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Title: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 13, 2015, 07:58:14 PM
Not going into specifics but I found out recently that I've been permanently shut out of my dream career.  Realize this is bitch-mode but I'm downright destroyed over this.  Drinking slightly more than usual.  No motivation for anything.  Really in a dark place now.

Have any of you been dealt such shitty, life-altering news?  How did you deal? 

I'm limited in that I've learned if I don't have a passion for something I usually quit or fail.  And so few things interest me enough to dedicate my life to them.  I do have at least a little time on my side since I'm 31.   
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Coach is Back! on April 13, 2015, 08:03:29 PM
How old are you?
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Never1AShow on April 13, 2015, 08:05:19 PM
Well the world needs ditch diggers too.

Grow pair and get into something.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: SquidVicious on April 13, 2015, 08:09:36 PM
Just because McDonalds isn't hiring doesn't mean you can't work at Burger King.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: SF1900 on April 13, 2015, 08:13:39 PM
Why were you shut out from your dream career? What happened?
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: dantelis on April 13, 2015, 08:15:27 PM
Well the world needs ditch diggers too.

Grow pair and get into something.

Good one!

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Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Thick Nick on April 13, 2015, 10:02:51 PM
When you are asking getbig for serious career advice...you have already failed. You aren't locked out of your dream career. You are locked out of rational, coherent, logical thinking and it's clear why no one will hire you.

Good luck though.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: The Grim Lifter on April 13, 2015, 10:08:07 PM
There's always room 7 by the Ice Machine
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: SF1900 on April 13, 2015, 10:10:38 PM
When you are asking getbig for serious career advice...you have already failed. You aren't locked out of your dream career. You are locked out of rational, coherent, logical thinking and it's clear why no one will hire you.

Good luck though.

How do you know he isn't locked out of his dream career, "Thick" Nick? Do you know his circumstances?

I thought you were leaving getbig after your 5 year old rant about getbig being anti-american and anti-police?  :D :D
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Novena on April 13, 2015, 10:13:05 PM
Not going into specifics but I found out recently that I've been permanently shut out of my dream career. Realize this is bitch-mode but I'm downright destroyed over this.  Drinking slightly more than usual.  No motivation for anything.  Really in a dark place now.
Have any of you been dealt such shitty, life-altering news?  How did you deal? 

I'm limited in that I've learned if I don't have a passion for something I usually quit or fail.  And so few things interest me enough to dedicate my life to them.  I do have at least a little time on my side since I'm 31.   


What was your career choice and what happened to check-mate you?  In order to compose an intelligent reply, it would help to know what happened. 
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: muscularny on April 13, 2015, 10:48:24 PM
Not going into specifics but I found out recently that I've been permanently shut out of my dream career.  Realize this is bitch-mode but I'm downright destroyed over this.  Drinking slightly more than usual.  No motivation for anything.  Really in a dark place now.

Have any of you been dealt such shitty, life-altering news?  How did you deal? 

I'm limited in that I've learned if I don't have a passion for something I usually quit or fail.  And so few things interest me enough to dedicate my life to them.  I do have at least a little time on my side since I'm 31.   

Anyone who has no passion for something quits or fails not just you.

You have a few things that interest you enough to dedicate your life to them? Really? Most people cant think of one thing let alone more than one thing.

And yes, the only people not being dealt blows are people that are not fighting to move up in life.

Get rid of the drinking and all that other BS, realize time fly's, you are 31 now and before you know it you are 41. Delete all social media, take a break of this site and get rid of all distractions on your phone and all negative friends. Make a clear WRITTEN not MENTAL note of goals and go for it relentlessly.

Realize that the majority of this planet have nothing, only a tiny few percent are worth anything, the chances are stacked against you in every way possible, so you can either follow what works or try your own little way, something you did till now.

Become a cold hard person, become a selfish human, do not care about anything and anyone until your goal is achieved. Remember, as bad as this sounds now, if you do not do this you wont have what to give anyone anyway. At least if you are temporarily a selfish prick, maybe you will amount to something and be able to share things with society in the future.

Right now it should be only about you, only about what someone can do for you, that is it, if no benefit to you and fast do not communicate or waste time. Weak soft people live a life of sorrow and pain, yeah they get people retweeting their garbage quotes but they can barely pay for their internet.

Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: SF1900 on April 13, 2015, 10:55:57 PM

“If you're going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don't even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery--isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you'll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you're going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It's the only good fight there is.”

