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So I just had a newborn (our first) and i work and run my own business from 10-9pm everyday!
I stopped training and eating good for the past few months due to work and other reasons, now I'm finding some motivation to get back at it. Last night i got home at 930pm and had a blow up fight about me going to the gym, and i should be there for my 4 week old son. Hes feeding and sleeping, i just wanted to slip out and get a workout in and try to undue some stress.
Your thoughts?
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Maybe sneak out before everyone is awake in the morning, I dunno, some kind of compromise with your other half.
Since you work at home from 10pm-9pm, maybe just go out for an hour on "work related errands" during the day and get it done then.
That is all I can think of.
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Lol exactly
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Not at all. She should do the same - ie: de-stress activity.
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There is a balance but you will never have the same body again. Welcome to being an adult. I remember a certain Mod on here praising Groink for moving across the nation to be closer to his daughter. I was the only one to call him out on this. Any man that continues to take boat loads of steroids and worry about his body the way Groink did never grew up and had no business being a dad.
Its no longer about you...its about your child.
STAY POSITIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Maybe sneak out before everyone is awake in the morning, I dunno, some kind of compromise with your other half.
Since you work at home from 10pm-9pm, maybe just go out for an hour on "work related errands" during the day and get it done then.
That is all I can think of.
Legit advice
Sucky situation because your wife doesn't understand.
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Sounds like you need to get up sharp and train in the morning...
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Maybe sneak out before everyone is awake in the morning, I dunno, some kind of compromise with your other half.
Since you work at home from 10pm-9pm, maybe just go out for an hour on "work related errands" during the day and get it done then.
That is all I can think of.
Good advice, I hate morning workouts and i hate the mornings, i shall give it a shot and try to switch my routine up. I prefer late night workouts. But doing so is causing a lot of tension between us. Its not that i dont want to see her at night or the baby but the gym is somewhere i just escape on my own with my thoughts and I enjoy it.
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There is a balance but you will never have the same body again. Welcome to being an adult. I remember a certain Mod on here praising Groink for moving across the nation to be closer to his daughter. I was the only one to call him out on this. Any man that continues to take boat loads of steroids and worry about his body the way Groink did never grew up and had no business being a dad.
Its no longer about you...its about your child.
STAY POSITIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is true and I agree. But one my main reasons why i want to get backinto the gym is for my son, so i can be fit and healthy for him growing up. I plan on training him to become a hockey player like myself so i dont want to be a fat old bastard that cant skate around with my son.
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Legit advice
Sucky situation because your wife doesn't understand.
No she doesnt understand, and a lot of people dont.
The gym for me like im sure a lot of you is a place of sanctuary. I feel better about myself, I relief stress, I can get away, I can refocus. etc etc etc
She doesnt get it. Especially right now with me not trianing in months, and my business not doing the greatest i need a recharge and like always throughout the years, getting back into the gym and on a regimen has allowed me to refocus and find some internal motivation and vision.
Instead, I get home and it turns into a blow up, and i lose my temper and i look like the bad guy.
I hate fighting, and negative shit, but i also hate being told what to do and not living my life. Welcome to marriage i suppose.
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Sounds like you need to get up sharp and train in the morning...
Its looking like the best option currently.
oh I forgot to mention i play hockey twice a week in the evenings, so this is her angle. I play hockey I dont need to go to the gym as well.
You cant win!
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So I just had a newborn (our first) and i work and run my own business from 10-9pm everyday!
I stopped training and eating good for the past few months due to work and other reasons, now I'm finding some motivation to get back at it. Last night i got home at 930pm and had a blow up fight about me going to the gym, and i should be there for my 4 week old son. Hes feeding and sleeping, i just wanted to slip out and get a workout in and try to undue some stress.
Your thoughts?
I'm sure she feels the need to get out once in a while as well. You're at work for 11hrs a day and she's taking care of the baby probably for longer. You guys need to somehow create a schedule that works for both you. Maybe she can get out for awhile before or after you go to work? There is also going to be a time where you two will also need a night out away from everything. What about a family member coming in and watching the kid for a few hours a week...like a grandparent?
