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I've been dating this single mom for about 8 months now. She is tall, gorgeous and in amazing shape. Used to model for magazines and now works in advertisement. We get along super well and the sex is outstanding. Problem is she has this 11 year who is the most punchable shit in the fucking world. She caters to his every demand and I can see him manipulating the shit out of her. Will claim shit like he's scared to sleep so he can stay up late and total cock blocks me. The kid cries at a drop of a hat. Cries at everything. I just want to kick him in the fucking ass but again she caters to his bullshit and babies him. I dread daily seeing her because I cannot stand being in the same place as this shit. Luckily he is a fortnite fiend and will play it all day but then every other day will have some serious meltdown playing so she bans him from playing for a day or two so now he ends up being a wedge between us during that time.
I really like this woman but I don't know how long I can deal with her twat of a son. For those of you saying shit like you'd never want to raise another man's kid etc... I don't care about that shit. His dad is a fucking loser asshole but I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
How many of you guys have dated single moms and had to deal with this shit. It's crappy because I can see myself being with her for years but I don't think I can deal with her kid for that long.
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Make her choose...
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I've dated single moms and even lived with two of them. Just dating (and fucking) single moms is great and the sex is probably the best you will ever have. DO NOT LIVE WITH THEM and [[[DO NOT EVER EVER EVER MARRY ONE!!!]]]
Cohabiting with them is bad news.
1) The sex drops off at least 25% as soon as you move in together. After 6 months another 25% and after a year or so no sex at all or very infrequently.
2) You will always be the outsider. She and her children are a family and they will see you simply as the guy banging their mom.
3) She will expect you to pay for dinners, birthdays, Christmas presents, vacations, etc, for them even thought they aren't your kids. You will also be required to go to graduations, sporting events, band concerts, etc, even though they will always want pics with their mom and dad and not you.
4) In many states you could be required to pay support for her and them later especially if they don't already have a dad paying child support. In some states now simply cohabiting with a woman OR just dating her for years and going on vacation with her could force you to pay palimony.
It's best to just get the sex until she pressures you to move in or get married and then cut her loose. Make sure you don't get her pregnant.
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Should of stuck with the 6 month rule. Problem solved. ;)
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I've done this as well.
Humble Narcy did a decent summary.
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You will never be remotely as important to her as her child - and you shouldn’t. If you can’t deal with the situation - don’t be like the very child you describe - be a man and leave. If you stick around and do something like Jo said above and “make her choose” - that would make you a piece of sht.
Before I was married I fckd a shit ton of women - many with children. When one would try to introduce me to their kid right away - Id ask her what the fck was wrong with her? She doesn’t KNOW me - she just knows I make her cum like a pyscho. These were all smoking hot chicks (okay let’s be real - a few were kind of plain) - but sex is so insanely easy to get with as beautiful a woman as you want - that why would you take even the slim chance of screwing up a kids life?
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I've done this as well.
Humble Narcy did a decent summary.
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Was it with her? :P
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It fucking sucks because she checks every box for what I would want for my perfect woman. Humble nailed a few points dead on. I won't worry about getting her preggo because I got by boys ties years ago. I will never ever marry again. The financial damage from my marriage was too much.
He's right though about her kid. It frustrates me when she seems to always be making plans to take him on vacation or do things and I never seem to be in those plans. She'll say shit like she wants to go to spain to see her sister and kids for 2 weeks and vacation but never includes me. Plans always seem to exist without me in them.
She'll get frustrated with her kid a lot, especially lately with COVID and him being home all day but she won't show her frustration to him but then I need to deal with the bullshit. I'm on a fucking roller coaster daily. Half the day I just want to bail and run and the other half, things seem okay and I'm good with it. Living day to day like this sucks but I really care about her and it would hurt like hell to leave her and not have her in my life. I should have ran the moment I knew she had a kid but I got suckered in by her looks.
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Just keep banging her until she puts the pressure on to move in and just bolt or do like Someparts says and enact the 6 month rule.
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You will never be remotely as important to her as her child - and you shouldn’t. If you can’t deal with the situation - don’t be like the very child you describe - be a man and leave. If you stick around and do something like Jo said above and “make her choose” - that would make you a piece of sht.
Before I was married I fckd a shit ton of women - many with children. When one would try to introduce me to their kid right away - Id ask her what the fck was wrong with her? She doesn’t KNOW me - she just knows I make her cum like a pyscho. These were all smoking hot chicks (okay let’s be real - a few were kind of plain) - but sex is so insanely easy to get with as beautiful a woman as you want - that why would you take even the slim chance of screwing up a kids life?
I'm not going to make her choose. That's not even a choice. Shit, if she would abandon her kid for me, I wouldn't want to be with a bitch like that. I do feel like an outsider all the time. I feel like I'm a huge part of her life but at the same time an insignificant part of it. Leaving is always an option and the longer I stay with her, the harder it's going to be and it's already super hard now to do it.
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It fucking sucks because she checks every box for what I would want for my perfect woman. Humble nailed a few points dead on. I won't worry about getting her preggo because I got by boys ties years ago. I will never ever marry again. The financial damage from my marriage was too much.
He's right though about her kid. It frustrates me when she seems to always be making plans to take him on vacation or do things and I never seem to be in those plans. She'll say shit like she wants to go to spain to see her sister and kids for 2 weeks and vacation but never includes me. Plans always seem to exist without me in them.
She'll get frustrated with her kid a lot, especially lately with COVID and him being home all day but she won't show her frustration to him but then I need to deal with the bullshit. I'm on a fucking roller coaster daily. Half the day I just want to bail and run and the other half, things seem okay and I'm good with it. Living day to day like this sucks but I really care about her and it would hurt like hell to leave her and not have her in my life. I should have ran the moment I knew she had a kid but I got suckered in by her looks.
Humble was DEAD on imo!
Splendiferous summary of peace.
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I'm not going to make her choose. That's not even a choice. Shit, if she would abandon her kid for me, I wouldn't want to be with a bitch like that. I do feel like an outsider all the time. I feel like I'm a huge part of her life but at the same time an insignificant part of it. Leaving is always an option and the longer I stay with her, the harder it's going to be and it's already super hard now to do it.
A woman's hierarchy of values:
a) herself
b) her kids
c) her "career" ::) actually job
d) her friends
e) her family (mom, dad, sister, brother, cousins, etc)
f) her dog
g) her hobbies or interests
h) her "me time"
i) you (if there's any time left, usually there isn't)
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Well from the looks of it.. the kid is 11 and is a brat.. Kid will remain with her more than likely well past the 18 year old mark... bail.
It won't end well my friend.
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I've been dating this single mom for about 8 months now. She is tall, gorgeous and in amazing shape. Used to model for magazines and now works in advertisement. We get along super well and the sex is outstanding. Problem is she has this 11 year who is the most punchable shit in the fucking world. She caters to his every demand and I can see him manipulating the shit out of her. Will claim shit like he's scared to sleep so he can stay up late and total cock blocks me. The kid cries at a drop of a hat. Cries at everything. I just want to kick him in the fucking ass but again she caters to his bullshit and babies him. I dread daily seeing her because I cannot stand being in the same place as this shit. Luckily he is a fortnite fiend and will play it all day but then every other day will have some serious meltdown playing so she bans him from playing for a day or two so now he ends up being a wedge between us during that time.
I really like this woman but I don't know how long I can deal with her twat of a son. For those of you saying shit like you'd never want to raise another man's kid etc... I don't care about that shit. His dad is a fucking loser asshole but I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
How many of you guys have dated single moms and had to deal with this shit. It's crappy because I can see myself being with her for years but I don't think I can deal with her kid for that long.
You are a fucking loser
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I'm not going to make her choose. That's not even a choice. Shit, if she would abandon her kid for me, I wouldn't want to be with a bitch like that. I do feel like an outsider all the time. I feel like I'm a huge part of her life but at the same time an insignificant part of it. Leaving is always an option and the longer I stay with her, the harder it's going to be and it's already super hard now to do it.
I get it dude... just ALWAYS remember. For every woman - there is some man somewhere - who is absolutely sick and tired of her shit!!!! Just enjoy for a while - be cool when you exit - and periodically you can probably have her again.
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Well from the looks of it.. the kid is 11 and is a brat.. Kid will remain with her more than likely well past the 18 year old mark... bail.
It won't end well my friend.
Shit - nowadays the kids either never leave or come back!!! Thankfully mine are all successful - but I was very clear. Home is now a place they VISIT. Of course I would always help if one was in need - but it’s abusive to a human to allow them to live at home as an adult. Parents doing that care about their own feelings MUCH more than they care about their children.
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A woman's hierarchy of values:
a) herself
b) her kids
c) her "career" ::) actually job
d) her friends
e) her family (mom, dad, sister, brother, cousins, etc)
f) her dog
g) her hobbies or interests
h) her "me time"
i) you (if there's any time left, usually there isn't)
You're so spot on it's fucking scary.
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You are a fucking loser
I feel it at times.
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I feel it at times.
Don't feel like a loser. You are getting laid which in today's world puts you in the minority. You haven't made any major blunder yet. Just stay smart.
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Run away, (very far away) when others kids are involved.
I hate all kids except my own. (Now adults).
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I'm not going to make her choose. That's not even a choice. Shit, if she would abandon her kid for me, I wouldn't want to be with a bitch like that. I do feel like an outsider all the time. I feel like I'm a huge part of her life but at the same time an insignificant part of it. Leaving is always an option and the longer I stay with her, the harder it's going to be and it's already super hard now to do it.
I realize you hate the kid but have you tried to talking to him? Like a man to man type convo? I realize he's only 11 but trying to empower him to act more mature and be more self sufficient can possibly work with some kids. It worked for me with a single mom's daughter. Her kid behaved similar to what you described and she was 9 years old. I'm more patient than most so I sat and spoke with her and told her that she's starting to grow up and that she didn't need to call upon her mother for every little thing. I told her to that she should take pride in being more independent and how rewarding that could be. It did improve her behavior and it worked out well.
Does the kid's father ever take him away for a weekend or two each month?
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Cucks raise other people’s children.
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Cucks raise other people’s children.
He should eat the child and give her another one
Lion amongst men..
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He should eat the child and give her another one
Lion amongst men..
Woman are much more uptight about their children getting eaten than lionesses.
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He should eat the child and give her another one
Lion amongst men..
That was probably a lot funnier in your head.
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EL, Invite her to read all the remarks you offered above .... and then if she agrees with ya ... continue to proceed full steam ahead.
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That was probably a lot funnier in your head.
Funny?
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Woman are much more uptight about their children getting eaten than lionesses.
lionesses are pretty upset, they just hide it well...
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EL, Invite her to read all the remarks you offered above .... and then if she agrees with ya ... continue to proceed full steam ahead.
Yeah.. have her read our comments, and tell her we are learned doctors, lawyers, etc.
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What about dating a single dad?
You can't be sexist in today's society.
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What about dating a single dad?
You can't be sexist in today's society.
The kids hate them as well. The wicked stepmother is a recurring character in fairy tales.
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I realize you hate the kid but have you tried to talking to him? Like a man to man type convo? I realize he's only 11 but trying to empower him to act more mature and be more self sufficient can possibly work with some kids. It worked for me with a single mom's daughter. Her kid behaved similar to what you described and she was 9 years old. I'm more patient than most so I sat and spoke with her and told her that she's starting to grow up and that she didn't need to call upon her mother for every little thing. I told her to that she should take pride in being more independent and how rewarding that could be. It did improve her behavior and it worked out well.
Does the kid's father ever take him away for a weekend or two each month?
I don't hate the kid but I don't have patience for that shit. I already raised two kids and they're doing amazing and I don't want to raise another, especially one who obviously has emotional issues because of what an ass his dad is.
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I don't hate the kid but I don't have patience for that shit. I already raised two kids and they're doing amazing and I don't want to raise another, especially one who obviously has emotional issues because of what an ass his dad is.
Well, there ya go. You aren't in it for the long haul anyway so why worry?
She doesn't check all the boxes as you say, that ass is just checking the main one.
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I don't hate the kid but I don't have patience for that shit. I already raised two kids and they're doing amazing and I don't want to raise another, especially one who obviously has emotional issues because of what an ass his dad is.
That's powerful. It's a natural instinct to take other children, not born from you, and cast them away. As much as you like the woman, the child comes as a group packag.
Take it or leave it.
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Bottom line is that her son is her family and you're not. No way to separate a Mom from her kid. You take the package or you don't. She will dump you soon as she sees you want no involvement with her kid. No real Mom would have a long term relationship with a guy who hates her son. If she does then she has ulterior motives of finding a financial provider.
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Just ignore the little cunt, no need to let a spoiled little brat ruin things for you, he’s probably just acting out and if the little shit doesn't get a rise and realises you are going nowhere despite his best efforts he will likely give it up and move on to something else.
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Just ignore the little cunt, no need to let a spoiled little brat ruin things for you, he’s probably just acting out and if the little shit doesn't get a rise and realises you are going nowhere despite his best efforts he will likely give it up and move on to something else.
Like you're chest hair?
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Problem is she has this 11 year who is the most punchable shit in the fucking world. She caters to his every demand and I can see him manipulating the shit out of her. Will claim shit like he's scared to sleep so he can stay up late and total cock blocks me. The kid cries at a drop of a hat. Cries at everything. I just want to kick him in the fucking ass but again she caters to his bullshit and babies him. I dread daily seeing her because I cannot stand being in the same place as this shit.
Check his PC and see if he posts here under the name "Jago".
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watch and learn.
