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My boy from college is getting married next month. To be honest, I can't bring myself to say to him i think it's a mistake because this is not a fucking movie this is life. He's not gonna have a lightbulb moment and cancel all the wedding planning based on my suspicion and observation.
But I'm 100% sure this is a mistake. She's the type of woman that, although nice, is all about locking a guy down and having a man as an accessory, like a pair of shoes or handbag. When they were just dating she practically moved in to his place. She was there, all the time! She made herself another limb of his body and now he can't or won't get rid of her.
I feel bad because i know what his life will look like a few years down the line but sometimes people have to learn by making these mistakes.
What would you getbiggers do in this situation?
ps he's never really asked if he's doing the right thing or what marriage life is like, thus we've never had that 'talk.'
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It's not a mistake. Men in 2014 marry women because they're terrified of ending up alone because they know finding a good woman is like finding a good job: It's a rat race and there's too much competition, takes too long, costs too much. They do it in the belief that if they lock the woman down with a ring and a kid, she'l be forced to stick with them. It can backfire and they can lose all their money. But it's a deliberate and calculated choice.
This isn't the 50s when women married men to control them sexually or mooch off their money. Women don't need sex or money from one guy anymore. Making it harder for us to keep them around.
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its none of your business really.
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It's not a mistake. Men in 2014 marry women because they're terrified of ending up alone because they know finding a good woman is like finding a good job: It's a rat race and there's too much competition, takes too long, costs too much. They do it in the belief that if they lock the woman down with a ring and a kid, she'l be forced to stick with them. It can backfire and they can lose all their money. But it's a deliberate and calculated choice.
This isn't the 50s when women married men to control them sexually or mooch off their money. Women don't need sex or money from one guy anymore. Making it harder for us to keep them around.
Interesting. You look at it as my friend being the one that is tying her down. Can't say i ever thought of it that way. Thing is i think you gotta marry, if you're going to, the best possible girl you can find. Someone that you find extremely attractive but that's its also a good person and makes you a better person. I have nothing against this girl personally. The problem is I know that he is the nice guy that's getting caught in a situation he will regret later. This girl acted like a wife when they were dating. When they get married she's gonna become a monster.
But we'll see i guess.
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Interesting. You look at it as my friend being the one that is tying her down. Can't say i ever thought of it that way. Thing is i think you gotta marry, if you're going to, the best possible girl you can find. Someone that you find extremely attractive but that's its also a good person and makes you a better person. I have nothing against this girl personally. The problem is I know that he is the nice guy that's getting caught in a situation he will regret later. This girl acted like a wife when they were dating. When they get married she's gonna become a monster.
But we'll see i guess.
He's a big boy. He'll weather the storm if/when it goes badly. For now, they're in love. Let them be and don't lose sleep over it. He wouldn't stay up at night if you were the one getting married. Sometimes you have the let someone learn for themselves.
And yes, I absolutely see it as his own initiative. Unless he comes and tells you that she proposed to him and was bugging him for months to get married, the default assumption based on my experience is that men are the instigators for it in our time.
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If your same friend was holding a loaded .44 magnum with hollow point rounds with the barrel to his ear would you no say something? Same thing going on here only the death will be MUCH MUCH MUCH LONGER PROLONGED AND TORTUROUS. Save the chaps life, mate.
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its none of your business really.
Exactly. Life. It happens. Move on.
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ps he's never really asked if he's doing the right thing or what marriage life is like, thus we've never had that 'talk.'
I`m not trying to be a dick here,but why should he ask you.
Right or wrong,nobody wants to hear that they shouldn`t get married if they are in love or think they are in love.
He`ll find out for himself, and if it doesn`t work out,he`ll land on his feet.
It won`t be the first time a marriage didn`t work,and it it does work,it won`t be the first time that a couple surprised the nay sayers.
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Exactly. Life. It happens. Move on.
Im not gonna be the one responsible for breaking up all the wedding planning and what not BUT i think you guys are wrong here. Obviously this is not my childhood friend but i really like the dude and he's a good dude. If someone is making a big mistake, or if you think they are, and i'm being hypocritical here, I think it's your responsibility to say something. That 'hell learn' bullshit is fucked up. at least tell the person what they're getting into so when they're there they can't say no one didn't warn them.
But on my defense i've told him plenty of times marriage is bullshit and you'd be a fool to do it.
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Got the tshirt, but we can only grow by making mistakes and learning from them.
