D
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Post by: Archer77 on July 09, 2013, 06:30:30 AM
FYI - I asked my GF's father for permission first to keep it old school.  They approved. 





Just because the Supreme Court struck down DOMA doesn't mean you have to run out and get married!   ;D
Title: Re: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first?
Post by: Soul Crusher on July 09, 2013, 06:34:28 AM
Just because the Supreme Court struck down DOMA doesn't mean you have to run out and get married!   ;D

 ;D