― Charles Bukowski, Factotum
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Teutonic Knight on April 14, 2015, 02:45:08 AM
Relocate ASAP to nicer climate  Hawaii,American Samoa,Guam ,................ 8)

You just need T-shirt,board short & thongs ............. :D
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: nzmusclemonster on April 14, 2015, 02:49:03 AM
I also failed in my quest to become a ugandan sailor   :(
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Teutonic Knight on April 14, 2015, 02:50:50 AM
I also failed in my quest to become a ugandan sailor   :(

A U planning another clubbing tour of Croatia  ;)
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: nzmusclemonster on April 14, 2015, 02:53:58 AM
A U planning another clubbing tour of Croatia  ;)

No point, I've already destroyed all the vaginas there  8)
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Teutonic Knight on April 14, 2015, 02:58:11 AM
No point, I've already destroyed all the vaginas there  8)

yeah right, or some nice sized maori mama is after U  ;D
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Bevo on April 14, 2015, 02:59:17 AM
Buy lotto tickets and hope for the best
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Teutonic Knight on April 14, 2015, 03:07:52 AM
Buy lotto tickets and hope for the best

like Spanish el gordo 2000 euros per ticket ...........
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: nzmusclemonster on April 14, 2015, 03:12:27 AM
yeah right, or some nice sized maori mama is after U  ;D

Your mom doesn't bother me anymore   ;)
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Tedim on April 14, 2015, 03:39:41 AM
Not going into specifics but I found out recently that I've been permanently shut out of my dream career.  Realize this is bitch-mode but I'm downright destroyed over this.  Drinking slightly more than usual.  No motivation for anything.  Really in a dark place now.

Have any of you been dealt such shitty, life-altering news?  How did you deal? 

I'm limited in that I've learned if I don't have a passion for something I usually quit or fail.  And so few things interest me enough to dedicate my life to them.  I do have at least a little time on my side since I'm 31.   

Gay porn is phasing out the fluffers?
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Hulkotron on April 14, 2015, 03:59:29 AM
Not going into specifics but I found out recently that I've been permanently shut out of my dream career.  Realize this is bitch-mode but I'm downright destroyed over this.  Drinking slightly more than usual.  No motivation for anything.  Really in a dark place now.

Have any of you been dealt such shitty, life-altering news?  How did you deal? 

I'm limited in that I've learned if I don't have a passion for something I usually quit or fail.  And so few things interest me enough to dedicate my life to them.  I do have at least a little time on my side since I'm 31.   

Girls and sons who have not been loved by their fathers seek attention once teens and adults to compensate for what they didnt have originally. Fathers either left them alone, or were distant most of the time and not encouraging them. Some even despised them which would shape their personality and the way they d interact with others for the rest of their life.
They are extremistic in everything they do, always looking exageratly for attention, and have troubles adapting to society's rules, because they also have troubles defining their own identity and respecting authority and hierarchy.

Also boys who got picked on by others during childhood and adolescence -often sons without a father figure- try to compensate by lifting weights, to develop muscles and survive in ther male world. They re insecure because they re girly, childish, feminine having been raised by a single mom. They lift obsessively hoping it will transform them into men, to compensate for their lack of influence from a father figure that was not there. Unfortunaltey they can get as big as they can it doesnt cure their insecurity and who they truly are, how they grew up being raised by a single mom. They re no as manly as other men whatever they do, and they often have a big lack of masculine presence they dont know how to balance, hence often being borderline homosexuals while trying to get their manhood back thru various manly activities (mma, cars, weight lifting etc). They are often the ones that, in order to get respect from other males will go the steroids route to get even "bigger" attemptint to cure their insecurity , but being natural not being "enough", they still feel "too small", insecure, amongst other males. The lack of a father figure also often means they didnt have guidance to continue studies and are often working shitty manual jobs.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Teutonic Knight on April 14, 2015, 04:00:29 AM
Your mom doesn't bother me anymore   ;)

gone back on sheep like other 'once were warriors'  ;D

obw, how was cricket world cup  :D
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: _bruce_ on April 14, 2015, 04:21:04 AM
I also failed in my quest to become a ugandan sailor   :(

One day you may - boats full of "escorts" are probably heading your direction 24/7.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Hulkotron on April 14, 2015, 04:55:27 AM
You could get into tranny-porn.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Knooger on April 14, 2015, 06:54:41 AM
Could just commit suicide.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: pedro01 on April 14, 2015, 06:57:09 AM
When you are asking getbig for serious career advice...you have already failed. You aren't locked out of your dream career. You are locked out of rational, coherent, logical thinking and it's clear why no one will hire you.

