I want my ex back

[Faust]

She broke up with me one week ago.
I didn't see this coming at all, and have been depressed a whole week now. Depression, dark thoughts, insomnia, ... Life feels like hell.
I didn't think i had feelings this deep for her.

I'm gonna go work abroad in six months so it would probably have ended there (thats what we agreed), but we said we wanted to have fun anyway while it lasts. But she was kinda sad about this and said she was wasting her time then, still things seemed to be going good.

We didn't see each other for two weeks (i was travelling) and we were talking on msn and she said that she is confused and that maybe she doesn't have deep feelings for me, and that it's best not to see each other again.
Maybe she is scared we will both get hurt more if we stay togheter longer and then break up. She has had a bad long distance relation already. I don't know if this is the reason though.

Can anyone tell me if i still have a chance to get her back? And tips how to do it?
At first i went kinda overboard, i said that i refused a breakup and i wanted to see her in person, but i think that scared her a bit. Now i'm letting it rest a couple of days. I'm thinking now i can offer her to try to be friend, and i hope she'll get feelings for me again...

I can't get her out of my mind. In an effort to do this i made a date with another girl tomorrow, but i don't know if i should even try with another girl as i clearly still have feelings for her ...

[~flower~]

If it was gonna end anyways in 6 months then let it go now.

[tonymctones]

you probably dont really even like her that much, you said it yourself you didnt think your feelings where this deep...you always want what you cant have. At any rate i wouldnt try and become friends unless you actually want to be friends b/c you are probably just setting yourself up for more heart break.

[Faust]

Little update:

I met the other girl at the cinema and we made out. Another complicated situation though, she's probably moving in 1,5 months or something. She said she wanted something real, not just to have a good time togheter. I don't know what she means by this because this is obviously all there will be. I don't know where this will go, might get the exact same situation.

Still thinking nonstop about my ex 
I wanna speak to her on msn, but i think she blocked me. Probably gonna give her a call at the start of the next week.

If it was gonna end anyways in 6 months then let it go now.

6 months is a long time. I'm early twenties, not looking to get married or anything. I just wanna be with the girl i have feelings for. I was actually considering trying a LDR or staying here for her, but i never told her this, i wanted to give it 2 more months and then see how i felt...

[Butterbean]

I didn't think i had feelings this deep for her.

Faust, for some reason this stands out to me.  Did you ever see the Seinfeld w/the "preemptive breakup?"  George thought his woman was going to break up w/him and so he broke up w/her first.  She was devastated and wanted to do anything to get him back...etc.

Are you sure it's her you really want?  Sometimes when we can't have something we want it all the more. 

Meanwhile, if she blocked you from her MSN I don't think I'd pursue her.  I suppose you could always write her a letter about your feelings (but this could poss. come back to bite you one day) and make the offer that she can contact you if she wishes.

Sorry you're feeling down

[chaos]

She broke up with me one week ago.
I didn't see this coming at all, and have been depressed a whole week now. Depression, dark thoughts, insomnia, ... Life feels like hell.
I didn't think i had feelings this deep for her.

I'm gonna go work abroad in six months so it would probably have ended there (thats what we agreed), but we said we wanted to have fun anyway while it lasts. But she was kinda sad about this and said she was wasting her time then, still things seemed to be going good.

We didn't see each other for two weeks (i was travelling) and we were talking on msn and she said that she is confused and that maybe she doesn't have deep feelings for me, and that it's best not to see each other again.
Maybe she is scared we will both get hurt more if we stay togheter longer and then break up. She has had a bad long distance relation already. I don't know if this is the reason though.

Can anyone tell me if i still have a chance to get her back? And tips how to do it?
At first i went kinda overboard, i said that i refused a breakup and i wanted to see her in person, but i think that scared her a bit. Now i'm letting it rest a couple of days. I'm thinking now i can offer her to try to be friend, and i hope she'll get feelings for me again...

I can't get her out of my mind. In an effort to do this i made a date with another girl tomorrow, but i don't know if i should even try with another girl as i clearly still have feelings for her ...

Get over it and move on. Find a hobby, like weightlifting, and put your effort into that instead of worrying about some broad that obviously doesn't want to deal with you (she blocked your MSN). Focus on getting into the second girls pants as an act of revenge, you'll feel better when you're done. Trust me.

[Hereford]

Sucks now, but you'll get over it in time... Especially if you're in your early 20's.

[drkaje]

Stop being a wuss.

[Geo]

camp out in front of her house with a clever disguise and pair of binoculars at all hours of the night and see what she's up to !


I think you deserve to know !

[chaos]

camp out in front of her house with a clever disguise and pair of binoculars at all hours of the night and see what she's up to !


I think you deserve to know !

hahahah A buddy of mine woke up one morning with his ex parked in his driveway behind his car so he couldn't leave until he woke her up.

[Geo]

hahahah A buddy of mine woke up one morning with his ex parked in his driveway behind his car so he couldn't leave until he woke her up.

years ago I had a buddy who's ex would'n let go,we'd be in a tavern shooting pool and pounding beers and she'd be parked outside across the street WITH THIER INFANT SON just sitting there waiting.....


I said Vince !,what the hell's linda doing out there ?

he's said  "she's fucking psycho" ..... there's no place he ever went in town that she didn't do that !

weirdest thing I ever saw !

[drkaje]

years ago I had a buddy who's ex would'n let go,we'd be in a tavern shooting pool and pounding beers and she'd be parked outside across the street WITH THIER INFANT SON just sitting there waiting.....


I said Vince !,what the hell's linda doing out there ?

he's said  "she's fucking psycho" ..... there's no place he ever went in town that she didn't do that !

weirdest thing I ever saw !

LOL!