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I've been dating this single mom for about 8 months now. She is tall, gorgeous and in amazing shape. Used to model for magazines and now works in advertisement. We get along super well and the sex is outstanding. Problem is she has this 11 year who is the most punchable shit in the fucking world. She caters to his every demand and I can see him manipulating the shit out of her. Will claim shit like he's scared to sleep so he can stay up late and total cock blocks me. The kid cries at a drop of a hat. Cries at everything. I just want to kick him in the fucking ass but again she caters to his bullshit and babies him. I dread daily seeing her because I cannot stand being in the same place as this shit. Luckily he is a fortnite fiend and will play it all day but then every other day will have some serious meltdown playing so she bans him from playing for a day or two so now he ends up being a wedge between us during that time.
I really like this woman but I don't know how long I can deal with her twat of a son. For those of you saying shit like you'd never want to raise another man's kid etc... I don't care about that shit. His dad is a fucking loser asshole but I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
How many of you guys have dated single moms and had to deal with this shit. It's crappy because I can see myself being with her for years but I don't think I can deal with her kid for that long.
Are you a fully functional adult male?
If so - it's your job to get on with the kid. That's how it works. It's not the kids job.
With stuff like this
kid - "you aren't my father"
you - "well obviously, I'm actually fucking here, you little turd"
Ain't that fucking hard.
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Cucks raise other people’s children.
When was the last time you got laid without it being a commercial transaction?
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We all might be able to offer better "advices" if you post up some nudes of her. ;)
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I don't hate the kid but I don't have patience for that shit. I already raised two kids and they're doing amazing and I don't want to raise another, especially one who obviously has emotional issues because of what an ass his dad is.
I wasn't suggesting that you 'raise' the child, dude. Just have a heart to heart with the kid and talk to him for a few minutes to get some things established with him.
Not all single moms moving forward are going to expect you to financially help take care of their kid, especially if they're established with a good career. Some can be very prideful when it comes to that kind of thing. I had single moms tell me multiple times, 'thank you, but it's not necessary' if I every offered to pay for anything modest on behalf of the kid. But then again, most of the single mom's I dated had the kid's father for a weekend or two out of each month. It was perfect.
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I’m dating the perfect woman for me but.....
Bro seriously leave her, if you can’t deal with how she is raising her kid it will NEVER get better only worse.
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That was probably a lot funnier in your head.
That sht happens to me a lot.... ;D
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I've dated single moms and even lived with two of them. Just dating (and fucking) single moms is great and the sex is probably the best you will ever have. DO NOT LIVE WITH THEM and [[[DO NOT EVER EVER EVER MARRY ONE!!!]]]
Cohabiting with them is bad news.
1) The sex drops off at least 25% as soon as you move in together. After 6 months another 25% and after a year or so no sex at all or very infrequently.
2) You will always be the outsider. She and her children are a family and they will see you simply as the guy banging their mom.
3) She will expect you to pay for dinners, birthdays, Christmas presents, vacations, etc, for them even thought they aren't your kids. You will also be required to go to graduations, sporting events, band concerts, etc, even though they will always want pics with their mom and dad and not you.
4) In many states you could be required to pay support for her and them later especially if they don't already have a dad paying child support. In some states now simply cohabiting with a woman OR just dating her for years and going on vacation with her could force you to pay palimony.
It's best to just get the sex until she pressures you to move in or get married and then cut her loose. Make sure you don't get her pregnant.
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I've been playing the single moms game for years now, there aren't many options once you get older anyway. Since i have absolutely no interest in getting married or having kids, it's just fun to meet women and have great sex for a few months, then bail. If they are good enough to stick around longer that's fine, but i live a very independent lifestyle and women hate it with a passion. I am the most happy when i'm not dating someone, i just don't really need that attachment, but it's fun to date and enjoy the journey. I've found that single moms can be great lovers and handle relationships more seriously than others, but the emotional baggage is always there. If they have a brat kid i typically just walk at that point, i try not to meet their kid anyway but sometimes it gets to that point.
Earlier this year before the Covid nonsense started i was dating a single mom, she was pretty hot and very nice to me. She had a 3 year old and had been recently divorced, her ex was still in the picture to help with the child so i was thankful for that. We dated for about 3 months and she was a freak, she had no boundaries in bed and didn't expect me to play father, at first. I only met her daughter once. But after a while she started hinting at the "lets take my daughter here" or "vacation with my daughter". I just couldn't do it, i knew it was all downhill from there and i had zero interest in having a serious relationship with her because she was turning into an emotional train wreck. Serious ex-husband issues were surfacing, no thanks. It was hard to bail on her because if you removed the baggage from the child and ex, she was a 9 out of 10 for what i want in a women. We got along great and i don't think we ever argued about anything. She had a good job and took good care of me as a man, not just in bed but she was always willing to just help me with random things and chill. Didn't cause much drama and since we only saw each other on the weekends we never got tired of each other. But the kid and her emotional baggage with her ex was way too much for me to handle. I knew inside she wanted to be with her ex, but he had cheated on her and moved on to another chick. Oddly enough her sister is married to a guy i work with, that's how we met. The guy said she's dating her ex again. Glad i dodged that bullet. ;D
The best sex you will ever have is with a recently divorced chick, but be prepared for a wild ride. ;D
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I never fucked a single mom. Have always had thoughts that it was just too much trouble and mess.
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I never fucked a single mom. Have always had thoughts that it was just too much trouble and mess.
I didn't until i hit late 30's. Not much to choose from after that. ;D
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I never fucked a single mom. Have always had thoughts that it was just too much trouble and mess.
It's pretty funny when you hit your mid 30's.
Every now and again, you'll hear from a friend that he's met the ideal famala - no kids, perky titties, great sense of humor, pretty, good job, roof over her head...
Only with age does the first thing to enter your head become "dude, you just haven't found out what the fuck's up with her yet".
Single momma at 35 beats "still single at 35" every God damn time.
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When was the last time you got laid without it being a commercial transaction?
Cucks post on the internet about getting laid.
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Only with age does the first thing to enter your head become "dude, you just haven't found out what the fuck's up with her yet".
I had plenty of experiences like this. But hey, if the sex is great you can deal with the crazy ones for a few months before dumping them! :D
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I suggest you run for the hills before you do something really stupid. The sex isn't worth it. The brat kid ain't going anywhere and he obviously hates your guts.
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I wasn't suggesting that you 'raise' the child, dude. Just have a heart to heart with the kid and talk to him for a few minutes to get some things established with him.
Not all single moms moving forward are going to expect you to financially help take care of their kid, especially if they're established with a good career. Some can be very prideful when it comes to that kind of thing. I had single moms tell me multiple times, 'thank you, but it's not necessary' if I every offered to pay for anything modest on behalf of the kid. But then again, most of the single mom's I dated had the kid's father for a weekend or two out of each month. It was perfect.
she's that way with her money. She doesn't want money from me and she freely spends on me. She wants the kid's dad to pay for him and not me but he is a deadbeat and will spend money on everything except on the kid. With COVID, the kid being home all day from school, the frustration with her life is tremendous and sadly I'm the one who gets to deal with the drama. She argues with the dad why he can't buy the kid some shoes, gets mad and I deal with it. It's never ending. like Thisisoverload posted above. Take away the kid and she is my perfect match but it's hard to deal with someone elses.
For those saying he hates me and is acting out because of me are wrong. The kid is a shit because of his dad. Again, I'm the one here who has to deal with the constant meltdowns. I've tried to be there, console the kid etc... some days it's okay and other days it's just a pain. Who needs all of this extra work in a relationship?
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I've been playing the single moms game for years now, there aren't many options once you get older anyway. Since i have absolutely no interest in getting married or having kids, it's just fun to meet women and have great sex for a few months, then bail. If they are good enough to stick around longer that's fine, but i live a very independent lifestyle and women hate it with a passion. I am the most happy when i'm not dating someone, i just don't really need that attachment, but it's fun to date and enjoy the journey. I've found that single moms can be great lovers and handle relationships more seriously than others, but the emotional baggage is always there. If they have a brat kid i typically just walk at that point, i try not to meet their kid anyway but sometimes it gets to that point.
Earlier this year before the Covid nonsense started i was dating a single mom, she was pretty hot and very nice to me. She had a 3 year old and had been recently divorced, her ex was still in the picture to help with the child so i was thankful for that. We dated for about 3 months and she was a freak, she had no boundaries in bed and didn't expect me to play father, at first. I only met her daughter once. But after a while she started hinting at the "lets take my daughter here" or "vacation with my daughter". I just couldn't do it, i knew it was all downhill from there and i had zero interest in having a serious relationship with her because she was turning into an emotional train wreck. Serious ex-husband issues were surfacing, no thanks. It was hard to bail on her because if you removed the baggage from the child and ex, she was a 9 out of 10 for what i want in a women. We got along great and i don't think we ever argued about anything. She had a good job and took good care of me as a man, not just in bed but she was always willing to just help me with random things and chill. Didn't cause much drama and since we only saw each other on the weekends we never got tired of each other. But the kid and her emotional baggage with her ex was way too much for me to handle. I knew inside she wanted to be with her ex, but he had cheated on her and moved on to another chick. Oddly enough her sister is married to a guy i work with, that's how we met. The guy said she's dating her ex again. Glad i dodged that bullet. ;D
The best sex you will ever have is with a recently divorced chick, but be prepared for a wild ride. ;D
I always felt sorry for the kids because of the fact that their parents screwed up and that the mom was an emotional train wreck. I also found in time that usually the fathers of the children were actually great guys and she was the sole reason for the divorce. Don't believe the stories about how terrible the ex husband was unless you have proof. Just remember that in time you will be the asshole ex.
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she's that way with her money. She doesn't want money from me and she freely spends on me. She wants the kid's dad to pay for him and not me but he is a deadbeat and will spend money on everything except on the kid. With COVID, the kid being home all day from school, the frustration with her life is tremendous and sadly I'm the one who gets to deal with the drama. She argues with the dad why he can't buy the kid some shoes, gets mad and I deal with it. It's never ending. like Thisisoverload posted above. Take away the kid and she is my perfect match but it's hard to deal with someone elses.
For those saying he hates me and is acting out because of me are wrong. The kid is a shit because of his dad. Again, I'm the one here who has to deal with the constant meltdowns. I've tried to be there, console the kid etc... some days it's okay and other days it's just a pain. Who needs all of this extra work in a relationship?
Your rationalizing because of the sex, bro. Think with your brain, not your penis.
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I always felt sorry for the kids because of the fact that their parents screwed up and that the mom was an emotional train wreck. I also found in time that usually the fathers of the children were actually great guys and she was the sole reason for the divorce. Don't believe the stories about how terrible the ex husband was unless you have proof. Just remember that in time you will be the asshole ex.
Great point.
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What about dating a single dad?
You just go for it dude - hope you find the right man for you :)
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Why are you going over there everyday and spending what sounds like all day there? If this woman were to ask other females for advice they'd say she was dating a loser and to cut him out of her life, and I'd doubt they'd be wrong.
You need to limit the time you spend with her. Every other day for a few hours and maybe a whole day on the weekend. Stick to dinner/movie and banging. Also get your own fucking life!
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I always felt sorry for the kids because of the fact that their parents screwed up and that the mom was an emotional train wreck. I also found in time that usually the fathers of the children were actually great guys and she was the sole reason for the divorce. Don't believe the stories about how terrible the ex husband was unless you have proof. Just remember that in time you will be the asshole ex.
Truth. I've dated my share of divorced or "separated" women. I always listen to them bash their ex but after you date them for 3-4 months you are thinking maybe to call the guy and have a beer. ;D IME it takes about 3 months to see the true colors of most women, but some much earlier.
I have seen first hand a few real asshole ex-husbands that were abusive, but IMO most marriages are ruined by women, either directly or indirectly.
I'm bored at work so i'll share a gem of a relationship that i had. Only time in my life that i've feared for my life from a chick.
5 years or so ago i worked with this Puerto Rican lady, she was smoking hot but had gained about 20-30 pounds of "extra" weight. She was on her third husband, no kids; we worked for the same company and i saw her almost daily. She was super introverted and never spoke to anyone, but i always made it a point to try and talk to her if i could; to the point that it was obvious i liked her. Well i didn't want to push the boundaries too hard so i just kind of let it pass. A year goes by and the company restructures, lots of layoffs and we move to a new building. Guess who's my neighbor now? Within like a week she's telling me everything about her and we end up going to lunch. A few months go by and she starts talking about her husband like he's Satan himself. Time continues to go by, we go to lunch once every few weeks. Then she shows up to work without a wedding ring; i'm like "game time"! I start flirting with her pretty hard, i can tell she likes it. I'm trying to be cool because i really didn't want to hook up because of the work thing, but i had been wanting to bang this chick for like 3 years.
I invite her our for happy hour, we talk and drink for a while. It's pouring rain so i offer to get her car for her in the parking lot. She hops in the passenger side while i'm pulling up to the covered entrance and before i can even pull away from the front entrance of the place she's got her tongue down my throat. We end up banging in the back of her SUV for a while, she begs me to stick it up her ass so i do, but damn it was dirty. Her SUV had to have smelled like buttsex for a week. Anyway, we end up "dating" for about 2 months while she's "separated" from her husband. She is what they make porn movies about, still to this day i doubt i'll experience the crazy ass sex we had on a daily basis. However, within 4 weeks i found out she is literally insane, like deep mental problems. The most selfish person i've ever met. Has insane anger issues, breaks shit all the time, threw stuff at me multiple times over trivial shit. Definitely Puerto Rican! I meet her sister and she tells me all these horrible things about her; i'm not sure why, maybe just to protect me. We split up, she stalks me for about a month. Posts all these lies about me on social media, which was funny because our relationship was hidden because she was still married; just made her look really bad. Two months later she quits her job, just walks out one day. So i'm thinking i'm safe? Nah, over the next 3-4 months my truck was vandalized several times, my cell phone number apparently got distributed to some weird website and i had people randomly calling me like 200 times a day. Someone shot my freaking cat with a pellet gun twice and tried to poison my dog. I think she knew i liked my pets more than her.