I hope he will recover.
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Im not gonna be the one responsible for breaking up all the wedding planning and what not BUT i think you guys are wrong here. Obviously this is not my childhood friend but i really like the dude and he's a good dude. If someone is making a big mistake, or if you think they are, and i'm being hypocritical here, I think it's your responsibility to say something. That 'hell learn' bullshit is fucked up. at least tell the person what they're getting into so when they're there they can't say no one didn't warn them.
But on my defense i've told him plenty of times marriage is bullshit and you'd be a fool to do it.
Give it 20/mature years. You'll see.
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Show him that.
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My boy from college is getting married next month. To be honest, I can't bring myself to say to him i think it's a mistake because this is not a fucking movie this is life. He's not gonna have a lightbulb moment and cancel all the wedding planning based on my suspicion and observation.
But I'm 100% sure this is a mistake. She's the type of woman that, although nice, is all about locking a guy down and having a man as an accessory, like a pair of shoes or handbag. When they were just dating she practically moved in to his place. She was there, all the time! She made herself another limb of his body and now he can't or won't get rid of her.
I feel bad because i know what his life will look like a few years down the line but sometimes people have to learn by making these mistakes.
What would you getbiggers do in this situation?
ps he's never really asked if he's doing the right thing or what marriage life is like, thus we've never had that 'talk.'
I would tell him.
You would not only be doing him a favor, you would be, inadvertedly, doing her a favor too by forcing the end of a relationship that could, and most likely would, take a wrong turn.
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Your friend will tell you to go fuck yourself.
Let it be, but make a side bet with your mates on how long it will last.
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Interesting. You look at it as my friend being the one that is tying her down. Can't say i ever thought of it that way. Thing is i think you gotta marry, if you're going to, the best possible girl you can find. Someone that you find extremely attractive but that's its also a good person and makes you a better person. I have nothing against this girl personally. The problem is I know that he is the nice guy that's getting caught in a situation he will regret later. This girl acted like a wife when they were dating. When they get married she's gonna become a monster.
But we'll see i guess.
Speaking from experience, this is exactly what will happen. Acting as married while dating, Monster afterwards. Went through all that. Had to catch up with friends while at work either through them visiting or calling there. Had to hide interactions with my benign family. Basically, I had to pretend to be under her watchful eye and control or else she would have an epic meltdown like I wouldnt wish on my worst enemy. It ended ironically well so I can sit now with a smile on my face, basking in the glories of getbig any time I want. :D
I saw all the warning signs but you dont know what to do when you're 25 and 100% focused on your job. You cant tell your friend anything without offending him, at least a little. Testosterone and oxytocin primed by sexual interactions are emboldening his direction. But you may ask him to really evaluate his thinking and future. Remind him to put her through just about every possible scenario out there and evaluate her reactions to them. If she fails more than 7 out of 10, he will have a miserable life ahead.
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My boy from college is getting married next month. To be honest, I can't bring myself to say to him i think it's a mistake because this is not a fucking movie this is life. He's not gonna have a lightbulb moment and cancel all the wedding planning based on my suspicion and observation.
But I'm 100% sure this is a mistake. She's the type of woman that, although nice, is all about locking a guy down and having a man as an accessory, like a pair of shoes or handbag. When they were just dating she practically moved in to his place. She was there, all the time! She made herself another limb of his body and now he can't or won't get rid of her.
I feel bad because i know what his life will look like a few years down the line but sometimes people have to learn by making these mistakes.
What would you getbiggers do in this situation?
ps he's never really asked if he's doing the right thing or what marriage life is like, thus we've never had that 'talk.'
If he hasn't asked, there is no problem and no you shouldn't tell. However the real problem comes should he ask for advice, then you'll be damned if you do and damned if you don't.
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My boy from college is getting married next month. To be honest, I can't bring myself to say to him i think it's a mistake because this is not a fucking movie this is life. He's not gonna have a lightbulb moment and cancel all the wedding planning based on my suspicion and observation.
But I'm 100% sure this is a mistake. She's the type of woman that, although nice, is all about locking a guy down and having a man as an accessory, like a pair of shoes or handbag. When they were just dating she practically moved in to his place. She was there, all the time! She made herself another limb of his body and now he can't or won't get rid of her.
I feel bad because i know what his life will look like a few years down the line but sometimes people have to learn by making these mistakes.
What would you getbiggers do in this situation?
ps he's never really asked if he's doing the right thing or what marriage life is like, thus we've never had that 'talk.'