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I'm sure she feels the need to get out once in a while as well. You're at work for 11hrs a day and she's taking care of the baby probably for longer. You guys need to somehow create a schedule that works for both you. Maybe she can get out for awhile before or after you go to work? There is also going to be a time where you two will also need a night out away from everything. What about a family member coming in and watching the kid for a few hours a week...like a grandparent?
Shes nursing and its our first child so its all fresh. Im sure after 6 months or so well start doing that.
She gets out everyday, shes out with her sister almost everyday with the baby.
She does more then me.
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I'm sure she feels the need to get out once in a while as well. You're at work for 11hrs a day and she's taking care of the baby probably for longer. You guys need to somehow create a schedule that works for both you. Maybe she can get out for awhile before or after you go to work? There is also going to be a time where you two will also need a night out away from everything. What about a family member coming in and watching the kid for a few hours a week...like a grandparent?
Correct me if I am wrong, but you used to train at Bill Pearl's back in the day and he was infamous for his very early workouts which started because of his own obligations with family and business right?
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I guess she prefers your dad bod..
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I guess she prefers your dad bod..
Haha, funny thing is, she says she prefers me "bigger like this". I feel fat and out of shape.
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another option is if you have a house and can afford it, build a home gym, like get one of those free form cable setups(with the dual stacks plus a set of power block type dumbells and an adjustable bench and you can train most days at home.
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another option is if you have a house and can afford it, build a home gym, like get one of those free form cable setups(with the dual stacks plus a set of power block type dumbells and an adjustable bench and you can train most days at home.
(http://www.askthetrainer.com/image-files/free-motion-dual-cable-cross-commercial.jpg)
Good option, but i prefer to workout at a gym. I cant get into home workouts
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Haha, funny thing is, she says she prefers me "bigger like this". I feel fat and out of shape.
Listen, you provide an income by making long working days. It should be fair when she allows you to train at least 3 times per week. Why not encourage her to workout on 3 different days? This allows both of you to take some stress off which is better for both of you and your relationship.
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Training should come before everything.
NO LIMITS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1111111111111111111111
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So I just had a newborn (our first) and i work and run my own business from 10-9pm everyday!
I stopped training and eating good for the past few months due to work and other reasons, now I'm finding some motivation to get back at it. Last night i got home at 930pm and had a blow up fight about me going to the gym, and i should be there for my 4 week old son. Hes feeding and sleeping, i just wanted to slip out and get a workout in and try to undue some stress.
Your thoughts?
Being a stay at home mom she signed up to be there at all times for your son. For people saying she needs to get out and do this and that, she should of thought of that before taking on the responsibility of a child when her husband works as much as he does and she doesn't work at all.
You going to the gym isn't the same as not being there for your family.
As you said she's out with her sister having a blast while you work 11 hour days. She is being very selfish in this situation and not showing the qualities of a good life partner.
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Being a stay at home mom she signed up to be there at all times for your son. For people saying she needs to get out and do this and that, she should of thought of that before taking on the responsibility of a child when her husband works as much as he does and she doesn't work at all.
You going to the gym isn't the same as not being there for your family.
As you said she's out with her sister having a blast while you work 11 hour days. She is being very selfish in this situation and not showing the qualities of a good life partner.
She runs her own business as well, but right now is taking leave to take care of our son. So she provides as well.
She just feels we arent spending time together and i should put the gym thing on the back burner.
Ill figure it out. Im going to give the morning thing a try.
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Train at 5 AM and your problem is solved............or any other time that she can`t bitch about.
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Training should come before everything.
NO LIMITS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1111111111111111111111
Antoine Vaillant used to say that the pump is the cure for everything. He might have a good point..
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Antoine Vaillant used to say that the pump is the cure for everything. He might have a good point..
He still is saying it!
:)
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Antoine Vaillant used to say that the pump is the cure for everything. He might have a good point..
DAMN RIGHT MY BROTHER IN IRON!! :)
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She runs her own business as well, but right now is taking leave to take care of our son. So she provides as well.