Good luck though.

Typical "trying to be a getbigger post".

Lots of reasons you can get locked out. Some careers require 20/20 eyesight for example.

For all we know, he may have gotten a try out as a porn star but fell short on girth requirements.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: The Italian Lifter on April 14, 2015, 08:52:29 AM
asking advice on gb  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: El Diablo Blanco on April 14, 2015, 08:54:55 AM
What was this dream job?  Drive thru operator at Jack in the box?
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Julio Ceasar on April 14, 2015, 10:06:35 AM
Most people who reach great success hit the wall in deadly speed later on!  :D

No matter what u do in life, in the end, I guess every one of us took the same amount of shit/happiness!

Stay away from drugs and alcohol. It will ruin your life forever and there is no return back! Fight the battle clean no matter how u feel!

Just give it time, some years, things will change and you will learn to deal with bad feelings better...

Don't be stupid and do drugs and alcohol! U will get right to the botton on this shit, and society will reject you as a worthless human!

Don't try to compensate bad feelings with food, don't smoke, it just make it worse...just live normal life and give it time! TIME! Most people cant handle time! Time is a natural healingprocess!

Feeling bad, feeling shit, suecide thoughts are natural, panic attact, strong axienty feelings is all natural destinations in the jerney of life :)

Talk to people, Your not fighting this life alone : )



Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: SF1900 on April 14, 2015, 10:17:24 AM
Typical "trying to be a getbigger post".

Lots of reasons you can get locked out. Some careers require 20/20 eyesight for example.

For all we know, he may have gotten a try out as a porn star but fell short on girth requirements.

X2. "Thick" Nick is a pinhead. Not the sharpest tool in the shed. He is trying way too hard to act like a getbigger.

Below is a perfect example of some medical conditions that may disqualify you from the job. I have 2 of the conditions listed below, from no fault of my own. I would 99.9% automatically be disqualified from becoming a US marshall, thus being locked out of my dream career (if it was my dream career). Its probably best not to jump to conclusions and knock him. Let him state the facts, then form your opinion after. But as stated, "Thick" Nick is not the sharpest tool in the shed.

Disqualifying Conditions

Deputy U.S. Marshals must be physically able to safely and efficiently perform the full range of duties. Any medical or physical condition which affects this ability is disqualifying.  Some conditions which may be disqualifying are:

    diabetes mellitus

    convulsive disorders

    hernias

    orthopedic conditions that affect mobility, stability, flexibility and strength

    hypertension

    heart disease

    color vision deficits and eye surgery.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 14, 2015, 11:31:12 AM
Lol.. some of this shit had me rolling. :D

Okay, so now that I've built up a shit-ton of typical getbig responses I'll go on. 

In 2007 I was booted out of the military for an 'altercation' resulting in an assault charge.  I beat the charge a year later when it was overturned by the same judge on the basis of self-defense.  Then I went back before a military board who upgraded my discharge.  Then I had to apply to have my re-enlistment code changed by another board.  (discharge and RE code are two separate things)

Long story short is that this whole process has taken a long time during which I've built up supervisory experience, college, physical fitness scores, language skills, pilot skills, etc. in prep for going back into the military as an officer.

I just got word that the second board has refused to upgrade my re-enlistment code.  That's it.  Completely shut out.  It was all I've wanted to be for a long time. 
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: The Italian Lifter on April 14, 2015, 11:34:13 AM
you're so young and have learned so many skills you'll find soon something suitable for you.
trust me, I'm old  ;D ;D
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: OneMoreRep on April 14, 2015, 11:34:58 AM
Lol.. some of this shit had me rolling. :D

Okay, so now that I've built up a shit-ton of typical getbig responses I'll go on. 

In 2007 I was booted out of the military for an 'altercation' resulting in an assault charge.  I beat the charge a year later when it was overturned by the same judge on the basis of self-defense.  Then I went back before a military board who upgraded my discharge.  Then I had to apply to have my re-enlistment code changed by another board.  (discharge and RE code are two separate things)

Long story short is that this whole process has taken a long time during which I've built up supervisory experience, college, physical fitness scores, language skills, pilot skills, etc. in prep for going back into the military as an officer.