Long story short, she got back with her husband and found a new job. Funniest thing was i was at the BBQ Cookoff for the Rodeo in Houston about a year after all this happen. I'm standing outside a tent with some friends drinking and hear this lady screaming bloody murder and breaking shit in the tent across from ours. Here she comes stomping out of the tent and ends up walking right towards me, it was really crowded. She gets about 10 feet from me and i wave to her while smiling. The rage that entered her face will be burned into my mind forever, if looks could kill. She stomps off the other direction, i see her husband exit the tent covered in something, i think she dumped a plate of food on him. I look at him and wave, his eyes quickly move away. He goes chasing after her as she's stomping down the lot cussing like a maniac in Spanish.
The part that messed me up was that her husband was a very nice guy. While i was dating her i asked why she married him and she told me without hesitation "security, well you know money. I don't have to lift a finger and he pays for everything". He spoiled her rotten and put up with all her shit. Apparently this was her MO, after we split her sister still texts me a few times. Apparently that's what she does, marries guys for money and cheats on them. At least i got the freaky sex and barely spent a dime on her. ;D
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Dont worry about the kid he will be chasing girls all night before you know it. Accidentally lose a few bucks in the bathroom here and there, turn the tv extra loud so you cant hear the front door closing and you're home free.
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I always felt sorry for the kids because of the fact that their parents screwed up and that the mom was an emotional train wreck. I also found in time that usually the fathers of the children were actually great guys and she was the sole reason for the divorce. Don't believe the stories about how terrible the ex husband was unless you have proof. Just remember that in time you will be the asshole ex.
So true. The woman will blame the man 100% but it turns out they are more than the reason things didn’t work out. Women won’t admit they were the cause. Their shit don’t stink but everyone else’s does.
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I believe it was quicker blade who said “Why should I pay for somebody else’s cum shot?”
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Yeah unfortunately your already too far in at 8 months it's all downhill from here.
6 months to a year after you move in will be very near to or no sex, and by then you will be REQUIRED to attend all kid activities as the pseudo dad. Just skip it, onto the next one.
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A woman's hierarchy of values:
a) herself
b) her kids
c) her "career" ::) actually job
d) her friends
e) her family (mom, dad, sister, brother, cousins, etc)
f) her dog
g) her hobbies or interests
h) her "me time"
i) you (if there's any time left, usually there isn't)
This is the absolute best summary you will ever get, anywhere. Been there done that - and got the T-shirt.
Most women become extremely good at manipulating a guy's emotions while maintaining the hierarchy. I have found that the best approach is to stay arm's length emotionally. Then you own their minds.
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This is the absolute best summary you will ever get, anywhere. Been there done that - and got the T-shirt.
Most women become extremely good at manipulating a guy's emotions while maintaining the hierarchy. I have found that the best approach is to stay arm's length emotionally. Then you own their minds.
He’s dead on. I can’t count how many days where she focuses on the kid, then work, then talks to her brother and sister , then her dumb ass girlfriends then needs a glass of wine while she “unwinds” on the couch. If she is not asleep by 10:00 I might get to fuck her otherwise I’m the last on the priority list for that day.
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This is the absolute best summary you will ever get, anywhere. Been there done that - and got the T-shirt.
Most women become extremely good at manipulating a guy's emotions while maintaining the hierarchy. I have found that the best approach is to stay arm's length emotionally. Then you own their minds.
Good advice. Women get away with so much these days. Usually people put their best self forward in the beginning of a relationship, but women straight out act the part to get what they want. Devious creatures who are hard to trust. Damn that pussy.
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the only way a sane person would deal with the things you described is if she paid you. paid you a salary
paid for your rent or mortgage
bought you lavish gifts
if that isnt being done why are you with a single mom with a kid?
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He’s dead on. I can’t count how many days where she focuses on the kid, then work, then talks to her brother and sister , then her dumb ass girlfriends then needs a glass of wine while she “unwinds” on the couch. If she is not asleep by 10:00 I might get to fuck her otherwise I’m the last on the priority list for that day.
lol - you are experiencing exactly the same situation I went through some years ago. The women must buy a manual on how to play a guy. The woman I was involved with was also smoking hot-which of course blinded me to the obvious signs for a long time. My gut was telling me that it was a dead end journey but I ignored it. Eventually tho I decided "fuck this bitch" and just cut it off with her, cold turkey. She freaked. That was 3 years ago and I moved on.
She still contacts me several times a month saying how much she misses me, haha. I told her the ship sailed a long time ago- and that is driving her insane. Karma.
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Good advice. Women get away with so much these days. Usually people put their best self forward in the beginning of a relationship, but women straight out act the part to get what they want. Devious creatures who are hard to trust. Damn that pussy.
Agree 100%
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Yeah unfortunately your already too far in at 8 months it's all downhill from here.
6 months to a year after you move in will be very near to or no sex, and by then you will be REQUIRED to attend all kid activities as the pseudo dad. Just skip it, onto the next one.
Far too often, if you actually marry, you will be considered "dad" only when it is time to write a check or build/fix things. If you attempt to even guide (much less discipline) any of the children, you will be reminded by those kids AND their mother that you are not their father.
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Primemuscle is sitting at home reading this thread wondering why the OP isn’t hitting on the 11 year old son.
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I always felt sorry for the kids because of the fact that their parents screwed up and that the mom was an emotional train wreck. I also found in time that usually the fathers of the children were actually great guys and she was the sole reason for the divorce. Don't believe the stories about how terrible the ex husband was unless you have proof. Just remember that in time you will be the asshole ex.
Absolutely right. She’s also playing the white knight card and wants to hear sympathy. Soon you’ll be the ex and she’ll be talking shit about you.
Female with a kid. Don’t be a stupid beta provider. Bang it and move on.
You’re attached though, get it through your head, you’re not her priority and never will be.
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Primemuscle is sitting at home reading this thread wondering why the OP isn’t hitting on the 11 year old son.
;D gold medal for W.S.
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He’s dead on. I can’t count how many days where she focuses on the kid, then work, then talks to her brother and sister , then her dumb ass girlfriends then needs a glass of wine while she “unwinds” on the couch. If she is not asleep by 10:00 I might get to fuck her otherwise I’m the last on the priority list for that day.
Then she is far from ideal.
I didn't read instructions. Just went with my gut and gave her The Speech in the first week. I'm not dating your children at all. They will need your attention and I won't ever get in the way of that but I will never contribute a dollar or a minute of my time. If you have an emergency and need someone to look after them for an hour, I'm going to say no. This is a hard limit. They are not my problem, and I'm telling you that right away so there aren't any misunderstandings later. I don't want to waste your time or my own. If you want a man who will help with them, it isn't me.
That's a totally fair position to take. If I had kids, I wouldn't expect a woman I'm dating to raise them or tolerate misbehavior from them on a regular and ongoing basis.
Imo you're undervaluing yourself. You can do better than being someone's bottom priority. If that's really how she acts, she is giving you all the information you require to know how she will continue to treat you in the future. If you choose that, you can't blame her. She's a known quantity. It's on you. If you don't want that to be your life, be awesome and complimentary as you regretfully but resolutely take your leave of her.
It would take much less than what you have described for me to adios. Even just "might get some pussy." Unacceptable. Bye bye.
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Dating single moms is a form of cuckoldry. Just enjoy the sex and dump her when u get bored or find something better. This is sadly the worst time to be in a LTR especially with a single mom. And it’s going to get even worse thanks to SM and feminist agendas.
Read “The rational male”. This book should be mandatory for every guy when he starts dating. It’s never too late to read it though. Might shed some light on intersexual dynamics.
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Idk if you need a book. Just be fair and expect fair. Make an effort to earn her every day and look for evidence of the same. Everyone is entitled to an occasional crappy mood but do not ignore red flags. Have no communication landmines - be able to discuss anything without it causing bad feelings. Be sexually compatible, kinks and all, and fuck her brains out frequently. Don't waste time on a jalopy of a relationship.
Geez you could write a book about this stuff.
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dated dozens of single moms.
typically they either have their shit together, or they absolutely don't.
honestly, single moms tend to be way bigger hoes than girls without kids, that shit bothers me way more than the kids do usually.
if youre gonna date a single mom long term, you gotta like the kid as well. i mean like the kid as if it's your own, or else it ain't gonna work and youre just gonna resent the kid for getting in the way of you 69ing in peace and fucking the girl on full volume in any room you want 7 nights a week and walking around the house naked afterwards.
sounds shallow, but it's an honest concern. i've dealt with it in the past, and thank god ive gotta dime peace with no kids now so i can at least enjoy the next 8-9months.
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Lots of great stories in this thread. We are getting back to our prime instincts as a culture which isn't good but it's just the way it is. Society's laws, rules, ethics and common decency have broken down to the point where all a person can expect anymore is to get laid. There will be very few successful marriages in the future, mostly from people very orthodox conservative religions. We aren't living in our grandfather's day anymore.
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I've posted about this here many times.
Dating/banging a single mom?... great.
Live with or marry her?... NEVER.
I will also confirm this from my own experience... single moms usually give you great sex.
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Primemuscle is sitting at home reading this thread wondering why the OP isn’t hitting on the 11 year old son.
Lol truth
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Single moms are the worst.
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Single moms are the worst.
In relationships but the best in bed.
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I dated a beautiful Nicaraguan women about 8 years ago. She was single with two daughters and shared custody with the father. The father would have the daughters for two weekends out of every month. I never made an attempt to be around her when she had her daughters, just on the weekends that she didn't have them.
Man, could she fuck really well. Best sex I ever had and could suck the chrome off a trailer hitch. The girl would do whatever necessary to please her man sexually. And wow, could she really cook well.
But as many people already know, latina women have the WORST tempers. She would look for ways to start an argument when we weren't fucking. So I knew the relationship was going to be short lived. It lasted about two months before I got the fuck out of dodge.
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If she’s “the one” might as well knock her up and close the deal. She will put all the attention on the baby pissing off the bastard child making her,you,baby numero uno. If this suggestion even remotely scares you or you question it get out now while you still have some of your prime years left to land a childless hottie.
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I haven't read the whole thread but I once dated a single mom. Unless she's financially very stable her first and foremost concern is her kid. She's looking for
someone to take care of her and her child or children. That's not bad in and of itself
but it's something to keep in mind. Then there's the inherent conflict with the ex. Assuming he's a real father that cares about his kids you are going to have to be dealing with him as long as you are with her. Also, you have to decide right away
what kind of authority you want to have over the kids. The older they are the harder
it is.
Life is all about trade offs. There are a lot more, a hell of a lot more, when you get involved with a single mother. You just have to determine if it's worth it. If she's worth it. But if anything, wait until the honeymoon period ends and the initial thrill has calmed down. The deeper you go in the harder it is to pull out. And I mean that in every way.
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If she’s “the one” might as well knock her up and close the deal. She will put all the attention on the baby pissing off the bastard child making her,you,baby numero uno. If this suggestion even remotely scares you or you question it get out now while you still have some of your prime years left to land a childless hottie.
Why not have 3 kids with her? The bastard child will be outnumbered.
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I dated a beautiful Nicaraguan women about 8 years ago. She was single with two daughters and shared custody with the father. The father would have the daughters for two weekends out of every month. I never made an attempt to be around her when she had her daughters, just on the weekends that she didn't have them.
Man, could she fuck really well. Best sex I ever had and could suck the chrome off a trailer hitch. The girl would do whatever necessary to please her man sexually. And wow, could she really cook well.
But as many people already know, latina women have the WORST tempers. She would look for ways to start an argument when we weren't fucking. So I knew the relationship was going to be short lived. It lasted about two months before I got the fuck out of dodge.
I've heard this a lot about latinas.
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I've heard this a lot about latinas.
Which part?
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dated dozens of single moms.
typically they either have their shit together, or they absolutely don't.
honestly, single moms tend to be way bigger hoes than girls without kids, that shit bothers me way more than the kids do usually.
if youre gonna date a single mom long term, you gotta like the kid as well. i mean like the kid as if it's your own, or else it ain't gonna work and youre just gonna resent the kid for getting in the way of you 69ing in peace and fucking the girl on full volume in any room you want 7 nights a week and walking around the house naked afterwards.
sounds shallow, but it's an honest concern. i've dealt with it in the past, and thank god ive gotta dime peace with no kids now so i can at least enjoy the next 8-9months.
Dear ESF.
You have also previously gifted us with the description of the extensive training you provide to a women in order to make her able to deep throat the full length of your member. However necessary such training might be, I can assume it would be disadvantageous to have a single mom's child walk in on such an act.
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Dating single moms is a form of cuckoldry. Just enjoy the sex and dump her when u get bored or find something better. This is sadly the worst time to be in a LTR especially with a single mom. And it’s going to get even worse thanks to SM and feminist agendas.
Read “The rational male”. This book should be mandatory for every guy when he starts dating. It’s never too late to read it though. Might shed some light on intersexual dynamics.
Yes. The book is available online PDF too.
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Yes. The book is available online PDF too.
https://1.droppdf.com/files/8Zupo/the-rational-male-tomassi-rollo.pdf
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Problem is she has this 11 year who is the most punchable shit in the fucking world. She caters to his every demand and I can see him manipulating the shit out of her. Will claim shit like he's scared to sleep so he can stay up late and total cock blocks me. The kid cries at a drop of a hat. Cries at everything. Luckily he is a fortnite fiend and will play it all day but then every other day will have some serious meltdown playing so she bans him from playing for a day or two so now he ends up being a wedge between us during that time.
