Got to be rude as Hell. Threatening if need be.
Problem is with your Biz, .. your Ph#s are not like socks....Cant just change them. They are very valuable.
Believe me, ...I've tried that route. You have absolutely nooooo idea just how rude I have been...
...but when someone is slightly masochistic, ...rudeness doesn't work. I know what I need to do.
Not looking forward to it, 'cause I know it'll be emotionally devastating for him, ...but ya gotta do what ya gotta do.
I can see how this'd be a problem... Can you BLOCK HIS CALLS? Or something along that line. Filter somehow.
He wont stop. These kind seek out missfortune. They will just drag you down.
Can't exactly block all his calls, but have made it clear to him he needs to unblock his number when he calls because I don't answer 'unknown caller' calls. That helps somewhat, because when I see his number come up, ...I just let it go straight into voicemail. He's an emotional vampire. Just talking to him feels like I've been latched onto by an emotional parasite that sucks the life right out of you.
So seeing other emotional cripples unable to make heads or tails of their "relationships" makes my eyes roll so far back in my head it ain't funny.
"Save yourself" like my wife says. Thats very important where shes from. Cant save the world.
I realize that, ...and the teat is about to be switched off.
Judi,
It seems like this guy need the help of a paid, trained professional. It's pretty rude for him to impose on a business associate with problems like this.
Unfortunately, that type of imposition frequently comes up. Many people join network mtkg for many reasons, some join because they want friends, while others join because they want to change their lives financially and make a shitload of money. I focus on those who want to change their lives financially making shitloads of money, ...but you can't avoid the other type who will frequently pretend that is their goal & focus. They want attention, ...but don't merit it, ...and fight like babies to get it.
True story: one year at a convention in Austin Texas, I was having dinner with a guy named Lance. He was hosting the convention that year, cause he was the strongest leader in our host city. He was also an actor with whom I had more than a few things in common, ...and there was a bit of a mutual spark between us. We were seated, dinner had been served, we were already eating, right in the middle of our meal... and this guy came up to the table, and said I saved you a seat over there with Vickie. Talk about an awkward moment. I explained "we've already started eating". Maybe I can pop by later ...maybe over coffee etc." He kept insisting that I pick up my plate and walk clear across the banquet room to sit with him & Vickie. It was one of the most embarrassing things I had witnessed. Everyone at the table was furiously wiping their mouths with their napkins in order to disguise their overwhelming urge to burst out laughing. The rest of the convention he spent giving Lance the dirtiest looks for the entire time we were there. The next day while having lunch with Lance was even more awkward. He plopped himself down at our table and glowered at him the entire time. The jealousy & covetousness over your time & attention can be more than a little annoying... it's claustrophobic. And we have a global conference coming up this week. He's gonna be in for a helluva shock because the entire time, I'll be hanging with an old friend from Boston that I haven't seen in a while.
Thanks CQ and DIV, Jag, have you told the dude to grow a pair, and don't call back until he does. If anymore calls, tell him that you will take action (ie:change phone number, call the police for charges of telephone harrassment)
Thanks Parker, but no, changing the phone number or calling the police is not an option.
Believe me, I've told him to grow a pair many times.
Or go the old school route have someone "have talk with him". Dudes who whine about their problems, but don't inact any solutions to the problems tend to either have abandonment issues or had a mother who solved all their problems for them
Having someone "talk with him" is also not an option. He's not an enemy, ...just an annoying parasite. {lol}
I know what I have to do. I'm simply going to allow him to take a good long hard look at the type of man who I respect, and want to hang out with, one who merits my time, attention and respect, ...and allow himself to take a good long hard look at himself in a mirror. Then compare the two.