What qualifies you to speak on this to him?
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Would love to be this bitches "accessory".
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My boy from college is getting married next month. To be honest, I can't bring myself to say to him i think it's a mistake because this is not a fucking movie this is life. He's not gonna have a lightbulb moment and cancel all the wedding planning based on my suspicion and observation.
But I'm 100% sure this is a mistake. She's the type of woman that, although nice, is all about locking a guy down and having a man as an accessory, like a pair of shoes or handbag. When they were just dating she practically moved in to his place. She was there, all the time! She made herself another limb of his body and now he can't or won't get rid of her.
I feel bad because i know what his life will look like a few years down the line but sometimes people have to learn by making these mistakes.
What would you getbiggers do in this situation?
ps he's never really asked if he's doing the right thing or what marriage life is like, thus we've never had that 'talk.'
Welcome to real life, that's what women do. Let go of your friend and live your own life.
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Perhaps he is one of those guys that prefer alpha women to submit to; a strong mama figure who tells him what to do and when.
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Perhaps he is one of those guys that prefer alpha women to submit to; a strong mama figure who tells him what to do and when.
My brother in law is like that. Grew up in a matriarchal family and has ended up with an older woman who organises his life for him. Some guys just want to be mothered.
I'd say nothing. I said something once to a mate, didn't change a thing except his view of me. Mind you, I did tell him his fiance was a fat carcass and that he could do better.
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My brother in law is like that. Grew up in a matriarchal family and has ended up with an older woman who organises his life for him. Some guys just want to be mothered.
I'd say nothing. I said something once to a mate, didn't change a thing except his view of me. Mind you, I did tell him his fiance was a fat carcass and that he could do better.
This is why I like Booty. ;D
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It's not a mistake. Men in 2014 marry women because they're terrified of ending up alone because they know finding a good woman is like finding a good job: It's a rat race and there's too much competition, takes too long, costs too much. They do it in the belief that if they lock the woman down with a ring and a kid, she'l be forced to stick with them. It can backfire and they can lose all their money. But it's a deliberate and calculated choice.
This isn't the 50s when women married men to control them sexually or mooch off their money. Women don't need sex or money from one guy anymore. Making it harder for us to keep them around.
this is so spot especially after your 30s its line people take the first one they get.
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Some guysneed diktators o wifes. Otherwise there wouldent be week guys and strong woman. Its nature. Oposite attract. This dude would probably be nothing and dig him self down deeper and deeper if the wife dosent tell him what o do.
Andthen we have the other type of realtionshio when the man controll the woman litteray to death : )
And then ever realtionsship between these two extremes.
Its life!
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If he asked me I would subtly advice a friend against marriage not against being with a girl he likes.
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Your friend will tell you to go fuck yourself.
Let it be, but make a side bet with your mates on how long it will last.
Absolutely spot on, this ^
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Perhaps he is one of those guys that prefer alpha women to submit to; a strong mama figure who tells him what to do and when.
Anything is possible. My stepdad swore he hated domineering women and yet he seemed to be weirdly attracted to them....my mom included.
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If you try to warn him you will lose him as a friend.
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dont bother saying anything
people dont take advice when it comes to women
pussy > voice of reason
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I've done both. Every other time, I stayed out of it and just minded my business. I'd see the woman lighting up my buddy over some random crap, and I'd just bite my tongue.
When it happened to my little brother, I stepped in and told him what I thought, even though I knew better. I just felt like I had to protect him. Long story short: I regret it.
Even with my brother, it was none of my business. Now, he and I barely speak anymore.
Of course he chose his wife over me. He will until/if they divorce, but by then it'll be too late. There will be too many miles and years between us to bridge the gap.
Misplayed by me. Can't take it back. I'll have to live with that. In retrospect, it was a very selfish move on my part.
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Why would you lose a friend just for giving him honest advice?
I mean, if you don't like it don't take the advice.
Not like you're calling his wife a worthless whore or anything
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I was in a similar situation when engaged to a complete headcase. My mate's advice was welcomed as I knew deep down she was a psycho that made me miserable.
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I was in a similar situation when engaged to a complete headcase. My mate's advice was welcomed as I knew deep down she was a psycho that made me miserable.
I too would value my close friends' advice.
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My boy from college is getting married next month. To be honest, I can't bring myself to say to him i think it's a mistake because this is not a fucking movie this is life. He's not gonna have a lightbulb moment and cancel all the wedding planning based on my suspicion and observation.