I just got word that the second board has refused to upgrade my re-enlistment code.  That's it.  Completely shut out.  It was all I've wanted to be for a long time. 

I am sorry to hear that your future plans got spoiled.

Truthfully though, I think they did you a favor.

"1"
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: El Diablo Blanco on April 14, 2015, 11:35:12 AM
Lol.. some of this shit had me rolling. :D

Okay, so now that I've built up a shit-ton of typical getbig responses I'll go on. 

In 2007 I was booted out of the military for an 'altercation' resulting in an assault charge.  I beat the charge a year later when it was overturned by the same judge on the basis of self-defense.  Then I went back before a military board who upgraded my discharge.  Then I had to apply to have my re-enlistment code changed by another board.  (discharge and RE code are two separate things)

Long story short is that this whole process has taken a long time during which I've built up supervisory experience, college, physical fitness scores, language skills, pilot skills, etc. in prep for going back into the military as an officer.

I just got word that the second board has refused to upgrade my re-enlistment code.  That's it.  Completely shut out.  It was all I've wanted to be for a long time. 

Was the assult against a woman or gay?  Just wondering if the military is trying to protect its image.  Seems whatever you did was more severe than you thought.  Our in the real world, do companies know about your dismissal?  Can't you get a similar job as a contractor for one of the military suppliers?
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: SF1900 on April 14, 2015, 11:37:45 AM
Lol.. some of this shit had me rolling. :D

Okay, so now that I've built up a shit-ton of typical getbig responses I'll go on. 

In 2007 I was booted out of the military for an 'altercation' resulting in an assault charge.  I beat the charge a year later when it was overturned by the same judge on the basis of self-defense.  Then I went back before a military board who upgraded my discharge.  Then I had to apply to have my re-enlistment code changed by another board.  (discharge and RE code are two separate things)

Long story short is that this whole process has taken a long time during which I've built up supervisory experience, college, physical fitness scores, language skills, pilot skills, etc. in prep for going back into the military as an officer.

I just got word that the second board has refused to upgrade my re-enlistment code.  That's it.  Completely shut out.  It was all I've wanted to be for a long time. 

I know absolutely nothing about the military........but why were you refused if you were re-enlisted and they upgraded your discharge?
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 14, 2015, 11:40:46 AM
I am sorry to hear that your future plans got spoiled.

Truthfully though, I think they did you a favor.

"1"

I've heard this before and you might be right.  I would have preferred finding out for myself tho.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Tedim on April 14, 2015, 11:41:08 AM
Lol.. some of this shit had me rolling. :D

Okay, so now that I've built up a shit-ton of typical getbig responses I'll go on. 

In 2007 I was booted out of the military for an 'altercation' resulting in an assault charge.  I beat the charge a year later when it was overturned by the same judge on the basis of self-defense.  Then I went back before a military board who upgraded my discharge.  Then I had to apply to have my re-enlistment code changed by another board.  (discharge and RE code are two separate things)

Long story short is that this whole process has taken a long time during which I've built up supervisory experience, college, physical fitness scores, language skills, pilot skills, etc. in prep for going back into the military as an officer.

I just got word that the second board has refused to upgrade my re-enlistment code.  That's it.  Completely shut out.  It was all I've wanted to be for a long time. 

You had a bar to re enlist....so go to another branch,
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 14, 2015, 11:43:37 AM
Was the assult against a woman or gay?  Just wondering if the military is trying to protect its image.  Seems whatever you did was more severe than you thought.  Our in the real world, do companies know about your dismissal?  Can't you get a similar job as a contractor for one of the military suppliers?

Smart man.  I was attacked in a bar by a female service-member (that I was NOT having relations with).  I, uh, 'defended' myself.  The cops didn't care when she (and every one else at the bar) said she started it and it wasn't my fault.  They took me anyway.  

Civilian companies don't really care.  I didn't want to be a 'contractor.'  I actually did want to serve in that capacity before moving on.  
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 14, 2015, 11:45:55 AM
I know absolutely nothing about the military........but why were you refused if you were re-enlisted and they upgraded your discharge?
i didn't re-enlist.  i needed the code to be able to re-enlist or join in any capacity.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 14, 2015, 11:47:22 AM
You had a bar to re enlist....so go to another branch,

tried that.   they all use similar codes and abide by similar guidelines.  i'm shut out of all branches.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: SF1900 on April 14, 2015, 11:52:53 AM
i didn't re-enlist.  i needed the code to be able to re-enlist or join in any capacity.