Crazy chicks are great in bed but having kids with them is always a bad idea. You have to deal with them forever and might end up with crazy kids because of bad genetics.

[Migs]

let her go.  Besides you already made out with some one else and the fact that you don't know about her wanting it to be real or not is suggestive that you need to move on with your life.  Her blocking you is a warning sign that she doesn't want you contacting her.  Besides, in 6 months its over so why try to continue the pain.  Unless you like pain, then that's a whole different issue.

[Faust]

Alright, seems there is a concensus here.

I know it's probably stupid, but i'm gonna give it one more try though. At least i want to see her one last time, cause i think a breakup while chatting online is pretty sucky. I can't even see her face or judge her emotions.
At first she didn't really want a relation with me either (because it will end soon), but i knew she really liked me (her bodylanguage says a lot) so i convinced her at that time to give me a try.

After i've seen her once or twice and she still says its over i'll move on. My mind has gotten calmer lately, and i'm thinking less about her. But when i let myself go a bit the pain is right back.

camp out in front of her house with a clever disguise and pair of binoculars at all hours of the night and see what she's up to !
I think you deserve to know !

First days i was actually seriously thinking about going to her house to make her talk to me 

[Migs]

Alright, seems there is a concensus here.

I know it's probably stupid, but i'm gonna give it one more try though. At least i want to see her one last time, cause i think a breakup while chatting online is pretty sucky. I can't even see her face or judge her emotions.
At first she didn't really want a relation with me either (because it will end soon), but i knew she really liked me (her bodylanguage says a lot) so i convinced her at that time to give me a try.

After i've seen her once or twice and she still says its over i'll move on. My mind has gotten calmer lately, and i'm thinking less about her. But when i let myself go a bit the pain is right back.
First days i was actually seriously thinking about going to her house to make her talk to me 

dude, seriously, let it go.  Not see er one more time, or twice.  drop it and go.  All that will happen is some "Itld you i don't want to see you anymore, it hurts" blah blah, then she'll cry, you'll cry, she'll call you an asshole and jerk for seeing her after she told you not too and then you'll have that crappy feeling in the pit of your stomach and be all pissed off for a few more days. 

[drkaje]

Alright, seems there is a concensus here.

I know it's probably stupid, but i'm gonna give it one more try though. At least i want to see her one last time, cause i think a breakup while chatting online is pretty sucky. I can't even see her face or judge her emotions.
At first she didn't really want a relation with me either (because it will end soon), but i knew she really liked me (her bodylanguage says a lot) so i convinced her at that time to give me a try.

After i've seen her once or twice and she still says its over i'll move on. My mind has gotten calmer lately, and i'm thinking less about her. But when i let myself go a bit the pain is right back.
First days i was actually seriously thinking about going to her house to make her talk to me 

Stop being stupid, man.

Guys do this kind of crap all the time. Because things don't end badly they create this fantasy girl who was let go too soon. People waste time keeping a relationship on life support because they're afraid of being alone for five minutes.

[AVBG]

STella is right (pre-emptive breakup).. you're in your early 20's, move on. Hope it all works out for you soon.

[drkaje]

STella is right (pre-emptive breakup).. you're in your early 20's, move on. Hope it all works out for you soon.

Stella is too nice, LOL!

He might have understood what agreeing to a specific date/time for a break-up means, from a woman's perspective, had she been more brutal. 

[AVBG]

Stella is too nice, LOL!

He might have understood what agreeing to a specific date/time for a break-up means, from a woman's perspective, had she been more brutal. 

exactly, drkaje.. she beat him to it..no point dwelling on it.. make the most of your 20's

[drkaje]

exactly, drkaje.. she beat him to it..no point dwelling on it.. make the most of your 20's

Someone else is probably already hitting it.

[chaos]

Alright, seems there is a concensus here.

I know it's probably stupid, but i'm gonna give it one more try though. At least i want to see her one last time, cause i think a breakup while chatting online is pretty sucky. I can't even see her face or judge her emotions.
At first she didn't really want a relation with me either (because it will end soon), but i knew she really liked me (her bodylanguage says a lot) so i convinced her at that time to give me a try.

After i've seen her once or twice and she still says its over i'll move on. My mind has gotten calmer lately, and i'm thinking less about her. But when i let myself go a bit the pain is right back.
First days i was actually seriously thinking about going to her house to make her talk to me 

No. Just fuckin stop. Let it go. Have yourself a couple one night stands and you'll forget about it. Stalking her down is only going to build resentment and possibly a restraining order.

[nzmusclemonster]

Alright, seems there is a concensus here.

I know it's probably stupid, but i'm gonna give it one more try though. At least i want to see her one last time, cause i think a breakup while chatting online is pretty sucky. I can't even see her face or judge her emotions.
At first she didn't really want a relation with me either (because it will end soon), but i knew she really liked me (her bodylanguage says a lot) so i convinced her at that time to give me a try.

After i've seen her once or twice and she still says its over i'll move on. My mind has gotten calmer lately, and i'm thinking less about her. But when i let myself go a bit the pain is right back.
First days i was actually seriously thinking about going to her house to make her talk to me 

You're bitter that she burned you and you only want her back for this reason.

Respect her decision.

[drkaje]

No. Just fuckin stop. Let it go. Have yourself a couple one night stands and you'll forget about it. Stalking her down is only going to build resentment and possibly a restraining order.

The attention will also swell her head and make things difficult for the next guy to hit it.

[Migs]

The attention will also swell her head and make things difficult for the next guy to hit it.

P.O.P Syndrome

P***y On Pedestal Syndrome

[drkaje]

P.O.P Syndrome

P***y On Pedestal Syndrome

She wouldn't be the first to suffer from this disease.