But I'm 100% sure this is a mistake. She's the type of woman that, although nice, is all about locking a guy down and having a man as an accessory, like a pair of shoes or handbag. When they were just dating she practically moved in to his place. She was there, all the time! She made herself another limb of his body and now he can't or won't get rid of her.
I feel bad because i know what his life will look like a few years down the line but sometimes people have to learn by making these mistakes.
What would you getbiggers do in this situation?
ps he's never really asked if he's doing the right thing or what marriage life is like, thus we've never had that 'talk.'
You cannot do ANYTHING about it. She has a pussy, you don't. Your buddy will have to learn the hard way. This has happened to many of my friends as well.
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One of my best friends and someone I've know for over twenty years asked me my opinion on his curent wife before they were married. I told him she was kind of a fake person and that as soon as they were married she would move him closer to her family and replace all of his friends with men from her church. And I was right.
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Most guys, especially after marriage are locked down. Best you come to terms with this now.
My theory is that at some point in a person's life, they settle down with the closest available partner even if they're not right for them. In western countries it's generally in their 30s.
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some very very very bad advice in this thread.. very very bad advice ???
Rule #1 you always tell your friend not to get married. ALWAYS. not in the west. Its a terrible fucking idea. Over 60% of marriages end in divorce which are initiated by the woman over 70% of the time... and the woman gets the lions share of everything, everytime, usually ruining the guys life in the process. Suicide rates for divorced men is steadily going up and the longer the marriage the higher the likelihood of suicide after divorce. Fuck That.
You dont have to be a dick about it, just ask him if he's sure , and let him know you'll support him regardless and let him know you wouldn't do it if you were in his shoes and why but kudos to him for having the balls to take the huge gamble.... Oh and it is a gamble.. nobody on this site or responding in this thread would get on a plane if you knew it had a 50% chance of crashing but still you guys would encourage marriage knowing it has a greater than 50% chance of ending in divorce. with no fucking benefit for the man. Thats madness and borders on being mentally ill. Thats how I feel about it anyways.
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Only if you don't mind him hating you forever. If he's happy forever, he will hate you for being wrong. If you're right, he'll hate you for being right.
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some very very very bad advice in this thread.. very very bad advice ???
Rule #1 you always tell your friend not to get married. ALWAYS. not in the west. Its a terrible fucking idea. Over 60% of marriages end in divorce which are initiated by the woman over 70% of the time... and the woman gets the lions share of everything, everytime, usually ruining the guys life in the process. Suicide rates for divorced men is steadily going up and the longer the marriage the higher the likelihood of suicide after divorce. Fuck That.
You dont have to be a dick about it, just ask him if he's sure , and let him know you'll support him regardless and let him know you wouldn't do it if you were in his shoes and why but kudos to him for having the balls to take the huge gamble.... Oh and it is a gamble.. nobody on this site or responding in this thread would get on a plane if you knew it had a 50% chance of crashing but still you guys would encourage marriage knowing it has a greater than 50% chance of ending in divorce. with no fucking benefit for the man. Thats madness and borders on being mentally ill. Thats how I feel about it anyways.
As a result he may unfriend you or you're simply dead wrong, and in case you're right, then he has learned a valuable lesson.
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Negative. This is one of those every man for himself things.
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some very very very bad advice in this thread.. very very bad advice ???
Rule #1 you always tell your friend not to get married. ALWAYS. not in the west. Its a terrible fucking idea. Over 60% of marriages end in divorce which are initiated by the woman over 70% of the time... and the woman gets the lions share of everything, everytime, usually ruining the guys life in the process. Suicide rates for divorced men is steadily going up and the longer the marriage the higher the likelihood of suicide after divorce. Fuck That.
You dont have to be a dick about it, just ask him if he's sure , and let him know you'll support him regardless and let him know you wouldn't do it if you were in his shoes and why but kudos to him for having the balls to take the huge gamble.... Oh and it is a gamble.. nobody on this site or responding in this thread would get on a plane if you knew it had a 50% chance of crashing but still you guys would encourage marriage knowing it has a greater than 50% chance of ending in divorce. with no fucking benefit for the man. Thats madness and borders on being mentally ill. Thats how I feel about it anyways.
Good post.