She just feels we arent spending time together and i should put the gym thing on the back burner.
Ill figure it out. Im going to give the morning thing a try.
I don't know man the whole thing just seems foreign to me compared to my relationship situation.
I'm working on average 10-12 a day every day and if I only have 2 free hours and it's a gym day, my wife is making sure I end up there and will pin my glutes after otherwise I will skip and miss my pin.
Any goals I have she supports 100% regardless of what it takes from her, completely selfless. Getting with her has turned my life around completely for the better, so when I see these posts I just wonder why grown men put up with this shit lol
But to each their own
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so you play hockey twice a week and then you wanna hit the gym at least a couple of times per week as well i assume
might wanna throw in a few bowling nights, some dart and a few nights drinking with the guys there as well.
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so you play hockey twice a week and then you wanna hit the gym at least a couple of times per week as well i assume
might wanna throw in a few bowling nights, some dart and a few nights drinking with the guys there as well.
haha :) cant get enough of that bowling!
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No she doesnt understand, and a lot of people dont.
The gym for me like im sure a lot of you is a place of sanctuary. I feel better about myself, I relief stress, I can get away, I can refocus. etc etc etc
She doesnt get it. Especially right now with me not trianing in months, and my business not doing the greatest i need a recharge and like always throughout the years, getting back into the gym and on a regimen has allowed me to refocus and find some internal motivation and vision.
Instead, I get home and it turns into a blow up, and i lose my temper and i look like the bad guy.
I hate fighting, and negative shit, but i also hate being told what to do and not living my life. Welcome to marriage i suppose.
Dude you are escaping the situation. When you have kids " me time " is over. You should have realised this before having kids. Accept your faith its the only way to survive. " me time " will be back in a couple of years. Except if you have more kids like me (3) or 6 like (taffin) then it will never return.
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He still is saying it!
:)
Show her an Antoine video, that might end the gym debate
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I don't know man the whole thing just seems foreign to me compared to my relationship situation.
I'm working on average 10-12 a day every day and if I only have 2 free hours and it's a gym day, my wife is making sure I end up there and will pin my glutes after otherwise I will skip and miss my pin.
Any goals I have she supports 100% regardless of what it takes from her, completely selfless. Getting with her has turned my life around completely for the better, so when I see these posts I just wonder why grown men put up with this shit lol
But to each their own
I agree and I use to think this way, but have been conformed to the phrase "happy wife, happy life". It wasnt always this way, but as Im sure you've heard, it happens slowly overtime.
When I put my foot down it causes strife and i refuse to talk to her....marriage, its a beautiful thing.
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Show her an Antoine video, that might end the gym debate
BINGO
/end thread/
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I'm sure she feels the need to get out once in a while as well. You're at work for 11hrs a day and she's taking care of the baby probably for longer. You guys need to somehow create a schedule that works for both you. Maybe she can get out for awhile before or after you go to work? There is also going to be a time where you two will also need a night out away from everything. What about a family member coming in and watching the kid for a few hours a week...like a grandparent?
This is the best post ever posted by coach. Listen to this man.
Balance it out with your partner zo see can also have free time.
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Dude you are escaping the situation. When you have kids " me time " is over. You should have realised this before having kids. Accept your faith its the only way to survive. " me time " will be back in a couple of years. Except if you have more kids like me (3) or 6 like (taffin) then it will never return.
Haha, theres truth in all of this I respect it.
Ill figure out a way to bring back my glorious physique!
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Show her an Antoine video, that might end the gym debate
haha....if only it were that easy. "But hun, Antoine said so"
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Haha, theres truth in all of this I respect it.
Ill figure out a way to bring back my glorious physique!
Lol I painted a to grim picture. Read the coach'es advice. He is spot on. Follow his advice and all will work out just fine.
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Lol I painted a to grim picture. Read the coach'es advice. He is spot on. Follow his advice and all will work out just fine.
Cheers
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Training should come before everything.
