Author Topic: Something that upset you so much that you couldn't even train? (Read 6709 times)

Jr. Yates · « **on:** October 10, 2006, 03:11:55 PM »

Have you guys ever had something so bad you couldn't even train?? im posting this here because I appreciate your answers more. (mods move it if you like). Loss of a loved one,job,breakup. I know anger is a better motivator than depression but i work out best when im happy. I have trained through the loss of a loved one and even though i tried to ignore it, it sill does put a slow down on my training. but anger is even worse, if im frustrated i can't concentrate or get a pump. thoughts??

SuperStu · « **Reply #1 on:** October 10, 2006, 03:35:42 PM »

the day my dealer got busted.

Luv2Hurt · « **Reply #2 on:** October 10, 2006, 04:28:49 PM »

Quote from: Jr. Yates on October 10, 2006, 03:11:55 PM

Have you guys ever had something so bad you couldn't even train?? im posting this here because I appreciate your answers more. (mods move it if you like). Loss of a loved one,job,breakup. I know anger is a better motivator than depression but i work out best when im happy. I have trained through the loss of a loved one and even though i tried to ignore it, it sill does put a slow down on my training. but anger is even worse, if im frustrated i can't concentrate or get a pump. thoughts??

You sound like you are still dealing with this loss, or maybe you really haven't dealt with it yet? I would suggest some therapy possibly. Unfinished business always shows up later as depression and anger which is just displaced depression.

Jr. Yates · « **Reply #3 on:** October 10, 2006, 04:51:38 PM »

nono haha not anymore. someone came into the gym today and yesterday lost their nephew ( i guess he fell off a train) it got me thinking how training was for me when I lost my grandmother. he ended up leaving the gym. so i though hmmm i wouldnt want to do that when im in the midst of a cycle so i thought i'd see if you guys have had that...OR even this, you just started your cycle and then got the flu??

weldr911 · « **Reply #4 on:** October 10, 2006, 06:02:03 PM »

Yes, I've had some bad things happen to me, that took away my drive to pump iron, or made it so difficult to concentrate, that I just couldn't lift. But different people deal with things in different ways.
My personal experience, that made it too difficult for me to lift and concentrate was when me and my first wife split up. But then my depression turned to anger and I came back in full force.
I see her every now and then with her now "loser" husband with his beer gut and bad posture and thank God she's not a part of MY life.

ZEEK · « **Reply #5 on:** October 10, 2006, 07:30:07 PM »

alot of things can bring a person down.the key is to ecept the way thinks are and not let yourself be apart of it.of course the loss of a loved on is hard BUT your happiness is what your loved one will want not your sadness.now as far as a girlfriend I learned that one out a long time ago and I stuck with what my dad told me." son you were looking for a girl when you found this". there is nothing wrong with taken time off from the gym to get caught up with life. I think we all go threw this.but of course I think you perform better in the gym when your in a good mood and happy.Anger some say will help with your performance at the gym but then again it can make you look like a ass also.

Beener · « **Reply #6 on:** October 10, 2006, 09:04:22 PM »

Quote from: weldr911 on October 10, 2006, 06:02:03 PM

I see her every now and then with her now "loser" husband with his beer gut and bad posture and thank God she's not a part of MY life.

Thats when you're supposed to flex your muscles and show off. And then yknow, ask him how much his belly can bench.

O · « **Reply #7 on:** October 11, 2006, 02:51:55 AM »

Wow, lots of emotion here...

Good stuff, I don't think any good Mod would move this as suggested by the creator....

First off, it's very hard to deal with outside antagonists when your are dealing with something emotional...

Bench.......

I can totally feel your anger. Reading your post put me right there, and I would have done the same thing in that instance. But we must remember that the day you are speaking of was in memory of your woman, not of some scumbag who decided to desecrate your loved one's buriel.

Not to Monday morning quarterback you (which I am) but we have to be above these people. I know in that instance emotion overwhelmed you, as it would the best of men...but you must be strong.

You are above these people, and will do much greater things than they will. God bless your woman whom you have lost, and hopefully one day you will be at peace with all the events which have transpired.

I feel like a preacher here, and I am not the most religious person around. But I can only say what I feel, and that is it.

I will get back to the "training" issue...but the emotional well-being of our brothers are first and foremost.

Jr. Yates · « **Reply #8 on:** October 11, 2006, 10:54:05 AM »

wow you can't help but feel for your guys stories. stories like these and hearing that you guys were able to carry on shows incredable strenght as a human being and i have nothing but respect for you. I know if your anything like me not much in life comes before my training, but loved ones is totally different. We step in the gym day in and day out and every day we know exactly what it is we have to do, but its amazing how easily that can all be forgotten if something involving a true prioirity sets in. some good (birth of your baby) some bad (loss of a loved one) but no matter what, as hard as it may be some times, we carry on and knowing that you guys out there achieved this, gives me more strength as well. I truly thank you for those replies.

