Question for the Guys about your GF's Loyalty to her man

[Danimal77]

Walk away from this mess of a relationship.  Start fresh and don't even go there next time.  

Why would you consider it a mess?? Nothing happened on her part. When he called her back (when HE had second thoughts) and told her that he changed his mind, she started crying and said she won't and that she was only going to do it in the first place, to live out HIS fantasy, NOT hers. She's supposedly ashamed of herself for having entertained the idea NOW that it is all said and done. She knows he feels like an idiot for having brought it up initially, but supposedly SHE feels like an even bigger idiot slut, for almost having gone along with it. She doesn't ever want to talk about it again, because of the way it makes her feel about herself, which is like dog shit.

Why would he end it with her, when he was the idiot to start out with and NOTHING happened anyway (even though it was because of HIM that nothing happened)?

Anwyays, thanks for everyones contributions.

[Monster_Everything]

Why would you consider it a mess?? Nothing happened on her part. When he called her back (when HE had second thoughts) and told her that he changed his mind, she started crying and said she won't and that she was only going to do it in the first place, to live out HIS fantasy, NOT hers. She's supposedly ashamed of herself for having entertained the idea NOW that it is all said and done. She knows he feels like an idiot for having brought it up initially, but I supposedly SHE feels like an even bigger idiot slut, for almost having gone along with it. She doesn't ever want to talk about it again, because of the way it makes her feel about herself, which is like dog shit.

Why would he end it with her, when he was the idiot to start out with and NOTHING happened anyway (even though it was because of HIM that nothing happened)?

Anwyays, thanks for everyones contributions.

its all perception ...if i had a cake and said you can eat it but you never ate it but would, can i seriously call you a fat ass ? even when you didnt have cake ? ....couch fatty cough

[boonasty]

Everybody who post in this thread is gay.

thank for that admission

Why would you consider it a mess?? Nothing happened on her part. When he called her back (when HE had second thoughts) and told her that he changed his mind, she started crying and said she won't and that she was only going to do it in the first place, to live out HIS fantasy, NOT hers. She's supposedly ashamed of herself for having entertained the idea NOW that it is all said and done. She knows he feels like an idiot for having brought it up initially, but supposedly SHE feels like an even bigger idiot slut, for almost having gone along with it. She doesn't ever want to talk about it again, because of the way it makes her feel about herself, which is like dog shit.

Why would he end it with her, when he was the idiot to start out with and NOTHING happened anyway (even though it was because of HIM that nothing happened)?

Anwyays, thanks for everyones contributions.

she needs counseling to see why her self esteem is so low that she would even consider it if it really was against her will

its a fantasy that should stay a fantasy what if she would have gone through with it and caught a disease

[Danimal77]

its all perception ...if i had a cake and said you can eat it but you never ate it but would, can i seriously call you a fat ass ? even when you didnt have cake ? ....couch fatty cough

By the same token, if you tell someone to kill for you and they would never have thought of doing that on their own, until you told them to kill for you and they are going to go through with it and then you change your mind and tell them NOT to do it and they don't, are they STILL a killer, even though they didn't commit the crime.

I guess the questions are: Should they have had enough common sense and morals to have decided on their OWN that it would have been wrong to go through with it, rather then being told not to?

Again, is this the DEVOTION to her man, wanting to live out HIS fantasy (knowing the idea didn't come from her), or is it a slut who is being given the green flag to fuck around without incurring any penalties (only rewards in this case) for having done so?

[Danimal77]

thank for that admission





she needs counseling to see why her self esteem is so low that she would even consider it if it really was against her will

its a fantasy that should stay a fantasy what if she would have gone through with it and caught a disease

Well, she wasn't exactly held at gun point. Her exact words were: "I wouldn't do it if I wasn't comfortable with it". So, she was a willing participant, even though it was NOT her idea to start out with.

[240 is Back]

Why would you consider it a mess?? Nothing happened on her part. When he called her back (when HE had second thoughts) and told her that he changed his mind, she started crying and said she won't and that she was only going to do it in the first place, to live out HIS fantasy, NOT hers. She's supposedly ashamed of herself for having entertained the idea NOW that it is all said and done. She knows he feels like an idiot for having brought it up initially, but supposedly SHE feels like an even bigger idiot slut, for almost having gone along with it. She doesn't ever want to talk about it again, because of the way it makes her feel about herself, which is like dog shit.

Why would he end it with her, when he was the idiot to start out with and NOTHING happened anyway (even though it was because of HIM that nothing happened)?

Anwyays, thanks for everyones contributions.

if you're just having fun, by all means, mix it up.

But if you're trying to build a longterm relationship, you can't introduce shit like that into the mix.

[TrueGrit]

i used to fuck my buddies girl all the time. bareback in all holes. one time i popped in to fuck her while he was picking up his parents from the airport. i came in her and she told me later that he was eating her pussy within two hours of me dumping my load up her i actually told him in a jokey way and we laughed. he obviously thought i was messing and theyd split up . little does he know that he ate his girls pussy filled with my cum ahahahahhahaha

 Heartless. You're the kind of guy who'd steal his friend's wallet and then spend all day helping him look for it.

[240 is Back]

Heartless. You're the kind of guy who'd steal his friend's wallet and then spend all day helping him look for it.

