Div,
I'm surprised you (of all people) would confuse being honest about situations with jaded. Is Juni's romantic idealism rubbing off on you?
Jaded in the sense that life experiences jades anyone, which is inevitable.
Life has a ways of changing people, and it's how you deal with the circumstances which determines your final disposition.
Div considers himself MORE of a romantic than me...and he is
Romantic in that I don't have sex with random bodies passing through alcohol-laced dancefloors.
I'm an all or nothing type and I can't compromise on sex.
There's too much effort involved.
I love women, LOL! I just have a no BS policy with the world.
I find the search for the holy grail (perfect women) absurd, in an amusing way. Especially in light of how flawed we all are as human beings. Finding someone perfect for me would be much more reasonable. If a perfect woman existed out there she definately wouldn't want someone like me.
Don't confuse pragmaticism with baggage. There is a huge difference. For me every woman starts with a clean slate, what she writes on it is up to her.
Besides..... Who 'hates women' more? The guy who gives every one a chance? Or the guy that rejects them all for not being perfect? If we sat around and compared baggage (pointless exercise) my guess is that you'd have more. 'Waiting for someone perfect' is just an advanced and more palatable defense mechanism.
Perfection is a myth.
Even if there was both an intellectual and physical ideal, would you still be completely happy?
Relationships aren't meant to be smooth 100% of the time, which is how they become longlasting, through trials and tribulations.
As much as we'd like to think we give someone a clean slate, our baggage doesn't always allow us that luxury.
Past experiences, past relationships always come in to play when it comes to how we react to current situations.
The damage is done.
Emotional stains don't wash off.
DIV