Not referencing Joe, but that is something I never get. Not sure if you ever saw my pic, but I am uber light, like Vanessa Williams type colour, and for some reason I attract [when in US] the white racists. White guys will freely hit on me, before and after making some racist remark. I will point I am black and wouldn't be caught dead dating them, and then they will launch into the epic "but you are different" 
I would never in my life marry anyone who was a racist towards any group. That is one trait I abhore.
Yep, ...I know exactly what you mean.
I've had people make some of the most abhorent racist remarks in my presence,
...and not understand why I found it offensive, or wanted nothing to do with them.
As if I shouldn't find it offensive because I'm not white, Asian, Mexican, Indian etc., etc.,
I remember when I was 9 yrs old and taking a swim course.
We were practicing mouth 2 mouth resusitation, and I was paired up with this other kid who had a look of terror on his face. He was like.. "But, but, she's a..." The lifeguard cut him off and said "Ya I know she's a girl. Deal with it!"

That little fucker burst out with
"It's not that she's a girl, ...SHE's an F-ing PAKI!"
I guess because my hair was wet he didn't realize that I was Black and not Pakistani. After he was informed that I wasn't Pakistani, but Black, ...he was ok with me doing mouth-to-mouth with him, ...but my stomache was turned.
I was so enraged with the little snot, ...I spit in his mouth and said "Guess What, I really am a Paki".
I was a mean little 9 yr old. {lol}