Sounds like this kid might be special-needs (ADHD, Autistic, Hypersensitivity issues etc). If that's the case, YOU WILL NOT WIN this one. Those kids are needy for good reason my friend. Best bet is to respectfully walk away from the relationship if you aren't able to assimilate to these circumstances. Because unless she is a dirty whore, she will never pick you over him or demand much change from him. Especially since his father walked away, she most likely feels very guilty for him being fatherless and you possibly making her pick between you and him (even if indirectly) will only make her despise you.
Best of luck.
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Which part?
He must mean the bad temper part. Latinas will fuck you dry, especially if you're a white guy. But the flip side is the emotions and temper tantrums that are a pain in the ass to deal with. The latina I was with would let you put your dick wherever you wanted to if you gave her enough tequila...
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He must mean the bad temper part. Latinas will fuck you dry, especially if you're a white guy. But the flip side is the emotions and temper tantrums that are a pain in the ass to deal with. The latina I was with would let you put your dick wherever you wanted to if you gave her enough tequila...
They don't call Latinas "spicy" for nothing. Their bad/hot temper is directly correlated to their sexual prowess. Higher testosterone perhaps?
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If she’s “the one” might as well knock her up and close the deal. She will put all the attention on the baby pissing off the bastard child making her,you,baby numero uno. If this suggestion even remotely scares you or you question it get out now while you still have some of your prime years left to land a childless hottie.
Very bad advice.
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They don't call Latinas "spicy" for nothing. Their bad/hot temper is directly correlated to their sexual prowess. Higher testosterone perhaps?
most of the wild sex I had, the women were a little crazy. Not latinas though.
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He must mean the bad temper part. Latinas will fuck you dry, especially if you're a white guy. But the flip side is the emotions and temper tantrums that are a pain in the ass to deal with. The latina I was with would let you put your dick wherever you wanted to if you gave her enough tequila...
This has been the last 10 years of my dating experience in a nutshell. Amazing in bed, great cooks, generally care for you, super tight/wet/hot pussy, but they are meaner than hell and get mad so easily. I've had several women straight up attack me with random objects and shit over a simple disagreement. ;D
And yeah, the "spicier the better" is true. The meanest bitches will snap your cock off with their hips.
Mexican, Puerto Rican (most violent), Cuban, El Salvadoran, Venezuelan, Columbian (the worst attitudes), Guatemalan, Peruvian... I've dated a lot of latin chicks. I absolutely love the way they look and act when they are in a good mood. But once they get pissed off (which takes very little) it's a very bad situation.
That's right, most love anal and will fuck your brains out for hours. They can be very aggressive in bed, almost too much. They will suck you off, let you do whatever you want to them in bed and cook you the best breakfast you ever had. But don't you dare try to argue with them or tell them what to do. Those are fightin words! ;D
They aren't worth it, i've almost caught a few cases from getting into fights with them. Simply stiff arming a Mexican broad to get away from her attacking you with a knife is enough to get arrested. I'll take my chances with another "species".
Currently dating a half Flip/Thai chick that has curves. She's a bit boring but i don't think she will ever try to knife me.
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most of the wild sex I had, the women were a little crazy. Not latinas though.
Crazy women are the best in bed because they go all out with no self control. Emotional girls are great in bed but lousy in relationships. The problem is if you hit and split the crazy emotional girls may come after you.
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I met my current wife when I was separated and had a 3ish year old kid.
We ended up living together, had one more kid - she'd never had one and it was only fair.
I couldn't get the vasectomy fast enough.
My son always lived with us, she raised him like her own and never showed favoritism to the one we had together.
Not only that, we had a wedding but never officially married legally.
I lucked out. She was golden with my kid but I've seen it go the other way. It's a lot of shit you don't need in a relationship.
If you aren't willing to put in the effort. Walk away. Fuck having all those dramas.
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Not only that, we had a wedding but never officially married legally.
What's the over under on this guy getting his dick cut off in his sleep and not knowing it's coming? :D
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When Hairplugs croaks, I would plow single mom Jill Biden in the shitpipe.
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The latina I was with would let you put your dick wherever you wanted to if you gave her enough tequila...
Are you suggesting her ex’s b-hole was an option?
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This has been the last 10 years of my dating experience in a nutshell. Amazing in bed, great cooks, generally care for you, super tight/wet/hot pussy, but they are meaner than hell and get mad so easily. I've had several women straight up attack me with random objects and shit over a simple disagreement. ;D
And yeah, the "spicier the better" is true. The meanest bitches will snap your cock off with their hips.
Mexican, Puerto Rican (most violent), Cuban, El Salvadoran, Venezuelan, Columbian (the worst attitudes), Guatemalan, Peruvian... I've dated a lot of latin chicks. I absolutely love the way they look and act when they are in a good mood. But once they get pissed off (which takes very little) it's a very bad situation.
That's right, most love anal and will fuck your brains out for hours. They can be very aggressive in bed, almost too much. They will suck you off, let you do whatever you want to them in bed and cook you the best breakfast you ever had. But don't you dare try to argue with them or tell them what to do. Those are fightin words! ;D
They aren't worth it, i've almost caught a few cases from getting into fights with them. Simply stiff arming a Mexican broad to get away from her attacking you with a knife is enough to get arrested. I'll take my chances with another "species".
Currently dating a half Flip/Thai chick that has curves. She's a bit boring but i don't think she will ever try to knife me.
Don't understand guys tolerating this kind of crap. I'm guessing you're young. Just tell her straight up that she's a conscious human, imbued with reason and moral agency, and she's responsible for the actions she chooses to take. Which is true.
And she's not "letting you" stick it places. She's enjoying it. A lot. If you're in shape and even halfway decent in bed, you're probably doing her a favor. Most women's sexual careers are a parade of spare-tired, skinny legged, 2 minute noodles.
Women who are reserved in bed are just self conscious. Work on making her feel comfortable with you and confident expressing herself. If she has interests, be receptive. Every woman will whoop it up just fine. You don't need some fry pan flinging extrovert insisting her cunny is Heaven's Gate.
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Great thread, have been reading it in it entirety and excellent advice given by seasonal Getbiggers. Been married a long time with a latina and boy you guys are right about that temper, it's embedded in their dna for some reason and once the yelling starts, which they're experts at, they can take it to extreme decibels, not for the faint at heart, but they do look after you if you're able to put up with their shit!
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A woman's hierarchy of values:
a) herself
b) her kids
c) her "career" ::) actually job
d) her friends
e) her family (mom, dad, sister, brother, cousins, etc)
f) her dog
g) her hobbies or interests
h) her "me time"
i) you (if there's any time left, usually there isn't)
Jesus that is 100% correct
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Lol. Found this in the random pics thread.
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Jesus you guys eat some shit.
Because everyone else told them to go away and you didn't, you end up with the here's-my-shit-now-eat-it women. That's the math, you doormat desperados.
Horses and water. ::) Do your thing.
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It fucking sucks because she checks every box for what I would want for my perfect woman. Humble nailed a few points dead on. I won't worry about getting her preggo because I got by boys ties years ago. I will never ever marry again. The financial damage from my marriage was too much.
He's right though about her kid. It frustrates me when she seems to always be making plans to take him on vacation or do things and I never seem to be in those plans. She'll say shit like she wants to go to spain to see her sister and kids for 2 weeks and vacation but never includes me. Plans always seem to exist without me in them.
She'll get frustrated with her kid a lot, especially lately with COVID and him being home all day but she won't show her frustration to him but then I need to deal with the bullshit. I'm on a fucking roller coaster daily. Half the day I just want to bail and run and the other half, things seem okay and I'm good with it. Living day to day like this sucks but I really care about her and it would hurt like hell to leave her and not have her in my life. I should have ran the moment I knew she had a kid but I got suckered in by her looks.
To put it simply her kid should be more important to her and the kid doesn’t need you around either!
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When Hairplugs croaks, I would plow single mom Jill Biden in the shitpipe.
;D
Still waiting for the official 'Women that Walter S would plow in the sh1tpipe' thread...
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Lol. Found this in the random pics thread.
I like that.
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What's the over under on this guy getting his dick cut off in his sleep and not knowing it's coming? :D
I'll take a slice of that action!
Oh wait - that's me...
Is this 'not knowing its coming' vs it happening with my full knowledge???
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I keep trying to make this shit work. Recently her kid had some serious meltdowns about distant schooling. Really bad episodes so it stresses out my girlfriend then she acts like a complete bitch to me for days. I can understand her stress because these meltdowns she had to deal with would make some parents go homicidle but still all of sudden being grumpy at me when I didn’t do shit is getting old. This happens a lot and I try to be understanding but I also have only so much patience for shit like that.
I’m probably going to walk away but it’s going to suck. She was a once in a lifetime type woman but I can’t deal with her kid or how she acts when the kid is a mess. He’s constantly cockblocking and I swear a few times I knew he was purposely doing it and I almost smacked him. Why is life so cruel? Finally met my dream woman but she had to have a kid. Like god’s cruel joke.
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I keep trying to make this shit work. Recently her kid had some serious meltdowns about distant schooling. Really bad episodes so it stresses out my girlfriend then she acts like a complete bitch to me for days. I can understand her stress because these meltdowns she had to deal with would make some parents go homicidle but still all of sudden being grumpy at me when I didn’t do shit is getting old. This happens a lot and I try to be understanding but I also have only so much patience for shit like that.
I’m probably going to walk away but it’s going to suck. She was a once in a lifetime type woman but I can’t deal with her kid or how she acts when the kid is a mess. He’s constantly cockblocking and I swear a few times I knew he was purposely doing it and I almost smacked him. Why is life so cruel? Finally met my dream woman but she had to have a kid. Like god’s cruel joke.
Is she the woman in your avatar? If so, I understand.
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I keep trying to make this shit work. Recently her kid had some serious meltdowns about distant schooling. Really bad episodes so it stresses out my girlfriend then she acts like a complete bitch to me for days. I can understand her stress because these meltdowns she had to deal with would make some parents go homicidle but still all of sudden being grumpy at me when I didn’t do shit is getting old. This happens a lot and I try to be understanding but I also have only so much patience for shit like that.
I’m probably going to walk away but it’s going to suck. She was a once in a lifetime type woman but I can’t deal with her kid or how she acts when the kid is a mess. He’s constantly cockblocking and I swear a few times I knew he was purposely doing it and I almost smacked him. Why is life so cruel? Finally met my dream woman but she had to have a kid. Like god’s cruel joke.
Sounds like you're in love.
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Sounds like you're in love.
For sure. It was love at first sight. She marks every box of what I’d want in a woman. We get along so well when things are good. We get along really well on so many levels. But the kid is a drain. This Covid shit having him around 24/7 makes it worse. She gets no break because he’s doing virtual learning at school. So by night she’s exhausted. By the weekend she just wants to do nothing. Fuck this Covid shit.
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Shoe the other foot test. If you behaved toward her the same way would she have a justified complaint?
Way you tell it, it sounds like she just wants someone to take out her crappy mood on. A) Are you cool with that, and B) How much more information will you require to determine if that's something that she is going to continue to do?
I'd point blank discuss it. Calmly but honestly. If you get "handle me at my worst" or indignation then you need to decide if this is the relationship you're going to look forward to coming home to each evening.
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Sounds like you're in love.
Yeah you’re in love.
She’s not your dream women, or you wouldn’t be bringing your issues about her to the board. Also, there wouldn’t be any second guessing or issues about her attitude.
A dream woman would have stayed with the father, wouldn’t take out life’s problems on someone else that isn’t the cause of the problem, and puts the man above herself. When a women says she is exhausted or doesn’t want to do anything - she’s lacking EFFORT. You think getting with this red flag is going to get better after covid? Hell no. She now sees little effort is required to keep you around. It’ll get worse.
You’re going to have to suffer the consequences of “feeling” lonely and down for a good 2-3 months after you dump her. Sooner the better.
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Shoe the other foot test. If you behaved toward her the same way would she have a justified complaint?
Way you tell it, it sounds like she just wants someone to take out her crappy mood on. A) Are you cool with that, and B) How much more information will you require to determine if that's something that she is going to continue to do?
I'd point blank discuss it. Calmly but honestly. If you get "handle me at my worst" or indignation then you need to decide if this is the relationship you're going to look forward to coming home to each evening.
She was never like this before Covid. But since then it seems to get worst daily. I can see why she is a mess but I don’t deserve the backlash of it. She’s my perfect woman but a guy can only take so much drama and pettiness. It sucks because when things are great I forget all of this shit but it’s a constant roller coaster lately.
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She was never like this before Covid. But since then it seems to get worst daily. I can see why she is a mess but I don’t deserve the backlash of it. She’s my perfect woman but a guy can only take so much drama and pettiness. It sucks because when things are great I forget all of this shit but it’s a constant roller coaster lately.
Tell her. In all the daily hassle she might not even realize she is acting like this.
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Tell her. In all the daily hassle she might not even realize she is acting like this.
Trust me. I did. She got defensive. Kept saying how exhausted she is. Then tried to change it to me.
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Trust me. I did. She got defensive. Kept saying how exhausted she is. Then tried to change it to me.
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You are so naive, someone else is hammering her !.
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So by night she’s exhausted. By the weekend she just wants to do nothing. Fuck this Covid shit.
Someone else bonk her ;D
No fuck on weekends :P, you are history !.
