Four years after my Father's death, someone calls me from Canada.

[xxxLinda]

Just now.  They're in Vancouver.  And they've offered to look up the legals for me.  I was extremely upset, because I wasn't there. 

I wasn't even told when the funeral was.

[calmus]

Huh? 

[xxxLinda]

repetez apres moi:  Me dad died, left it all to someone who took him out...


I still have no clue as to how I'm supposed to get over that.

[calmus]

repetez apres moi:  Me dad died, left it all to someone who took him out...


I still have no clue as to how I'm supposed to get over that.

What do you mean "took him out"?  His heir did him in?

[xxxLinda]

It's okay, honest.


The other night I had a nice cry about the man (my dear Dad) and how much I miss him.  I forgot about the money and the bitch cow.  It was a nice dream.

[xxxLinda]

What do you mean "took him out"?  His heir did him in?

I was the surviving heir.  My brother died.  I was his only daughter, someone he loved immensely.  But he moved back to Canada.


I would if i could but I can't so I won't (not just Canada but Vancouver Island, as far away as you can go and he re-married at 70 (he was sweet like that, he needed to get his shirts ironed) and she re-wrote his will.  I wasn't there.

[YoungBlood]

I was the surviving heir.    I was his only daughter, someone he loved immensely. 

Not being a smart-ass here, but are you sure about that? I mean, if you're the sole person in the family (and if a mother was still in the picture you would have said so and/or she would have been the one to call you) and were so loved, I think you would have had a different scenario play out than what you have told us here.
If he loved you immensely, I would think that you would have been notified immediately when something goes awry with him; death or not. But you were not told, and you said you weren't told when the funeral was...

Something is not right about the story presented here.

[~flower~]

You are just finding out now your father died 4 years ago?

[knny187]

Linda Soprano

[benz]

are you having a meltdown

[~flower~]

repetez apres moi:  Me dad died, left it all to someone who took him out...


I still have no clue as to how I'm supposed to get over that.

 Considering you didn't notice he was dead for 4 years, I think you'll get over it

[xxxLinda]

Ooops sorry for posting this, but you're my family nowadays, okay>


I got all emotional when an old mate called me from BC (they have different laws in BC from the rest of Canada, I didn't know that...

So just to explain my panic attack (then put it to rest?)  My family emigrated to Canada (Toronto) when I was very young.  My parents moved back to England after 7 years and I stayed on, I had a career there.  Then my parents finally decided to get divorced (they shoulda done it 10 or 20 years earlier).  So I moved back to England, they needed me.

My Mum got 50%, as is correct.  And she now, in her doddery old age, lives up north in Cheshire.  But my Dad decided to move back to Canada to retire.  To Vancouver Island.  At 70 years of age.  There he was bombarded by many women and chose the one who made the best steak & kidney pie and ironed his socks.  He was happy for five years, I'm sure it was bliss.  I visited 3 times and am very grateful that I was able to see the Pacific.  I just don't understand how he managed to marry two nasty wives.  Poor old man.  But he understood me, of that I'm certain, I tried to explain about females...  But I never spoke to him about his will, I respected him too much.

So he left all his money to that disgusting bitch cow (She was horrid to me, she lied to me about the funeral, said there wasn't going to be one...  & after that she put an obit in the local paper and neglected his blood family, blabbing about how he died peacefully in her arms.  Then she erected a park bench on the Ocean.  Fabulous work if you can get it.

F**k I don't know, I'm trying to get over my Dad's death (nearly 4 years ago), but I can't.

I'm supposed to think "Oh but he wouldn't have wanted me to feel this way".
But how ought I to think?  I'm fairly certain (It's the only way I can deal with it), that he wouldn't have cut me out of his will & that that cow re-wrote it.

I wasn't there, so I don't know.
It's not about the money really, it's just about how I get over it.

And a friend has gone to BC and is looking up the legals for me.  I haven't even a clue about how much he was worth.  My Mum got her half in 1980, £200,000 and the house.

We're not talking millions, just my sanity.

[jetcity]

so you just upset you didn't get your share?

[benz]

It's sad that you just care for the money.

You wont recover

[xxxLinda]

Not sure. 

I think I'm upset because I don't understand why he didn't think it through. 

He was a clever man, a brilliant man, a man that really ought to have known that I'd be upset for the rest of my life if he married at 70 then got cancer at 74, didn't tell me till he was 75 then died at 76, and left it all to perhaps one of the most nasty women I've ever seen.


btw, I got $20,000 Canadian, £8,655, which is the minimum by BC law.
So I didn't get nothing, I just got extremely bereaved.

[xxxLinda]

And another reason I'm finding it difficult to deal with:  He died of prostate cancer.

New wife should've had a look at his dick, taken him to the hospital, not wait till it was time to re-write his will and bury him.



But I don't know, I wasn't there.  But the only way I can get over his death is by assuming that she could have done more for him and didn't need to take me out too, she was already very wealthy.

She didn't even let him die at home, she took him back in a helicopter to Vancouver (who's paying?) for him to die in hospital, when it was already a dead cert he had two days to go.

Then when I phone, she says:  "Funeral?  your Father has asked that there be no funeral"  & I thought, after I'd hung up, okay, he wasn't a particularly religious man.  Turns out that there was of course a huge funeral but she wanted to prove that I wasn't invited.  It all still hurts so much.

Sad Bitter and Twisted, but the truth.

[benz]

As i said, you wont recover

[tu_holmes]

And another reason I'm finding it difficult to deal with:  He died of prostate cancer.

New wife should've had a look at his dick, taken him to the hospital, not wait till it was time to re-write his will and bury him.

You need an anatomy book girlie... That's not how the check that thing.
 

[jetcity]

As i said, you wont recover

she might have a chance if she get some mo $$$

[xxxLinda]

Maybe if I decide to hate the woman he married, I'll get over it?


Anyways, he bequeathed me his beautiful big brown eyes and his sense of mad humour.




There's a Liverpool football match on TV now and we're Lpool blood, (my Grandad played for LFC, so I'll take my mind off it all for 90 minutes. 

[benz]

she might have a chance if she get some mo $$$

you are right 

[~flower~]

  but why are you upset now, 4 years later?    Why were you not upset after he died about his will?


   Are you still a coke whore and have no money and are old and worn out so selling yourself for crack doesn't feed your habit anymore and you are looking for money?



 
 

[benz]

4 YEARS and you care now that you have find out your dad could have gave you 200k lol epic money whore

[tu_holmes]

  but why are you upset now, 4 years later?    Why were you not upset after he died about his will?


   Are you still a coke whore and have no money and are old and worn out so selling yourself for crack doesn't feed your habit anymore and you are looking for money?



 
 

*perk*

ohreally?

[knny187]

explain something to me.....

































why would someone from England immigrate to Canada?