So if you beat the charge on self-defense, why were you not able to re-enlist?
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: El Diablo Blanco on April 14, 2015, 11:55:33 AM
Smart man.  I was attacked in a bar by a female service-member (that I was NOT having relations with).  I, uh, 'defended' myself.  The cops didn't care when she (and every one else at the bar) said she started it and it wasn't my fault.  They took me anyway. 

Civilian companies don't really care.  I didn't want to be a 'contractor.'  I actually did want to serve in that capacity before moving on. 

Yep, you're stuck in a case of them protecting the shield.  Although women want "equal" rights in the workforce the truth is they want and have more rights than men do.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 14, 2015, 11:56:48 AM
So if you beat the charge on self-defense, why were you not able to re-enlist?

because i had to first get the conviction overturned (done).  then apply to upgrade the discharge itself (done).  then i had to apply to change the RE code as well before i could re-enlist.  the RE code is denied.  cannot enlist without a good discharge AND a good RE code.  

basically the discharge board thought everything that happened to me was unfair.  but the RE code board didn't give a shit and is likely composed of do-nothing federal employees who don't really do a lot of work to begin with.  
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 14, 2015, 11:57:55 AM
Yep, you're stuck in a case of them protecting the shield.  Although women want "equal" rights in the workforce the truth is they want and have more rights than men do.

agreed mostly..  i will say the woman involved was pretty fair about the whole thing and knew she was wrong.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Overload on April 14, 2015, 12:21:25 PM
Go to college and get a degree in something useful.


8)
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 14, 2015, 12:23:41 PM
Go to college and get a degree in something useful.


8)

Mostly done.  Actually in another two years I might have a second degree as well.  Dreams are dreams, man.  I'd rather jump off a cliff than be stuck as network or computer clown no matter how much money they make.  Boring as fuck.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Weedlejuice on April 14, 2015, 12:26:32 PM
Not going into specifics but I found out recently that I've been permanently shut out of my dream career.  Realize this is bitch-mode but I'm downright destroyed over this.  Drinking slightly more than usual.  No motivation for anything.  Really in a dark place now.

Have any of you been dealt such shitty, life-altering news?  How did you deal? 

I'm limited in that I've learned if I don't have a passion for something I usually quit or fail.  And so few things interest me enough to dedicate my life to them.  I do have at least a little time on my side since I'm 31.   

you just deal, or you dont

show us what you're made of
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: SF1900 on April 14, 2015, 12:36:16 PM
Mostly done.  Actually in another two years I might have a second degree as well.  Dreams are dreams, man.  I'd rather jump off a cliff than be stuck as network or computer clown no matter how much money they make.  Boring as fuck.

Become a cop.  :-\
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Knooger on April 14, 2015, 12:37:30 PM
Become a cop.  :-\

He's quick to violence, so he seems qualified.  :D
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: SF1900 on April 14, 2015, 12:49:18 PM
He's quick to violence, so he seems qualified.  :D

ZING!!!  ;D ;D
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Tedim on April 14, 2015, 02:26:28 PM
Call blackwater

Same shit, more pay and you don't have to become an expert with a floor buffer
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Teutonic Knight on April 14, 2015, 02:41:38 PM
asking advice on gb  ;D ;D ;D

Juventus - Monaco (1:0)

See you in Monte Carlo  ;)
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Teutonic Knight on April 14, 2015, 02:42:58 PM
Call blackwater

Same shit, more pay and you don't have to become an expert with a floor buffer

I think they have new name ;)
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 14, 2015, 04:36:34 PM
I think they have new name ;)

actually i did.  xe services or some shit.  i don't have enough combat exp. to be of value.  i was on a boat lol.

funny about the cop thing- it's been brought up before as a backup.  i thought it a reasonable last resort until ferguson and subsequent nightmares.  not so sure anymore.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Teutonic Knight on April 14, 2015, 06:57:20 PM
actually i did.  xe services or some shit.  i don't have enough combat exp. to be of value.  i was on a boat lol.

funny about the cop thing- it's been brought up before as a backup.  i thought it a reasonable last resort until ferguson and subsequent nightmares.  not so sure anymore.