Majority of men think this way: "She would never do that to me" ... or ... "my girl is different"... and/or... "This is real love"
Men have to stop thinking with their dicks and weigh all the potential ramifications. OBSERVE everyone else who is/was married and be 100% honest with yourself. Unfortunately, this type of clarity usually does not come until you are past 35-40.
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Good post.
Majority of men think this way: "She would never do that to me" ... or ... "my girl is different"... and/or... "This is real love"
Men have to stop thinking with their dicks and weigh all the potential ramifications. OBSERVE everyone else who is/was married and be 100% honest with yourself. Unfortunately, this type of clarity usually does not come until you are past 35-40.
It's not sex that makes them want to get married, though. It's fear of loneliness + not being able to find another woman later in life + status symbol. Nobody forces these guys to do it. They're big boys. Fuck them. Why did Tiger Woods need a wife? She took half his shit. That's just dumb.
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I always listen to my dick, and one of the things he says is: "DON'T MARRY AND STAY CHILD-FREE"
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It's not sex that makes them want to get married, though. It's fear of loneliness + not being able to find another woman later in life + status symbol. Nobody forces these guys to do it. They're big boys. Fuck them. Why did Tiger Woods need a wife? She took half his shit. That's just dumb.
Good point, but initially, it's the pussy that dazzles them.
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Hope he is smart enough to get a prenupt.
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I always listen to my dick, and one of the things he says is: "DON'T MARRY AND STAY CHILD-FREE"
Your dick wants to impregnate her. The dick cannot be trusted. Wack-off before taking a girl out, then you should be able to think with a clear head... unless you're running several grams of test/wk.
The only time you truly know if care about a woman is after busting a nut on her. If you want her to leave afterward, she is not relationship material.
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Hope he is smart enough to get a prenupt.
Nope... most of them can be circumvented by any crafty divorce attorney. Much safer to never to sign the marriage contract in the first place.
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As a result he may unfriend you or you're simply dead wrong, and in case you're right, then he has learned a valuable lesson.
Cant see why he would unfriend you if he is truly a friend and understands that you are looking out for him and you will support him 100% either way. A good friend wouldn't just stay silent. Every single one of my friends that have gotten married I told them good luck but I wouldn't do it if I were in their shoes and jokingly (but seriously) told them to rethink the decision, maybe live together for a while and have a kid etc......marriage is supposed to be forever right? so whats the rush. Never got unfriended or anything childish like that. Some are still married, Some are divorced, most are very unhappy in their married life and 2 or 3 seem to be doing ok.
One of my buddies had a raging controlling bitch of a girlfriend and of course I let him know she was bad news and he must be crazy for wanting to marry her....they got married, then got divorced after a very shitty 2 years. The girl had him locked up a few times for "spousal abuse" that never happened. We are still very good friends. He is still rebuilding his life.
nobody has ever been able to give me any clear positives to getting married out here in the west, not one. Its a fucked up deal for the man and only a foolish man would go into it. A ridiculous and worthless gamble IMO
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Cant see why he would unfriend you if he is truly a friend
Women have a way of making friends forget about their friends. No sooner does she get into a guy's life, he starts ignoring his buddies' texts to go out drinking or do things besides shove his nose up her funky little ass. For every guy that sticks by his male friends when a woman gives him ultimatums of choosing between them and herself, there's 500 that will ditch their bros for the new pussy they're playing with. It's like a new toy. But like all toys, it loses its value over time but can cause you a lot of harm if you're not careful.
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Would love to be this bitches "accessory".
Hahaha
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Cant see why he would unfriend you if he is truly a friend and understands that you are looking out for him and you will support him 100% either way. A good friend wouldn't just stay silent. Every single one of my friends that have gotten married I told them good luck but I wouldn't do it if I were in their shoes and jokingly (but seriously) told them to rethink the decision, maybe live together for a while and have a kid etc......marriage is supposed to be forever right? so whats the rush. Never got unfriended or anything childish like that. Some are still married, Some are divorced, most are very unhappy in their married life and 2 or 3 seem to be doing ok.
One of my buddies had a raging controlling bitch of a girlfriend and of course I let him know she was bad news and he must be crazy for wanting to marry her....they got married, then got divorced after a very shitty 2 years. The girl had him locked up a few times for "spousal abuse" that never happened. We are still very good friends. He is still rebuilding his life.
nobody has ever been able to give me any clear positives to getting married out here in the west, not one. Its a fucked up deal for the man and only a foolish man would go into it. A ridiculous and worthless gamble IMO
Don't get me wrong, I believe that true friends should respect/appreciate each other's opinions, but the thing is that not every person can handle that. In case he can't, it can result in an inner conflict with unfriending as a result.
