Author Topic: For married and engaged GB'rs - how many asked for permission first? (Read 6782 times)

Soul Crusher · « **on:** July 07, 2013, 11:11:55 AM »

FYI - I asked my GF's father for permission first to keep it old school. They approved.

Soul Crusher · « **Reply #1 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:23:08 AM »

Man of Steel · « **Reply #2 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:25:14 AM »

My wife's father is an old school bad guy. He was abusive to my wife's mother, abusive to his daughters, abusive to his other wives. So at the time I proposed to my wife he wasn't around to ask for permission. Regardless, had he been around at that time in the role of "bad guy" that he perfected then I doubt I would've asked. A true father or mother deserves to be asked, but a man like that.....no, they don't. Today, he's older and regretful and he's workin slowly to build the relationships he destroyed.

jwb · « **Reply #3 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:26:30 AM »

Both my father in laws have been assholes so no way I was asking.

tu_holmes · « **Reply #4 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:26:59 AM »

I did the same thing. Totally asked both the parents.

They truly appreciated it.

Nothing wrong with being respectful.

Soul Crusher · « **Reply #5 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:27:33 AM »

This is my to the tee. Art imitates life - literally.

Yes guys - I have to break the glass

Irongrip400 · « **Reply #6 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:28:54 AM »

Yes, I asked. It was more of a formality, because the ring was already bought, but he gave his blessing. That's what a man does.

bigmc · « **Reply #7 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:29:13 AM »

its good that you invented a fake dad for your fake gf

Soul Crusher · « **Reply #8 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:30:59 AM »

Soul Crusher · « **Reply #9 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:31:59 AM »

Soul Crusher · « **Reply #10 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:34:32 AM »

Soul Crusher · « **Reply #11 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:39:26 AM »

The True Adonis · « **Reply #12 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:41:59 AM »

I don`t ask anyone for anything. I take what is rightfully mine.

Soul Crusher · « **Reply #13 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:52:42 AM »

Quote from: galineko on July 07, 2013, 11:45:31 AM

paid dowry fair and square

no need for permission, a deal is a deal

I got to keep it old school

Schmoff · « **Reply #14 on:** July 07, 2013, 11:54:31 AM »

Quote from: The True Adonis on July 07, 2013, 11:41:59 AM

I don`t ask anyone for anything. I take what is rightfully mine.

me too

BIG ACH · « **Reply #15 on:** July 07, 2013, 12:12:37 PM »

I didn't ask for permission per se.... but I did speak to her father beforehand man to man, making my intentions clear, they had known me for a long time, and we had a great relationship so nothing was really a surprise!

Disgusted · « **Reply #16 on:** July 07, 2013, 12:18:53 PM »

Sure did.

galain · « **Reply #17 on:** July 07, 2013, 12:20:48 PM »

I couldn't speak German at the time but he was the first person we told.

He sat there and stared at the table without looking at us or talking to us for 15 minutes straight.

arce1988 · « **Reply #18 on:** July 07, 2013, 12:24:21 PM »

congrats

_aj_ · « **Reply #19 on:** July 07, 2013, 12:35:21 PM »

Quote from: Irongrip400 on July 07, 2013, 11:28:54 AM

Yes, I asked. It was more of a formality, because the ring was already bought, but he gave his blessing. That's what a man does.

+1 on the whole statement.

uk-lion · « **Reply #20 on:** July 07, 2013, 12:37:51 PM »

my wife was raised by her mother, dad not been about since she was a little girl but when we decided to get engaged but i asked her mothers permission. i was 40yrs old at the time so i have old school values, thankfully. my wife is 13yrs younger than me

King Shizzo · « **Reply #21 on:** July 07, 2013, 12:57:55 PM »

Quote from: The True Adonis on July 07, 2013, 11:41:59 AM

I don`t ask anyone for anything. I take what is rightfully mine.

Good man!!! Spoken like true royalty.

cswol · « **Reply #22 on:** July 07, 2013, 01:06:27 PM »

some advice.................. dont get married, if you do get married you will kick the hell out of yourself in about 6 months, remembering this post!

Mr Nobody · « **Reply #23 on:** July 07, 2013, 01:25:48 PM »

Quote from: cswol on July 07, 2013, 01:06:27 PM

some advice.................. dont get married, if you do get married you will kick the hell out of yourself in about 6 months, remembering this post!

X2. I already got raked once of of money on the split, never again.

Soul Crusher · « **Reply #24 on:** July 07, 2013, 02:50:25 PM »

Quote from: cswol on July 07, 2013, 01:06:27 PM

some advice.................. dont get married, if you do get married you will kick the hell out of yourself in about 6 months, remembering this post!

Maybe e you can Shut Down my wedding and save me?