He blames 'Covid' for his softcockness ;D ;D ;D
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Trust me. I did. She got defensive. Kept saying how exhausted she is. Then tried to change it to me.
Ignore her and...How did that sixties song (my favorite version is by Sergio Mendes and Brasil '66)put it?
Watch What Happens.
Or not. Women are not fickle they're monkeys that swing from man to man, trying to get what they don't have, i.e., someone's money, prestige, car, home, etc.
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This whole thread makes me sick
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You are so naive, someone else is hammering her !.
Nah. We are around each other 24/7. Unless some dude is sneaking into the bathroom at 2 AM but I’m sure my dog would have made a fuss.
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Does she clean your house? Laundry? Cook? Does the kid stay there? :-\
Jw cause she sounds like she puts forth no effort
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Is this your house we're talking about here?
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You are a fucking loser
Pretty much my take away. I'm gonna take a stab this guy doesn't have any kids
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No real Mom would have a long term relationship with a guy who hates her son. If she does then she has ulterior motives of finding a financial provider.
they do all the time
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Nah. We are around each other 24/7. Unless some dude is sneaking into the bathroom at 2 AM but I’m sure my dog would have made a fuss.
Perhaps a little absence will make the heart grow fonder.
Idk. If you value the relationship then do everything you can to make it work including seeing things from her perspective and asking her for ideas on how to make it work. Then, if she continues to be an eternal misery guts, you can adios the whole thing and have no lingering doubts or regrets about having tried harder.
But based on what you've said, you may have all the information you require already. The way you've described how she acts is not the way a woman who values a man acts.
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Is this your house we're talking about here?
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My wife has been trying to change me for the past 33 years.
Women always try to change men.
It's futile because people don't change.
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My wife has been trying to change me for the past 33 years.
Women always try to change men.
It's futile because people don't change.
This is sad
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Nah. We are around each other 24/7. Unless some dude is sneaking into the bathroom at 2 AM but I’m sure my dog would have made a fuss.
Who in a fuck would be 24/7 with another person ::)
Ask her if she fucks others :D
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My wife has been trying to change me for the past 33 years.
Women always try to change men.
It's futile because people don't change.
It’s also funny when either sex say, “well I was a different person then,” lmao 😂
Dated a chick and she offered sound advice - a leopard’s spots never change. She was right.
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I think you're being sincere so I'm gonna be honest about my own heartbreak after both divorces.
The 1st marriage lasted 6 years and she changed to wanting one BAD , about 3 years in.
Walked in one day and she was loudly crying , holding 2 Cabbage Patch dolls.
She saw me and cried out ; " I wish they were real". I knew that wouldn't end well.
Of course she tried to pressure me to have a kid with her, but I refused, so we got divorced .
Very moving
Did she make you pay support for the dolls after the divorce..?
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This is sad
Not really. If they change you, then they will leave you for someone that is as you were, citing "You're no longer the man I fell in love with"... FTN.
Do as you feel. I and others do as we think.
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Not really. If they change you, then they will leave you for someone that is as you were, citing "You're no longer the man I fell in love with"... FTN.
Do as you feel. I and others do as we think.
Right on, brother. FTN.
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Right on, brother. FTN.
Amen, my brother. Amen.
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Very moving
Did she make you pay support for the dolls after the divorce..?
;D ;D
Child support for cabbage patch dolls ;D ;D ;D
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I think you're being sincere so I'm gonna be honest about my own heartbreak after both divorces.
The 1st marriage lasted 6 years and she changed to wanting one BAD , about 3 years in.
Walked in one day and she was loudly crying , holding 2 Cabbage Patch dolls.
She saw me and cried out ; " I wish they were real". I knew that wouldn't end well.
Of course she tried to pressure me to have a kid with her, but I refused, so we got divorced .
The 2nd one was smart and sexy with PhD in psychology.
After 8 years together, she wanted to "live independently" ie ( * polite way to say screw around).
In both cases, we divorced with little drama or major problems.
BUT, I felt like a zombie for a few weeks. It's a numb sense of absolute loss and a feeling a total failure, etc
It was emotionally draining , but I got thru. Do what's right for you and eventually the ideal girl and situation will be there!
14 years ago, I met my current wife and soul mate.
She's pretty and has a great career as a major bank regional VP.
She's previously divorced (once) and like me, never had kids.
I'm 62 now and thank GOD, I had the courage to divorce the previous 2.
Good luck ( * video is me attending the 2007 Jr USA and my wife comes in at 2 min, it's a repost )
You truly are a fucking idiot.
I wish one of your ex-wives would have doused you with gasoline and lit you on fire while you slept.
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My wife has been trying to change me for the past 33 years.
Women always try to change men.
It's futile because people don't change.
I've often read that a woman marries a man hoping he will change, and he doesn't; a man marries a woman hoping she will never change, and she does.
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Is this your house we're talking about here?
Earth to OP....is this your house or what?
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I've often read that a woman marries a man hoping he will change, and he doesn't; a man marries a woman hoping she will never change, and she does.
fucking right lol my lady knows it’s my way or the highway I make a 6 figure a year not joking but I refuse to bow down to her so in the end she can fuck some other guy ya right I’d rather die on my feet than live on my knees . I know there’s plenty of other pussy to tap she’s bangin too she’s more of a I do for my man type thing which I appreciate but I’m not gonna allow her to cheat on me because I’m doing as she says lol yea right I show respect but she knows if she crosses the boundaries I’ll leave and I’m not scared to lose her like some pussies on this board and yes she has kids I don’t but again I’ll play my hand to my advantage.
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You truly are a fucking idiot.
I wish one of your ex-wives would have doused you with gasoline and lit you on fire while you slept.
I'm sure one of them considered it.
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fucking right lol my lady knows it’s my way or the highway I make a 6 figure a year not joking but I refuse to bow down to her so in the end she can fuck some other guy ya right I’d rather die on my feet than live on my knees . I know there’s plenty of other pussy to tap she’s bangin too she’s more of a I do for my man type thing which I appreciate but I’m not gonna allow her to cheat on me because I’m doing as she says lol yea right I show respect but she knows if she crosses the boundaries I’ll leave and I’m not scared to lose her like some pussies on this board and yes she has kids I don’t but again I’ll play my hand to my advantage.
If at any moment I suspect her cheating, flirting or doing any shit with another guy, I'm out. I have nothing tying me down to stay other than how I feel about her but if that changes then I'm out. I made sure that all of my possessions are in storage or in a safety deposit box. All of my money is liquid and secure.
About a month ago I was ready to go, had my shit packed and was ready to leave, that put her on notice. She is not trying to change me, she is not trying to manipulate me. In all honesty she is a great gal. It's dealing with someone else's kid that is a pain. The kid is a kid so they will act fucked up, but at my age, I'm done with this. I raised two kids who are independent now so doing this shit all over again is giving me PTSD.
I don't think you guys quite understand my issue. I know there is a lot of pussy out there. Trust me, I've fucked and dated plenty. I am and was blessed to have a job that allowed me to travel all over the world so I've fucked pussy of all kinds in all countries and have met some truly amazing women. I also took a break for a few years and just stayed away from people and kept to myself and was also content not having sex. I'd crack one off to good porn and go to sleep and not miss pussy.
The thing is this one woman was something else. Thinking about the hundreds of women that I've dated in my life, none makes me feel like she does. It's hard to explain but once you meet that person you will understand but until you do, you will never get it. I've been in love many times, though I married "the one" but the love I feel for this woman is something outworldly and I honestly never thought I would ever feel like this. But goddam my patience to deal with another kid is so fucking thin. So many times I just want to smack the little fucker and I've never hit a kid before. If she called him a little asshole a few times because he is. I'm sure his parents being separated is causing all sorts of mental issues for him but it's still nauseating.
I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know I can go and meet new pussy in the next 5 minutes but it's not ever going to feel the same.
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Take him fishing.
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I fucking hate kids..
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If at any moment I suspect her cheating, flirting or doing any shit with another guy, I'm out. I have nothing tying me down to stay other than how I feel about her but if that changes then I'm out. I made sure that all of my possessions are in storage or in a safety deposit box. All of my money is liquid and secure.
About a month ago I was ready to go, had my shit packed and was ready to leave, that put her on notice. She is not trying to change me, she is not trying to manipulate me. In all honesty she is a great gal. It's dealing with someone else's kid that is a pain. The kid is a kid so they will act fucked up, but at my age, I'm done with this. I raised two kids who are independent now so doing this shit all over again is giving me PTSD.
I don't think you guys quite understand my issue. I know there is a lot of pussy out there. Trust me, I've fucked and dated plenty. I am and was blessed to have a job that allowed me to travel all over the world so I've fucked pussy of all kinds in all countries and have met some truly amazing women. I also took a break for a few years and just stayed away from people and kept to myself and was also content not having sex. I'd crack one off to good porn and go to sleep and not miss pussy.
The thing is this one woman was something else. Thinking about the hundreds of women that I've dated in my life, none makes me feel like she does. It's hard to explain but once you meet that person you will understand but until you do, you will never get it. I've been in love many times, though I married "the one" but the love I feel for this woman is something outworldly and I honestly never thought I would ever feel like this. But goddam my patience to deal with another kid is so fucking thin. So many times I just want to smack the little fucker and I've never hit a kid before. If she called him a little asshole a few times because he is. I'm sure his parents being separated is causing all sorts of mental issues for him but it's still nauseating.
I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know I can go and meet new pussy in the next 5 minutes but it's not ever going to feel the same.
After asking 3x finally....you live at her place. Move out FFS, it's not that great of a situation.
The kid ain't going away....and like most will probably be hanging around, draining resources and getting in trouble until he's 30. Think about that one.
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If at any moment I suspect her cheating, flirting or doing any shit with another guy, I'm out. I have nothing tying me down to stay other than how I feel about her but if that changes then I'm out. I made sure that all of my possessions are in storage or in a safety deposit box. All of my money is liquid and secure.
About a month ago I was ready to go, had my shit packed and was ready to leave, that put her on notice. She is not trying to change me, she is not trying to manipulate me. In all honesty she is a great gal. It's dealing with someone else's kid that is a pain. The kid is a kid so they will act fucked up, but at my age, I'm done with this. I raised two kids who are independent now so doing this shit all over again is giving me PTSD.
I don't think you guys quite understand my issue. I know there is a lot of pussy out there. Trust me, I've fucked and dated plenty. I am and was blessed to have a job that allowed me to travel all over the world so I've fucked pussy of all kinds in all countries and have met some truly amazing women. I also took a break for a few years and just stayed away from people and kept to myself and was also content not having sex. I'd crack one off to good porn and go to sleep and not miss pussy.
The thing is this one woman was something else. Thinking about the hundreds of women that I've dated in my life, none makes me feel like she does. It's hard to explain but once you meet that person you will understand but until you do, you will never get it. I've been in love many times, though I married "the one" but the love I feel for this woman is something outworldly and I honestly never thought I would ever feel like this. But goddam my patience to deal with another kid is so fucking thin. So many times I just want to smack the little fucker and I've never hit a kid before. If she called him a little asshole a few times because he is. I'm sure his parents being separated is causing all sorts of mental issues for him but it's still nauseating.
I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know I can go and meet new pussy in the next 5 minutes but it's not ever going to feel the same.
Dude you love her this much learn to adapt and live with the kid. You won't find another chick now you love this much without a kid. Getting older man, kids come with the territory.
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Dude you love her this much learn to adapt and live with the kid. You won't find another chick now you love this much without a kid. Getting older man, kids come with the territory.
There are no single women without kids available anywhere?
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There are no single women without kids available anywhere?
I'm 45. If I meet a 20 year, she will want kids or even a 30 year old. Any chick about 35 without kids, unless she had some physical issue and couldn't have them will be a nut case. I know because I've dated a few. If you're lucky you can find a chick with an older kid who is out of the house and that would be ideal. A woman who takes great care of herself.
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I'm 45. If I meet a 20 year, she will want kids or even a 30 year old. Any chick about 35 without kids, unless she had some physical issue and couldn't have them will be a nut case. I know because I've dated a few. If you're lucky you can find a chick with an older kid who is out of the house and that would be ideal. A woman who takes great care of herself.
Bro it sounds like you need to adjust your expectations.
Howard is a great example of someone finding a woman who didn't want kids.
You should know how this works by now. This woman isnt looking for advice on how to raise her kid, she wants someone who is there for her. She isnt ever leaving the kid, if anything she will over compensate for being a single mother without a reliable father.
She is probably telling everyone how great she is doing as a single mom and how fantastic her son is turning out, meanwhile you're saying the opposite. You both are seeing 2 completely different pictures. Both of you are living in a fantasy world though.
Shes not going to be whatever your "perfect" woman is because she has a kid you're not interested in. The sooner you realize you're the problem, because you think she can be someone she is not, the easier it will be for you to make a decision on how to proceed.
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If at any moment I suspect her cheating, flirting or doing any shit with another guy, I'm out. I have nothing tying me down to stay other than how I feel about her but if that changes then I'm out. I made sure that all of my possessions are in storage or in a safety deposit box. All of my money is liquid and secure.
About a month ago I was ready to go, had my shit packed and was ready to leave, that put her on notice. She is not trying to change me, she is not trying to manipulate me. In all honesty she is a great gal. It's dealing with someone else's kid that is a pain. The kid is a kid so they will act fucked up, but at my age, I'm done with this. I raised two kids who are independent now so doing this shit all over again is giving me PTSD.
I don't think you guys quite understand my issue. I know there is a lot of pussy out there. Trust me, I've fucked and dated plenty. I am and was blessed to have a job that allowed me to travel all over the world so I've fucked pussy of all kinds in all countries and have met some truly amazing women. I also took a break for a few years and just stayed away from people and kept to myself and was also content not having sex. I'd crack one off to good porn and go to sleep and not miss pussy.