NO LIMITS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1111111111111111111111
How did that work out for you bro ?? ;D
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Likely, she feels out of shape and like she looks like shit and the last thing she wants is you getting back into shape. Fucking women HATE that more than anything. Unless she gets her shit in order, she's gonna be on your ass like a harpie every time you try to get back into it. Be warned.
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Dude you are escaping the situation. When you have kids " me time " is over. You should have realised this before having kids. Accept your faith its the only way to survive. " me time " will be back in a couple of years. Except if you have more kids like me (3) or 6 like (taffin) then it will never return.
Man that's pathetic. I understand that children drastically change your life, but I believe that one can only be happy & healthy on the long run when there's a good balance between family, work and time to reload your battery. I see too many stressed and unhappy parents around me who are out of shape.
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So I just had a newborn (our first) and i work and run my own business from 10-9pm everyday!
I stopped training and eating good for the past few months due to work and other reasons, now I'm finding some motivation to get back at it. Last night i got home at 930pm and had a blow up fight about me going to the gym, and i should be there for my 4 week old son. Hes feeding and sleeping, i just wanted to slip out and get a workout in and try to undue some stress.
Your thoughts?
Everyone does better with some personal time off. Provide your partner with some relief and she should do the same for you.
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yes youre selfish.
you had a kid less than a month ago, im pretty sure you wont transform into a blob just because you dont hit the gym and you can probably skip the hockey as well.
to even cause stress and having heated arguments about it is a sign of selfishness and immaturity and lack of understanding of your wives needs.
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Level setting expectations is key.
If you get in the mindset that the first 5-6 months are going to be full out baby mode, it's easier to cope when you miss out on stuff. Get yourself around the fact that it's all about the baby and the mother for that time. Get your push ups , sit ups or running in while you can, but don't expect miracles. Sleep depravity and overall new stresses you're not used to will make tempers short.
After that time, things will normalize a bit, and you'll get back to going to the gym.
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yes youre selfish.
you had a kid less than a month ago, im pretty sure you wont transform into a blob just because you dont hit the gym and you can probably skip the hockey as well.
to even cause stress and having heated arguments about it is a sign of selfishness and immaturity and lack of understanding of your wives needs.
I think you're incorrect but i respect your view. It's a lot more complex then just that.
Life is short, people need to do things for themselves too.
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Level setting expectations is key.
If you get in the mindset that the first 5-6 months are going to be full out baby mode, it's easier to cope when you miss out on stuff. Get yourself around the fact that it's all about the baby and the mother for that time. Get your push ups , sit ups or running in while you can, but don't expect miracles. Sleep depravity and overall new stresses you're not used to will make tempers short.
After that time, things will normalize a bit, and you'll get back to going to the gym.
Thanks dude.
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Man that's pathetic. I understand that children drastically change your life, but I believe that one can only be happy & healthy on the long run when there's a good balance between family, work and time to reload your battery. I see too many stressed and unhappy parents around me who are out of shape.
You are right sir. All is well and more balanced now. The wife was sick all true 2016. It was a rough year.
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I think you're incorrect but i respect your view. It's a lot more complex then just that.
Life is short, people need to do things for themselves too.
yes your wife need to be away playing hockey too a few times a week...
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I don't know man the whole thing just seems foreign to me compared to my relationship situation.
I'm working on average 10-12 a day every day and if I only have 2 free hours and it's a gym day, my wife is making sure I end up there and will pin my glutes after otherwise I will skip and miss my pin.
Any goals I have she supports 100% regardless of what it takes from her, completely selfless. Getting with her has turned my life around completely for the better, so when I see these posts I just wonder why grown men put up with this shit lol
But to each their own
This is a normal situation, each partner stands for the other one.
To the OP,wtf,you work 10-12 hours so you deserve your moments of reward. Working out would make you feel better and even earn better money,make your wife understand that,she doesn't need an always-pissed husband or depressed one,she needs a calm and happy husband to tolerate her shit and the kid's shit.
Also,she says she preffers you being fatter,that is absolute bullshit and nothing but a lie. My ex-wife managed to fuck my life,she also said the same thing and i was actually stupid enough to quit gym for her. After 4 years we divorced because we couldn't do it right ,last months she would always say i look like shit(which i actually do now according to getbig standards) . Popped some trenballonie and back to gym,never quit what you like/love for a woman, she loves you she will not try to change you .Period.
