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Why men cheat
« on: September 12, 2008, 08:07:57 AM »
The author of "The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It" was a guest on Oprah yesterday.  He is a marriage counselor and his new book is based on interview with hundreds of couples over several years.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/feature.html?docId=1000272661

A free copy of this book is available as a PDF.  If you want it send me a PM with your email address.

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #1 on: September 12, 2008, 09:10:49 AM »
I looked at the highlights
All of those things they say may mean he is cheating occur as part of any normal marriage and often mean nothing.
It is part of the ups and downs of marriage..
I see this book making already paranoid woman just more paranoid
You go Oprah  ;D

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #2 on: September 12, 2008, 01:31:55 PM »
SEXISM  >:(

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #3 on: September 13, 2008, 04:58:17 PM »
Does that apply to gay men as well, Bay?
Liar!!!!Filt!!!!

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #4 on: September 13, 2008, 05:36:53 PM »
Does that apply to gay men as well, Bay?

There may be a some overlap but as a general rule, I would say no.

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #5 on: September 17, 2008, 09:21:46 AM »
There may be a some overlap but as a general rule, I would say no.
Why would that book interest you then?

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #6 on: September 17, 2008, 10:32:57 AM »
None of those things are true.

It is about character.

A man who is going to cheat on his wife is going to cheat in his business and on his taxes.


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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #7 on: September 17, 2008, 10:35:39 AM »
None of those things are true.

It is about character.

A man who is going to cheat on his wife is going to cheat in his business and on his taxes.


Translation, your man cheated on you and you cant get his money in the divorce..
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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #8 on: September 17, 2008, 11:05:53 AM »
Why would I want to take money from a man I helped build up?

Money stopped matter a long time ago. 

I am happy to be alive.

No joke.

But, on this one I am right.

Men cheat because of their character.

How could you not agree.

It is interesting to me when someone knows you are right.  They cannot argue your point so they do this leveling thing like you do. 

Don't you agree.  Men cheat because of their character.  That was the point.


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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #9 on: September 17, 2008, 11:43:50 AM »
Why would I want to take money from a man I helped build up?

Money stopped matter a long time ago. 

I am happy to be alive.

No joke.

But, on this one I am right.

Men cheat because of their character.

How could you not agree.

It is interesting to me when someone knows you are right.  They cannot argue your point so they do this leveling thing like you do. 

Don't you agree.  Men cheat because of their character.  That was the point.


Men cheat cause God made us that way to further the species....plain and simple.  Everything can be taken from what I just said. Women will never ever understand what a guy thinks when he wakes up and leaves the house. Every woman (literally) is scanned by every guy on the fact of which they would have sex with or not, its like this monkey on your back that is right there...the ones that do stay faithful, and there are ones that do have both a person they love more than themselves and keep themselves away from situations where they can cheat. Both have to be there for the man not to cheat....Im sorry if what  i said was rude at first i was trying to be funny but i guess the man's character has alot to do with him being in places where he can cheat.
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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #10 on: September 17, 2008, 12:26:25 PM »
You don't need to say sorry.  My ex always told me I was too sensitive.

Now I get that from the new guy.

So, not your fault.

So, I totally got it.  It is like that one movie where Arnold Sw.-our governor, is scanning the jungle for the predator. 

That's what you do - even if is for a second.

That makes sense.  Perfect sense.  So a man can have the prettiest, smartest girl on his side and he's doing the scanning thing. 

I think marriages stay together because of vows before God.  Honestly.

Like you are saying it is a primal thing.  Yeah.  And marriage is man made a social construciton.

So the mormons having 20 wives is the natural thing and we Christian girls are wrong?

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #11 on: September 17, 2008, 12:44:24 PM »
To Baseballmom
Woman love to tell me "dont generalise"
I am saying the same thing back :-*

And bye the way lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of married, engaged or involved woman cheat as well  >:(

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #12 on: September 17, 2008, 12:52:25 PM »
To Baseballmom
Woman love to tell me "dont generalise"
I am saying the same thing back :-*

And bye the way lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of married, engaged or involved woman cheat as well  >:(

While I am getting all of this free advice.

