Open request to all female board mods (and board readers)

[24KT]

Hi Ladies, (and Ron),

I just wanted to make it known for the record, that if I make a post on here or start a subject thread that you deem offensive or innappropriate for this board, feel free to simply delete it rather than move it to another board. There are some boards which I simply don't want to post on, and some subjects I care not to post about on other boards. To move my posts to those boards from this one would simply defeat the purpose or intent of originally posting on this board to begin with. That being the case, I'd rather prefer the post simply be deleted instead.

Thanks

ps - If anyone has a problem with anything I write, ...feel free to PM me with your objections. 

[drkaje]

Judi,

I sent you a PM.

[24KT]

Judi,

I sent you a PM.

lemme go check it.  brb

PM

hmmm... Jakey, ...could you please be a bit more specific please? (you know how clued out I can be sometimes)

[drkaje]

lemme go check it.  brb

hmmm... Jakey, ...could you please be a bit more specific please? (you know how clued out I can be sometimes)

I'd be more likely to say very narrow perspective instead of clued out.

[24KT]

I'd be more likely to say very narrow perspective instead of clued out.

Only 8 , 7 , 6 more days and counting... 

[drkaje]

Only 8 , 7 , 6 more days and counting... 

Don't get too excited, LOL! There's a remote chance we might end up in Canada for two days.

[24KT]

Don't get too excited, LOL! There's a remote chance we might end up in Canada for two days.

Eeeeeeeeek!!

[drkaje]

A friend's summer residence might be calling.

[drkaje]

"To all fellow getbiggers, please note that this board is heavily moderated.  Please remain respectful in this area.  You have all the other boards for teasing, flaming and pwning.  If you are found to be insulting or disrespectful to other members of this board your posts WILL be deleted immediately.  And for those who want to cry "foul"...cry on another board.  This board was created as a place for people to escape the negativity and whatnot of some of the other boards.

Also, please note this message is from ALL the moderator's of this board, not just myself.

Thank you"

Curious..... All this time I thought it was the posters that make a board what it is.

[~flower~]

Curious..... All this time I thought it was the posters that make a board what it is.

Under the board rules.  

[drkaje]

Under the board rules.  

I would expect your experience to be valuable in this situation. What usually happens to forums that get too restrictive or have a very narrow focus? 

[Original Sin]

I would expect your experience to be valuable in this situation. What usually happens to forums that get too restrictive or have a very narrow focus? 

If the board was going to have a very narrow focus this post would have been one of the first removed.
Totalitarian states can't allow any subversion.  In the few posts that I have read of yours, you always seem to jump to the extreme to try and make a point.  Why is this so?

If you are going to make valid arguments and not resort to hair pulling or name calling there is no fear that your posts will be deleted.  Pushing girls down in the playground is something we all should have grown out of already.

This appears just to be an effort to stop the chronic trolling, which was getting out of hand in my opinion.
I applaud their efforts

[drkaje]

If the board was going to have a very narrow focus this post would have been one of the first removed.
Toletarian states can't allow any subversion.  In the few posts that I have read of yours, you always seem to jump to the extreme to try and make a point.  Why is this so?

If you are going to make valid arguements and not resort to hair pulling or name calling there is no fear that your posts will be deleted.  Pushing girls down in the playground is something we all should have grown out of already.

This appears just to be an effort to stop the chronic trolling, which was getting out of hand in my opinion.
I applaud their efforts

It's impossible for you to get what my point is without knowing teh X's history. 

Extreme? Not at all, LOL! Just not a huge fan of people's tendency to ignore obvious BS for the sole purpose of getting along. I'm honesty's biggest fan.

[Original Sin]

It's impossible for you to get what my point is without knowing teh X's history. 

Extreme? Not at all, LOL! Just not a huge fan of people's tendency to ignore obvious BS for the sole purpose of getting along. I'm honesty's biggest fan.