For example, one of my friends is a HSP and is pretty safe in his way of communicating (no homo & no Getbigger, LOL!). He's the kind of person that I won't bother too much with my sincere advices or thoughts, esp regarding personal choices. Only a very tactical way might work, but I'm much too direct for being a diplomat, esp when I see potential problems.
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I've done both. Every other time, I stayed out of it and just minded my business. I'd see the woman lighting up my buddy over some random crap, and I'd just bite my tongue.
When it happened to my little brother, I stepped in and told him what I thought, even though I knew better. I just felt like I had to protect him. Long story short: I regret it.
Even with my brother, it was none of my business. Now, he and I barely speak anymore.
Of course he chose his wife over me. He will until/if they divorce, but by then it'll be too late. There will be too many miles and years between us to bridge the gap.
Misplayed by me. Can't take it back. I'll have to live with that. In retrospect, it was a very selfish move on my part.
Invite your brother out to a game or dinner, tell him you were wrong and apologize to him. Life is too short to allow shit like this to fester.
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Thanks for the input guys. Appreciate the breadth lof opinions from bros. I'm dead sure I'm right so hoefully he will get out before having kids.
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My boy from college is getting married next month. To be honest, I can't bring myself to say to him i think it's a mistake because this is not a fucking movie this is life. He's not gonna have a lightbulb moment and cancel all the wedding planning based on my suspicion and observation.
But I'm 100% sure this is a mistake. She's the type of woman that, although nice, is all about locking a guy down and having a man as an accessory, like a pair of shoes or handbag. When they were just dating she practically moved in to his place. She was there, all the time! She made herself another limb of his body and now he can't or won't get rid of her.
I feel bad because i know what his life will look like a few years down the line but sometimes people have to learn by making these mistakes.
What would you getbiggers do in this situation?
ps he's never really asked if he's doing the right thing or what marriage life is like, thus we've never had that 'talk.'
No matter WHAT you tell your friend, at the end of the day he knows who she is and clearly likes to be locked down, otherwise he would have chosen a more independent girl. If he knows it, but feels trapped and doesn't know what to do about it, then he's a WEAK guy and deserves what he has coming to him. Besides, guys don't listen to their guy friends. Only chicks consult with their friends and are easily influenced. Especially if another guy tells them they should leave their man. NOW, if a woman told your friend that he could do better, he MIGHT listen.
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Thanks for the input guys. Appreciate the breadth lof opinions from bros. I'm dead sure I'm right so hoefully he will get out before having kids.
Send him a link of this thread, he can thank us later :D
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A little update my 'biggers. I got together with this guy last week. He's been married all of three months, having dated her for over ten years. He's already miserable. Says she's become a different person since getting married. I wasn't surprised but I really didn't think it would happen that soon for him.
Another reason to not get married.
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A little update my 'biggers. I got together with this guy last week. He's been married all of three months, having dated her for over ten years. He's already miserable. Says she's become a different person since getting married. I wasn't surprised but I really didn't think it would happen that soon for him.
Another reason to not get married.
Well there ya go !! Another story that convinces me that women are inherently evil and that I should never, ever get married.
Sucks to be him though. Truly. :/
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My boy from college is getting married next month. To be honest, I can't bring myself to say to him i think it's a mistake because this is not a fucking movie this is life. He's not gonna have a lightbulb moment and cancel all the wedding planning based on my suspicion and observation.
But I'm 100% sure this is a mistake. She's the type of woman that, although nice, is all about locking a guy down and having a man as an accessory, like a pair of shoes or handbag. When they were just dating she practically moved in to his place. She was there, all the time! She made herself another limb of his body and now he can't or won't get rid of her.
I feel bad because i know what his life will look like a few years down the line but sometimes people have to learn by making these mistakes.
What would you getbiggers do in this situation?
ps he's never really asked if he's doing the right thing or what marriage life is like, thus we've never had that 'talk.'
Sooo...you re single?
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On a side note
When I was dating my wife, I went round to her parents for dinner for the first time (we'd been together maybe 3 months), I don't know how the convo got to this point but her dad says "You mean to tell me you haven't had sex with my daughter?"
It was a very awkward icebreaker.
Almost like he was saying, come on bro look at the ass on it - are you f ag or what?
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