ZEEK · « **Reply #9 on:** October 11, 2006, 01:02:14 PM »

we are all a bunch of bad ass's in our own way, but we all have emotions. Im glad to hear a different side of you all.instead of the tough guy,I bench 9000 pounds and im better the you.

good post you all....

mem · « **Reply #10 on:** October 11, 2006, 02:16:11 PM »

WOW! Touching thread . . .

The funeral story my me puff up (wanna S L A M their ass)
I am sure that even the most level even keel person
may be drawn to similar actions . . .

Some times things do happen to detour or deture
us from out original course or plan. Like running behind
and not making the light, at the intersection delaying
another 3 or 4 minutes. Whos to say that there might
not just be an accident that you AVOIDED by this
unplanned delay.

Things happen for a reason (ACCEPT IT)
keep focused and don't let it bother you...

I am at Match.com and on occasion I really wanna
meet a particular woman and timing or schedules ARE
just off, BUT invariably there IS another b e a u t y
waiting in the wings, that may be a better fit anyway.
Make the most of every opportunity . . .

Sometimes when something intervenes with my training
routine, I just have grown to accept this as devine
intervention (or plans) that M A Y B E we are not
supposed to act according to our original intent . . .
maybe an injury IS immanent and IS avoided by delay.

I hope that I am not way off base for the thread.

Our little group session here IS pretty cool!!!
Thank you guys for bearing it for the gang : )

Arnold jr · « **Reply #11 on:** October 11, 2006, 02:48:50 PM »

Luckily, I've yet to experience something so tragic that it took me away from training. Yes, I've had my share of ups and downs, but during the "down" times I can become even more eager to get to the gym simply because it takes my mind off of what ever is bothering me. I might have to psyche myself up a bit more at these times just to get in there but once I do get going I'm always glad I did and feel a whole lot better on the other side.

ignorance · « **Reply #12 on:** October 11, 2006, 03:09:07 PM »

The fucking wife pissing me off on dump shit that gets me so stressed out all I think about is how fucked up she is the ruin that days hard work when I'm on or off. Fucking wifes fuck everything up. All their good for is pinning and fucking, and sometimes makign me my meals. Uther then that she take your money and bitch slap your results in the gym and threw out the day.

Jr. Yates · « **Reply #13 on:** October 11, 2006, 03:17:33 PM »

Quote from: ignorance on October 11, 2006, 03:09:07 PM

The fucking wife pissing me off on dump shit that gets me so stressed out all I think about is how fucked up she is the ruin that days hard work when I'm on or off. Fucking wifes f**k everything up. All their good for is pinning and fucking, and sometimes makign me my meals. Uther then that she take your money and bitch slap your results in the gym and threw out the day.

im sorry to hear you feel that way. A marrige definatly shouldn't be THAT bad. I do know the feeling of your gains being trash talked. it is a big piss off, especially hearing it all the time and coming from people that you are "close" to. my ex gf would always do that. however it goes, good luck to you man.

ignorance · « **Reply #14 on:** October 11, 2006, 03:43:10 PM »

Oh the marriage is great dont get me worng, but when she feels like throwing my results for that day in the trash she has the power to. I hate stress, and I hate fighting or biccering over shit that doesnt matter at that time or place. Don't get my wrong I love my wife and the sex and other cute things but she has this power that she uses the fuck me over from time to time. It doesn't have to be a wife you could have a girlfriend who can do the same shit just one day pisses you off. and that is what I'm talking about.

udeluz · « **Reply #15 on:** October 11, 2006, 04:50:16 PM »

My heart goes out to you bro,

I am currently on a 3 day suspension from work

Story goes.

Last Wednesday my wife calls me at work to tell me that my Nieces Husband that just turned 20 years old, committed suicide because they just had a baby and he didn't think he could be a good father (because he has been deaf since birth) Anyway he hung himself Wednesday. I was telling a coworker and he said "What a fucking Loser" I lost it and punched him in the mouth, and he is a bleeder because it looked like I had beat on him for a hour.

Anyway after a few days of investigation of our Human Resources Dept I got 3 days off and he agreed not to press charges.

Now I know there are going to be people that go both ways on suicide, and I do myself think it is the chicken shits way out...

But this is different because it effects MY niece and her son for the rest of there lives..

Jr. Yates · « **Reply #16 on:** October 11, 2006, 04:57:17 PM »

that is heart wrenching udeluz. im sorry to hear that. that guy at work should have kept his mouth shut. im glad you didn't get into too much trouble.

benchmstr · « **Reply #17 on:** October 11, 2006, 05:01:11 PM »

Quote from: udeluz on October 11, 2006, 04:50:16 PM

My heart goes out to you bro,

I am currently on a 3 day suspension from work

Story goes.