Well I will have to defer to knowledge on this one.  I have never read the X board.  I might have a post that ended gettting moved there but that would be it.

I don't believe any of the ladies here have a problem with honesty.  I think courtesy is the issue, well for me it is.

That being said I still don't believe it will Black or White, life is boring without all the grey issus to roll around naked in. 

[~flower~]

I would expect your experience to be valuable in this situation. What usually happens to forums that get too restrictive or have a very narrow focus? 

the X is not restrictive.  I keep telling you to post stuff but you don't.  You just like to bitch about it and contribute nothing.   

  You don't have to post on any board.  And I am sure you can find a board somewhere on GetBig to post whatever you want so I don't think you are being stifled.   
 

[Playboy]

This board is actually very mellow and respectful. 100 times better then the other boards which is why I post here quite a bit. I find this board to be very friendly and encouraging. Personally, I have no use for the "X", "V", "Y", or the "dump". They are useless and have absolutely no intellect what so ever. They are one big slamfest. I see nothing wrong with this board in terms of tolling and B.S.

[drkaje]

Well I will have to defer to knowledge on this one.  I have never read the X board.  I might have a post that ended gettting moved there but that would be it.

I don't believe any of the ladies here have a problem with honesty.  I think courtesy is the issue, well for me it is.

That being said I still don't believe it will Black or White, life is boring without all the grey issus to roll around naked in. 

It's summer, posts will naturally be down.


Do the math. Remove the few men who post here, aliases, Judi and any risque' topic and who's really left? After that remove the moderators and their 'associates' and you have a forum that is essentially dead.

I'm not suggesting people should be needlessly coarse to each other, we have the Y for that. The suggestion is that we shouldn't take ourselves too seriously. Excessive restrictions detract from this forum's unique opportunity to learn from each other. That's my point.

Some things are black and white. laura's edict essentially states that forums are an extension of the moderator's ego.

the X is not restrictive.  I keep telling you to post stuff but you don't.  You just like to bitch about it and contribute nothing.   

  You don't have to post on any board.  And I am sure you can find a board somewhere on GetBig to post whatever you want so I don't think you are being stifled.  
 

The X has improved a great deal since you moved to the pet board.

[Playboy]

It's summer, posts will naturally be down.


Do the math. Remove the few men who post here, aliases, Judi and any risque' topic and who's really left? After that remove the moderators and their 'associates' and you have a forum that is essentially dead.

I'm not suggesting people should be needlessly coarse to each other, we have the Y for that. The suggestion is that we shouldn't take ourselves too seriously. Excessive restrictions detract from this forum's unique opportunity to learn from each other. That's my point.

Some things are black and white. laura's edict essentially states that forums are an extension of the moderator's ego.

The X has improved a great deal since you moved to the pet board.

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There's a pet board on here? Now I heard it all 

[drkaje]

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There's a pet board on here? Now I heard it all 

Pet people are an interesting breed.

[~flower~]

It's summer, posts will naturally be down.


Do the math. Remove the few men who post here, aliases, Judi and any risque' topic and who's really left? After that remove the moderators and their 'associates' and you have a forum that is essentially dead.

I'm not suggesting people should be needlessly coarse to each other, we have the Y for that. The suggestion is that we shouldn't take ourselves too seriously. Excessive restrictions detract from this forum's unique opportunity to learn from each other. That's my point.

Some things are black and white. laura's edict essentially states that forums are an extension of the moderator's ego.

The X has improved a great deal since you moved to the pet board.

   


 Then go post on another board.  Most of the people that regularly post on this board also post on other boards.   So if you really think there is something you need to post that you think we could learn from, go post it on another board.
 
   I do find it humorous that you like to complain about every board!!!    

[~flower~]

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There's a pet board on here? Now I heard it all 

  What is wrong with that?  Look at all the other boards that are here.

  If I don't find a board interesting to me or I don't like the 'style' of it, I just don't post on it.

       
 

[Original Sin]

It's summer, posts will naturally be down.