The thing is this one woman was something else. Thinking about the hundreds of women that I've dated in my life, none makes me feel like she does. It's hard to explain but once you meet that person you will understand but until you do, you will never get it. I've been in love many times, though I married "the one" but the love I feel for this woman is something outworldly and I honestly never thought I would ever feel like this. But goddam my patience to deal with another kid is so fucking thin. So many times I just want to smack the little fucker and I've never hit a kid before. If she called him a little asshole a few times because he is. I'm sure his parents being separated is causing all sorts of mental issues for him but it's still nauseating.
I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know I can go and meet new pussy in the next 5 minutes but it's not ever going to feel the same.
Feels like you keep trying to imagine this ideal situation where the person you describe above exists in all this greatness, but doesn't have the kid.
That situation doesn't exist, so either accept the kid as part of this package or move on.
You'll just fuck it up eventually if you don't.
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There are no single women without kids available anywhere?
There're out there. But in the perverse mind of the average male, women aged 35+ with no kids to speak of will always raise a red flag.
Much easier for a man in his 40's to not have kids and not be questioned about it.
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Feels like you keep trying to imagine this ideal situation where the person you describe above exists in all this greatness, but doesn't have the kid.
That situation doesn't exist, so either accept the kid as part of this package or move on.
You'll just fuck it up eventually if you don't.
You're right and I keep thinking about it. The kid is never leaving. if by some miracle he goes off to college that won't be for a long while. I need to decide if it's worth it. Such a simple decision but so fucking complicated to make
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You're right and I keep thinking about it. The kid is never leaving. if by some miracle he goes off to college that won't be for a long while. I need to decide if it's worth it. Such a simple decision but so fucking complicated to make
Eh, if she's this great, just go all in and give it a shot.
You may find out the kid factor isn't the hang up you thought it was, and it's better for the kid too.
Plus it give you mental relief.
Worst case is you were right and it ends later rather than now.
If you leave now, you'll always be wondering "what if" anyways.
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Eh, if she's this great, just go all in and give it a shot.
You may find out the kid factor isn't the hang up you thought it was, and it's better for the kid too.
Plus it give you mental relief.
Worst case is you were right and it ends later rather than now.
If you leave now, you'll always be wondering "what if" anyways.
"give it a shot"? ;D He lives in her house, seems well past that.
Either stay or don't. The conflict isn't going away and it's OP's to deal with as he is the adult.
My rule is to deal with crazy in their 30s over raising somebody else's spawn. Not even interested in that kind of involvement in somebody else's permanent life choices.
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"give it a shot"? ;D He lives in her house, seems well past that.
Either stay or don't. The conflict isn't going away and it's OP's to deal with as he is the adult.
My rule is to deal with crazy in their 30s over raising somebody else's spawn. Not even interested in that kind of involvement in somebody else's permanent life choices.
There's a difference between living with someone, and being mentally all in.
He's in a limbo state where he's imagining a self-created ideal that doesn't exist and isn't an option, but keeps dwelling on it.
My suggestion was eliminate that barrier, or go.
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"give it a shot"? ;D He lives in her house, seems well past that.
Either stay or don't. The conflict isn't going away and it's OP's to deal with as he is the adult.
My rule is to deal with crazy in their 30s over raising somebody else's spawn. Not even interested in that kind of involvement in somebody else's permanent life choices.
I agree.
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You truly are a fucking idiot.
I wish one of your ex-wives would have doused you with gasoline and lit you on fire while you slept.
LOL, good zinger and nice detail with the "doused you with gasoline" detail ;D
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Dude you love her this much learn to adapt and live with the kid. You won't find another chick now you love this much without a kid. Getting older man, kids come with the territory.
If he really loves her, that's a viable option for him.
BUT, I'm nothing special and met my current wife after 2 previous divorces at age 49.
She's pretty , also divorced and never had kids. We were married 8 years ago.
In my opinion, the only thing worse then being single and lonely, is to feel trapped in a bad relationship.
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If he really loves her, that's a viable option for him.
BUT, I'm nothing special and met my current wife after 2 previous divorces at age 49.
She's pretty , also divorced and never had kids. We were married 8 years ago.
In my opinion, the only thing worse then being single and lonely, is to feel trapped in a bad relationship.
I agree Howard and you gave some solid advice in your post above. I think the fact she is dedicated to her son shows she is a normal, decent woman. No way is a chick who is ambivalent about her child a good potential partner.
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I agree Howard and you gave some solid advice in your post above. I think the fact she is dedicated to her son shows she is a normal, decent woman. No way is a chick who is ambivalent about her child a good potential partner.
My sister-in-law adopted a 2 yr old girl from Guatemala ( Central America) 12 years ago.
She always wanted to be a mom and never had kids and had been divorced.
She met /married a man who shared her desire to adopt a child in need.
For them , it's a labor of love and was the answer to their prayers.
In fact, since we don't have kids, this adopted niece will likely be the
relative my wife and I trust to handle our affairs , when we get "too old" .
Soooooooooooooooo, if El Diablo wants to be a father to her boy, it's what she needs.
If, like me, he doesn't want to raise the kid, he needs to move on .
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My sister-in-law adopted a 2 yr old girl from Guatemala ( Central America) 12 years ago.
She always wanted to be a mom and never had kids and had been divorced.
She met /married a man who shared her desire to adopt a child in need.
For them , it's a labor of love and was the answer to their prayers.
In fact, since we don't have kids, this adopted niece will likely be the
relative my wife and I trust to handle our affairs , when we get "too old" .
Soooooooooooooooo, if El Diablo wants to be a father to her boy, it's what she needs.
If, like me, he doesn't want to raise the kid, he needs to move on .
Maybe your sister in law just wants someone to do yard work.
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I agree Howard and you gave some solid advice in your post above. I think the fact she is dedicated to her son shows she is a normal, decent woman. No way is a chick who is ambivalent about her child a good potential partner.
That's the dilemma, One of the things I admire about her is her tireless work ethic in balancing work and her kid. If she was a total shit mom I don't think I could respect her. Again, this is not about her. She is amazing, just an amazing woman in so many ways, but the kid. Fuck, it's so hard dealing with kid shit.
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I have provided the proper answer.
Ignore everything else.
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Maybe your sister in law just wants someone to do yard work.
She has her husband trained to do the yard work.
I hated mowing the yard and doing yard work growing up, but I did it.
At age 12, I tried to stop shoveling the drive way. My dad never said a word and pushed me, face first into the snow bank.
I got up and started shoveling again and he just glanced back and nodded at me. :D
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That's the dilemma, One of the things I admire about her is her tireless work ethic in balancing work and her kid. If she was a total shit mom I don't think I could respect her. Again, this is not about her. She is amazing, just an amazing woman in so many ways, but the kid. Fuck, it's so hard dealing with kid shit.
I don't know you or your exact situation , etc. But, I've had to make the hard calls in similar situations.
Some folks ENJOY the interactions with kids and feel parenthood is a "labor of love".
You don't feel that way about this kid and that's NOT likely to change.
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That's the dilemma, One of the things I admire about her is her tireless work ethic in balancing work and her kid. If she was a total shit mom I don't think I could respect her. Again, this is not about her. She is amazing, just an amazing woman in so many ways, but the kid. Fuck, it's so hard dealing with kid shit.
You don’t make sense. You find it attractive in how great of a mother she is but can’t stand the kid...
You need to address your issues to.
Youre 45 and you’ve hooked up with women all over the world and walked away from them for one reason or another and now that the shoe is on the other foot you can handle it?
Imagine the kid disappeared or died. Your relationship would get worse not better. Her child will always be a primary focus of her life, no matter where or what age he is.
You have had good advice offered here, apply it.
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If at any moment I suspect her cheating, flirting or doing any shit with another guy, I'm out. I have nothing tying me down to stay other than how I feel about her but if that changes then I'm out. I made sure that all of my possessions are in storage or in a safety deposit box. All of my money is liquid and secure.
About a month ago I was ready to go, had my shit packed and was ready to leave, that put her on notice. She is not trying to change me, she is not trying to manipulate me. In all honesty she is a great gal. It's dealing with someone else's kid that is a pain. The kid is a kid so they will act fucked up, but at my age, I'm done with this. I raised two kids who are independent now so doing this shit all over again is giving me PTSD.
I don't think you guys quite understand my issue. I know there is a lot of pussy out there. Trust me, I've fucked and dated plenty. I am and was blessed to have a job that allowed me to travel all over the world so I've fucked pussy of all kinds in all countries and have met some truly amazing women. I also took a break for a few years and just stayed away from people and kept to myself and was also content not having sex. I'd crack one off to good porn and go to sleep and not miss pussy.
The thing is this one woman was something else. Thinking about the hundreds of women that I've dated in my life, none makes me feel like she does. It's hard to explain but once you meet that person you will understand but until you do, you will never get it. I've been in love many times, though I married "the one" but the love I feel for this woman is something outworldly and I honestly never thought I would ever feel like this. But goddam my patience to deal with another kid is so fucking thin. So many times I just want to smack the little fucker and I've never hit a kid before. If she called him a little asshole a few times because he is. I'm sure his parents being separated is causing all sorts of mental issues for him but it's still nauseating.
I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know I can go and meet new pussy in the next 5 minutes but it's not ever going to feel the same.
Listen to this peter puffer...
“I had my bags packed and that put her on notice.”
Hahahahahahaha, you’re a fucking squatter in her house and she is riding more side cock than XFACTOR’s wife. I will bet anything that within hours of you putting her on notice that she had a mouthful of dick and took a hot load in her ass.
You’re a cuck. Go beat your meat on Zoom, you limp dicked phaggot.
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In my opinion, the only thing worse then being single and lonely, is to feel trapped in a bad relationship.
solid post
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Listen to this peter puffer...
“I had my bags packed and that put her on notice.”
Hahahahahahaha, you’re a fucking squatter in her house and she is riding more side cock than XFACTOR’s wife. I will bet anything that within hours of you putting her on notice that she had a mouthful of dick and took a hot load in her ass.
You’re a cuck. Go beat your meat on Zoom, you limp dicked phaggot.
That is harsh.
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I'm 45. If I meet a 20 year, she will want kids or even a 30 year old. Any chick about 35 without kids, unless she had some physical issue and couldn't have them will be a nut case. I know because I've dated a few. If you're lucky you can find a chick with an older kid who is out of the house and that would be ideal. A woman who takes great care of herself.
GTFO, you are #.1 :'( :'( :'( on this site !.
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The kid thing is never going to change, it will most likely get worse.
Unless you can change your mind on the kid, it's not a good situation.
To be honest, this home quarantine Covid nonsense is causing a lot of relationships to go downhill. You need time apart to do your thing and have alone time. Being joined at the hip 24/7 is exhausting for everyone. Some people love it, but if you're anything like me, you need room to breathe. My parents have been married 48 years and truly love each other, but in the last 4 months my mom tells me all the time she just needs my dad to go away sometimes. So i invite him to go hiking or make a trip to our hunting ranch for a few days. I've never seen my parents fight one time in my entire life, but you can tell they still need time to themselves.
My personal advice, if your living with her and the kid is driving you nuts, you need to leave. That's not healthy for anyone.
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Single moms are the worst.
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pass on my info
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As emotionally painful as the divorce was, in the scope of "LIFE", it was the right thing to do.
2-3 years from now, when the novelty of the relationship fades and it's mostly about the day to day tedious tasks of life.
At that point which will you regret more :
1. Leave her with some good memories but a lot more relief you got out when you did.
or
2. Stay with her and feel trapped into a being a father .
It's YOUR call, BUT, Do what's right for YOU, Her and the kid. This situation got 3 people's lives at stake.
Don't feel guilty about leaving, , she's hot and will get a guy to be husband/father.
BUT...
IF you opt to stay, do it because you want to help raise the kid and lover her.
DON'T do it out of a self imposed personal obligation or moral guilt. That leads to resentment.
another great post
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That's the dilemma, One of the things I admire about her is her tireless work ethic in balancing work and her kid. If she was a total shit mom I don't think I could respect her. Again, this is not about her. She is amazing, just an amazing woman in so many ways, but the kid. Fuck, it's so hard dealing with kid shit.
Well fuck what people think. Stick with her. You’re right on Women under 35 that you will meet will want a kid.
Now you’ll have to change your thinking and learn that the kid has behavioral issues. Not sure I read his age but it’s very common when parents split if the parents split at a certain time when the kid was in and age bracket of 3-8 group.
I’ve handled divorces, you will either tap out (you’ll start to get angry, tempered, and build resentment) or you’ll adapt and get the kid in some type of counseling to get the situation under control.
You’ll need to talk to her about your role. But remember if you become an enforcer the kid will pit you against the mother every time and it’ll drive a wedge also. Shitty tight rope you got there. But hey be thankful the mother in law isn’t getting into the affairs of you two and the kid.
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Listen to this peter puffer...
“I had my bags packed and that put her on notice.”
Hahahahahahaha, you’re a fucking squatter in her house and she is riding more side cock than XFACTOR’s wife. I will bet anything that within hours of you putting her on notice that she had a mouthful of dick and took a hot load in her ass.
You’re a cuck. Go beat your meat on Zoom, you limp dicked phaggot.
I am sharing this quote verbatim outside of GetBig, so great is the need to spread this message.
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That is harsh.
To be fair.
Eight. Pages. Of. This.