Some chumpy ex-British marine runs agency & tech training in Slovak Republic  ;)
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: The Scott on April 14, 2015, 07:17:30 PM
Just because you try does not mean you will succeed.  And in like manner, just because you failed does not mean you will not eventually succeed.

At a particular job.  In love.  At life.

All the best, young man.

Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 14, 2015, 08:00:16 PM
Just because you try does not mean you will succeed.  And in like manner, just because you failed does not mean you will not eventually succeed.

At a particular job.  In love.  At life.

All the best, young man.



kind words.  'espect.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: SF1900 on April 14, 2015, 08:15:47 PM
Just because If you try does not mean you will not succeed.  And in like manner, just because you will failed does not mean you will not eventually succeed.

In everything. At a particular job.  In love.  At life.

All the best worst, young man.



Fixed for shizzos life.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Primemuscle on April 14, 2015, 11:08:59 PM
Not going into specifics but I found out recently that I've been permanently shut out of my dream career.  Realize this is bitch-mode but I'm downright destroyed over this.  Drinking slightly more than usual.  No motivation for anything.  Really in a dark place now.

Have any of you been dealt such shitty, life-altering news?  How did you deal?  

I'm limited in that I've learned if I don't have a passion for something I usually quit or fail.  And so few things interest me enough to dedicate my life to them.  I do have at least a little time on my side since I'm 31.    

I've had this experience. My suggestion is to move on as quickly as possible. Drinking won't help, I know this first hand. Also, think about seeing a psychologist. Talking to a professional really can help you work through this.

You are lucky being 31 years old. My career got fucked over when I was 52 years old. It is hard to move on at that age. I sucked it up and continued working for the same employer until I retired. This was a hard decision. These days, I'm laughing all the way to the bank with a really nice retirement income. That might not have happened had I told my employer to fuck it and quit.

My position was contracted out to a big corporation. After too many years, my employer realized the error in this. They ended up paying the contractor a lot more than I made and for less product. Unfortunately, they never admitted their mistake and asked me to come back. If they had, I'm not sure I would have taken them up on the offer. I was just that bitter.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: The Italian Lifter on April 15, 2015, 12:39:33 AM
Juventus - Monaco (1:0)

See you in Monte Carlo  ;)

I'll bring the beer  ;D
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: denarii on April 15, 2015, 01:24:08 AM
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Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: nzmusclemonster on April 15, 2015, 03:05:44 AM
Buy a white towel and dance for men
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: d0nny2600 on April 15, 2015, 03:41:50 AM
Buy a white towel and dance for men
This
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: oldtimer1 on April 15, 2015, 06:49:10 AM
I don't know what it's like to become a cop in England but in the US in many areas it's tough to get a job. Here in New Jersey in the US many police departments top out with a base pay of 130K before overtime for a guy with no rank. If they have 5 jobs they are getting 15K in applicants.  In rural states the pay is way lower and getting the job is easier. Many require a college degree, physical test and drug testing. If you try to become a Trooper in Jersey they have over 20K in applicants for 100 jobs. Then the 6 month academy use to have a 50% failure rate.

I think the biggest problem in the US is the myth that college is the road to a career. College should be considered an alternate trade school. If that college diploma doesn't make you employable then you wasted your time getting loans for that degree. You should have a degree that says something like you're a nurse practitioner, pharmacist, teacher,mechanical engineer, or something to that effect. The typical liberal arts degree is only of value to a human resource person hiring you if they have an equally worthless degree. The amount of crazy money they want for tuition is taking the life savings from parents and putting kids in debt for life with the easily obtained loans. The easy loans are the reason why a professor is making over 100K for teaching two classes a week. When all these loans start defaulting and they become hard to get watch colleges reduce tuition.

Many people making serious money today are in the trades. I know someone with a communication degree will look down their pompous nose at guys that work with their hands but they are making serious money. I know a counter top guy making some serious coin. I know a pizza parlor owner who lives in an incredible house. Going to a vocational school can get you employed and earning a check with the potential to go into business for yourself. My 30 something barber is always bragging he makes money than everyone he went to high school with and they all went to college. He's making close to $100 an hour with the tips in his busy trendy shop. Then again he has a reputation and skill that people seek. Most barbers make chump change truth be told. Just using him as an example of someone in the trades.