Last Wednesday my wife calls me at work to tell me that my Nieces Husband that just turned 20 years old, committed suicide because they just had a baby and he didn't think he could be a good father (because he has been deaf since birth) Anyway he hung himself Wednesday. I was telling a coworker and he said "What a fucking Loser" I lost it and punched him in the mouth, and he is a bleeder because it looked like I had beat on him for a hour.

Anyway after a few days of investigation of our Human Resources Dept I got 3 days off and he agreed not to press charges.

Now I know there are going to be people that go both ways on suicide, and I do myself think it is the chicken shits way out...

But this is different because it effects MY niece and her son for the rest of there lives..

damn they should make an episode of "when keeping it real goes wrong" for me and you

sorry about your future inlaw that is a sad situation i hope you niece gets through as painless as possible,when are people going to realize suicide is the most selfish thing you can ever do

my heart goes out to you and your family bro

bench

Jr. Yates · « **Reply #18 on:** October 11, 2006, 05:06:58 PM »

i don't think you guys were wrong in "keeping it real" at all. it was the people who said it, that weren't keeping it real. anyone here would do the same thing, i don't even think you guys were justified, and look udeluz gets suspended!!

udeluz · « **Reply #19 on:** October 11, 2006, 05:08:40 PM »

Quote from: benchmstr on October 11, 2006, 05:01:11 PM

sorry about your future inlaw that is a sad situation i hope you niece gets through as painless as possible,when are people going to realize suicide is the most selfish thing you can ever do

bench

I know bro, Its not too hard to understand the pain you will cause everyone if you off yourself.. Even if you were the biggest pathetic loser, there are ALMOST always Mother, Fathers, Siblings, Co-Workers.. Shit..there is ALWAYS someone it will affect.

ZEEK · « **Reply #20 on:** October 11, 2006, 06:14:10 PM »

All these talks about punching and kicking some ones ass is stupid,NOW don't get me wrong for specific reason I would do the same BUT there is always another person in a worst mood then you are in one day the joy of thinking your gonna bust someones ass for joy riding in a car just might be your ass hittin the ground.and ending up in jail cause this is called assult and battery.
I have plenty of stories I can throw in the mix here but I don't want to relive stupidity.

here one that tops all your guys just like Bench I work in clubs so I have the pleasure of hurting people from time to time.DO I like it? every so often,I get to releave stress from the home front and my other jobs.BUT I do have feelings I'm a humanbeing. I was at work on a Saturday night the club is busy.I get a call on the radio come up front. I get up there and there these black dudes up there stoned and drunk right off the back well your not aloud in the club when your that drunk already,well since I'm head security i say you guys gonna be cool if I let you in and just hold back a little on the drinks.Of course they were like no problem.( JUST to let you all know I am getting so jacked right now writing this ) they go in everything is cool a hour past and I get a call again I go to the VIP room and there are the dudes I let in.I say guys you cant be in here its VIP only,well they get up and start to walk out as the lastone is going I hear one of them call be a pussy,I stop all 3 of them and say to them what the f**k you just say the guys says your a FUCKING PUSSY,I say dude what the hell did I do to you guys I let you in after your already drunk and I ask you guys to just get out of the VIP room and thats is I didn't say you had to leave or anything. so were arguing back and forth so I finally said come on guys you have to go and just come back next week.well they did not like that so as I am asking them to leave a bottle get knocked over my head I turn around and there like5 security guys there they grab the guy that hit me put him to the ground and start bringing him outside the other security escort the others out I follow behind we get them outside I'm pisst the cops are already called I have blood all over my face.we get outside I go into a rage I looked at the dude told the security to let him go and asked that fucker do you see what you did to my head the bastard spit in my face I hit that guy 2 times I remember so clearly one in the right eye the last shot in his throat.that was his last breath....DEAD....
after he hit the ground I felt a sharp burning in my neck his buddies that were with him started shooting a gun i was shot in my neck.I woke up in the hospital
the guys were arrested and charged with a long list of shit along with attempted murder on me. I was not charged.... but I did get a nice check.
but all this and I have to live with this and keep a story in my head for the rest of my life.

