Author Topic: Opinions: is marriage worth it? (Read 12170 times)

DK II · « **Reply #75 on:** April 23, 2009, 11:44:58 PM »

Quote from: calfzilla on April 23, 2009, 07:53:45 AM

If you MUST get married, make sure she is your best friend.

Very good point. My wife actually was my best friend for about two years before we fell in love.

Basing a marriage only on "love" is not a good thing, you need a partner you can rely on. We have worked together all through university, that was a good base for a relationship.

Deicide · « **Reply #76 on:** April 24, 2009, 01:59:49 AM »

Quote from: SHUTUPANDTRAIN on April 23, 2009, 05:42:29 PM

Honestly the bottom line on marriage is the same as the bottom line on being single, when you are married sometimes you wish you were not and when you are single sometimes you wish you were married...Case Closed

Single people wishing they were married?

Deicide · « **Reply #77 on:** April 24, 2009, 02:04:14 AM »

Quote from: DonkeyKong on April 23, 2009, 11:44:58 PM

Very good point. My wife actually was my best friend for about two years before we fell in love.

Basing a marriage only on "love" is not a good thing, you need a partner you can rely on. We have worked together all through university, that was a good base for a relationship.

One point I should add is that marriage just seems like a technicality. You can just have a relationship with someone, it doesn't need to be marriage...unless you are after state offered tax benefits...

clued-up · « **Reply #78 on:** April 24, 2009, 02:05:45 AM »

I think.. for some reason.. if I had a wife - she would kill me somehow when i was sleeping.

Deicide · « **Reply #79 on:** April 24, 2009, 02:06:54 AM »

Quote from: james001 on April 24, 2009, 02:05:45 AM

I think.. for some reason.. if I had a wife - she would kill me somehow when i was sleeping.

Many reported cases of that...

Marriage=

clued-up · « **Reply #80 on:** April 24, 2009, 02:21:06 AM »

Quote from: Deicide on April 24, 2009, 02:06:54 AM

Many reported cases of that...

Marriage=

holy shit! that vid was full of twinks.

Deicide · « **Reply #81 on:** April 24, 2009, 02:27:00 AM »

Quote from: james001 on April 24, 2009, 02:21:06 AM

holy shit! that vid was full of twinks.

Amen

Deicide · « **Reply #82 on:** April 24, 2009, 02:45:44 AM »

kyomu · « **Reply #83 on:** April 24, 2009, 02:47:38 AM »

The first of all, The marriage means the smallest basic part of the society.
Its like atom. So, if there is a lot of divorce happen, the society collapse.

Then why society exists? Its because of ensuring the survival of the individual.

When there is unhappy situation in the society like war,poverty...etc. There is way less divorces.
Because, we must colaborate each other to survive.
But, now a day, at least we have food and house.....

Worth or not worth is out of question. Its just a phenomenon.

So, if you cant live without your partner in any reasons(mental,spiritual,material...whatever), your marriage will work well. And you should get married. If not, there will be problem for sure.

Deicide · « **Reply #84 on:** April 24, 2009, 02:53:42 AM »

Quote from: kyomu on April 24, 2009, 02:47:38 AM

The first of all, The marriage means the smallest basic part of the society.
Its like atom. So, if there is a lot of divorce happen, the society collapse.

Then why society exists? Its because of ensuring the survival of the individual.

When there is unhappy situation in the society like war,poverty...etc. There is way less divorces.
Because, we must colaborate each other to survive.
But, now a day, at least we have food and house.....

Worth or not worth is out of question. Its just a phenomenon.

So, if you cant live without your partner in any reasons(mental,spiritual,material...whatever), your marriage will work well. And you should get married. If not, there will be problem for sure.

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Stormspirit · « **Reply #85 on:** April 24, 2009, 02:56:40 AM »

Quote from: DonkeyKong on April 23, 2009, 11:44:58 PM

Very good point. My wife actually was my best friend for about two years before we fell in love.

Basing a marriage only on "love" is not a good thing, you need a partner you can rely on. We have worked together all through university, that was a good base for a relationship.

honestly I think that is bullshit, and all other so-called 'platonic' relationships. She wasn't your best friend, you had a crush on her, you liked her company because you knew romance was possible. if you knew for a fact romance wasnt possible, or she was ugly as hell she wouldn't have been your friend let a lot your 'best' friend. men don't like female friends, period, only girls they have a crush on, and thats not a real friendship. i have a lot of girls who think I am their friend, but I do not consider them friends at all, maybe acquaintances.

windsor88 · « **Reply #86 on:** April 24, 2009, 02:59:55 AM »

I wouldn't trade my wife for anything. She is my best friend and someone I can always count on.