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wife and husband needs both to be out doing what the hell they wanna do.
just let some relative take care of the kid, thats what they do in the ghettos.
and as we know, the divorce rate in the ghettos are practically zero.
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You are right sir. All is well and more balanced now. The wife was sick all true 2016. It was a rough year.
I'm sorry to hear about your wife, good she's in better spirits now.
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Lol exactly
Here is the real deal:
Your health should come before your family. I am not saying spend 7 days per week in the gym. However, your overall health should become your family. Why? Because if you're 6 feet in the ground then you're no good to your wife or your child. Your overall health will dictate every aspect of your life, i.e., whether you're able to go to work, play with your son, etc. You should be allowed some time to care for your health.
This is also why your spouse has to come before your child. Your marriage is the cornerstone of your child's future. Parents cannot fathom putting their spouse before their child. But its necessary.
Too bad your wife is not looking at it like this.
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wife and husband needs both to be out doing what the hell they wanna do.
just let some relative take care of the kid, thats what they do in the ghettos.
and as we know, the divorce rate in the ghettos are practically zero.
You have some weird ideas about society
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Here is the real deal:
Your health should come before your family. I am not saying spend 7 days per week in the gym. However, your overall health should become your family. Why? Because if you're 6 feet in the ground then you're no good to your wife or your child. Your overall health will dictate every aspect of your life, i.e., whether you're able to go to work, play with your son, etc. You should be allowed some time to care for your health.
This is also why your spouse has to come before your child. Your marriage is the cornerstone of your child's future. Parents cannot fathom putting their spouse before their child. But its necessary.
Too bad your wife is not looking at it like this.
in other words: stay off both hockey and the gym.
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yes your wife need to be away playing hockey too a few times a week...
If she played hockey i'd support it.
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This is a normal situation, each partner stands for the other one.
To the OP,wtf,you work 10-12 hours so you deserve your moments of reward. Working out would make you feel better and even earn better money,make your wife understand that,she doesn't need an always-pissed husband or depressed one,she needs a calm and happy husband to tolerate her shit and the kid's shit.
Also,she says she preffers you being fatter,that is absolute bullshit and nothing but a lie. My ex-wife managed to fuck my life,she also said the same thing and i was actually stupid enough to quit gym for her. After 4 years we divorced because we couldn't do it right ,last months she would always say i look like shit(which i actually do now according to getbig standards) . Popped some trenballonie and back to gym,never quit what you like/love for a woman, she loves you she will not try to change you .Period.
Amen, sorry to hear about your past. Glad you're rockin again.
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wife and husband needs both to be out doing what the hell they wanna do.
just let some relative take care of the kid, thats what they do in the ghettos.
and as we know, the divorce rate in the ghettos are practically zero.
Your opinions just lost credibility, this isnt a joke.
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Here is the real deal:
Your health should come before your family. I am not saying spend 7 days per week in the gym. However, your overall health should become your family. Why? Because if you're 6 feet in the ground then you're no good to your wife or your child. Your overall health will dictate every aspect of your life, i.e., whether you're able to go to work, play with your son, etc. You should be allowed some time to care for your health.
This is also why your spouse has to come before your child. Your marriage is the cornerstone of your child's future. Parents cannot fathom putting their spouse before their child. But its necessary.
Too bad your wife is not looking at it like this.
She's been through 9 months of pregnancy and now not working and having a kid latched onto her tit all day, hopefully the dust settles and she'll see more clearly. Appreciate your response.
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I'm sorry to hear about your wife, good she's in better spirits now.
Thanx brah. Some meds can do miracles I can tell you that.
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feel sorry for any woman who's married to a moron who rather play hockey and go to the gym than be there for her right after she delivered his first child.
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"but i need time for myself!!"
"im gonna be fat if i dont train for a week!"
sounds to me she doesnt have one kid, she has two.
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feel sorry for any woman who's married to a moron who rather play hockey and go to the gym than be there for her right after she delivered his first child.