Do the math. Remove the few men who post here, aliases, Judi and any risque' topic and who's really left? After that remove the moderators and their 'associates' and you have a forum that is essentially dead.

I'm not suggesting people should be needlessly coarse to each other, we have the Y for that. The suggestion is that we shouldn't take ourselves too seriously. Excessive restrictions detract from this forum's unique opportunity to learn from each other. That's my point.

Some things are black and white. laura's edict essentially states that forums are an extension of the moderator's ego.

The X has improved a great deal since you moved to the pet board.

I am of the belief that if the trolling leaves we might actually attract more females.  Who wants to post in a forum that you will get trolled or the information you put down will be used against you?  This is the reputation Getbig has, a lot of men find it funny, but you would be hard pressed to find 1% of the females who do.

Laura's edict is an extension of the direct requests and the indirect complaints and suggestions in posts of the users of this board.  

You have to remember that the board was setup for the women, it was originally intended to be women only.  The moderators are taking the ladies perspective on this, as they should. You being born of Mars are incapable of seeing it from the women's point of view, just as I cannot see it from the males.  

Men and Women think and react differently to the same circumstances, it is a fact of life.

[Playboy]

I am of the belief that if the trolling leaves we might actually attract more females.  Who wants to post in a forum that you will get trolled or the information you put down will be used against you?  This is the reputation Getbig has, a lot of men find it funny, but you would be hard pressed to find 1% of the females who do.

Laura's edict is an extension of the direct requests and the indirect complaints and suggestions in posts of the users of this board.  

You have to remember that the board was setup for the women, it was originally intended to be women only.  The moderators are taking the ladies perspective on this, as they should. You being born of Mars are incapable of seeing it from the women's point of view, just as I cannot see it from the males.  

Men and Women think and react differently to the same circumstances, it is a fact of life.

So do you want us men to leave? Believe me, we have no problem with that.

[Original Sin]

So do you want us men to leave? Believe me, we have no problem with that.

Nope

I want the trolls to leave.  Do you feel that you fit in that category, I don't.

[drkaje]

   


 Then go post on another board.  Most of the people that regularly post on this board also post on other boards.   So if you really think there is something you need to post that you think we could learn from, go post it on another board.
 
   I do find it humorous that you like to complain about every board!!!    

Don't confuse an honest observation with complaining or a direct personal attack. That's your problem with teh X.

I am of the belief that if the trolling leaves we might actually attract more females.  

What are the grounds for that belief? Very few people actually 'troll' here. Females are more likely to take cheap shots than men. ~flowjit~ just accused me of 'B*****ng". Had I said the same thing to her one of you could have complained, LOL! Yesterday Xlinda personally attacked Judi. True the thread was moved but plenty of women do mechanically release their stress so it's a bit of a surprise it can't be openly discussed here.
 

Who wants to post in a forum that you will get trolled or the information you put down will be used against you?  This is the reputation Getbig has, a lot of men find it funny, but you would be hard pressed to find 1% of the females who do.

What a lot of people find funny is that adults have a difficult time expressing themselves in an environment where they aren't coddles. Bodybuilding is a male dominated sport so a bodybuilding site would naturally have more male posters.

Laura's edict is an extension of the direct requests and the indirect complaints and suggestions in posts of the users of this board.  

There's a joke about women complaining a lot in there somewhere but I don't want to get off track.

Assuming your 'goal' is to make the forum better.... How exactly will less dialogue make the forum better?

Men and Women think and react differently to the same circumstances, it is a fact of life.

This isn't a circumstance, merely a few observations. Lighten up, a little. It is on-line, after all.  

I notice you don't really answer direct questions, why is that?

Like I wrote a bit back. My curiosity is about the extent to which our on-line relationship difficulties reflect off-line pathology.

Lastly, John Gray is an unforgivable idiot. He offered a convenient excuse for relationship failure instead of actual communication tools.