On a serious note Goatgirl, you should embrace your wife's heritage as it is part of your family. The hatred you have for the muslims is conflicting with the fact that islam is part of your family now thus creating internal turmoil iside yourself ... my suggestion is to accept it not fight it.
Maybe start with purchasing one of those cute mini rugs to pray 7 times a day, no alcohol, no smoking , try fucking your iranian muslim wife with anything you can if Mr Happy is not up to the task, beat her less, and give praise to allah as often as you can ..
maybe this is god's way of helping you deal with hatred : puting the enemy inside you family.
Don't know if this will help you but it's the best I can do ...
Praise to Alaih