DK II · « **Reply #87 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:02:50 AM »

Quote from: Stormspirit on April 24, 2009, 02:56:40 AM

honestly I think that is bullshit, and all other so-called 'platonic' relationships. She wasn't your best friend, you had a crush on her, you liked her company because you knew romance was possible. if you knew for a fact romance wasnt possible, or she was ugly as hell she wouldn't have been your friend let a lot your 'best' friend. men don't like female friends, period, only girls they have a crush on, and thats not a real friendship. i have a lot of girls who think I am their friend, but I do not consider them friends at all, maybe acquaintances.

yes, you are right to a certain point. But it took time. We agree totally, we just have a different idea of the factor "time".

I found her attractive and we liked being around each other but i wasn't direclty interested in her in the beginning. Sometimes other things in life come first. When we were clear with the other stuff, we got together.

lax · « **Reply #88 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:03:28 AM »

remember this well, young friends
and this was told to me persoanlly, in person by Gh15 himself

a women
is the only entity that has the
UNILATERAL
ability and power to take from you
and deprive from you
everything you think you hold dear
house
money
status
friends
children
even job, if she really wants to wreck you

and you have little, if any, ammo or rights to fight back

jerk off more
sAVE YOUR SHIT

Deicide · « **Reply #89 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:03:40 AM »

Quote from: Stormspirit on April 24, 2009, 02:56:40 AM

honestly I think that is bullshit, and all other so-called 'platonic' relationships. She wasn't your best friend, you had a crush on her, you liked her company because you knew romance was possible. if you knew for a fact romance wasnt possible, or she was ugly as hell she wouldn't have been your friend let a lot your 'best' friend. men don't like female friends, period, only girls they have a crush on, and thats not a real friendship. i have a lot of girls who think I am their friend, but I do not consider them friends at all, maybe acquaintances.

I have to say I agree with much of this. All my closest friends are guys, have the best times and conversations with fellow males. Usually having female friends has some sort of ulterior motive...definitely true. There is also a lot fo science to back this up, basically saying that men and women simply don't mix other than in a sexual/reproductive way.

Deicide · « **Reply #90 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:05:00 AM »

Quote from: lax on April 24, 2009, 03:03:28 AM

remember this well, young friends
and this was told to me persoanlly, in person by Gh15 himself

a women
is the only entity that has the
UNILATERAL
ability and power to take from you
and deprive from you
everything you think you hold dear
house
money
status
friends
children
even job, if she really wants to wreck you

and you have little, if any, ammo or rights to fight back

jerk off more
sAVE YOUR SHIT

QFT

Deicide · « **Reply #91 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:06:46 AM »

Quote from: DonkeyKong on April 24, 2009, 03:02:50 AM

yes, you are right to a certain point. But it took time. We agree totally, we just have a different idea of the factor "time".

I found her attractive and we liked being around each other but i wasn't direclty interested in her in the beginning. Sometimes other things in life come first. When we were clear with the other stuff, we got together.

Men and women=never true friends (always something else going on, else no reason to have anything to do with each other).

lax · « **Reply #92 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:08:28 AM »

Quote from: Deicide on April 24, 2009, 03:05:00 AM

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calfzilla · « **Reply #93 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:09:56 AM »

This thread makes me want to write a book about a blind man and a sighted woman who were best friends, but never went anywhere romantically because she didn't want to marry a blind guy and his friends told him she is ugly. Till one day he regains his sight and sees her for the first time realizing she is the most beautiful woman he has ever seen, and they fall in love and get married...and stay married.

Deicide · « **Reply #94 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:10:38 AM »

Quote from: lax on April 24, 2009, 03:08:28 AM

SORRY
WHAT DOES qft MEAN?

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DK II · « **Reply #95 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:11:45 AM »

Quote from: Deicide on April 24, 2009, 03:06:46 AM

Men and women=never true friends (always something else going on, else no reason to have anything to do with each other).

True, otherwise i wouldn't have married her, but we would still be friends.

Deicide · « **Reply #96 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:12:01 AM »

Quote from: calfzilla on April 24, 2009, 03:09:56 AM

This thread makes me want to write a book about a blind man and a sighted woman who were best friends, but never went anywhere romantically because she didn't want to marry a blind guy and his friends told him she is ugly. Till one day he regains his sight and sees her for the first time realizing she is the most beautiful woman he has ever seen, and they fall in love and get married...and stay married.

Deicide · « **Reply #97 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:13:38 AM »

Quote from: DonkeyKong on April 24, 2009, 03:11:45 AM

True, otherwise i wouldn't have married her, but we would still be friends.

Point is that the closest friendships of any lasting value are always within the same gender. Your motivation to be friends with your wife was sexual/romantic, once those options are off the table, motivation to maintain said friendship diminishes.

calfzilla · « **Reply #98 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:14:18 AM »

Quote from: Deicide on April 24, 2009, 03:12:01 AM

lax · « **Reply #99 on:** April 24, 2009, 03:14:41 AM »

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