I retired at 52 with a retirement income that's greater than many married people's dual income but it's a big reduction hit for me so I have to reduce my life style soon and down size my dream house.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: SF1900 on April 15, 2015, 07:30:38 AM
I don't know what it's like to become a cop in England but in the US in many areas it's tough to get a job. Here in New Jersey in the US many police departments top out with a base pay of 130K before overtime for a guy with no rank. If they have 5 jobs they are getting 15K in applicants.  In rural states the pay is way lower and getting the job is easier. Many require a college degree, physical test and drug testing. If you try to become a Trooper in Jersey they have over 20K in applicants for 100 jobs. Then the 6 month academy use to have a 50% failure rate.

I think the biggest problem in the US is the myth that college is the road to a career. College should be considered an alternate trade school. If that college diploma doesn't make you employable then you wasted your time getting loans for that degree. You should have a degree that says something like you're a nurse practitioner, pharmacist, teacher,mechanical engineer, or something to that effect. The typical liberal arts degree is only of value to a human resource person hiring you if they have an equally worthless degree. The amount of crazy money they want for tuition is taking the life savings from parents and putting kids in debt for life with the easily obtained loans. The easy loans are the reason why a professor is making over 100K for teaching two classes a week. When all these loans start defaulting and they become hard to get watch colleges reduce tuition.

Many people making serious money today are in the trades. I know someone with a communication degree will look down their pompous nose at guys that work with their hands but they are making serious money. I know a counter top guy making some serious coin. I know a pizza parlor owner who lives in an incredible house. Going to a vocational school can get you employed and earning a check with the potential to go into business for yourself. My 30 something barber is always bragging he makes money than everyone he went to high school with and they all went to college. He's making close to $100 an hour with the tips in his busy trendy shop. Then again he has a reputation and skill that people seek. Most barbers make chump change truth be told. Just using him as an example of someone in the trades.

I retired at 52 with a retirement income that's greater than many married people's dual income but it's a big reduction hit for me so I have to reduce my life style soon and down size my dream house.

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Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: cephissus on April 15, 2015, 08:38:31 AM
I don't know what it's like to become a cop in England but in the US in many areas it's tough to get a job. Here in New Jersey in the US many police departments top out with a base pay of 130K before overtime for a guy with no rank. If they have 5 jobs they are getting 15K in applicants.  In rural states the pay is way lower and getting the job is easier. Many require a college degree, physical test and drug testing. If you try to become a Trooper in Jersey they have over 20K in applicants for 100 jobs. Then the 6 month academy use to have a 50% failure rate.

I think the biggest problem in the US is the myth that college is the road to a career. College should be considered an alternate trade school. If that college diploma doesn't make you employable then you wasted your time getting loans for that degree. You should have a degree that says something like you're a nurse practitioner, pharmacist, teacher,mechanical engineer, or something to that effect. The typical liberal arts degree is only of value to a human resource person hiring you if they have an equally worthless degree. The amount of crazy money they want for tuition is taking the life savings from parents and putting kids in debt for life with the easily obtained loans. The easy loans are the reason why a professor is making over 100K for teaching two classes a week. When all these loans start defaulting and they become hard to get watch colleges reduce tuition.

Many people making serious money today are in the trades. I know someone with a communication degree will look down their pompous nose at guys that work with their hands but they are making serious money. I know a counter top guy making some serious coin. I know a pizza parlor owner who lives in an incredible house. Going to a vocational school can get you employed and earning a check with the potential to go into business for yourself. My 30 something barber is always bragging he makes money than everyone he went to high school with and they all went to college. He's making close to $100 an hour with the tips in his busy trendy shop. Then again he has a reputation and skill that people seek. Most barbers make chump change truth be told. Just using him as an example of someone in the trades.

I retired at 52 with a retirement income that's greater than many married people's dual income but it's a big reduction hit for me so I have to reduce my life style soon and down size my dream house.

Good post
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Primemuscle on April 15, 2015, 10:08:45 AM
I don't know what it's like to become a cop in England but in the US in many areas it's tough to get a job. Here in New Jersey in the US many police departments top out with a base pay of 130K before overtime for a guy with no rank. If they have 5 jobs they are getting 15K in applicants.  In rural states the pay is way lower and getting the job is easier. Many require a college degree, physical test and drug testing. If you try to become a Trooper in Jersey they have over 20K in applicants for 100 jobs. Then the 6 month academy use to have a 50% failure rate.