LMAO... then lend the guy $10 of his own money to buy himself lunch...

then ask him on Friday for the $10 he owes you.

[candidizzle]

1. WHO is at fault? whats there to be "at fault" for ?
2. Is she a slut, or just a girl who wants to fulfill her man's sexual desires and fantasies? The latter
3. Should HE be mad at her? What the fuck? why would he have any right to be mad at her
4. Should he look at her differently now? what?? wy??? he asked her to do it and she said yes then he said dont do it and she said no
5. Please discuss.
it seems to me like the dude is fucked up in the head and also is making this out to be something bad or more than it is
Thanks.

[ddraber]

benz told me to send this message to danimal77 (he's now in timeout):

danimal77 is a pussy and a liar
http://www.connectingsingles.com/free-dating-danimal77.htm

Also he said he's gonna pay him a visit at 5821 chemin de la cote

[CARTEL]

Hi Benz 

[ddraber]

Hi Benz 

hello cartel, i´m a gimmick but not benzino's   

[CARTEL]

hello cartel, i´m a gimmick but not benzino's   

Tell Benz he is missed 

[ddraber]

Tell Benz he is missed 

He's checking right now as Guest , waiting for another meltdown from "Danimal77"

[no one]

yea, i was an asshole but this bitch was a slut and he was warned. she used to suck us off in the bathroom while he was drinking at the bar. anyway, what he dont know wont hurt him. he just put me on his car insurance too. lol, he lets me fuck his girl and drive his car

so lets see...

you don't own your own car and need to be on someone else's insurance...?


BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH AHA


LOSER.

[Stavios]

lol at this thread

[SweetMuscles]

so lets see...

you don't own your own car and need to be on someone else's insurance...?


BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH AHA


LOSER.

I do own my own car. I'm also insured to drive 3 other people's cars. See there you go jumping to conclusions and thinking that everyone is a deadbeat who spends all day on here talking cybertrash, like you HAHAHAH

[CARTEL]

I do own my own car. I'm also insured to drive 3 other people's cars. See there you go jumping to conclusions and thinking that everyone is a deadbeat who spends all day on here talking cybertrash, like you HAHAHAH

It does seem like you are a freeloading, backstabbing son of a bitch though.

[SweetMuscles]

It does seem like you are a freeloading, backstabbing son of a bitch though.

 Hell yes I am, but I do own my own car What he dont know dont hurt and he was warned . He knew she had a history. Only recently he was saying that he should never have had a relationship with here. I know that two of my friends also banged her. She was the one that made it happen. Always ringing me for sex and wanting to screw. I just obliged

[CARTEL]

Karma's a bitch.

Watch out.

[no one]

It does seem like you are a freeloading, backstabbing son of a bitch though.

well he says he's not, so it must be true.

 

[gordiano]

K, here is the situation. I know a guy whose girlfriend is on a business trip. She loves him to death. HE has a fantasy. That fantasy consists of his girlfriend getting picked up by another guy and her flirting back and seeing where THAT GOES (if you know what I mean). My friend actually disclosed his fantasy to his girlfriend before her tradeshow and he DARED her to be flirty when on her trip (she's ALL by herself on the trip). She asked him what he wants her to do. So, he told her to let go and be loose because it would REALLY turn him on. This girl is VERY loyal to her man and she wants to please him at all costs. She's supposedly also a really sexual person, SO, she said it would be happy with her to indulge in his fantasy. She then asked him what he wanted her limits to be. He then said whatever feels natural and right at the time. She asked him if he was sure and she reassured him that she loves him and wants to please him and SO, she was going to go through with it. As soon as she said this and he KNEW she would for him, he called her back and told her NOT TO. He said it was just a fantasy in his head and while the thought of her being with another man would turn him on, it would also kill him AFTER the fact. She started crying and said of course she wouldn't. She didn't.

Here is my question:

1. WHO is at fault?
2. Is she a slut, or just a girl who wants to fulfill her man's sexual desires and fantasies?
3. Should HE be mad at her?
4. Should he look at her differently now?
5. Please discuss.

Thanks.

Wow. How old is this "guy"?

Silly fucking games....

[Method101]

[Tapeworm]

1. WHO is at fault?

It's not about fault.  Human sexuality is a weird and warped thing.  As regards a sexual fantasy, no one is to blame. 

2. Is she a slut, or just a girl who wants to fulfill her man's sexual desires and fantasies?

Neither.  You're oversimplifying things and missing the point.

3. Should HE be mad at her?

No.  Being angry at her for agreeing to indulge his fantasy is unfair.  Believing she never fantasized about fucking someone else until now is naive. 

4. Should he look at her differently now?

Relationships adapt to incorporate changes.  Solid relationships grow stronger, poor ones grow weaker.



Is the relationship a happy one or does "your friend" want to see it end?  Or has he recently discovered that he gets off on humiliation and it's freaking him out?

The important thing is not to be judgemental about fantasies.  Everyone has warped ones whether they're willing to admit it or not.  Sexuality touches a lot of aspects of being, including darker ones like violence and destruction (of others or yourself).  Just try not to panic, be glad you can discuss these things with the woman, and realize that you don't have to act on every fantasy if its risks or downsides are excessive.