Can you tell me what it is about me that I cannot read anything say because all I can focus on is the fact that you spelled "bye" wrong.

Like, I think does this guy not know how to spell bye or he just made a mistake.

I think I had to proofread alot or something.

You know I'm just trying to lighten things up.


Hey, do you think on that cheaters show there will ever be someone who is packing and the Cheaters show walks in on the guy and pops off the Cheaters crew.  It's just a matter of time.  They are brave.

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #13 on: September 17, 2008, 01:00:17 PM »
While I am getting all of this free advice.

Can you tell me what it is about me that I cannot read anything say because all I can focus on is the fact that you spelled "bye" wrong.

Like, I think does this guy not know how to spell bye or he just made a mistake.

I think I had to proofread alot or something.

You know I'm just trying to lighten things up.


Hey, do you think on that cheaters show there will ever be someone who is packing and the Cheaters show walks in on the guy and pops off the Cheaters crew.  It's just a matter of time.  They are brave.


Buy, by, bye does it matter as long as you understand what I am saying.
I am a technician not a linguist  ;)

I don't watch cheaters, it is mainly the single bitter woman I work with who watch it.
But yes the chances are high that one day a "cheaters" guy will die.
Oh and did you notice that last sentence rhymed  8)

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #14 on: September 17, 2008, 02:58:55 PM »
To Baseballmom
Woman love to tell me "dont generalise"
I am saying the same thing back :-*

And bye the way lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of married, engaged or involved woman cheat as well  >:(

No shit?   THEY DO?!?!?


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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #15 on: September 17, 2008, 08:36:20 PM »
He has already been stabbed so it cant be to long before he gets shot.


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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #16 on: September 20, 2008, 07:59:53 PM »
None of those things are true.

It is about character.

A man who is going to cheat on his wife is going to cheat in his business and on his taxes.

Not really, I know people who have cheated that are otherwise honest (not condoning the behavior).  I've never done it but damn have I felt the urge to screw numerous women while being in relationships.  It's weird because you can see, even in meaningless dating relationships, that the urge appears when you are bored in your relationship.  For me it occurred when I wasn't getting any.   ;D

I truly believe a sexually satisfied male will be less likely to cheat on his SO.  Most women I hear talking about cheating reference a bad fight, boredom, less emotional closeness, etc as reasons for cheating.  Most guys I know say "I was horny".  Neither one is right but I can understand someone being horny and needed to fulfill that urge whereas I don't understand someone saying that their SO doesn't talk or hold hands enough and the remedy is having a dude lay some pipe for you.

One line I think sums it up best is from "City Slickers"...."Women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place."
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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #17 on: September 22, 2008, 07:37:57 AM »
Men cheat because they arent getting any at home.  Plain and simple. 

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #18 on: September 22, 2008, 07:45:14 AM »
Men cheat because they arent getting any at home.  Plain and simple. 

Nah i don't completely agree with that one...could be a little true but definately not the whole reason

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #19 on: September 22, 2008, 08:24:44 AM »
Nah i don't completely agree with that one...could be a little true but definately not the whole reason

OK, let me clarify.  Either they arent getting any or they are bored and its not like the porn they watch..

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #20 on: September 22, 2008, 04:56:27 PM »
Nah i don't completely agree with that one...could be a little true but definately not the whole reason
I tend to agree with him.  The only other guys I know who cheat just want to keep their numbers up or shouldn't be with one woman.  Not trying to stir up trouble but most guys I know talk about "banging so and so" or "I would bang so and so" but they never do, the ones who do want/need sex.
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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #21 on: September 22, 2008, 05:45:23 PM »
Men cheat because they arent getting any at home.  Plain and simple. 

Yep.

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #22 on: September 22, 2008, 06:30:41 PM »
Men cheat because they really want that muscle butt bear at the gym  :P
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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #23 on: September 22, 2008, 07:09:55 PM »
So usually men are going to cheat with women.

Do they close their eyes and pretend or something?

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Re: Why men cheat
« Reply #24 on: September 23, 2008, 12:03:52 PM »
Men cheat if they are not getting any.  Or, if there not sexually satisfied.  Maybe the girl just lays there everytime!