Gee thanks Jake, ...you've just ruined the fantasy in less than 2 seconds flat. I might have to rethink this thing.
Sounds to me like she had no business entering into a polyamorous relationship to begin with.
It's not about ego or attention, ...just satisfying needs. It's hell to be in a relationship with someone who is intellectually stimulating ONLY, ...or someone who is VERY handy around the house, but has the intellectual capacity of a doorknob.
She needed to be in a relationship like that. This is exactly the reason why she was so bitter and hostile. The girl had low self esteem and was bitter about it, LOL! She was actually very pretty and didn't respect the attention of nicer guys. I could have dated her if my life would have allowed the time to tell someone what to do and think all the time. I'm kind of lazy and someone like that needs a perfect attention:rejection ratio. My sense of fairness would never allow doing something like that unless there was the time to do it perfectly.
My life would never have had the time for two girlfriends or treating her like crap so she felt in line. Too much attention and you get the B-word, too little attention and you have a stalker. Before you point out the obvious.... Yes, there is actually a side of me that could do it but it's not as big a component of my personality as the side that loves simplicity.
That being said, I would definately pick a second girl that she could not get along with.
Being able to hang out with my friends and spend alone time are important priorities. Their having someone to be occasionally pissed at would free up time for me and make threesomes more interesting/physical.
It's a good thing that side of me is under control.
It is 100% about ego/attention, LOL! A woman/man thinks they are so interesting, complicated, sexy, sweet, cool, etc... that one person couldn't possibly satisfy their needs. Regular sized egos don't feel entitled to have all their needs met, even if it means taking on extra 'help'. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, only that you should be more honest with yourself.
I just have a hard time believing you could find a guy strong enough to earn your respect who would go for that type of arrangement.