In this case you're the moron by drawing the wrong conclusions.
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In this case you're the moron by drawing the wrong conclusions.
what conclusions
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feel sorry for any woman who's married to a moron who rather play hockey and go to the gym than be there for her right after she delivered his first child.
You're making a fool of yourself. Being a troll is the opposite of a moron i suppose.
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You're making a fool of yourself. Being a troll is the opposite of a moron i suppose.
maybe i will see more clearly one day.
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maybe i will see more clearly one day.
A woman in your life might help
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A woman in your life might help
a woman that one day will see things more clearly.
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a woman that one day will see things more clearly.
she might dump you on that day for a normal guy
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she might dump you on that day for a normal guy
hahah that was good.
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Some of the advice offered here is worth consideration if it fits your wife and your needs. My opinion, which is based on 52 years of marriage, is that each of you should be willing to compromise, respecting each others hopes and needs. Both of you should be prepared to make sacrifices on behalf of your child.
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she might dump you on that day for a normal guy
not a chance, i leave early in the morning and when i get home from work/gym/hockey she's sleeping
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Some of the advice offered here is worth consideration if it fits your wife and your needs. My opinion, which is based on 52 years of marriage, is that each of you should be willing to compromise, respecting each others hopes and needs. Each of you should be prepared to make sacrifices on behalf of your child.
I realize this is the correct way of thinking, Im just frustrated from last night and wanted to vent a little.
Thanks for your response, congrats to your 52 years of marriage. Wish you many more.
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not a chance, i leave early in the morning and when i get home from work/gym/hockey she's sleeping
That was also good! War of the minds! Get him plates!
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not a chance, i leave early in the morning and when i get home from work/gym/hockey she's sleeping
Meanwhile she had a good fuck from your single neighbor
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Meanwhile she had a good fuck from your single neighbor
she can have my leftovers
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Meanwhile she had a good fuck from your single neighbor
hahaha!
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she can have my leftovers
ew you fucked your neighbor Steve?
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she can have my leftovers
She had a long day, taking care of the kids and the household, finished with a good fuck in every possible hole, so why would she be in the mood for that?
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The best thing you can do is logically is buy a home gym, I know you said you don't like it but seems to be the only solution, it will keep you from fighting with your wife, you can't beat the convenience factor, you'll be in shape, I see no downside. Some of my best workouts were in my home gym, not to mention the time it takes to train a bodypart is a joke... you can get any part done within 30-45 mins easy.
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The best thing you can do is logically is buy a home gym, I know you said you don't like it but seems to be the only solution, it will keep you from fighting with your wife, you can't beat the convenience factor, you'll be in shape, I see no downside. Some of my best workouts were in my home gym, not to mention the time it takes to train a bodypart is a joke... you can get any part done within 30-45 mins easy.
Practically this can be done, but how many stay motivated and focused on the long run? A good gym offers more variety, better equipment and less distractions like kids, wife, phones, animals, etc. Adjusting machines, dumbbells, etc becomes annoying.
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gym isnt the problem. him being a child is.
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Practically this can be done, but how many stay motivated and focused on the long run? A good gym offers more variety, better equipment and less distractions like kids, wife, phones, animals, etc. Adjusting machines, dumbbells, etc becomes annoying.
Although a home gym may not be ideal, it worked for my wife and me when our children were young. You do need room to set it up though.
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Practically this can be done, but how many stay motivated and focused on the long run? A good gym offers more variety, better equipment and less distractions like kids, wife, phones, animals, etc. Adjusting machines, dumbbells, etc becomes annoying.
Motivation is on you, it's in your mind, if you want something you'll make it happen, driving a car and walking in to a different building other then your home has nothing to do with motivation and a lot of the time theres more distractions at your gym then in your own home, waiting for equipment, people taking selfies and shit. In your own gym, play your own music, no need for fancy under armor gear, fuck train with your shirt off, blast some music, put on some Mitsuro Okabe bodybuilding videos, get after it!