I think the biggest problem in the US is the myth that college is the road to a career. College should be considered an alternate trade school. If that college diploma doesn't make you employable then you wasted your time getting loans for that degree. You should have a degree that says something like you're a nurse practitioner, pharmacist, teacher,mechanical engineer, or something to that effect. The typical liberal arts degree is only of value to a human resource person hiring you if they have an equally worthless degree. The amount of crazy money they want for tuition is taking the life savings from parents and putting kids in debt for life with the easily obtained loans. The easy loans are the reason why a professor is making over 100K for teaching two classes a week. When all these loans start defaulting and they become hard to get watch colleges reduce tuition.

Many people making serious money today are in the trades. I know someone with a communication degree will look down their pompous nose at guys that work with their hands but they are making serious money. I know a counter top guy making some serious coin. I know a pizza parlor owner who lives in an incredible house. Going to a vocational school can get you employed and earning a check with the potential to go into business for yourself. My 30 something barber is always bragging he makes money than everyone he went to high school with and they all went to college. He's making close to $100 an hour with the tips in his busy trendy shop. Then again he has a reputation and skill that people seek. Most barbers make chump change truth be told. Just using him as an example of someone in the trades.

I retired at 52 with a retirement income that's greater than many married people's dual income but it's a big reduction hit for me so I have to reduce my life style soon and down size my dream house.

Considering people are living longer and longer, 52 is a very young age at which to retire.  It will be a decade or more before you can collect SS and be on Medicare. Too bad you didn't plan for the reduction and pay off you house before retiring.
Title: Re: Serious career question
Post by: Brixtonbulldog on April 15, 2015, 11:44:56 AM
I don't know what it's like to become a cop in England but in the US in many areas it's tough to get a job. Here in New Jersey in the US many police departments top out with a base pay of 130K before overtime for a guy with no rank. If they have 5 jobs they are getting 15K in applicants.  In rural states the pay is way lower and getting the job is easier. Many require a college degree, physical test and drug testing. If you try to become a Trooper in Jersey they have over 20K in applicants for 100 jobs. Then the 6 month academy use to have a 50% failure rate.

I think the biggest problem in the US is the myth that college is the road to a career. College should be considered an alternate trade school. If that college diploma doesn't make you employable then you wasted your time getting loans for that degree. You should have a degree that says something like you're a nurse practitioner, pharmacist, teacher,mechanical engineer, or something to that effect. The typical liberal arts degree is only of value to a human resource person hiring you if they have an equally worthless degree. The amount of crazy money they want for tuition is taking the life savings from parents and putting kids in debt for life with the easily obtained loans. The easy loans are the reason why a professor is making over 100K for teaching two classes a week. When all these loans start defaulting and they become hard to get watch colleges reduce tuition.

Many people making serious money today are in the trades. I know someone with a communication degree will look down their pompous nose at guys that work with their hands but they are making serious money. I know a counter top guy making some serious coin. I know a pizza parlor owner who lives in an incredible house. Going to a vocational school can get you employed and earning a check with the potential to go into business for yourself. My 30 something barber is always bragging he makes money than everyone he went to high school with and they all went to college. He's making close to $100 an hour with the tips in his busy trendy shop. Then again he has a reputation and skill that people seek. Most barbers make chump change truth be told. Just using him as an example of someone in the trades.

I retired at 52 with a retirement income that's greater than many married people's dual income but it's a big reduction hit for me so I have to reduce my life style soon and down size my dream house.

Don't regard my handle, I'm American.

I know what you're talking about.  I've applied to police academies every couple years on the side of my regular job just to see what it was like and if I could make it in.  In 08 I was turned down for recent drug use.  Nipped that in the bud since then since Maryland has 3-year wait from the last time you've done drugs.  Applied to a county police dept. since they start at $49k but I was competing against hundreds of people for few positions.  Also applied to a federal police unit and passed everything but wasn't selected.  

I always score super high on the tests and somewhere near the top in PT scores.  You're right that it's the competition.  A lot of these guys I'm up against are current cops looking to move around.  I'm not too worried yet because I've always had work but now that my plans have changed I think my attitude towards that career path is warming up.  

Honestly, even if I make it I hope to move on to something else after a few years.  I never really wanted to be a cop for a whole career.  Too much negativity to bring home every day and once I hit 40-45 I'm not gonna want to risk my ass every day.  I don't want to end up on the news.