I could have died someone did die and for what cause someone decided to be a bad ass that nite.this is all true I am still going to counseling for this. hope you enjoyed next time think before you react.

benchmstr · « **Reply #21 on:** October 11, 2006, 07:52:34 PM »

Quote from: ZEEK on October 11, 2006, 06:14:10 PM

All these talks about punching and kicking some ones ass is stupid,NOW don't get me wrong for specific reason I would do the same BUT there is always another person in a worst mood then you are in one day the joy of thinking your gonna bust someones ass for joy riding in a car just might be your ass hittin the ground.and ending up in jail cause this is called assult and battery.
I have plenty of stories I can throw in the mix here but I don't want to relive stupidity.

here one that tops all your guys just like Bench I work in clubs so I have the pleasure of hurting people from time to time.DO I like it? every so often,I get to releave stress from the home front and my other jobs.BUT I do have feelings I'm a humanbeing. I was at work on a Saturday night the club is busy.I get a call on the radio come up front. I get up there and there these black dudes up there stoned and drunk right off the back well your not aloud in the club when your that drunk already,well since I'm head security i say you guys gonna be cool if I let you in and just hold back a little on the drinks.Of course they were like no problem.( JUST to let you all know I am getting so jacked right now writing this ) they go in everything is cool a hour past and I get a call again I go to the VIP room and there are the dudes I let in.I say guys you cant be in here its VIP only,well they get up and start to walk out as the lastone is going I hear one of them call be a pussy,I stop all 3 of them and say to them what the f**k you just say the guys says your a FUCKING PUSSY,I say dude what the hell did I do to you guys I let you in after your already drunk and I ask you guys to just get out of the VIP room and thats is I didn't say you had to leave or anything. so were arguing back and forth so I finally said come on guys you have to go and just come back next week.well they did not like that so as I am asking them to leave a bottle get knocked over my head I turn around and there like5 security guys there they grab the guy that hit me put him to the ground and start bringing him outside the other security escort the others out I follow behind we get them outside I'm pisst the cops are already called I have blood all over my face.we get outside I go into a rage I looked at the dude told the security to let him go and asked that fucker do you see what you did to my head the bastard spit in my face I hit that guy 2 times I remember so clearly one in the right eye the last shot in his throat.that was his last breath....DEAD....
after he hit the ground I felt a sharp burning in my neck his buddies that were with him started shooting a gun i was shot in my neck.I woke up in the hospital
the guys were arrested and charged with a long list of shit along with attempted murder on me. I was not charged.... but I did get a nice check.
but all this and I have to live with this and keep a story in my head for the rest of my life.

I could have died someone did die and for what cause someone decided to be a bad ass that nite.this is all true I am still going to counseling for this. hope you enjoyed next time think before you react.

dude i get what your saying and it sucks you got shot but i am not trying to be a badass just stating something that was relevant to the post and as far as my car goes i spent over $26000 on aftermarket parts not including the $30000 for the car itself and someone at a tire shop puts over 200 miles on it and got a ticket for roasting my tires and he got what he deserved

Back to you getting shot do you know what size gun you were shot with.The only reason i ask is i have been shot twice the vest caught both of them (45 acp) but it still broke some ribs and caused a little internal bleeding the guy behind me wasn't so lucky(blew away his knee and part of his pelvis and another in his vest).And if you also don't mind what was the recovery like.

and i never said i work at a club i am with the N.E.T (narcotics entry team) teams here in texas and shit gets brutal we are pretty much the swat team but we do not do hostage or standoffs just drug enforcement

udeluz · « **Reply #22 on:** October 11, 2006, 07:58:41 PM »

LOL, I guess we all know now what benchmstr does for a living....

bench lets hear about this Stang

I've got a 93 Notch that I bought NEW for 17k and have sunk another 20k into it..

Its my baby running mid 10's..... Ill never sell it.. I wanna be buried in it

benchmstr · « **Reply #23 on:** October 11, 2006, 08:09:50 PM »

Quote from: udeluz on October 11, 2006, 07:58:41 PM

LOL, I guess we all know now what benchmstr does for a living....

bench lets hear about this Stang

I've got a 93 Notch that I bought NEW for 17k and have sunk another 20k into it..

Its my baby running mid 10's..... Ill never sell it.. I wanna be buried in it

patriot stg 3 heads ,custom grind billet cams,full billet internals, homemade sheetmetal intake,a single 86 mm turbo,tremec tko 600,spec stg 3 clutch,and a 200 shot of nitrous express that has never been used but it has ran 9's if you want more info pm me

as far as my job goes dont worry i dont bring my work home with me,but i will not return to work until the end of april i had the option to take disability but i just quit until the end of april since i also work from home i am only loosing a hobby for a few months

ZEEK · « **Reply #24 on:** October 11, 2006, 08:32:06 PM »

no disrespect bench at all.... I know what your saying. I just hate when good people are in the wrong places. But it was a 22 I know nothing big but a couple of inches eather way and I wouldnt be talking to you guys. i just feel like kicking the shit out of people all the time but then I get flash backs and it really hurts.i was in the army for a few years and I have done some stupid shit and now its the ass holes out in this world now that are causeing the most problems.these kids are growing up so quick and think they run everything. i dont want to get into it.