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dont forget he needs to play hockey too.
twice a week, even though he just got a kid.
so he need to set that up in the house as well. and get to fit the whole team.
lemme know when you worked that one out. because the hockey and the gym is the problem here ::)
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dont forget he needs to play hockey too.
twice a week, even though he just got a kid.
so he need to set that up in the house as well. and get to fit the whole team.
lemme know when you worked that one out. because the hockey and the gym is the problem here ::)
In a word....compromise.
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Motivation is on you, it's in your mind, if you want something you'll make it happen, driving a car and walking in to a different building other then your home has nothing to do with motivation and a lot of the time theres more distractions at your gym then in your own home, waiting for equipment, people taking selfies and shit. In your own gym, play your own music, no need for fancy under armor gear, fuck train with your shirt off, blast some music, put on some Mitsuro Okabe bodybuilding videos, get after it!
Mindset is everything, no doubt. Both options have their pros & cons. We're all wired differently, so for some training at home works better. The same goes for effective motivation tricks.
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In a word....compromise.
how about no compromise
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how about no compromise
Remain single
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Remain single
im pretty sure 2 grown people who get married and have a kid can decide to spend their time together as a family.
it has been done before.
in fact nearly everywhere in the world, people do just that. without going to play hockey or hit the gym.
i wonder why that is.
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You're also packing it on too much. You want hockey AND the gym. Pick one and be happy with it for the mean time, especially until your baby is older and sleeping more regularly.
You can definitely hit up the gym 3x per week and still be a family man.
In fact, its actually healthy if the both of you get some time away from parenting--once you get back from the gym, you take care of the baby and she has some alone time.
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Ratherbebig reminds me of NaturalMan with slightly more softness to his tone.
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So I just had a newborn (our first) and i work and run my own business from 10-9pm everyday!
I stopped training and eating good for the past few months due to work and other reasons, now I'm finding some motivation to get back at it. Last night i got home at 930pm and had a blow up fight about me going to the gym, and i should be there for my 4 week old son. Hes feeding and sleeping, i just wanted to slip out and get a workout in and try to undue some stress.
Your thoughts?
Not sure, don't care, GFY, HTH.
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Pics of the wife?
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I thought about this for quite a while.
And I've realised.
You fucked up JCL, you fucked up.
You stopped training.
Because I'm thinking, "why, at this stage of a relationship would a woman not already know that gym workouts are mandatory to me?".
And she wouldn't. They are and I would never display behaviour that indicated they were not.
But if I took time off training and eating well in front of her for a few months, I've shown that they aren't mandatory.
So to answer your question - are you selfish? No, you're not, but you fucked up royally by not getting to the gym at least once a week during those months and now your claims of needing it are tenuous - because you've already proven that you do not.
Also, yes, home gyms suck dick, but they are better than not going. Also, if you grunt and act like a douche enough, perhaps she will be encouraged to release you from your bonds.
As a "remain single" guy, I honestly find your words to be nightmarish. I would never willingly let any woman have that level of control of how I spend my time.
Be there for your 4 week old son ::) Fark, I bet I'd say retarded shit like that if I had one, but from the outside, that sounds ridiculous.
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I thought about this for quite a while.
And I've realised.
You fucked up JCL, you fucked up.
You stopped training.
Because I'm thinking, "why, at this stage of a relationship would a woman not already know that gym workouts are mandatory to me?".
And she wouldn't. They are and I would never display behaviour that indicated they were not.
But if I took time off training and eating well in front of her for a few months, I've shown that they aren't mandatory.
So to answer your question - are you selfish? No, you're not, but you fucked up royally by not getting to the gym at least once a week during those months and now your claims of needing it are tenuous - because you've already proven that you do not.
Also, yes, home gyms suck dick, but they are better than not going. Also, if you grunt and act like a douche enough, perhaps she will be encouraged to release you from your bonds.
As a "remain single" guy, I honestly find your words to be nightmarish. I would never willingly let any woman have that level of control of how I spend my time.
Be there for your 4 week old son ::) Fark, I bet I'd say retarded shit like that if I had one, but from the outside, that sounds ridiculous.