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fucking right lol my lady knows it’s my way or the highway I make a 6 figure a year not joking but I refuse to bow down to her so in the end she can fuck some other guy ya right I’d rather die on my feet than live on my knees . I know there’s plenty of other pussy to tap she’s bangin too she’s more of a I do for my man type thing which I appreciate but I’m not gonna allow her to cheat on me because I’m doing as she says lol yea right I show respect but she knows if she crosses the boundaries I’ll leave and I’m not scared to lose her like some pussies on this board and yes she has kids I don’t but again I’ll play my hand to my advantage.
Respect 8)
(ps - can I have some of your meth please?)
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Legit.
My sister-in-law adopted a 2 yr old girl from Guatemala ( Central America) 12 years ago.
She always wanted to be a mom and never had kids and had been divorced.
Maybe your sister in law just wants someone to do yard work.
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another great post
Thanks!
I learned some humble lessons on love and it sucked when I was living it.
The one thing I am proud of is, I never lost my head or did something rash or stupid.
It was tough to control my emotions and I was tempted to " go off" or insult the lady.
Thanks to my parents raising me right and discipline learned in the USMC, I avoided acted like a fool.
My main purpose in posting this stuff is to encourage El Diablo to do the right then for him , her and the kid.
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Where is the kids dad and why aren't they together.
In my experience the good girls are all scooped up by 29 in stable healthy long term relationships
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I think social media has made women more bay shit crazy. On the plus side helps guys easily identify the cluster B chicks.
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Where is the kids dad and why aren't they together.
In my experience the good girls are all scooped up by 29 in stable healthy long term relationships
the kid's dad is a deadbeat. Turned out he became a drunk a couple years into the marriage. For whatever reason. Would berate her, yell at her and emotionally beat her down. She tried to make the relationship work but left him a few years after the kid was born. He has no interest in seeing the kid but she does make the effort to try to have him see the kid so the kid doesn't feel abandoned and mentally fucked up. She hates her ex with a passion.
This whole COVID thing has amplified shit as well. If that kid was in school then things would be a lot better. Having him around all day and her trying to work while helping him with distant learning and shit is driving her nuts. Before COVID things were fucking awesome. Then as the lockdown continued and months went on, things devolved worse and worse. To the point where she was so stressed that she almost had a physical breakdown.
Lately we just seem to be getting on each other's nerves which is expected being around each other non stop. For those of you saying she is cheating and fucking other guys need to shut up. She is not. I know this for a fact. Can she or will she ever? Who knows, I thought my ex wife was the kind that would never cheat and even she proved all women are whore's deep inside. My marriage was also pretty much over when she did but still we were married at the time so it proves any woman will cheat. Then again, so will any man. We are all complicit in this shit.
As days go by I am leaning more and more into leaving. We got into a big argument over the dumbest shit recently, said some mean things to each other, but her mean things had zero effect on me. Made me think after why I didn't react or give a fuck. Makes me realize I just don't care anymore.
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What is it about the boy that irritates you?
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the kid's dad is a deadbeat. Turned out he became a drunk a couple years into the marriage. For whatever reason. Would berate her, yell at her and emotionally beat her down. She tried to make the relationship work but left him a few years after the kid was born. He has no interest in seeing the kid but she does make the effort to try to have him see the kid so the kid doesn't feel abandoned and mentally fucked up. She hates her ex with a passion.
This whole COVID thing has amplified shit as well. If that kid was in school then things would be a lot better. Having him around all day and her trying to work while helping him with distant learning and shit is driving her nuts. Before COVID things were fucking awesome. Then as the lockdown continued and months went on, things devolved worse and worse. To the point where she was so stressed that she almost had a physical breakdown.
Lately we just seem to be getting on each other's nerves which is expected being around each other non stop. For those of you saying she is cheating and fucking other guys need to shut up. She is not. I know this for a fact. Can she or will she ever? Who knows, I thought my ex wife was the kind that would never cheat and even she proved all women are whore's deep inside. My marriage was also pretty much over when she did but still we were married at the time so it proves any woman will cheat. Then again, so will any man. We are all complicit in this shit.
As days go by I am leaning more and more into leaving. We got into a big argument over the dumbest shit recently, said some mean things to each other, but her mean things had zero effect on me. Made me think after why I didn't react or give a fuck. Makes me realize I just don't care anymore.
Show her all the posts in this thread to her and she will probably make it easier for you to leave. ;D
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the kid's dad is a deadbeat. Turned out he became a drunk a couple years into the marriage. For whatever reason. Would berate her, yell at her and emotionally beat her down. She tried to make the relationship work but left him a few years after the kid was born. He has no interest in seeing the kid but she does make the effort to try to have him see the kid so the kid doesn't feel abandoned and mentally fucked up. She hates her ex with a passion.
This whole COVID thing has amplified shit as well. If that kid was in school then things would be a lot better. Having him around all day and her trying to work while helping him with distant learning and shit is driving her nuts. Before COVID things were fucking awesome. Then as the lockdown continued and months went on, things devolved worse and worse. To the point where she was so stressed that she almost had a physical breakdown.
Lately we just seem to be getting on each other's nerves which is expected being around each other non stop. For those of you saying she is cheating and fucking other guys need to shut up. She is not. I know this for a fact. Can she or will she ever? Who knows, I thought my ex wife was the kind that would never cheat and even she proved all women are whore's deep inside. My marriage was also pretty much over when she did but still we were married at the time so it proves any woman will cheat. Then again, so will any man. We are all complicit in this shit.
As days go by I am leaning more and more into leaving. We got into a big argument over the dumbest shit recently, said some mean things to each other, but her mean things had zero effect on me. Made me think after why I didn't react or give a fuck. Makes me realize I just don't care anymore.
Then why prolong it? Just get out of dodge and head for the hills.
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I really like this woman but I don't know how long I can deal with her twat of a son. For those of you saying shit like you'd never want to raise another man's kid etc... I don't care about that shit. His dad is a fucking loser asshole but I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
How many of you guys have dated single moms and had to deal with this shit. It's crappy because I can see myself being with her for years but I don't think I can deal with her kid for that long.
I just read your first post...could it be that you are the fountainhead of all the angst?
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the kid's dad is a deadbeat. Turned out he became a drunk a couple years into the marriage. For whatever reason. Would berate her, yell at her and emotionally beat her down. She tried to make the relationship work but left him a few years after the kid was born. He has no interest in seeing the kid but she does make the effort to try to have him see the kid so the kid doesn't feel abandoned and mentally fucked up. She hates her ex with a passion.
This whole COVID thing has amplified shit as well. If that kid was in school then things would be a lot better. Having him around all day and her trying to work while helping him with distant learning and shit is driving her nuts. Before COVID things were fucking awesome. Then as the lockdown continued and months went on, things devolved worse and worse. To the point where she was so stressed that she almost had a physical breakdown.
Lately we just seem to be getting on each other's nerves which is expected being around each other non stop. For those of you saying she is cheating and fucking other guys need to shut up. She is not. I know this for a fact. Can she or will she ever? Who knows, I thought my ex wife was the kind that would never cheat and even she proved all women are whore's deep inside. My marriage was also pretty much over when she did but still we were married at the time so it proves any woman will cheat. Then again, so will any man. We are all complicit in this shit.
As days go by I am leaning more and more into leaving. We got into a big argument over the dumbest shit recently, said some mean things to each other, but her mean things had zero effect on me. Made me think after why I didn't react or give a fuck. Makes me realize I just don't care anymore.
The sound of a man's soul being crushed. You are not in control of this situation. All your stories listed here are reactionary.
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the kid's dad is a deadbeat. Turned out he became a drunk a couple years into the marriage. For whatever reason. Would berate her, yell at her and emotionally beat her down. She tried to make the relationship work but left him a few years after the kid was born. He has no interest in seeing the kid but she does make the effort to try to have him see the kid so the kid doesn't feel abandoned and mentally fucked up. She hates her ex with a passion.
This whole COVID thing has amplified shit as well. If that kid was in school then things would be a lot better. Having him around all day and her trying to work while helping him with distant learning and shit is driving her nuts. Before COVID things were fucking awesome. Then as the lockdown continued and months went on, things devolved worse and worse. To the point where she was so stressed that she almost had a physical breakdown.
Lately we just seem to be getting on each other's nerves which is expected being around each other non stop. For those of you saying she is cheating and fucking other guys need to shut up. She is not. I know this for a fact. Can she or will she ever? Who knows, I thought my ex wife was the kind that would never cheat and even she proved all women are whore's deep inside. My marriage was also pretty much over when she did but still we were married at the time so it proves any woman will cheat. Then again, so will any man. We are all complicit in this shit.
As days go by I am leaning more and more into leaving. We got into a big argument over the dumbest shit recently, said some mean things to each other, but her mean things had zero effect on me. Made me think after why I didn't react or give a fuck. Makes me realize I just don't care anymore.
Dude I know you're venting on here and not really looking for advice but in all seriousness you're the biggest issue.
You need to examine yourself and ask what do you want in a relationship? What are you looking for in a significant other? Then you need to ask how realistic that is.
As relationships develop so do issues. People change. Life doesn't stay stagnant neither do relationships.
Now that there is difficulties in the relationship you want out. Why? Are you craving the feelings you get from being in a new relationship; the thrill and excitement?
Covid has changed everything for everyone. So dont say life was great before covid because eventually some other challenge would have come up.
Seriously bro look inward and then focus on the external.
Again there has been some good advice on here and Howard is sharing wisdom.
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Show her all the posts in this thread to her and she will probably make it easier for you to leave. ;D
...and if THAT fails he can always say; " Your BUTT smells. ;D"
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the kid's dad is a deadbeat. Turned out he became a drunk a couple years into the marriage. For whatever reason. Would berate her, yell at her and emotionally beat her down. She tried to make the relationship work but left him a few years after the kid was born. He has no interest in seeing the kid but she does make the effort to try to have him see the kid so the kid doesn't feel abandoned and mentally fucked up. She hates her ex with a passion.
This whole COVID thing has amplified shit as well. If that kid was in school then things would be a lot better. Having him around all day and her trying to work while helping him with distant learning and shit is driving her nuts. Before COVID things were fucking awesome. Then as the lockdown continued and months went on, things devolved worse and worse. To the point where she was so stressed that she almost had a physical breakdown.
Lately we just seem to be getting on each other's nerves which is expected being around each other non stop. For those of you saying she is cheating and fucking other guys need to shut up. She is not. I know this for a fact. Can she or will she ever? Who knows, I thought my ex wife was the kind that would never cheat and even she proved all women are whore's deep inside. My marriage was also pretty much over when she did but still we were married at the time so it proves any woman will cheat. Then again, so will any man. We are all complicit in this shit.
As days go by I am leaning more and more into leaving. We got into a big argument over the dumbest shit recently, said some mean things to each other, but her mean things had zero effect on me. Made me think after why I didn't react or give a fuck. Makes me realize I just don't care anymore.
You might think I'm a douchebag, but allow me to give you some bullet points to consider .
1. Have her file via her county office for child support based on "abandonment" by him.
He might be a dead beat , but she doesn't need him coming back demanding some renewed custody.
Please encourage her to do this, regardless of what you do in terms of staying with her.
2. You love her, but a bigger issue is , this boy needs a father , he can depend on.
She needs a loving man who can be a partner to her with "life" and raising her son.
There are a lot worse ways to spend your life and plenty of men find it a meaningful lifestyle.
If giving this boy a loving, dedicated dad is something you desire, go ahead and do it.
If not, move on and give them a shot to find it.
Do you have your own grown children or not? Perhaps that could make a difference in your decision?
3. It all comes down to the basic "regret test".
Pretend that you wake up , next week and you're moved out/broken up.
Which are going to feel more: ( even 51% more, it's never 100% )
a. REGRET you left her and the boy
b. RELIEF you left a stressful relationship
I sincerely wish you some peace and inner strength when making this tough choice.
In the end, it will be emotional , regardless of what you choose.
BUT, it should be YOUR choice, based on YOUR inner feelings.
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This thread is useless without pics of the single mom in question.
Preferably nudes.
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This thread is useless without pics of the single mom in question.
Preferably nudes.
The "getbigger" force, is strong in this one. ;)
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You might think I'm a douchebag, but allow me to give you some bullet points to consider .
1. Have her file via her county office for child support based on "abandonment" by him.
He might be a dead beat , but she doesn't need him coming back demanding some renewed custody.
Please encourage her to do this, regardless of what you do in terms of staying with her.
2. You love her, but a bigger issue is , this boy needs a father , he can depend on.
She needs a loving man who can be a partner to her with "life" and raising her son.
There are a lot worse ways to spend your life and plenty of men find it a meaningful lifestyle.
If giving this boy a loving, dedicated dad is something you desire, go ahead and do it.
If not, move on and give them a shot to find it.
Do you have your own grown children or not? Perhaps that could make a difference in your decision?
3. It all comes down to the basic "regret test".
Pretend that you wake up , next week and you're moved out/broken up.
Which are going to feel more: ( even 51% more, it's never 100% )
a. REGRET you left her and the boy
b. RELIEF you left a stressful relationship
I sincerely wish you some peace and inner strength when making this tough choice.
In the end, it will be emotional , regardless of what you choose.
BUT, it should be YOUR choice, based on YOUR inner feelings.
To your first point. Her biggest fear is that by asking for child support would spur him to go to court and then ask for custody out of spite. Once you involve the courts its the one with the best lawyer that wins.
I hear you, I play the scenario out a lot. How would I feel. Sometimes I would think relief and other times I would feel pain. I guess that's normal.
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The "getbigger" force, is strong in this one. ;)
Your mother must be a very happy grandma of 2 cabbage patch grandkids ;D
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Your mother must be a very happy grandma of 2 cabbage patch grandkids ;D
HOF getbig zinger !