It does sound ridiculous, because it sounds like JCL is there for his 4 week old son. Him wanting to go to the gym does not in any way signify that he is not there for his son--I assume his wife is just trying to guilt trip him into staying home.
But at this stage of the "game," he really needs to find some way to compromise with her.
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Your wife is selfish and unreasonable.
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The freedom of not having children is awesome
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The freedom of not having children is awesome
X1000
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one arm pushups ,
barbell squats at home
why the sympathy thread
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I don't care if your marriage fails or not but imo you should just train at home. You get training, she gets you at home. That's a good compromise. Everyone gets some of what they want. And you still go out for 'hockey' ::) so it's not like she's got you locked in the basement.
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one arm pushups ,
barbell squats at home
why the sympathy thread
Amen!
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I don't care if your marriage fails or not but imo you should just train at home. You get training, she gets you at home. That's a good compromise. Everyone gets some of what they want. And you still go out for 'hockey' ::) so it's not like she's got you locked in the basement.
lol, truth.
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Not selfish, but stupid.
Your first mistake was getting married.
Your second mistake was having a kid.
That woman now owns you.
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Your first mistake was getting married.
Your second mistake was having a kid.
That woman now owns you.
Yawn
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Yawn
You will not be yawning after divorce court.
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You will not be yawning after divorce court.
You poor thing, must of had a rough childhood. I feel your pain so did I, except I look at things on the positive side.
Carry on.
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You poor thing, must of had a rough childhood. I feel your pain so did I, except I look at things on the positive side.
Carry on.
Ah yes... the idealistic white knight. Probably early 20's. You'll learn the hard way.
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Ah yes... the idealistic white knight. Probably early 20's. You'll learn the hard way.
smh.
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smh.
Seems like a some of the guys on here have a hard time finding good women and therefore believe that it is the same for all men.
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To be honest, your priorities will shift. I am self employed and had to curtail my workouts. I have three kids and my youngest is two and life seems to finally be getting back to normal. I'd suggest getting up at 4:30 and going to the gym at five. It sucks and you may not get used to it, but it's the only shot you have.
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To be honest, your priorities will shift. I am self employed and had to curtail my workouts. I have three kids and my youngest is two and life seems to finally be getting back to normal. I'd suggest getting up at 4:30 and going to the gym at five. It sucks and you may not get used to it, but it's the only shot you have.
Once things settle, home gym is ideal, but there's still time to go do your thing.
Most of the time, though, he'll want to be with his kids anyway.
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So I just had a newborn (our first) and i work and run my own business from 10-9pm everyday!
I stopped training and eating good for the past few months due to work and other reasons, now I'm finding some motivation to get back at it. Last night i got home at 930pm and had a blow up fight about me going to the gym, and i should be there for my 4 week old son. Hes feeding and sleeping, i just wanted to slip out and get a workout in and try to undue some stress.
Your thoughts?
Our opinions on your personal life don't matter.
What are you gonna do? Print up these replies and show her?
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Our opinions on your personal life don't matter.
What are you gonna do? Print up these replies and show her?
JCL should show his wife a few of your posts. She would be thoroughly impressed by them. She would leave JCL for you, then his problems would be solved.
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Our opinions on your personal life don't matter.
What are you gonna do? Print up these replies and show her?
Women are much worse. They (ab)use their social circles to bitch and complain, so basically you're fucked once they find out.
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Had the same problem when my daughter was born....so now I go every Fri sat and Sunday night....yeah my wife became very spiteful and bitter about it but wtf your not hitting the bars drinking,your doing something for your health!!
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Up the tren.
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Too late for this:
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Dang, those pics are huge.
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lol @ print this thread and show her
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I could always gauge the mood of my girlfriend by how long it took her to reply to my text messages. If everything is fine, she replies to my texts right away. When she's ticked at me for whatever reason, she'll intentionally wait at least an hour to reply back. And of course, picking up the phone to call her to find out what's going on, she'll let it go to voicemail. Rather predictable.
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lol @ print this thread and show her
It should be a mandatory for women anyway to read Getbig.