After the 1st divorce, I had a nightmare where these demon cabbage patch dolls were trying to get me. 100% serious.
Trust me, no man endures a divorce without some PTSD. :D
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HOF getbig zinger !
After the 1st divorce, I had a nightmare where these demon cabbage patch dolls were trying to get me. 100% serious.
Trust me, no man endures a divorce without some PTSD. :D
Love you misery , how is old mama !.
;D
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pics of the MILF please
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pics of the MILF please
>>>Howards video, ;)
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>>>Howards video, ;)
LMAO ;D
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This thread is plagued with an over abundance of estrogen.
Stop your yacking and figure it out.
Hell, stay with the broad ... and rig a scene in which the little wanker is “accidentally” run over. Ride out the emotional fallout and then knock her up with your own seed.
Don’t have to thank me.
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This thread is plagued with an over abundance of estrogen.
Stop your yacking and figure it out.
Hell, stay with the broad ... and rig a scene in which the little wanker is “accidentally” run over. Ride out the emotional fallout and then knock her up with your own seed.
Don’t have to thank me.
Nothing you say matters.
The dude is actually taking life advice from the biggest collection of retards on the planet.
Hopefully he realizes he's already hit rock bottom and snaps out of it.
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the kid's dad is a deadbeat. Turned out he became a drunk a couple years into the marriage. For whatever reason. Would berate her, yell at her and emotionally beat her down. She tried to make the relationship work but left him a few years after the kid was born. He has no interest in seeing the kid but she does make the effort to try to have him see the kid so the kid doesn't feel abandoned and mentally fucked up. She hates her ex with a passion.
Hey bro that’s her side of the story. I have dated women that say same things about their ex and guess what I am after we break up? Yep, I’m the bad guy that she tells the next guy was emotionally abusive, mean, toxic, yada yada. You said some men’s things recently - guess what now she’s saying in her head or out loud that you are emotionally abusive.
Always two sides and in the middle somewhere is the truth. She’s manipulating you with that story. I respect women so much when they just tell me, “things didn’t work out” and don’t bash the ex or anything.
I’ve been in your same situation many years ago. I moved on.....she’s been engaged twice but no marriage and has been riding that cock carousel for years now.
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Simple solution: El Diablo Blanco & Howard should do wife swap !.
:D
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Hey bro that’s her side of the story. I have dated women that say same things about their ex and guess what I am after we break up? Yep, I’m the bad guy that she tells the next guy was emotionally abusive, mean, toxic, yada yada. You said some men’s things recently - guess what now she’s saying in her head or out loud that you are emotionally abusive.
Always two sides and in the middle somewhere is the truth. She’s manipulating you with that story. I respect women so much when they just tell me, “things didn’t work out” and don’t bash the ex or anything.
I’ve been in your same situation many years ago. I moved on.....she’s been engaged twice but no marriage and has been riding that cock carousel for years now.
This.
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I think social media has made women more bay shit crazy. On the plus side helps guys easily identify the cluster B chicks.
:D
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Hey bro that’s her side of the story. I have dated women that say same things about their ex and guess what I am after we break up? Yep, I’m the bad guy that she tells the next guy was emotionally abusive, mean, toxic, yada yada. You said some men’s things recently - guess what now she’s saying in her head or out loud that you are emotionally abusive.
Always two sides and in the middle somewhere is the truth. She’s manipulating you with that story. I respect women so much when they just tell me, “things didn’t work out” and don’t bash the ex or anything.
I’ve been in your same situation many years ago. I moved on.....she’s been engaged twice but no marriage and has been riding that cock carousel for years now.
I think you are on to something here.
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It occurred to me that Diablo likes to run Tren. If you're on Tren right now you might want to taper off and mellow out a bit.
I can tell you a dozen times i flipped out about something on Tren, that would have normally been no big deal.
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It occurred to me that Diablo likes to run Tren. If you're on Tren right now you might want to taper off and mellow out a bit.
I can tell you a dozen times i flipped out about something on Tren, that would have normally been no big deal.
Running Tren at age 45 doesn't sound like a good idea to me.
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Running Tren at age 45 doesn't sound like a good idea to me.
How about at 60?
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Hey bro that’s her side of the story. I have dated women that say same things about their ex and guess what I am after we break up? Yep, I’m the bad guy that she tells the next guy was emotionally abusive, mean, toxic, yada yada. You said some men’s things recently - guess what now she’s saying in her head or out loud that you are emotionally abusive.
Always two sides and in the middle somewhere is the truth. She’s manipulating you with that story. I respect women so much when they just tell me, “things didn’t work out” and don’t bash the ex or anything.
I’ve been in your same situation many years ago. I moved on.....she’s been engaged twice but no marriage and has been riding that cock carousel for years now.
I've been thinking the same thing. Sometimes I wonder if she was the real problem and not the dad. Truth is though, he never makes the effort to see the kid so she does all the time. She feels guilty the kid will turned fucked in the head because of it. But then why the guilt? Was it really her that fucked up and why the dad never wants to see her and it's not really the kid that's the issue?
I think about this a lot. I also thought the same that if we break up, she will tell everyone I was the bad guy and she was the angel blah blah blah. I think most women do that anyways. Most won't admit that they were the fuck up.
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For me to really plan a long term relationship with this gal, I really want to meet her Ex. I need to figure out how. Have a beer with him and see if there's a pattern to her behavior or if it really was him being a shit head loser. That would solidify if I have a serial psycho girlfriend or someone how is 100% legit.
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late to the thread
1. do you live with her and her kid?
2. what does she do a living?
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For me to really plan a long term relationship with this gal, I really want to meet her Ex. I need to figure out how. Have a beer with him and see if there's a pattern to her behavior or if it really was him being a shit head loser. That would solidify if I have a serial psycho girlfriend or someone how is 100% legit.
I saw a movie where the guy met with the former husband.
Seems like good move.
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Of all the hairbrained notions.... Are we being trolled here? Do not meet her ex husband on the sly. Just you and her are generating all the data you need.
Bear in mind it's not up to only you whether to stay together or not. Her behavior, as you describe it, is that of a person who is not so terribly keen but doesn't want to rip the bandaid off.
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For me to really plan a long term relationship with this gal, I really want to meet her Ex. I need to figure out how. Have a beer with him and see if there's a pattern to her behavior or if it really was him being a shit head loser. That would solidify if I have a serial psycho girlfriend or someone how is 100% legit.
There’s a reason he doesn’t come around. I dated another crazy broad with a kid (different than previously mentioned) and I knew her ex boyfriend since we would shoot the shit in the gym and see each other out. Nice guy. One night she told me how her ex was a deadbeat, didn’t want the kid when she was pregnant, etc. Few weeks later she says his name. I put two and two together and confirm it’s the dude I know. Keep my mouth shut that I know him, just say yeah I think I know who that is.
Next week I run into him. He tells me the story is she would continually keep him from seeing the kid out of punishment for past wrongs in the relationship. Be spiteful and actually tell him that I was going to adopt the kid legally and he needs to sign over rights. That she was always starting fights with him. He admitted he doesn’t pay support but he’s struggling to build his company up (2007 crash he was hurting).
If you’re going to stay in it plan to meet him or do some digging to get 100% out and not look back.
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This entire scene is way too tiring.
Just punch your monkey several times each week and be done with it.
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I've been thinking the same thing. Sometimes I wonder if she was the real problem and not the dad. Truth is though, he never makes the effort to see the kid so she does all the time. She feels guilty the kid will turned fucked in the head because of it. But then why the guilt? Was it really her that fucked up and why the dad never wants to see her and it's not really the kid that's the issue?
I think about this a lot. I also thought the same that if we break up, she will tell everyone I was the bad guy and she was the angel blah blah blah. I think most women do that anyways. Most won't admit that they were the fuck up.
LOL you wonder if the dad is the problem?
The guy who walked out on his kid and left him with the potentially crazy mom.
This is good stuff.
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This entire scene is way too tiring.
Just punch your monkey several times each week and be done with it.
X2
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Of all the hairbrained notions.... Are we being trolled here? Do not meet her ex husband on the sly. Just you and her are generating all the data you need.
Bear in mind it's not up to only you whether to stay together or not. Her behavior, as you describe it, is that of a person who is not so terribly keen but doesn't want to rip the bandaid off.
Great post with solid, direct advice and insight.
I don't know El Diablo . It looks like most here , don't know him either.
We can only go on what he's posted , here , in this thread
In the end, El Diablo needs to do what's right for him , her and the kid
I'll be direct and concise on my final advice for him:
1. RUN!
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Great post with solid, direct advice and insight.
I don't know El Diablo . It looks like most here , don't know him either.
We can only go on what he's posted , here , in this thread
In the end, El Diablo needs to do what's right for him , her and the kid
I'll be direct and concise on my final advice for him:
1. RUN!
I’ll be concise to you:
Fuck off.
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Howard is such a sensitive and caring guy.
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On get big , I've been called everything but a Sunday School Teacher. ;D
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On get big , I've been called everything but a Sunday School Teacher. ;D
You fucken Sunday School Teacher >:(
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;D
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You fucken Sunday School Teacher >:(
;D ;D
Superb, my brother!
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Howard is such a sensitive and caring guy.
A paragon of pussy pulling penile pulchritude. A true Sensitive New Age Guy.
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A paragon of pussy pulling penile pulchritude. A true Sensitive New Age Guy.
Some damn impressive alliteration there Scott :D
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Some damn impressive alliteration there Scott :D
There are times I do something correctly and then there's times where I cannot make myself clear. It's something I have dealt with for decades now and it's not anyone's fault save my own and I will joke about it but all too often I fail at that aspect of the conversation if you will. I am dust. Be well.
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You fucken Sunday School Teacher >:(
You complete me :D
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There are times I do something correctly and then there's times where I cannot make myself clear. It's something I have dealt with for decades now and it's not anyone's fault save my own and I will joke about it but all too often I fail at that aspect of the conversation if you will. I am dust. Be well.
I know this isn't zoom, but trust me , that aroused me into "full Toobin" mode ;D
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Maybe your sister in law just wants someone to do yard work.
LMMFAO
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Nothing you say matters.
The dude is actually taking life advice from the biggest collection of retards on the planet.
Hopefully he realizes he's already hit rock bottom and snaps out of it.
Great answer. Great thread. How did I ever miss this one.
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Nothing you say matters.
The dude is actually taking life advice from the biggest collection of retards on the planet.
Hopefully he realizes he's already hit rock bottom and snaps out of it.
Hey bro that’s her side of the story. I have dated women that say same things about their ex and guess what I am after we break up? Yep, I’m the bad guy that she tells the next guy was emotionally abusive, mean, toxic, yada yada. You said some men’s things recently - guess what now she’s saying in her head or out loud that you are emotionally abusive.
Always two sides and in the middle somewhere is the truth. She’s manipulating you with that story. I respect women so much when they just tell me, “things didn’t work out” and don’t bash the ex or anything.
I’ve been in your same situation many years ago. I moved on.....she’s been engaged twice but no marriage and has been riding that cock carousel for years now.
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Hey bro that’s his side of the story. I have dated men that say same things about their ex and guess what I am after we break up? Yep, I’m the bad guy that tells the next guy was emotionally abusive, with toxic ball odor . You said gay men’s things recently - guess what now, he’s saying out loud that you are anally abusive.
Always two testes and in the middle somewhere is the penis. He’s manipulating you with that penis. I respect men so much when they just tell me, “things didn’t work out” and don’t blow the ex or anything.
I’ve been in your same situation many years ago. I moved on.....he’s been engaged twice but no marriage and I've been riding that cock carousel for years now.
fixed - get big translation ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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fixed - get big translation ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
There are times I do something correctly and then there's times where I cannot make myself clear. It's something I have dealt with for decades now and it's not anyone's fault save my own and I will joke about it but all too often I fail at that aspect of the conversation if you will. I am dust. Be well.
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There are times I do something correctly and then there's times where I cannot make myself clear. It's something I have dealt with for decades now and it's not anyone's fault save my own and I will joke about it but all too often I fail at that aspect of the conversation if you will. I am dust. Be well.
To which I reply ; " I saw a star, reached for it...but I missed"
and
"Howard could be screwing a super model and it would still suck...because Howard was doing it."
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To which I reply ; " I saw a star, reached for it...but I missed"
and
"Howard could be screwing a super model and it would still suck...because Howard was doing it."
A paragon of pussy pulling penile pulchritude. A true Sensitive New Age Guy.
You fucken Sunday School Teacher.
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A paragon of pussy pulling penile pulchritude. A true Sensitive New Age Guy.
You fucken Sunday School Teacher.
;D
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thread is interesting for sure
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thread is interesting for sure
To which I reply ; " I saw a star, reached for it...but I missed"
and
"Howard could be screwing a super model and it would still suck...because Howard was doing it."
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10 pages and no one asked for pics ???
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10 pages and no one asked for pics ???
exactly
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10 pages and no one asked for pics ???
Pics have been requested several times in this thread.
See reply #196.
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Pics have been requested several times in this thread.
See reply #196.
Unless Coach is willing to display the back of his balls and anus , I'm not interested in pics.
I trust my sentiments are shared by the majority of get big.
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Unless Coach is willing to display the back of his balls and anus , I'm not interested in pics.
I trust my sentiments are shared by the majority of get big.
Doubtful.
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Unless Coach is willing to display the back of his balls and anus , I'm not interested in pics.
I trust my sentiments are shared by the majority of get big.
You think this is funny? And you wonder why so many people dislike you here.
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You think this is funny? And you wonder why so many people dislike you here.
I happen to be laughing my ass off right now.